An aging effect, causing changes in sexuality, sexual preferences, etc ?

Of course we've recently seen Bruce Jenner, an aging male, transform himself into a woman. Originally only wanted to be with women. Now Caitlyn sounds like she's looking for a man.

Changing.

But i'm not here to discuss Bruce/Caitlyn. I'm thinking about how some aging folks reach a point where they're sexuality begins to change. Of course people can open themselves to be more tolerant. Like you may see a homophobe over time become more accepting of homosexuals. That's understandable because you can see how education & maturity & maybe a few other things can contribute to increased open mindedness,

But what about something that i'm starting to notice more & more. People reach a certain age, & perhaps people who have been straight their whole life start to become "curious", "heteroflexible" is the term used here, & eventually they become bisexual. It seems the sentiment from many things i've read with respect to guys is that as their wives become more disinterested in sex after menopause, or maybe even during the course of a marriage, they begin to turn to other men to seek sexual gratification, not necessarily a romance. And the next thing you know, they've gone from straight, never having thought of having a relationship with a man, to becoming bisexual.

Besides the continuing sex drive of a male combined with the opposite in some aging females, are there any other not-so-obvious factors, maybe like something naturally biological which may not be too well known, that contribute to a straight male altering to bisexual?

We've seen people late/later in their lives change genders. Sometimes people may think if they're that old, why start now? But when you think about gender changing & sexual orientation changing at these older ages, & i don't know maybe something within myself too, if there isn't something to the aging process & the resulting effect on sexuality, sexual preferences, etc.

Of course we've recently seen Bruce Jenner, an aging male, transform himself into a woman. Originally only wanted to be with women. Now Caitlyn sounds like she's looking for a man.. . . .

If that is the case, it sounds like a latent homosexual using the excuse of being a "woman" to deny his homosexuality in order to be with men.

Oh no, not this again. I think we've done this haven't we? Ad nauseum? As for the original post I just don't think it happens without the underlying personality being there all the time. It reminds me of the myth that homosexuals can be made and not born. It doesn't happen that way.

Yes, I believe it WAS there all the time but he didn't act on it. His statements are all in denial. He can say all he wants and it is my prerogative NOT to believe what he says.

OK, I said all I'm going to on this, but when he is brought up in discussion, he becomes fair game again.

Quite possible, when older, the consequences are less, there isn't the competition for a mate , the internal ego can be satisfied, There are very many people adopting partially or completely the appearance of other gender, not afraid to display on the Internet, just for fun. enjoyment, satisfaction. At the other end of life, also very many young men, no more than boys doing the same thing, if the sheer number displaying on various websites is correct, then thousands to tens of thousands, The stigma or shame being much less nowadays, these seem to be in groups self-supporting and apparently without guilt. The look so much like girls thy must spend full time in that gender or very good at concealment. I haven't seen physiological or psychological discussion on this on the Internet, it seems do be just 'normal', accepted.

I'm going to go with the explanation that when people get older, peer pressure and social pressure become less important to individuals. So all those myriad of confining and restricting conventions become far less stringent and people can become more and more comfortable doing what they have been repressing - consciously or unconsciously - for so long.

And there is always the 'it's now or never' factor to take into account.

It might be some guys just get tired of the drama. They think switching to male companions will be the solution. However they might just attract drama into their lives.

Then there is the boredom factor, and doing something different. As adhering to a narrow sexual profile no longer matters, and women being regarded as equal, or preferred, it is no wonder many are trying al sorts of identities. I think one has to be very careful not to hurt or offend loved ones ,and make sure approval is almost certain. Yet others seem to go for shock value. The fact that it is just about impossible to change apparent gender totally convincingly, and some seem to want to get caught out!

I noticed changes in my body and mind as I aged. The ist thing was lost all the hair on most of my body even my wife commented on it.I even have become more subdued she is a lot younger then me and makes most all the rules so have become pretty much the sub and due to medical problems now incontinent wear diapers most all the time but there are no spanking and change my own diapers.

