"Enemas? Really?"

@Ms_Lila, "Fuck Fire"? 😈 🌹 😈 I love it! 😈

@Ms_Lila sizzling hot , so erotic.

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@Ms_Lila

I've heard of "Fuck Drunk" never "Fuck Fire" that's awesome!! Simply a beautiful post!!

No @Silent I don't always feel that way when I have sex. I had sex this morning with a beautiful soul and a gentle man and it was good and he was welcome to have me.

@Ms_Lila could you say a little more about this? I see that, somewhere you told of having multiple sex partners, male and female. How do you decide who or how many? Do they have to be other couples and why or why not?

@Silent said, '@Ms_Lila could you say a little more about this? I see that, somewhere you told of having multiple sex partners, male and female. How do you decide who or how many? Do they have to be other couples and why or why not?'

@Silent it's a bit complicated, but my husband and I prefer other couples but after a while it came down to liking or caring for the person we had sex with. As I'm sure you have experienced, your wife may know a couple that she likes but that you aren't real keen on and vice versa. My husband and I are lucky enough to have made intimate friends with couples we have known for some time and we enjoy both of them. As I said before, I'm bi-sexual or heteroflexible, which is technically homosexual. But I think that the term homosexual is more associated with someone who prefers members of their own sex to the exclusion of the opposite sex. At least that is how I have understood the 'label'. So if I adhere to my understanding of the term, I believe I would identify more with bi-sexual or heteroflexible.

As time goes on, my husband and I have come to the realization that we aren't always going to be able to enjoy the same couples at the same time or in the same context. My husband is strictly heterosexual and has to do a great deal of travel, and always has. As I have said earlier, of the two of us, I by far am the whore and have more sexual partners than my husband who tends to be more 'prone' to needing an emotional attachment to 'do the deed'. If I let myself go, I'm afraid that I would be far more promiscuous and not require much more than my liking them or finding them interesting.

What keeps me in check is that I adore my husband and he is the best thing to ever happen to me. It's not an effort on my part to feel this for the man I married and got me pregnant just about every time he looked at me at the start. 😉 He's a fertile turtle and I'm a fertile Myrtle, or was. 😄 In all seriousness @Silent if either of us were to revert to our being exclusive with each other I would be happy. 🌹

In this area and time of our life, of my life, @Silent I pick my sexual partners because of the way they make me feel as a friend. I deeply care about those I have sex with and although I do have or have had several sexual partners, there are only two men that have total access to me at their will. A third dear man also has this with me but the loss of his wife and my dear friend, has had an impact on us, and time will tell whether he wishes to continue. In the meantime, I am his friend first and foremost.

My husband is of course my 'main man' 🌹 and there is no debate or qualifier for him. 🌹 When he's about, it's not something I have to think about as to me serving him where, when, and how he wants me. 🌹 And I am his at his whim and will. 🌹 He is the reason, my rock, that makes me feel secure enough to 'sexplore' and the one I crave his approval. When all is said and done, he is what makes home, home for me. 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 He's the one that I want to perfect what I learn outside of our marriage and make it work for us and only us. He's the only one who I become his 'pocket porn star' via good old Verizon. 😉 😈 The 'selfie stick' is just as naughty as it sounds when I'm with my husband. 😁 😁 😁 😈

EB is another man that has total access to me when we can. 🌹 He gives me insight into the mind of a man and I do 'rehearse' what it is I want to build on with my husband. He's the friend I can ask questions about men and marriage and not be afraid that he will take it wrong because I was inept in how I phrased something. He is older than I am and someone who helps me make sense of questions I have about you men and his and my mutual friends.

BUT VERY IMPORTANTLY @Silent every man or woman that I have sex with, my husband also has sex with, whether or not it is in person. And every woman he has sex with, I have sex with. I have no secrets. It has everything to do with our health and is extremely important. It is also a reality check for the pair of us and so very real. My husband knows everyone I have sex with and I know all his sex partners. It's important from a medical standpoint, but also important to our marriage as we now have with each other. 🌹 Every single sex partner we have had, separately or together, eventually ends up in our bed in a very real sense.

