SWITCHES--Do you prefer the Domme or sub roles?

I like Medical games and playing both doctor and patient. Given the choice I would rather play the doctor. I also love to be the patient sometimes.

My question is, do others who like playing both sub and dom roles have a preference or do you like them both equally?

I like playing the doctor from time to time, bur I love being examined by a female doctor or nurse.

I like them both. My husband and I don't have any problems with our egos or any question about our emotional security, so we will both play either the dominant or submissive roles and they do NOT carry over into real life. We both know where we stand on things.

I usually act as the male physician dominating a female patient but I would love to be controlled by a dom female doctor.

And how often do your doctor/patient games lead to sex?

And how often do your doctor/patient games lead to sex?

For me, when it's with my husband, it always leads to sex.

At a group event when I am examined, it leads to other men having an unused erection. 😁

And how often do your doctor/patient games lead to sex?

No examinations I have given or received have ever lead to sex and never will

However, I like to ask my patient for a seamen sample.

I am sure you can use your imagination on how we do that,

But if exams are too sexual,it ruins the magic for me.

Assuming what is refered to here as sex is penetration of the anus, vagina or mouth by a penis or obvious sexual activity such as fellatio or cunnilingus then I agree that the role play should remain within the bounds of an actual medical examination. There certainly can be some less than accurate medical "procedures" which can result in arousal and perhaps orgasm in the patient but in my medfet world the examiner should remain clothed.

I would just like to say that the first time I joined ZB 2 years ago.

I just thought I wanted to be in the sub role,

It was only after a role reversal with a very trusted and long term play partner that I learnt how much fun the dom role is.

I would now say I prefer to give the examinations.

I just thought it was very interesting from a psychology level , how I reversed.

I will however always love the odd time of being the sub, the patient.

I'm agree completely with Susie on this one:

I like them both. My husband and I don't have any problems with our egos or any question about our emotional security, so we will both play either the dominant or submissive roles and they do NOT carry over into real life. We both know where we stand on things.

And that was exactly right and very well-written. I'm divorced and looking for a new woman to love and enjoy play with, but my ex-wife and I back about 2005-2009 were both switches and had a wonderful and intense kinky time playing together as either Dom(me) or sub and loved both. She even wrote me an email once about how much she adored being submissive to me, and I told her the same thing about me many, many times. Our kinks were/are rubber, total enclosure, sneakers, anal play, enemas, mild bondage and D/s. After we had been married for a short time and she already knew all my kinks, she told me that her deepest sexual secret was to have her husband give her enemas with/during sex. She'd been married and had kids with a very religious man who passed away and never told him. I was obviously thrilled that she wanted enemas and wholeheartedly embraced and participated in my other kinks. When I was sub, she'd typically dress me in a lot of rubber and sneakers (i.e., more rubber), confine me somehow and edge me severely, constantly playing and stimulating me and making me hold enemas until I'd satisfied her enough. Eventually she'd let me come but some nights it went on for many hours or even overnight of her toying and dominating me. I'd provide her with similarr experiences when she wanted to sub. Outside of the bedroom, other than us enjoying our private kink of wearing sneakers together that turned us both on, we just had a nice normal married life. I'm just sorry other issues got in the way and we couldn't stay together. It was intensely satisfying in either role.

Can anyone give me ideas on play where two switches (male/female) join a female Domme - the switch/sub/female wants only to sub to the switch/Dom/male, but he wants to sub to the Domme. Switch/sub does not submit to women, ever. She has occasionally co Topped, but in this case imagines a triangle where the other switch/male has to both Dom her and submit to Domme in the same scene.

There may be some interesting predicament play that could fulfill the roles. Any ideas would be appreciated.

Sure, I would not say no, if my play female patients want to examine their doctors afterwards

I prefer being sub, but I don't mind Dom either.

Whenever I'm sub I take as much as Dom has to offer and I'm definetively not afraid stepping on unexplored territories. I am willing to do go as far as I am being lead to.

As a Dom, I have to admit I like to be as tough as I can and many times this doesn't sit so well with my husband, however we always find a good balance so we can both enjoy the action.

And how often do your doctor/patient games lead to sex?

No examinations I have given or received have ever lead to sex and never will

However, I like to ask my patient for a seamen sample.

I am sure you can use your imagination on how we do that,

But if exams are too sexual,it ruins the magic for me.

Caz, my husband and I are mostly into BDSM from sensual to severe. Medical scenes are every few months and are not our primary interest, but in the end, they always lead to sex.

Sometimes I prefer being the Dom and giving a fun exam, but also if I fine a doc that does a good job I love being the pacient getting a good exam

I can so understand that Susie as you are both married,,and that is great,

Thank you for taking the time to give me your thoughts on this.

Can I ask? When you were first married.did you both know all each others kinks from the start or did things evolve as the years go on and the love and trust builds?

My husband and I know each other since middle school and played around off and on through high school and college until we knew we were made for each other, so we did know all about each other when we got married, which was after we both moved to NYC and got our masters degrees.

I normally prefer being the doctor (dom) because the male equipment is so much more exciting to examine and explore. But a doctor also needs to be examined, so he will be the doctor and I will be the patient

Sunny, I use the ^^^^ simply as arrows to point to the post before mine that I am responding to. There is no hidden meaning to them.

My husband and I did not have a specific memorable moment that brought us to the realization that we should be together. We've known each other since we were 11-12 years old. We played together, teased each other, made out with each other, felt each other up (dressed when we were kids, naked in high school), experimented on each other, made each other happy, at times annoyed each other and we went on dates with each other and many other people. We just kept coming back to each other. We were comfortable with each other, we confided in each other and worked together in school when we were in the same class. We laughed and had fun together. He is my best friend.

When playing doctor with my girlfriend in adolescence every session ended with what we feared most in reality - buttock injections (realistically simulated with sterile pins). Whilst I thoroughly enjoyed baring and jabbing her shapely bare bottom, I derived even more excitement when bending over with pants down to anticipate and get my "shots" back there from her.

Never understood the pleausre in injections. Hate them now and always have and hope I never will. But it is such that the diversity make it interesting be very boring if we were all the same.

I guess it depends on with whom your playing with at the time for me

I can easily switch. I enjoy both play doc and play patient roles.

I have now learnt as time goes on that the role i prefer to play depends on the role play we want to play. If playing medical games then i do prefer the dom role,and my play partner loves this. I play my submissive side through having a play dad If anything sexual is to happen it is always in our medical games as the play dad role plays are more of an emotional time for me rather than a sexual one.

I enjoy both roles - generally I find it works better when I take the Dr role with younger and the patient role with older or similar aged guys

I play both roles. What makes the difference is the other person. I can be dom for one and sub for another. For example my wife and I are both subs. I've never been comfortable toping her, so she gets her needs met by other men.

My first wife Penny was just the opposite. I basically owned her and she did what I wanted. It's hard to attach a label to me as sexuality is a fluid and ever changing situation

I like them both. I guess if I had to choose only one to do for the rest of my life I'd pick sub, but then I wouldn't be able to do the dom stuff, which I do like to do as well. Probably just a little bit less, though.

Make any sense? They're two sides of the coin for me.

I definitely start sub though. I'm starting to get into MedFet, and not going to top until I've experienced the bottom enough to know what I'm doing. Yeah, I can do some stuff, but there are also tricks to having it be a *Fet instead of just a way to do first aid, find out something, or the like that I don't know yet.

My husband and I enjoy Medical Fun. I like being the submissive but teasing patient. He's the doctor! The real McCoy.

I like both was, been sub or dom it for différent pleasure

Pretty equally here.