Has anyone here transitioned and regretted it?

Hello, I don't know if anyone will reply to this however, when I read about gurls who have transitioned (MTF though this is open to anyone) it always super positive in nature. My question is, has anyone transitioned and regretted for any reason? I don't think that I would but, nonetheless I like to make informed decisions. Lastly, if so why?

While I have not transitioned myself, I know about 6 girls who have and all are 100% sure that they made the right decision. Some are sad that some family members or friends have refused to accept their transition.

Transitioning will not solve all your problems. However, my observations would suggest that most of the ladies seemed to address their issues better after transition.

The vast majority of people who transition are happy with their decision. As a previous responder says, sometimes people are sad that they have lost people as a result of transitioning, but actual regret is rare. Detransitioning (returning to the pre-transition gender) is extremely rare.

I myself do support others who do make this decision in life. I feel if this makes this person happy to change to the opposite sex then so be it. Yes you might make your family and friends upset, but if your happy then that's all that counts. I myself have never meet anyone who has made the transition, but hope one day I can.

I have very profound respect for someone who seeks to transition. It is not a process that takes place quickly and, personally, it deserves professional guidance both medically and psychologically. The use of hormone and hormone blockers has become more accepted even for transgender children and youth. The occurrence of surgery remains less utilized until adulthood. Total reassignment is also deferred due to cost and other reasons and is a very profound decision. My wish is that one seek guidance, support, and counseling so that you can address what is best for you free from judgment.

If someone wants to make the transition then they should do it if it makes them happy. No one should stand in the way of your dreams. I myself have never meet anyone who has made the transition, but have seen pictures and some are very hot looking.

I think the most important thing is for you to be happy with things. Proper counselling is important but you have to decide what is best for you. There are so many variations you can do. You need to choose the decisions that are right for you, I have heard of both extremes in MTF. Ones that want to be a girl but love their penis so much they want to keep it. This is probably a small group in the MTF world but need to be respected. And of course the others who are very troubled by having the wrong plumbing so to speak and need a full transition. This is likely the majority goal. But like I said I know of those living without treatment who are happy and feel they are good with simply living in "drag" and others who have had complete surgery on both sides. The ones I have known personally have had no regrets. I have known others who are very happy with only top surgery alone. You have lots to consider and qualified Dr.s and psychological help should help you come to the process best for you. I wish you all the best.

I'm a trans man (FTM) and I know a lot of people who've transitioned. I only know 2 who have fully detransitioned, I know a few more who started out binary and later moved into a non-binary/genderqueer state - the latter may well be because more people now know that's a possibility. I'd never heard of non-binary people when I started transitioning 11 years ago, I wasn't even aware trans men existed until I was about 15 or I'd probably have figured out I was one a lot sooner.

Many people are scared to talk about detransitioning because the idea that it's a phase or that they might regret the decision is used against us all the time as an excuse for denying support and healthcare, particularly to younger people. Medical transition is often presented by the media as something that happens overnight and it really doesn't, you have a lot of time to think about each stage and if you want to delay it past the minimum time for any reason that's okay too. In the UK you'd be looking at 3-4 years from referral to a specialist clinic to actually having genital surgery, even if you've got money coming out of your ears and can pay for everything privately it probably wouldn't be less than 2 years. The stringent guidelines for diagnosis and referral for hormones and surgery plus waiting times mean you've got to be pretty determined to get to where you want to be, anyone who has significant doubts will likely drop out long before they get to the truly irreversible stages. Detransitioning does happen but the social and medical difficulty of transitioning means that it's very rare.

I have never yet met anyone who has ever regretted it.

I always intended to have the complete reassignment surgery myself. It was only when I fell out with my psychiatrist at the. gender clinic at Charring Cross hospital that I never had the surgery.

I was young and impatient, I had been on the waiting list for ages, just waiting for my date. When I went ahead and paid for my own breast enlargement surgery without their permission so to speak, we had an almighty row.

They demanded to know how I had paid for the surgery, when and where I had it done etc.

I was quite open and blunt with them, and said it was really none of their business, but when I informed them that it was with the money I had been saving from doing escort work, he went mental. We had a massive fall out and he discharged me.

I was then determined to get enough money to pay for the reassignment surgery myself, so I upped my escort work and was doing agency, independent, and street work to get enough money.

However I quickly realised, especially with the agency work, that clients wanted girls with functional penises if they were booking trans women.

Otherwise they would just book a real genetic girl.

So it was a catch 22 situation. I never went through with it.

