Prostate Massage

What are your thoughts on this. I like it personally. I do it alone. Any pointers or tools?

Fingers are best. With guidance from the receiver, stroke the prostate from side towards the middle. Expect a felling like passing urine with a sexual component. Ejaculation is unlikely but expect to pass clear prostatic fluid. If it hurts, you're either doing it wrong or you have an issue. A visit to the urologist might be in order.

For solo play, I like a tool called TheraCane. When you see it, you'll know.

What I love about prostate massage is as JDS4meds stated is that you don't cum- at least the vast majority of the time. You can do it for as long as you want and it feels great almost like the feeling you get right before you cum but you don't cum. For me, this is the ultimate foreplay and should not be rushed but done slowly and enjoyed. When you are ready to cum and do, your orgasm will be much more intense than just having your penis stimulated. It will be like an orgasm in surround sound vs. mono.

Everyman should try this. It is a super sex experience.

I have been conducting prostate massages on myself for many years now, it always feels great. Only recently, however, have I been able to coax out actual milky prostatic fluid, more than just clear pre-seminal fluid. It doesn't happen with every massage, but it is a delight when it does.

I've found success in this area when I haven't ejaculated in a while, several days to one week plus. It has happened on a few occasions when expelling an enema and once on just inserting the tip. More often when applying a nice internal massage. Funny how it can happen sometimes with very little stimulation, yet other times I can "poke and stroke til my wrist gets numb" and no prostatic fluid is produced.

I have a favorite spatula handle that is the right size and shape for me. I'll post a pic when I get the chance.

Like ProV and JDS mention a sexually charged urge to urinate comes in waves. Once the feeling is intense I give a little "push" and that is when I usually get the milky drool from my marginally flaccid cock. For this reason I make a point of emptying my bladder before I start.

When a prostate massage session extends for a longer time and I figure the release of prostatic fluid just isn't going to happen I grasp my dick, rub it up into a phallus and masturbate to ejaculation. Sometimes I will mastubate in the traditional sense just because the buildup becomes so intense and I just can't wait. Perhaps I need someone to show me a bit more discipline. ?

I love prostate massage and can usually ejaculate hands free from it. I usually use either an Aneros progasm, Lelo billy vibe or my Njoy pure wand for prostate massage. I also love it when a big strapon dildo is hitting my prostate just right.

Here's that spatula handle I mentioned:

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=gallery;ox=showalbum;ax=5984

I have tried prostate massage--I even made a special thing to do it with--and, while it feels good, it does not do anything more that that for me. Perhaps it is because I am 73 years old and cannot get it hard anyway.

hankb

I have taken apart a paper towel dispenser available from bed, bath and beyond. The center spindle has a steel sphere about one inch in diameter, mounted to a steel shaft about 1/4 inch in diameter and ten inches long. Perfectly smooth, no seams or edges , with about a 20 degree bend a few inches from the bulb. I lets me get right to the spot. Easy to clean, and sometimes I let it be one pole of an estim unit.

I have one of these.

https://shop.njoytoys.com/products/pure-wand

It works well for me. I can get the milky prostate fluid to flow with it.

I am thinking about going to get a prostate massage? Any tips? I'm pretty nervous but I hear amazing things.

Resist to touch your penis while massaging your prostate .May take awhile but much better orgasm.you should get a load of "drool" before orgasm, which btw tastes amazing.

I'm 64+ and have done prostate massage for about a year. I started because I have medication-(and perhaps age-)induced ED and dysorgasmia for many years with a very strong, intact libido. I settled on the njoy brand PureWand device like some others here because it's long, comfortable and firm enough to work well for me. Like a lot of men, my anatomy doesn't allow me to get my fingers in far enough to reach it. There are really good descriptions of how to do it on this thread. For myself, I lie on my back or left side and put the large ball end of my PureWand in and gently move it higher and higher on my anterior/front rectal wall. I stop when suddenly the sensations change to prostate from regular anorectal sensations including the urge to pee (bladder empty). Then I just start the massage which feels like I'll pee but I don't, until I start to feel and see prostate fluid coming out my tip. Mostly, I'm like the other friends here who've posted great descriptions of it, and just keep massaging because it feels like I'm on the verge of orgasm the whole time (i.e., feels wonderful). I even have to take a break now and then because either my arm /wrist gets tired or the sensations get so intensely good I can't stand it. If I'm lucky, after some fluid dripping and massage for a few minutes, I can cause a sudden strong internal contraction and spurt out my tip, which is what I assume others have described as a prostate orgasm. I've still not found any good descriptions of a PO by medical/urology people but many guys write about their own experience. One good thing, especially for me with ED, is that 1) none of this requires an erection, and 2) after I end my massage, I can usually have a regular externally masturbated orgasm. I've not yet had a woman partner try this for me with her fingers, but I'm looking forward to it. Try it - you'll like it!

