"Enemas? Really?"

I've been here officially for a couple of months now after spending several months dropping by this site to read stories written by some very fine authors. I want to use this as my place to post my thoughts about enemas, pegging, being bi, heteroflexible, and finding my kink. So here goes and if you have a question or a comment, put it here and I will read it.

My husband and I are beginning our own sexual evolution and feel our renewed sexuality melding with our souls. Reading what others have written here and how it makes me feel and have an appreciation at what impact words really have. Some words are negative sounding to someone who isn't in the same mood that you may in or who doesn't have the 'right' to use that word around you.

For an example, I've read posts on the use of the word 'cunt' and how people feel about it. It's not a word that 99% of decent women approve of and we hardly ever use that word on even our worst enemies. But sometimes, you run across a raging cunt and there is no other way to describe that woman who has made you angry enough to tie 'them' in a knot, drop the mic, and walk away. I generally avoid using that word in my real life in public, but that may change in private.

But here, some people find that stimulating and I've uttered that word around my husband. He has said 'cunt' around me when the mood was just right like one particularly 'slutty' enema encounter we played out together. It fit the mood and I liked the sound of his voice when he said it. Both my husband & I are beginning to like the idea that 'cunt' has possibilities for us when he speaks it to me but it is something only he can say to me. It may not be long before he actually calls me his 'cunt' and already I want that from him. He just has to feel comfortable knowing that I will accept that and for all intents and purposes, I am my husband's cunt. He's not there in his comfort zone to call me that yet and he may worry about getting shot.

This is my start and I will try to make it easy on the moderator people and post here if I have questions that I can't find, or when I'm feeling the need to get something off of my chest.

Ms Lila

A very nice start - and about time you started your own topic. 😉 I suppose that if you have someone - that you care about, or who has been there for you, you give them a right to say things to you that only they can say. Like a sister - or a lover that you know without a doubt has your back. There are things - like with my sister, I can say them, but no one else had better say them. Or with a lover - and being their 'cum slut whore' and liking it. But if someone else says that - then I'd be borrowing a cup of bullets, or tying their tits in a knot. 😉

Nice start - I'll be dropping by now and again.

Lora

@Lora_C

Nice start - I'll be dropping by now and again.

Thank you for dropping by and being the first to comment. I get it about sisters and brothers knowing how to push the right buttons or even slightly raise an eyebrow the wrong way and irk the hell out of you. But you know they have your back and so you won't shoot them. That much. 😉

It is of interest that the cunt word is used in middle english by Chaucer in Canterbury Tales as, 'He caught her by the cunt.'

Regarding the word "cunt", I like it and I have posted about it several times:

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=799747

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=44281

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=754286

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=65969

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=752633

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=628142

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=270340

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=753246

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=614933

@Switchablesusie thank you and I liked your posts. I've heard the term 'va-jay-jay' and it isn't a word I like. 'Hoo ha' was kind of funny and 'cooter' was too. But my husband and I are getting to where we are becoming 'wild and crazy' and I have told him to 'tear my pussy up, Big Boy' or 'get down there and do my cunt!' But it is hard for us to keep a straight face when we talk that way with each other because we are pretty new to this. As time goes on, and we become more comfortable with 'talking dirty' he's going to find out that I mean it. 😈

The one word that comes to mind that I absolutely cannot stand is va-jay-jay.

It truly is a word by and for total idiots because it is used to cover up and not say the real word vagina.

All the slang terms are fine because they are slang terms and don't try to cover up what it is talking about.

@ronema said

It is of interest that the cunt word is used in middle english by Chaucer in Canterbury Tales as, 'He caught her by the cunt.'

Actually, no he didn't.

We have discussed this before and it was then established that the word Chaucer used was 'queynte'.

Please see this post by @agracier. Perhaps you missed it the first time.

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=752591

My husband and I are really starting to get into finding out what our kink is and 'cutesy' words aren't exactly what I want with this. Whatever 'this' is going to turn out to be. Those books I'm reading don't go for that baby-talk.

We want this to work.

I want this to work.

@DrZ that is what I'm talking about in wanting to come here. My vocabulary is being increased, anatomy, and now literature. 😉 Thank you!

