I have been a DL for 40 years. Yeah, that makes me old. Bite me, young'uns! LOL I LOVE to be out in public diapered. However, I am discreet. Someone would have to look really hard to see a diaper bulge. Yet, I am always diapered well enough to soak up - cloth diapers with plastic pants OR disposables, with soakers and plastic pants - enough wetting for at least 8 hours. Do you WANT to be seen/discovered/humiliated? Or, do you want to do your thing, giving your a thrill with no one else knowing? THAT is what DLs, married or single, need to decide. I LOVE to be decadent. I like to empathize with true incons that HAVE to be diapered all the time, and have to deal with it. For me, the idea that I am wetting, and sometimes filling my diapers on the way home - I'd NEVER subject others in public to the odor of a poopy diaper, I mean, geez, get real! - I wonderful, and gives me a delerious warm feeling - no pun intended, but true, to be sure! LOL For me, it's kind of a self-imposed diaper "bondage" that I'm slowly and steadily - INTELLIGENTLY - working my wife into. Once SHE gets the idea of how it will turn me on, and how simply SHE can involve herself, and HOW MUCH it will end up SATISFYING HER, well, we BOTH will have arrived! Go out into the public. Be INdiscreet, endure what befalls you. Be DIScreet, with your SO, and enjoy the hell out of what you enjoy TOGETHER, in stimulating/tormenting EACH OTHER, and it will only make for one satisfying coupling when you get home!