That man you asked about @Silent is younger than I am and is also a friend. 🌹 He is welcome in me and I believe I am one of the first to know of his enemas. He is someone I enjoy and in a lot of ways he is 'older' than his age. But he is still learning. 😉

I've been poking about in the DUMB.com and found this bit,

http://dumb.com/oldtimeradio/radio/300/Mystery/BBC_Ghost_Zone.html

I will be sharing a few enemas with EB 🌹 as we listen to this after delivery night tomorrow. 😉 It may be a few nights and more than a few enemas but I hope that he finds it entertaining as I am. I am very pleased with the 'accents' and I wonder if he will tease me 🌹 about how closely my own 'accent' matches the actors of this radio show. Indeed to hear this show reminds me of those long gone family reunions my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, sounded like when they spoke and I was a younger girl. Although I did not detect any Australian accents in the show, and had there been, then it would have been so much like those family reunions of my child hood. My great grandfather said that we were all the Queen's subjects. 😁 😁 He'd refer to the Queen when he had a few. 😉

I know that this isn't exactly OLD TIME, EB but it will be nice to share enemas with you as we listen. 🌹 My husband doesn't care for such old time radio shows, but it doesn't matter because he and I have friends we each call our own and that we care for and share things with.

I'll have to admit to EB that between working here at the shop and between customers and writing this, I've been listening to this show. 😈 But I won't put a spoiler here. 😉

@Ms_Lila I've looked at that site and there are five episodes listed. I followed the link and clicked on one of them and it was almost 30 minutes long. No, I didn't listen to it all of the way, but you say you want to do enemas with EB as you both listen. Won't that get boring? And it will be 2 1/2 hours to listen to all of it, if they are about 30 minutes each. Again, won't that get boring or if you are having the enemas, won't you get too horny and have sex and miss some of the show?

I don't see the attraction to listening to a radio show in the first place and I can see where your husband is coming from. But just what is it you get listening to that old time stuff? You're not that old.

When I do enemas with my husband, it is for us to get in the mood for sex. 😈 It's foreplay and exploring and getting all "hot and bothered". But I guess that if it is what you like, that's cool. 🌹

@Dahiana 🙄 please do hold that thought. I have a bit of time before I close up shop and will get back to this and 'educate' your young self on some of the finer points of life. 😁

As to this, I will answer it now,

Again, won't that get boring or if you are having the enemas, won't you get too horny and have sex and miss some of the show?

You have heard of commercials or a commercial break, haven't you? Well, if EB and I do get too horny and have sex, FANTASTIC! 😈 😁 😁 😁 We will merely move the slider back once we have finished our sex and listen from there. 😁 😁 😁 You know, REWIND! 😁 😁 😁

More later @Dahiana. You have a lot to learn. 🙄

You know, REWIND! 😁 😁 😁

More later @Dahiana. You have a lot to learn. 🙄

So do you @Ms_Lila you can put it on PAUSE and then just start it again. 😁 😁 😁

So do you @Ms_Lila you can put it on PAUSE and then just start it again. 😁 😁 😁

That's assuming we are at a point where EB and I even think about hitting the pause button. 😉

I suppose you do know, as young as you are, what that would imply. 😈 😁 😁 😁

I read the first few posts again. A minor point, but does anyone know why this thread has the title it does? Was someone surprised or intrigued by the possible introduction of enemas into their sex life? I may have missed something.

Eric

I read the first few posts again. A minor point, but does anyone know why this thread has the title it does? Was someone surprised or intrigued by the possible introduction of enemas into their sex life? I may have missed something.

Eric

You have missed something and I've been looking it up to help you @ericmacson. @Ms_Lila's first post may have been on 2016.11.13 21:42

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=805917

And she started her own thread on 2017.01.18 01:59. I've read a lot of her posts and she was late to enemas like I am. She and her husband figured it all out about enemas by using them for their pleasure and got interested that way. I had no clue about my own husband liking enemas but I found out. I never thought of them as being sexy and I wasn't sure until I had a few of my own and got to liking them. Maybe, just maybe she was surprised that enemas could be sexy and fun, because I was sure surprised.

Like I said, I read a lot of @Ms_Lila's posts and the title, if it matters, makes sense to me.

Thanks. I'll read some more of those but that makes sense that I just missed something. Just curious, but not really important. Thank you for doing the research.