I've always had a strong feminine side. My first masturbation, at 14, that I didn't even recognize as such, was with me lying on my tummy on my bed, hands under my thighs, pretending to be a girl who was squirming while experiencing a laxative effect.

I think we have sexual hard wiring in us all when we start our lives. As we progress through life, this hardwiring will be latent or ebb and flow as we age. If you have bisexual tendencies or a full blown homosexual capacity, then as life situations change through time with spouses/significant others, these tendencies can emerge.

If you reach a point in your life when you want to explore these tendencies and desires and if the situation is right, you might have the courage to explore and express these urges.

So its not age that causes the change in sexual direction- it was always there. It really is the life situations that create the opportunities for new awakenings and self examinations that lead to new experiences.

With age and experience there are many ways how I see this world, how it should be, change & disbelief in fulfillment of my young dreams becomes more strong.

Women around me declare that sex and games are of no importance for them comparing to daily toll of keeping life going, so, more and more I feel myself alone with my interests in romance. So what I have left for me to do other than start to play women for myself.

I am heterosexual as much as I can, but if I will experience styles of women I should do it by myself. In my early years I believed that also between women interest in medical games have it's place, now I see by people attending Zity that we are 95% to 5% .

Also I understand that with my "properties" I cannot expect I can "buy" women for erotic friendship.

Good old humor : saving of drowning person is in hands of this person, well I learn how to save myself.

Women around me declare that sex and games are of no importance for them comparing to daily toll of keeping life going, so, more and more I feel myself alone with my interests in romance.

Also I understand that with my "properties" I cannot expect I can "buy" women for erotic friendship.

Looks like there might not be other options open. Don't let the Puritan mentality get to you. You'd expect to pay for an erotic massage, an enema or colonic. Just consider it a service as any other.

I’m not sure if this applies here but ever since I can remember I always wanted to be female now I’m retired much older I still would love to be a female for at least a week with a male for a bi sexual experience about 15 years ago I had a chance to spend some time with a gay friend and as things started to get hot I dropped my pants and he told him I had turned him off by wearing pantyhose under my pants now it seems everyone I get talking to get turned off if I tell them I wear pantyhose everyday under my pants or they are just to young for me I’m 65 now I’d like to hook up with someone no younger thN 55 or older than 75 do I just give up completely

Interesting question. Glad we live in a time now when one could talk openly about it. Growing up in the 1950s-60s that was not the case. I had bisexual feelings and tendencies from the onset of puberty on but didn't get to act one my male-male feelings until mid-20s, with a buddy in the Army. I've been comfortable having sex with both men and women ever since, but wary and discrete, since one had to keep up appearances and divorce was unthinkable. There was a time when being thought to be "queer" could have devastating consequences. As we got older and my wife's desire for sex waned away to nothing, I found sexual satisfaction more and more with other males., Many of my partners have been married men in similar circumstances seeking fulfillment of their sexuality. I think maybe its just a natural trend that goes along with the process of aging and life.

There are a few threads here about becoming bi as men age... I have to wonder if there are hormonal changes that take place in some men as they get older resulting in this? I was so straight when in my 20's - the thought of anything sexual with a man was gross, yet once I reached my late 40's there I was loving the though of other men doing things to me anally.

So far as I know I've always been straight as an arrow and never entertained the thought of a sexual encounter with a man. However, as I've now been in a sexless marriage for over 13 years, I've begun watching porn - something I very rarely did before. Sure, I'd get a few magazines to look thru and masturbate to the pictures; but, they were all oriented to straight men and women. Anyway, since starting to watch porn regularly I've become enamored with M2F transsexuals. The odds of ever meeting such a person is highly unlikely. Nonetheless, I fantasize about sucking cock, swallowing cum, and being taken in the ass. Having lost my prostate and being an insulin dependent diabetic, I have very little sensitivity in my cock and don't stand a chance of every getting an erection. Thus, I have become very anally oriented because I still maintain excellent nerve sensitivity there. This means if I am ever going to have intimate sex (assuming my wife still doesn't want to) again, it's going to involve anal penetration. That in turn means I will be the bottom for a top. Will it ever happen? I doubt it; but, I no longer rule it out.