I some times say "cunt" when we are having sex and my husband knows I am really aroused when he hears that. Well he knows when I am aroused anyway and he does not need words to tell him but there is no doubt at all when I get a bit potty mouthed. When I am being a bit more of a lady I do not say it.

I really hate the "va jay jay" word. It is a really stupid thing to say like men calling their genitals "junk". That is stupid too.

I really hate the "va jay jay" word. It is a really stupid thing to say like men calling their genitals "junk". That is stupid too.

@Amethyst Amen! I think that is where my husband and I are going more and more. We are more or less just really forgetting about being constrained and just giving in to where our moods take us. If I get 'potty mouthed' and let go and just enjoy, I think we will both will have a lot more fun with each other.

We are more or less just really forgetting about being constrained and just giving in to where our moods take us. If I get 'potty mouthed' and let go and just enjoy, I think we will both will have a lot more fun with each other.

Oh I am sure you will @Ms_Lila, that is what I think too. My husband is the only partner I have had and since I got him to notice me nearly 14 years ago I have just never stopped learning. Letting go totally and just doing what we feel we want to do is how I have learned to be more and more. I think I needed my late teenage years 16 to 19 to learn the most but I think when I got to 20 I could say that I came to be an expert on how to keep his testicles empty. 😃 I am 29 now and I know that I have learned more.

@Amethyst, I think the key is the 'letting go' and just enjoying the moment. Both my husband and I were way too 'traditional' or vanilla for most of our marriage when it came to sex between us. I think you are starting out at a very nice age, and you have some confidence in yourself. I think the self confidence is half the battle. That and being horny and not being afraid to just let all go.

Twenty nine is a good age, if I can remember correctly. 😉

@Ms_Lila said

I think that is where my husband and I are going more and more. We are more or less just really forgetting about being constrained and just giving in to where our moods take us. If I get 'potty mouthed' and let go and just enjoy, I think we will both will have a lot more fun with each other.

I think you will find it's a gradual process of development over an indefinite period of time. To use a cliché, you are on a journey, but I wouldn't say there is a set destination at the end of it. As @Amethyst alluded to, the traveling itself should be what you both aim to enjoy in the moment as you go along.

@Amethyst said

I think I needed my late teenage years 16 to 19 to learn the most but I think when I got to 20 I could say that I came to be an expert on how to keep his testicles empty. 😃 I am 29 now and I know that I have learned more.

Is that really how long you think it took you? I have a very good memory, and I can say you became an expert in no time at all. 🌹

@DrZ

Is that really how long you think it took you? I have a very good memory, and I can say you became an expert in no time at all. 🌹

@Amethyst was just being modest. 😉

@DrZ I like how you said that about the journey, that is a better way of explaining where we are now.

I think you are starting out at a very nice age, and you have some confidence in yourself. I think the self confidence is half the battle. That and being horny and not being afraid to just let all go.

Twenty nine is a good age, if I can remember correctly. 😉

@Ms_Lila When I was growing up I did not get told by my mum that I should not do this and I should not do that. I always could talk with her about things so I think I got a really good start, and when I was ready I caught the best man in the world for me in my trap. Hahaha

I think maybe it just took me until I was about 20 to think that he would think I was good as the experienced women he had slept with. I knew that he had a lot of experienced girlfriends before I got him so I was always wondering if I knew enough about what I was doing. But I think when I got to 20 I had had enough practice with him to know that I had learned enough and knew how to please him as well as some of his exes had.

I like being 29 and I think right through my 20s I have been learning still more. He is right you know, it is a process really. 😃

The word va jay jay is just silly to me and something a pre-teen would say . I personally hate the word cunt even in the bedroom . I dont care how naughty we are talking but call my vagina a cunt or worse yet call me a cunt and its a sure fire way to kill my mood .

I have been in chat and heard the word cunt just thrown around in general and I find it crude .

As far as being able to spice up naughty talk in the bedroom I found whispering first not only sexy but kind of gets you used to used to using language you dont generally use with each other . Texting naughty little messages perhaps even innuendos is also a good intro .

In what ever case having a partnership with both willing to experiment is a great thing. ?

bridgette said

The word va jay jay is just silly to me and something a pre-teen would say . I personally hate the word cunt even in the bedroom . I dont care how naughty we are talking but call my vagina a cunt or worse yet call me a cunt and its a sure fire way to kill my mood .