When did you discover liking enemas? Did you post about it at some point here?

Eric

Okay, found some of your early enema posts. Fun to read. I'm glad you two have such a fun thing to share.

I would have just sent her a PM and asked and I have in the past if I am curious about something she wrote. It was no problem doing the research, it wasn't hard.

@Dahiana ... when my husband and I really reconnected it was through use of enemas. I had found a long time ago that enemas helped me sort things out by having time to myself. I have frequent anal sex with my husband ... and he loves to see me having an enema or to give me an enema before we have the sex. 😈 But he also likes to watch me having an enema ... and I like having him watch me take one. It can lead to sex ... or it can just add to our sharing some quiet time together.

There are a lot of times when I am going through proof sheets ... editing a photo shoot ... and just want to take a break and do an enema or just be with my husband as we pay the bills. They've gone beyond something to prepare for anal sex ... to something two old married people do because it's just fun or an excuse just to be naked. Enemas aren't just for sex. 😉

Honestly @gibby I can see that happening with my husband, and I think we, or I did a few enemas while we talked about his use of enemas. And I think I will have to admit, thinking back, that I would do an enema while he fought to open up about them when we first got it out of him. I figured that if I was doing one while he "spilled his guts" and opened up to me, that it would be a little easier for him to talk.

It worked, but I wasn't trying to trick him, I just figured if he was going to be telling me something that personal I should be as open myself. Oh, there were times I would have to cut him off mid sentence because I had to race off to get rid of part of an enema. It's just that I couldn't hit the pause button on him until I got back. 😁 😁 😁

Inspired idea. Take (or be given) an enema while husband reveals his feelings about enemas. I should have tried that a couple of times with exes. Very nice idea. ?? I'm glad it helped you.

Eric

Sometimes things happen in our lives that take a bit of time to sink in or, to accept. And it's those times that having a friend about to maybe, just be there, when your feelings come home to roost, is what is needed most. Someone who shares the same or similar feelings about a loved one no longer here and who reaches out to you to make some sort of sense of things where no sense can be made. I had a friend such as this but lost her not long ago, and she left behind so many who loved her and felt her presence. But there are few who knew her as I had come to know her and fewer who feel that loss that I feel without her here.

It's needing that sort of friend who doesn't need to 'talk' about it or delve into their innermost feelings and expect answers. It's the sort of friend who will come to you or you to them and feel free to reach out and not worry about having to explain why you want what you want, or them feeling the need or expectation to explain to you why they need you at that moment. And neither of you expect or want permission to do what you need to do to just find some sort of peace. And your need or their need is more than just a hug.

These past two weeks have found me in the presence of EB, either at his initiation or mine, it did not matter to either of us. He has noticed my moods and I his, and the past few times we have been together he has taken my clothes from me and stripped away some of my sadness, my melancholy, my defences, until I have nothing to hide from him or myself. And he holds me and I hold him and we don't expect any answers from the other. Because there are no answers, and we both know it is what it is, and there is no grand scheme, no greater good, no omniscient being, to make sense of what happens in life.

All I know is that I am naked in EB's arms and the feel of his clothing against my skin and body is somehow comforting to us both. And as we hold each other, the only thing we know is that we loved her very much and that she touched us both in ways that did not need to be understood except by the two of us at that time and in that place. It was just now. It was just us. It was just her and not some supreme being that had EB and me holding each other at that time. It was us.

I think EB said it best afterwards, 'Sometimes you just have to fuck it out.'

@Ms_Lila

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EB dropped by the shop this morning with some coffee and donuts and crawlers. 🌹 He apologized and said that he had forgot the cream. He had a mischievous look about him 😉 .

He also had a twinkle in his eye but not for long.

I sucked that right out. 😈

I had no sooner posted about EB forgetting the cream 😉 than my husband 🌹 dropped by the shop. 😈

I pounced. 😈

Nothing fancy, but he was easier to get off than EB was. 😉 😈

Now I have two dates for tonight, one with EB after the Saturday delivery 😈 and one when I get home to my husband 😈 🌹 .