Eric

My husband loves a good prostate massage. One of his favorite activities is for him to lie on his back with his legs in a frog leg position and for me to sit facing him, straddling his legs. That gives me perfect access to his anus and penis. Once in that position, I masturbate him and massage his prostate. He really enjoys when the prostate stroking is synchronized with stroking his penis with the push and pull on his penis synced with the pull and push against his prostate, (opposite directions) especially when he is orgasming. If I'm using my entire fist/hand, that's even better.

My husband loves a good prostate massage...........That gives me perfect access to his anus and penis. Once in that position, I masturbate him and massage his prostate. He really enjoys when the prostate stroking is synchronized with stroking his penis with the push and pull on his penis synced with the pull and push against his prostate, (opposite directions) especially when he is orgasming. If I'm using my entire fist/hand, that's even better.

As I posted earlier today on another thread, I should start going out with nurses (I've been a doc since 1988 and, oddly, never went out with one, except one time I asked and she turned me down). My blessed late mom was a lifelong stellar RN in a surgery office - maybe I have some sort of "Can't/shouldn't date mother" thing going on?

However, now, after reading Susie's post above (and a lot of her other ones), my thinking has suddenly changed to "Oh, Lord, I ABSOLUTELY need to start dating nurses!!!" I'd have to train for awhile to enjoy the fisting version, but hey, I'm willing to engage in clinical trials! My max currently is about 1.75-2" diameter.

Eric

. . . However, now, after reading Susie's post above (and a lot of her other ones), my thinking has suddenly changed to "Oh, Lord, I ABSOLUTELY need to start dating nurses!!!" I'd have to train for awhile to enjoy the fisting version, but hey, I'm willing to engage in clinical trials! My max currently is about 1.75-2" diameter.

Eric

You'll do fine with two or three fingers or a prostate toy like the Pure NJoy Wand

My husband loves a good prostate massage.. If I'm using my entire fist/hand, that's even better.

Suzie, you rock, and your husband is a very lucky man! Not only are you both having fun, but you're helping keep him healthy, too.

Doc

You'll do fine with two or three fingers or a prostate toy like the Pure NJoy Wand

Susie, you missed part of my prostate post, but great suggestion! I've been using the njoy PureWand after trying some less firm toys. My PW is perfect firmness (stainless) and length, also with a nice curve to help my aging wrist work better, for prostate massage. It's posted at the online store where I bought it as 1" and 1.5" balls at the two ends. Either is fine but I find I get a smoother more consistent massage if I use the 1.5" ball. I love it and it's great for nonprostate anal play also.

I have no affiliation, but I bought it on sale last year at

http://www.betweenthesatinsheets.com/Njoy-Pure-Wand_p_21.html,

where it seems to be perpetually on sale at $67.25 on a list price of $110. Its the same sale price today. It's definitely a Cadillac/Lexus/Acura sort of toy, but it was the best one I ever tried for my prostate. I also own their PurePlug butt plug, large size (S/M//L), and will probably wind up buying the PurePlug 2.0 which is an XL size at a 2" diameter. The S, M, L are 1", 1.25" and 1.5" max diameter. I'll use the 2.0 gradually as I work on moving up from 1.5--->2" plugs, which I'm looking forward to starting. I had very good experience with them, as I had never heard of them before buying these toys. The CEO sent me very helpful, polite emails about the products before I purchased. I would certainly use them again, at least for the PurePlug 2.0, and likely other toys. They have most if not all the njoy products on sale now.

Thanks again, Susie, for the wand recommendation. I heartily second it to any other members. When I'm lucky enough to find a new woman to love and play with (yes, both are essential for me), I'm looking forward to starting the prostate finger massages from her!

Hey, one more question as I have never posted photos to Zity except my avatar. If I wanted to, say for example, post pictures of the PureWand and PurePlugs for members to see after reading this post, where is the best (only?) place to put them?

