Worried because this spanking video arouses me...

Maybe, it is because at my age I have become a bit jaded, but in the last several years, I have realized that pain arouses me in a way it never has before. Early in our relationship, my wife and I played spanking games but they were pretty tame. I have, on and off, over the years, enjoyed spanking stories, some of them quite severe. The fact that the linked video arouses me as much as it does surprises and worries me. I cannot put my finger on exactly what gets to me. Visual images? Dialog? Pain? What do you think?

http://xhamster.com/movies/1401649/jessica_039_s_strapping.html

Many things about spanking whether doing it or watching a video that arouse me. A beautiful bottom on display(and I'm obsessed with bottoms), the sound of the smack, the reaction, crying and pleading, the dominance/submission dynamics. Reddening cheeks. And you say you're worried? Good, bad or iindifferent, you are certainly among many spanking friends here. Enjoy! No guilt. No shame. No worries

Oh my. I must say that was very exciting to say the least. Watching the panties being pulled down, then as the strokes got harder, then faster. My bottom is smarting from just seeing all of that.....

Elaine (let's just say it's been too long..)

"...And you say you're worried? Good, bad or iindifferent, you are certainly among many spanking friends here. Enjoy! No guilt. No shame. No worries."

Thanks! "Worried" may have been a poor word choice. I enjoyed the video, found it erotic, and am glad I did! It is, however, intellectually curious that something I do not believe in and have not done in real life, would arouse me so. I have played spanking games with consenting adults, but never spanked my children. The mind is a mysterious thing!

Though I was unaware of it when I first watched the video, and it had not consciously entered my mind even when I started this thread, I have since realized that this particular scenario might have especially affected me because it evoked memories of a real-life situation I was told about that used to arouse me terribly.

A friend told me about corporal punishment two of his cousins received from their father. Though I knew the cousins, brother and sister, my only knowledge of their punishment came from my friend, neither of the cousins ever mentioned the subject around me. By the time I heard this story, the people involved were in their late teens and my friend knew the threat of the belt was still very real for both of them. What my friend did not know, was what a crush I had on his girl cousin, even though she was much too old for me. She would not have given me the time of day. Of course, the unobtainable is often most desirable.

What my friend told me was when their father decided they had earned a session with the belt, he would tell them, "Go to your room and wait for me. I will be there shortly. You might as well go ahead and get yourself ready." This meant that they were to go to their room, remove everything from the waist down, lie face-down over their pillows as depicted in the video, and wait for the inevitable. Sometimes the wait for their father, as they lay bare-assed, was lengthy. They knew why they were there, and they knew what was coming. When their father finally arrived, there was little said, he took off his leather belt and striped them good from their upper buttocks down to mid-thigh. Afterwards, as he was putting his belt back on, he would tell them to stay as they were until they they thought they could come out and behave.

Frankly, I did not care about the punishment of the boy cousin with one exception. I was told, a time or two, when the cousins got into mischief together, they were punished together. The mental image of the girl preparing for, and being punished, tortured me deliciously on occasion for years. Sometimes, I found the image of the boy and girl being punished together even more provocative. Those two scenarios were the subject of many a masturbation session for me over a period of years.

I have long since lost touch with the friend who told me of the above. The "girl" involved is now a grandmother, and still lovely. I occasionally run into both her and her brother. They have no idea...

Oh. No. The thought of being spanked (and fondled inappropriately) (all you hall monitors, this is fantasy ), is an incredible turn on. I have actually found a play partner who I have sessions with on a regular basis. Watching it is probably just as much as a turn on as it is in real life. Who knows why, I don't care, but do enjoy it, both watching and being done. Husband also "spanks" but was brought up with men don't hit women, which is a good thing, but I want it in the bedroom.

It gets me going.

"...Husband also "spanks" but was brought up with men don't hit women..."

Absolutely! Unless, of course, they want it or "need" it. Gentlemen always oblige ladies.

Spanking is a huge turn on for many people of both sexes. Lots of lovers spank or asked to be spanked by their partner. Sometimes people just go to a spanking party to play. Some have spanking friends and do not have sex. Lots of individual choice here as long as it is SSC. Personally I like it all..?

Naughty schoolgirls being spanked always get me worked up. Always a magic moment when the panties come down.

Worried because this spanking video arouses me...

Maybe, it is because at my age I have become a bit jaded, but in the last several years, I have realized that pain arouses me in a way it never has before.

So are you going to go beat up somebody???

You're not really worried, you are just surprised to learn you have sadistic tendencies.

So are you going to go beat up somebody???

You're not really worried, you are just surprised to learn you have sadistic tendencies.

No, beating up somebody would not arouse me.

You are right, "surprised" is a better word choice than "worried." Is "sadistic" the right word when one is only vicariously aroused by pain? I am sometimes turned on by observing, reading about, or hearing about the infliction of pain. The idea of inflicting pain does nothing for me. Maybe it is a shade of the same thing? Or, maybe, I will learn that deep in my twisted and withered brain, I really do want lay the strap on some lady's deserving ass!

It is only in the last couple of years that I have become more aware and interested in my reaction to pain, largely a result of Zity. Video links from other's posts and participating in threads on the subject of pain have provoked me to think about it. I have long recognized my interest in D/s scenarios, but am just beginning to explore the pain thing. It is almost like being young and innocent again, and enjoying exploration and learning.

Is "sadistic" the right word when one is only vicariously aroused by pain? I am sometimes turned on by observing, reading about, or hearing about the infliction of pain. The idea of inflicting pain does nothing for me.

There is probably a term for it thought up by someone, but it seems it would be a cross between voyeurism and masochism experienced as a sort of empathy ...

Too bad I never learned Latin or Greek or I might have had dibs on thinking up a new term ... ha ha.

...it seems it would be a cross between voyeurism and masochism experienced as a sort of empathy ...

Precisely! You have hit the nail on the head.

Voyeurism, certainly, because my involvement is vicarious. I had also realized masochism was an element because it is the "girl" I respond to, not the mother figure. I had not considered, nor even recognized, the empathy angle. That makes all the sense, as I do not see myself as, or actually identify with the "girl."

Your astute observation gives me a bit of new understanding.