Now I have given the escort work up, and I could probably afford to pay for it myself, I find myself maybe too old to have to go through all of the risky surgery, as I am now in my late 50s.

I realise that I have lived 40+ years of my life as a female without any problems, and without having the complete surgery, so now at my age, do I really need it.?

Some days I think yes, I really do, and decide to get something done about it, then a couple of weeks later, I wonder if it would be such a good idea at my time of life.?

However, I will definitely say, that if I was younger, then yes, 100% I would get it done asap.

Hi all 😃

I'm out since 2014 and started transitioning since January 2015. I'm now pretty much complete to my own feelings. I am happy in my skin and I did have GRS a little over one year ago.

I am not looking for top surgery as well as facial surgery, however my bottom surgery was very important to me, but everyone is different of course.

I haven't had a single moment of regret. I did have difficult times in the beginning of my transition when I was still very masculine features, but thanks to the hormones that has become much less.

I do know of a few local trans woman that have their doubts a short time into transitioning, but the problem is usually the time it takes to see progress. The ones I know have now gotten over that and are happy with their progress.

Money, health and social acceptance are a big issue for some of us. But so is living in hapiness with yourself and feeling happy in your skin.

I know I will never be a biological woman, I remember where I came from, but I am happy to be a trans woman who is accepted by her family and friends, and accepted at work.

I don't think I will ever look back and regret.

Love and hugs, Erin.

See this documentary:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pxxBQm114k

See this documentary:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pxxBQm114k

Which starts with a bible quote reading?

This Washington Post story addresses some of the "statistics" found in the YouTube video.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/five-myths-about-transgender-issues/2016/05/13/eca17dbc-177e-11e6-9e16-2e5a123aac62_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.ad3a6280490f

A great many TGs appear to have serious regrets. The suicide rate is shockingly high for TGs. This is one of many sources. I selected it because the survey was conducted by a group very supportive of the cause.

"A staggering 41 percent of transgender people in the United States have attempted to commit suicide, according to a new survey. ...... conducted by the National Center for Transgender Equality and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force"

https://www.livescience.com/11208-high-suicide-risk-prejudice-plague-transgender-people.html

It's possible that some attempted suicide for other reasons, or because their lives didn't change the way they had hoped, but regardless for nearly half of those surveyed the change didn't make them happy enough to want to go on living, which is a pretty low bar. Also consider that there are very likely many TGs who have regrets that are not severe enough for them to attempt suicide.

The liberal US media is pushing stories about per-pubescent children who think they are TG. IMO this is very dangerous and morally wrong. See the WP article from the post below for an example. Five year olds have no idea what it means to be a man or a woman, planting and nurturing the seeds of such thoughts puts them on the road to join 45% of their "peers", for lack of a better word.

A great many TGs appear to have serious regrets. The suicide rate is shockingly high for TGs. This is one of many sources. I selected it because the survey was conducted by a group very supportive of the cause.

"A staggering 41 percent of transgender people in the United States have attempted to commit suicide, according to a new survey. ...... conducted by the National Center for Transgender Equality and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force"

https://www.livescience.com/11208-high-suicide-risk-prejudice-plague-transgender-people.html

It's possible that some attempted suicide for other reasons, or because their lives didn't change the way they had hoped, but regardless for nearly half of those surveyed the change didn't make them happy enough to want to go on living, which is a pretty low bar. Also consider that there are very likely many TGs who have regrets that are not severe enough for them to attempt suicide.

The liberal US media is pushing stories about per-pubescent children who think they are TG. IMO this is very dangerous and morally wrong. See the WP article from the post below for an example. Five year olds have no idea what it means to be a man or a woman, planting and nurturing the seeds of such thoughts puts them on the road to join 45% of their "peers", for lack of a better word.

The article stated here is much more realistic and down to earth and addresses the real problems these people have.

Plastic surgery does not change the person other than how they may look when naked. It's just a very complex nose job or face lift.

The percentage of transgenders who attempt suicide AFTER surgery and transitioning is 41% just like people BEFORE they had the sexual reassignment surgery. Having the surgery does NOT make them less likely to commit suicide.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qlRkLtKqSrY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTWXwla8vjg&t=5s

I've had 2 trans women that had bottom surgery warn me about complications with bottom surgery. I never expressed a desire to have the surgery, but both were just being kind to someone they chatted with/saw pictures of and wanted to help. Fortunately, I have a beautiful fully functional penis and enjoy being a non-op trans woman very much. I don't need to "transition" to enjoy being me.