I have been in chat and heard the word cunt just thrown around in general and I find it crude .

So, you're doing anal sex and probably enemas and other kinks and a WORD is crude???

Your kinky activities are considered disgusting by a major portion of the population! 😁 (Not by me of course, I know how to have fun.) 😁

@Amethyst

I like being 29 and I think right through my 20s I have been learning still more.

I liked 29 so much that I was 29 nineteen more times! 😄 I wish that was an original for me but I heard that somewhere else. I'm in my 50's now and it is a good time really.

I was fairly sexually experienced when I met my husband but I was so vanilla it wasn't funny. Really, it wasn't funny and if I so much as put a pillow under my hips it was just me being the wild and wanton woman my mother always warned me about. 😄 And oh baby! If I bent over the foot of the bed or took him on my hands and knees with him behind, then orgies were sure to follow! 😄 Oh yeah @Amethyst you are talking to a depraved sex maniac!

Well, now you are, but back then that was as wild as we got. 😉 My relationship with my Mom wasn't that great and we didn't get along. When I turned into a teenager, I knew better than she did and she was very religious and all of that. Luckily I had a girl ahead of me in school that was very, um, social, and for some reason she let me hang around and she was good for me and our friendship continues to this day.

Partly because of her and mostly because I wanted more, I started changing and wanted to bring my husband right along with me. The catalyst that really got our 'juices flowing' was our wanting to try anal and me taking one for the team and doing an enema. Tried it. Liked it! And the journey began. 😉

SwitchableSusie , even though we are on a kink site there is a time and place for everything . When a chat room is having a non kinky moment ( it actually happens ?) like when a new member comes in and we are welcoming them or addressing a serious question or concern from a member , exchanging recipes , yes we do that too or whatever and a member out of the blue asks a female member " so what makes your cunt wet?" , yes I sure do find it crude . I am positive I am not the only member , male and female that feels the same .

Believe me I could make a sailor blush and have quite a colorful vocabulary but no matter where you are and what company you are in you can still have class .

" so what makes your cunt wet?"

The proper reply is, 'Not a needle dicked bug fucker like you!' But that's just me. 😉

Ms Lila , Perfect response ! I hope to soon meet up with you in chat, you are my kind of lady friend ! I bit my tongue, put on my halo and counted to 10 ( about 15 times-lol ) .

@bridgette said

even though we are on a kink site there is a time and place for everything . When a chat room is having a non kinky moment ( it actually happens ?) like when a new member comes in and we are welcoming them or addressing a serious question or concern from a member , exchanging recipes , yes we do that too or whatever and a member out of the blue asks a female member " so what makes your cunt wet?" , yes I sure do find it crude . I am positive I am not the only member , male and female that feels the same

The 'Mute' button is your friend when anyone directs that kind of question toward you.

Also, after you have put the offender on your ignore list, I would encourage you to copy and paste the chat messages into a PM and send them to a moderator or chat supervisor of your choice, such as @Amethyst .

We do straighten these people out, but we need members to tell us first if we are not present to see the behaviour for ourselves.

@bridgette I loved your profile and that you are ' a little smart mouthy ' and I am a little smart assey. 😉 Five girls? I get where that can make you a little nutty. 😄

Bridgette, the ATTITUDE of that guy coming on like that is what's crude. NOT the word. If he said what makes your vagina wet, that would be just as crude as an opening remark.

People should have some kind of relationship before even asking a question quite like that. The fact is it may only take a few sentences before you arrive at that level but it shouldn't be the first sentence out of their mouth.

Thank you Dr Z & SwitchableSusie, I am sure the offending member is known by several of the moderation team and he is usually dealt with promptly and accordingly when they are present . Had he continued I would have reported him . The bad seeds usually weed themselves out , eventually and watching them self destruct can be very entertaining ?

"Ve haf our vays" said Colonel Klink. . 😁

Lol Aussie , love the kinky accent 😉

@Ms_Lila ... I've been following your posts http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=821753 ... how's it going with your Feeldoe? I'm just curious ... 🌹

I really enjoy all the enthusiasm for age 29. In fact that is exactly how I feel and I will always be Lance29. Hugs.

L