Hi Diaperdisciplined,
Well, seems like no no one here thinks ill of you. We don't have that right, even for people like Hitler or Stalin or Mao Tse Tung. We might not like what they did (we don't), but they were made good. It went wrong later. How do I know?
Well, Genesis 1: 26 says that God decided to make people 'in his image and likeness' - like him in that we are free, creative and do know the difference between good and evil. At the end of his making, God looked at the world he'd made and pronounced it 'very good.' (Gen. 1: 31). That, of course, includes you and me, since time is also God's creation and he does the creation job outside of time's stream.
So then, if God made us (there are not too many alternative ideas), it stands to reason that God does not make junk. Therefore, despite your own opinion, be assured that God does not hate you and you are of great value. He only made one of you, even if you had an identical twin. That one he made good. He also made us, according to the story, male and female. Most folk will tell you he did that so that we would marry and have kids, but somehow I doubt this was the primary reason. More likely is that he knew we'd be lonely without someone to share a life with.
God himself, in that first Chapter of Genesis, appears in the Hebrew text under the name 'Elohim.' That is a plural word, and you DO know enough Hebrew to appreciate it; e.g. one seraph but two seraphim; one cherub, two cherubim. Geddit? Yet it's used here by a Jewish writer, a member of the fiercely monotheistic people on earth (monotheists are believers in one personal God) to describe the Creator. Moreover, God is reported to have made us like him. Does that not imply that though God is One, the One also comprises a community of persons? We Christians think so, on pretty good grounds. God is also said to be love personified (1 John 4: 😎; but how could a Being, totally alone, know anything about love? Whom has he/she/it to love? Islam, recognising the difficulty, does not call Allah loving, but rather, merciful.
Know, then, that you are made good, good, good! You're made to love and to be loved. If I knew you better, I am virtually certain that I should find you creative in your own way; and the fact that you are so means that you have the freedom necessary to create. Did you know that when our sexuality is not functioning as God intended (and that can include straight folk as well as all others), that our creativity in other areas of life is often enhanced? Think Oscar Wilde, Alan Turing, who cracked the German Enigma codes in WWII - and many, many others.
Submissive is talking tough but not unloving - and we all need a kick in the butt from time to time. She's definitely in your corner! None of us here knows how you came to hate yourself, but you told us enough to know that your family certainly didn't help. Forgive them if you can - you do have some insight about them as people. But if you can't do that now, then leave it (park off the bitterness) with God and move on. Ask him to change you until you do really feel like forgiving, but don't let it stop you NOW!
Johnny