Hi am 72 just started sex change . I always wanted to be female wich i felt bi was. Now there ways of doing that and i thank full that i can. I cant wait for the day that iam female i have been dressing and wearing bras and panties for many yrs. My mom let me grow up wearing panties

.So nice that in 1 tr it will happen and be fully female Bobbie

I discovered bi sex with men in my early 50's. In the last 15 years I've met dozens of men, most being older straight married men like myself who have turned to men for fun.

Some experimented with other boys in their teens and then stopped for decades. Some did not have sex with men until a few years after the sex stopped with their wives. Some had always wanted to have sex with men but were in the military and could not risk being discovered. Some were introduced to sex with men in a MMF 3-way and found they liked it. Some were widowers with a high sex drive who found precious few women their age still interested in sex and turned to men for relief. And some, like me, started by enjoying trans women and crossdressers online and soon found a cock was not such a turn off after all!

There are a ton of reasons men turn bisexual, some are extremely common, others somewhat unique to the individual. The bottom line is I've yet to run into any man who regretted experimenting sexually with other men. The only regret I've heard to date is not insisting on a condom being used during anal sex. One friend contracted HIV during his first anal bareback encounter. He still likes sex with men but has the reality of being HIV positive to deal with.

There are a few threads here about becoming bi as men age... I have to wonder if there are hormonal changes that take place in some men as they get older resulting in this? I was so straight when in my 20's - the thought of anything sexual with a man was gross, yet once I reached my late 40's there I was loving the though of other men doing things to me anally.

I don't think it is really a hormonal change. Of course I have no training in this field so this is just my opinion. Anyway, I'm of the opinion in all areas of our lives we find things we like and tend to then push the envelope to do it longer, faster, more dangerous, etc. I've often times driven 100 mph. Well then I kicked it up to 115 mph. Then I found myself where 132 mph wasn't an issue. The point is I continue to push the limits on my driving. With regard to sex, if a person has a reasonably strong sex drive, things become habit forming and something (anything) new becomes intriguing. I've had about 30 years playing with anal toys. About 10 years ago I started looking for wider and longer dildos. I really enjoy the stretch. As mentioned before, I've been in a sexless marriage for 13 years. I'm 75 years old with ED. I cannot penetrate under any circumstances. But, I crave intimate contact. My wife has no interest in pegging me. My choices are limited. Penetration by a man is one of the choices; and, I know a man who is not only willing - he quite badly wants to be a top to my being a bottom. I doubt I've had any hormone changes so much as I've had a circumstance change. Like I said, I'm no expert; but, this is my personal experience.

With regard to sex, if a person has a reasonably strong sex drive, things become habit forming and something (anything) new becomes intriguing.

Sounds like me - I had very strong sex drive and had lots of sex with women in my 20's and it continued... then in my 40's I began to get bi interests. Seems like it took a long time to begin.

I was so straight when in my 20's - the thought of anything sexual with a man was gross, yet once I reached my late 40's there I was loving the though of other men doing things to me anally.

Except for the anal portion, I was pretty much exactly the same. I was homophobic, and so perversely into women. I was grossed out by the thought of 2 men together.

Then something changed, as my marriage continued to be sexless and I approached 50. Though still no intention of anal sex, outside of the fact I've discovered being rimmed to provide wonderful sensations, where exist unattended nerve endings. But I began to become curious about sucking circumcised cock, as I had enjoyed being sucked very much. And that a man could show me the physical appreciation for my body I had been lacking and longing for, for a long time.