Eric

I'll say I like using the PureWand on myself also. It puts just the right pressure on my G spot.

Yes, my husband and I do share the same Pure Wand, but we have soap and hot water and you can't get more NON-porous than polished stainless steel.

We have almost all the NJoy Pure toys. We do not have the intermediate sized PurePlugs, just the small one and the 2.0 big one. We have all the others and we think the PfunPlug is worthless.

Be careful with the NJoy Eleven. It is heavy and if you thrust hard and bump against tender internal anatomy, you will get bruised.

Good advice about the njoy Eleven. I have the PureWand but not the Eleven. I'd advise the same care Susie just mentioned with the Wand just because of length and weight. It's a great toy but part of its allure is the considerable weight/mass of the stainless steel. No fun to damage your delicate ano/rectal or prostate tissue.

Eric

. . . . No fun to damage your delicate ano/rectal or prostate tissue.

Eric

OR to bang it against the sacrum through the posterior rectal wall.

OR to bang it against the sacrum through the posterior rectal wall.

That one didn't even come to mind right away. OWW!!!

Eric

Love it,especially when done by a woman who enjoys doing this.Jim.

Absolutley love! Have a couple home made devices. Wish i could master the hands free orgasm but just cant quit get to that point. Reading some members articles gave me great ideas and brought me close!

I have been messaging another member who noted that he has so far successfully tried prostate massage to manage BPH/enlarged prostate. I'm currently a bit young but getting to the point where it's starting to bother a bit, I have already had a bout of prostatitis, and I do not particularly relish the idea of having an episode of urinary retention. I did the Flomax thing for a while, but would prefer not to because there were some sexual effects and I also had occasional dizziness.

Because of everything around the issues I have been strongly advised to check with the doctor before trying anything. I respect my doctor's opinion and time and want to do my homework before going in with a question, especially for "alternative" type therapies. There are some studies for various things where the author notes that prostate massage may deserve further investigation, but I haven't seen anything really solid in support of it.

Anyone here using prostate massage for BPH? What protocols do you use and what effects have you noticed? What did your doctor say, and do you know of any supporting evidence?

Note: this type of massage seems to be pretty intense and using significant pressure, not exactly the sort of thing you would do with your partner for fun. Plus side is that I've heard it's only a couple of times a month rather than daily.

Most men, women too, even if they feel very comfortable with their sexuality always have something really kinky that they don't want to share but .... they really want ...

Well, if he's clean back there, it's amazing the way they cum.

I have a new girlfriend who is somewhat vanilla. She likes it when I play with her ass during sex and will massage my prostate through my perineum when giving me a blow job. I want to talk to her about fingering my ass while giving me a blow job but am unsure how to broach the subject.

Whenever she brushes her finger over my anus, I always try to groan and let her know that I like it, but she doesn't seem to be getting the hint. Is there any subtle way to talk to her about it without straight up asking for it? I am worried she will be grossed out.

I am thinking about talking to her about getting a prostate exam at the doctor and that it felt sort of good and would she be willing to do it but am not sure if that makes it weirder.

thanks for any guidance you all can provide and apologies if there is already a thread like this.

One thing at a time. Liken prostate play to G spot play. Start with gloved fingers and let her explore under your direction. Later you can add the blow job or loose the glove.

Thanks Jds4med!

Right now playing with my perineum and blowjobs are grouped together. You think I should try to separate them? I am worried that isolating prostate play may make it more intimidating.

I received a prostate exam/massage during one of the visitors to my uncles friend who was my doctor till I was 18. I was around 12-13 at that time, my first time. It started as an exam because I was costipated. While laying on my back, I was told to hold my knees against my chest, being helped by my uncle, while the doc first entered my rectum with gloved finger. I thought it wouldn't take that long, but it was quite long and after locating my prostate he kept massaging it, causing an erection. Because of the tight foreskin I had when I was little he said that he wanted to check that too while erect and after 3-4 strokes I ejaculated. He ordered some enemas which where done at home every now and then.

Thanks Jds4med!

Right now playing with my perineum and blowjobs are grouped together. You think I should try to separate them? I am worried that isolating prostate play may make it more intimidating.

Communication out of the bed is the key. "Remember when you did THAT? How about trying THIS next time (when you're ready)."