But perhaps I may stop by to see a very dear friend before going home, that is if that beautiful man is about and not otherwise engaged by his daughter and his grand children. 🌹🌹🌹 That would make for a perfect day. 🌹

I had no sooner posted about EB forgetting the cream 😉 than my husband 🌹 dropped by the shop. 😈

I pounced. 😈

Nothing fancy, but he was easier to get off than EB was. 😉 😈

Now I have two dates for tonight, one with EB after the Saturday delivery 😈 and one when I get home to my husband 😈 🌹 .

But perhaps I may stop by to see a very dear friend before going home, that is if that beautiful man is about and not otherwise engaged by his daughter and his grand children. 🌹 🌹 🌹 That would make for a perfect day. 🌹

So three lovers in one day. 😈 😈 😈 😈 😈 😈 Ooooh-eee!!

Actually @Wolf2007, it may be three lovers depending on his mood and abilities, and whether or not his daughter and grandchildren are at home. 🌹 He recently lost his wife and I do check in with him to see he how he is getting on and to see if he needs anything. 🌹 Of course @Wolf2007 if he is in the mood, has the time, I will certainly enjoy his company 🌹 to the extent of his desires. 🌹

He's a very sweet man 🌹 a dear friend 🌹 and I have enjoyed him and we have enjoyed each other over the past years. I want to continue with our relationship regardless, if he wants this from me or for us then I very much want us to continue what we have together. I've shared his bed and he has shared mine with me many, many times and I want this for us as long as he will have me. 🌹 🌹 🌹

He's a very intimate friend and I enjoy him. 🌹

Just as a bit of a follow up post, I was able to be with my three men 🌹 🌹 🌹 last Saturday, my husband, EB, and Tom, and I enjoyed them very much. My husband I enjoyed the full range of our sexploration as it is rare these days to have a Saturday night and Sunday afternoon and evening to ourselves. 😈 It was a busy night for me in that I had been given enemas by three different men and had tasted them throughout the day. 😃 Oh yes, if I happened to burp, and I do 😉 I could taste them. Oh, they aren't those big burps that men cut loose with to be funny, no. 😉 Just those slightest of burps that remind you of something you had swallowed and experienced again.

Saturday was unusual for me in that I had swallowed the ejaculate of three men for a total of five servings and in fact I was digesting their 'essence'. I had researched semen before and learned that there isn't much in the way of calories, about .5 to .7 with each 'serving' and that sperm account for roughly 1% of the semen in the ejaculate. My research showed that there were somewhere between 200 million and 500 million sperm in each ejaculate, that I had ingested between 1 BILLION to 2.5 BILLION sperm along with; (per individual serving 😉 ) Fructose sugar, Water, Ascorbic acid (a.k.a., Vitamin C), Citric acid, Enzymes, Protein 171mg, Phosphate and bicarbonate buffers (bases), and Zinc, 6mg of total fat, 3mg of cholesterol, 10.2mg sodium, 11mg total carbohydrate, and a recommended daily average (per serving) of magnesium 0.09%; Zinc 3%; calcium 0.09%; and copper 3% and it is gluten free. 😁

So at some point, these men I adore have contributed to my nutrition and my body has absorbed those various nutrients and minerals and what have you. 😁

But on a somewhat reflective note, I was speaking with a friend here at zity in chat and I became aware of a kindness or consideration from one of my men that I may not have appreciated as I should. Except when my husband and I are with our little circle of couples we 'play' with, I tend to plan around my husband as being the one whose ejaculate I take and keep throughout the course of our sexual contact. If I am laying with my husband and when he ejaculates inside of my vagina or my rectum, the only part of him I remove is that which would drip or flow from me if I were to be having to walk or move about that day or night. If I am in his arms and in bed for the night, I may dab away the 'overflow' but his ejaculate is there until that time. He's my husband 🌹 and he has precedence in all things and always will.

My conversation with my friend here at zity made me realize that I do honour my husband in that he does, indeed, have precedence as to all things with our marriage, but that I'm not the only one who realizes or respects this. Except if we are with our couples enjoying sex with them, my husband will not fuck another woman and then come home to me and we fuck. Except with our couples, I will not detect the scent or taste of another woman when he and I are to be together out and away from our couples. Although our other couples are primary sexual partners for us, we both have 'outside' sexual partners. As I have said before, my husband keeps mostly to me because he does not feel he can totally separate emotional attachments from sex. I do personally know and have met his friend he sometimes has sex with when he is apart from me and she is a very nice woman.