It's good to have at least become open minded where I can enjoy at least something with my body in the time that my life remains. Because as i say "We only have one life to live, with which to enjoy our bodies and those of each other. And that life will be over before we know it."

I think the interest was always there for a bi guy. Just opened up with age and availability of partners. You are or you’re not.

Up until a couple years ago, I was “as straight as a guy could be”. The thought of two men “hooking up” was just not acceptable to me, PERIOD! But then, things in my life quickly changed. First, my wife of over 40 years lost ALL interest in having sex in any form. Then, I got prostate cancer and was taking a bunch of meds to deal with that. The meds practically turned me into a woman... well, almost! I now wear a bra for my medically induced, large boobs (Size 42D) which are VERY sensitive and give me some GREAT anal sensations when massaged, especially when I have a plug or dildo up my ass. The radiation treatments left me with ED that nothing will fix. My wife will NOT even consider pegging me. I miss that closeness of having a warm body enjoying those wonderful, intimate feelings with me. I think many men around my age (72) have similar issues and just want some lovin’. What that leaves me with is to play with my toys, which is really awkward...OR...finding a willing guy to fuck me in the ass. But that, too, Is not easy and carries many risks (STDs, HIV, etc.). Also, I would definitely feel very uncomfortable hanging out in the Gay community because I do NOT really consider myself to be gay.

"I had bisexual feelings and tendencies from the onset of puberty on but didn't get to act one my male-male feelings until mid-20s, with a buddy...."

Same for me! But for me I think my Bisexual feelings increased greatly after 50 years old when I could not stay hard enough to penetrate my wife. In other words it emerged much more due to hard penis envy! Put a hard one an inch from my mouth and I would not hesitate!

I think the interest was always there for a bi guy. Just opened up with age and availability of partners. You are or you’re not.

It's interesting to see that opening up takes place when men get older - I wonder if our hormones have something to do with it... Thinking back, I was so straight when younger, would never have dreamed of having bi interests.. A parallel to this is my interest in enemas, before puberty I hated them, then once puberty began (and thanks to those hormone changes) my attitude completely changed to love enemas.

It's interesting to see that opening up takes place when men get older - I wonder if our hormones have something to do with it... Thinking back, I was so straight when younger, would never have dreamed of having bi interests.. A parallel to this is my interest in enemas, before puberty I hated them, then once puberty began (and thanks to those hormone changes) my attitude completely changed to love enemas.

In my much younger years, I was obsessed with pretty faces and nice sets of tits. Seeing men together was gross, as was their effeminate nature. Then I think much later in life, as I came to know what a real headache women can be, combined with the curiosity to suck a cock, trying to get something going with women became less appealing and seemingly not worth the trouble, while I was starting to find men who were more than willing to suck my cock without reciprocity. Though I was becoming more open to reciprocating.

In my much younger years, I was obsessed with pretty faces and nice sets of tits. Seeing men together was gross, as was their effeminate nature.

Exactly how I felt... but women were never a problem for me - yet here I am in my mid-70's and the thought of a man in a girdle or pantyhose with an erection is very exciting. Don't really know why. Still love my gal and find her sexy... as do I find a bulbous tipped erection.

I've started HRT with the main objective of killing my libido and balls. As I have gotten older I find that I get myself in trouble every time a younger girl gives me attentions. I think that losing all my sexuality is the best way to go. I still love women and being with them in and out of bed. But haven't been able to penetrate one in many years. The HRT has been a wonderful experience. I feel calm and myself. I think I was always a feminine person - now I am becoming one!. I don't care about breasts (but they are developing!) but want to lose all my masculine psyche. I want to be able to be a girl with other girls - even if they don't know it. I have be bi for a long time - loved making love to girls, and always loved being used by a man. I have never penetrated a man but have had many penetrate me. Now I am very secure becoming a feminine man.

Yes certainly I've been many men's first man. Now that I'm getting older I'm enjoying it too