Likewise, my husband knows who all my sexual partners are away from our own circle of couples. And those partners are EB and another younger man and his wife. EB is by far my most frequent sexual partner and the younger couple are not that often.

But in keeping with my thoughts, and my husband's precedence, EB has removed the decision I might have to make, or the choice, when it comes to having EB the same day or night as I am to have my husband. My chat with my friend from zity made me realized that this last Saturday, EB was prepared to forego having vaginal or anal sex with me so that I could keep with my husband. 🌹 When I went down on EB that morning, I did not expect my husband to come by or me to be so utterly horny. 😈 But I was and my going down on EB that morning was more in keeping with our opening our own businesses, but we always have some plans for after the delivery which changed with the 😈 unexpected availability 😈 of my husband. 😁

I hadn't given any thought or discussed my 'rule' with EB about my husband, but EB was aware I was going to be with my husband at the end of the night. I hadn't really thought about not having EB vaginally or anally after he helped with the delivery but he redirected me towards my visit with Tom and then my evening with my Steve. EB offered, and I sooo accepted, 🌹 😈 to give me an enema for my 'big date' with my husband after I checked in on Tom. EB gave me my enema and we carried on with our conversation and speaking of our day as I filled. He was understanding of my time constraints but I did not want to leave him in the lurch without something, and I went down on him the second time that day. 🌹 🌹 Believe me when I say that I wasn't doing him a favour 🌹 I wanted that as much as I hoped he wanted it. It wasn't something I even had to think twice about.

I made my check in with Tom and he was kind enough to give me an enema as I went down on him. His health doesn't allow for much more and he was tired and his daughter came by to make sure he was good for the night before I left to be with my husband. Tom is just now beginning to feel the loss of his wife and that it will not be the same without her. 🌹 Something I felt from Tom and was so glad to be with my Steve and enjoy the fact we have each other. A rare Saturday night made possible by the 'other' men in my life. Most notably, EB. 🌹 🌹

My chat with my zity friend made it clear that EB knows of my husband's 'precedence' and extended to me the kindness and consideration of not making it necessary for me to consciously 'draw the line' or make the choice or decision to exclude him in favour of my husband. It will always be my husband 🌹 but EB knows this and made the decision for me without my having to consciously take my husband's precedence into consideration. It simply is what it is. 🌹

But that conversation caused me to clear up a point or loophole between my husband and myself. And that was that my husband fully accepts that we may have oral sex with our 'out of circle' partners and therefore honour our being each others priority. I summed it up with my husband by saying we agreed that my sucking another man's cock (EB 🌹 ) before being with him that it was totally acceptable for my Steve to suck cock before coming home to me. 😉 😁 My husband agreed in principal, but him being TOTALLY STRAIGHT had him respond in the negative to his being allowed to suck a cock before we were to be sexual with each other. 😁 😁 😁

EB has always understood and honoured that his total access to me is conditional. Even if I hadn't always been aware of that myself. 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 I guess a chat with a friend who is so much like EB made that clear. Both EB and my zity chat buddy (ZCB?) are men of honour. 🌹

What about a condom for EB at those times?

What about a condom for EB at those times?

No.

I never want EB to wear a condom with me. He has total access and has shown he has my best interest at heart. I never want him to wear a condom.

No.

I never want EB to wear a condom with me. He has total access and has shown he has my best interest at heart. I never want him to wear a condom.

@Ms_Lila that was pretty fast and definite and to the point. But are those, or have there been men who've you had that you require to wear a condom? And why?

What about you and your husband's couples when you are all together. From what I understand this is a time that no one uses a condom or you don't want them too wear one. What are the criteria for fucking you with or without a condom? Is the one who has to wear a condom less intimate or what can you tell me about this?

By the way, thanks for not sugar coating your answer. 🌹

@Ms_Lila that was pretty fast and definite and to the point. But are those, or have there been men who've you had that you require to wear a condom? And why?

What about you and your husband's couples when you are all together. From what I understand this is a time that no one uses a condom or you don't want them too wear one. What are the criteria for fucking you with or without a condom? Is the one who has to wear a condom less intimate or what can you tell me about this?

By the way, thanks for not sugar coating your answer. 🌹

@Dahiana I was going to edit my post so that it didn't sound so harsh but you responded rather quickly. 🌹

I feel that I am at a point where I may be too much of a whore in some respects and that I may be exceeding what my husband and I sought to accomplish with our sexploration. I feel that I am at that point that if I continue to 'add' sexual partners that I would be having a talk with my husband about 'swinging' which I would most definitely require the use of condoms for all those, save for my husband, that we would be having sex with. To be honest I am not certain I could become a 'swinger' BUT it may be that I am indeed considered a swinger based solely on the numbers of sex partners I have at this time. I am not being flippant or light about this because it is becoming a concern to me but I don't know who I really could consult about my feelings. Definitions on the internet about what constitutes a swinger or open marriage are of little help.

My husband, Steve, and I started our sexploration when we started with our looking at sex aids and different types of sex. As I am bi sexual, it's a long story @Dahiana and I will greatly simplify by saying that, at the outset, my husband and I found two other 'original' couples to start our sexploration with. In the course of our sexploration one of the 'original' couples sought different circles and I became aware of this 'fluid bonding' concept at about the time the other couple branched out on their own. The remaining couple and my husband and I continued on with each other and knew about and consented to any of the four of us having sex that was not within our circle. This concept of fluid bonding being our concern. If one of us fucked someone other that the four in our circle, then we all essentially would be fucking that 'outside' person. And this is my understanding of one of the principals of fluid bonding.

Our little circle met another couple and became involved with them, but they live some distance away and contact is not as often as we would like. We all took a nude vacation together and we loved it. 😃 Things were good and our little circle was stable and meeting out needs and desires. 😄

Then the married daughter of our closest couple wanted to explore her sexuality, or more accurately, her bisexuality. I became aware that the woman this daughter sought to educate her, was a woman who would have wanted to 'groom' this daughter, I'll call her Patty, to be a sub for her. Patty is not a sub. Patty wanted to know if she could fuck another woman and satisfy her curiosity. Patty's potential mentor (?) would have wanted and demanded more. Again, Patty is NOT a sub or sub material She might be 'switch' material but I am in waters I only barely comprehend when it comes to D/s.

So, I took Patty on, with no small amount of reservations. Let's just say that Patty loved receiving but was not as enthralled with giving and thus satisfied her curiosity with out a power play that Patty's prospective mentor would have wanted. In the meantime, Patty and her husband were off on their own and very wisely not waiting for their marriage to be in crisis before they found ways to 'spice it up'. 🌹 I will say this @Dahiana and leave it at only this, that at some point I did indulge Patty's husband with his interest in anal sex. However, he has to use a condom. I enjoy him and occasionally Patty but this has caused me to have questions I've alluded to above. 😧

Sadly, the wife of our closest couple died unexpectedly and that didn't stop us, me, from caring for him deeply. I have said as much in a prior post and will continue to have him as long as he is able and willing to do so. He has not, will not, be one I require to wear a condom even if I am to be with my husband afterwards. He is one who is part of that circle. 🌹 His wife and my dearest friend and lover, was who EB was involved with and they loved each other. 🌹 She never thought of having EB use a condom with her. And when I got to know him well enough to initiate sexual contact with him, I never considered asking him to use a condom, and I will not. 🌹

And now I am questioning what it is my husband and I are about and who we are and where we are in our marriage. 🌹 Swingers? Or do we close the circle? If so, how? Do we go back to being exclusive with one another, which only one of us has to want to make it so. Or have my husband and I been experiencing polyamoury of sorts and what do we do?

All I know for sure @Dahiana is that whatever happens, EB will not be required by me to wear a condom. And won't be required to do so should it come to that 'last time.'

I may be thinking too much but that is where it is with my heart and mind at this moment.

@Ms_Lila can you tell us more about your sexploration ?? How far did you go !! did you find out anything new about yourself !!

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@Sandman538 I am still 'sexploring' with my husband. 🌹 It may only just beginning but there are things I have to sort out, that anyone would have to sort out, if they want to be successful and happy. 🌹