Why I HATE Being Spanked like a 5 Year Old!

SO as you all ought to know I am spanked.

There are a couple of parts about being spanked as an older teen that are particularly terrible....

To list a few:

WHAT AM I 5?!?

Most of the world seems to end their spankings at age 5 or so. This provides a stigma of spanking being childish...I am not a child and feel very much like one when I am over a knee taking a rump roasting:/

"MOM I AM TOO OLD FOR A SPANKING!?"

"You are funny when you think you are all grown up Missy! But alas you act like a bratty child I'll treat you like one. Go ahead and complain all you want but bend on over while you do!"

WHY DO YOU HAVE TO USE THE BELT OR WORSE!?!

I would get the message if you just went ahead and used your hand mom...no need to take off the belt or make me fetch the hair brush...what? quit arguing and lean over the couch? You will what? Use whatever you want to spank me? .... here we go again...

DO MY FRIENDS REALLY NEED TO SEE THIS?!?

Half of them aren't spanked...they don't understand and will even poke fun at me after (some friends huh?)...and maybe worse the ones who are also spanked love to watch and know the subtleties to look out for.....at least sometimes I get to see them whooped too so it evens out some

WHY DO I HAVE TO BE BARED?!?

I assure you the spanking would hurt just as much over my skirt, shorts etc why do I have to be bared? and worst yet...most of the time I am in my birthday suit....WHY IS THIS NECESSARY?!? Side note I do think it is stupid that nakedness is so...taboo...I mean what is so wrong about skin....I am like a partial nudist....but would rather make that choice than have it made for me....

THE DREADED SPANKY DANCE:

I HATE doing the spanky dance. Hoping around, buns on fire, usually somewhat undressed....sigh.....the embarrassment of my life

I could go on and on about the problems I have with spankings and why I hate them so....

We all have different tastes, likes and dislikes.

Some love the power trip of administering a spanking. Others enjoy the submission of receiving.

I want no part of either. Just let me have my enemas.

As usual Quincy I agree totally with you. At first thought spanking seems attractive because of the bare buttocks but I'm just not into receiving pain or dishing it out. I guess I would like to have or administer a pretend spanking.

Aw poor Missy-

I agree that having to do the *spanky dance* is horrid.

Though if your mummy like my mummy believes that your never to old for a spanking you might have a snotty nose and burning bottom regardless of age.

I ve got a strict mummy and a dominant gf so I ve learnt that sobbing/pleading just dosnt work.

-Stop (spank) snivelling (spank) or (spank) it's (spank) extra (spank)

-waaaaaaaaahhhhhh

(Spank spank spank)

Is a fairly regular dialogue.

I always spank on bare butt. One needs to see what one is doing, avoiding any area that might be bruised from a previous spanking.

I understand your pain. Once I got to my teens I felt the shame of feeling like a little girl again. As mommy and daddy get me ready for a spanking and i felt like 6 not 16. Mom was the worst, she always said stuff like " If you act like a little girl, you will be treated like one"

Thankfully spankings were a private affair at my house. Nobody except my parents and sister saw my spankings.

I was shy about undressing when I hit puberty but I kinda got used to it. Crying and fussing only made it worse so I learned to just do it and get it over with.

I actually found that being a little submissive made it all easier.

Writing posts complaining about your spankings seem a very immature thing to do. Immaturity should be correct with a long, hard spanking- especially if you're 20+. A bare bottom paddling in front of friends should hopefully further your shame.

I have never understood why adults think they can be forced to be spanked against their will.

If it is truly against their will, it just wouldn't happen. You either walk out or terminate a relationship or hand out a pretty stiff ultimatum: cease and desist or else. Otherwise it seems you relish some aspect of being spanked and don't really want it to be stopped and all the complaining is just part of role-playing, perhaps subconsciously.

I come from a hispanic household. According to my family, there is no age limit for getting spanked with the belt (or sandal or broom or hand). So mum and da best be obeyed. Lol.

I don't know, but if you don't like it, why let it happen. Surely you can stop it. I haven't been spanked for punishment since I was little. I personally like to be spanked....

Hi Missy, have you ever thought of doing any spanking yourself? I bet you would be really good at it!

My bottom is available anytime.

I have never understood why adults think they can be forced to be spanked against their will.

If it is truly against their will, it just wouldn't happen. You either walk out or terminate a relationship

While this is true some of us want to give that right to a Dad normally I am very up for s spanking, today I felt I don't want to be spanked first time I felt that way in months... That said if the man who gave me my last spanking phoned me up and told me he wanted to spank me, I would say to him, I don't really feel like it, but I know what I have told you and you are most welcome to come and give me what you want. I value that mans friendship even though we are not in a relationship. So yes it would be against my desire, although I know I would be able to in a way I allow it against my will but only got one against my will spanking as an adult, couple ones i said no go just not into it tonight, although if I am being honest I would much have preferred to go it good on those occasions. I regretted not receiving those... but it was my choice.

Acting your age and being good will keep you from being spanked. I know... I know ... easier said than done. My bare bottom has been over someone's lap from the time I was about 6 or 7 and it continues to this day over 70 years. Most of the ones I get now are for stress relief. The others over the years were mostly earned some were not. I learned from all of them in one way or another.

Being spanked and made to wear diaper and plasticpants humilating and priceless

As someone who thinks spankings are good for the soul...

"MOM I AM TOO OLD FOR A SPANKING!?"

Never too old for a spanking.

WHY DO YOU HAVE TO USE THE BELT OR WORSE!?!

Proper spankings hurt. And hands alone just won't get you there... it takes a paddle or brush.

WHY DO I HAVE TO BE BARED?!?

Spanking on anything but the bare is dangerous. If you're going to give someone a good, hard spanking, you have to be able to see what you're doing.

THE DREADED SPANKY DANCE:

Yes, but it's the price of being properly spanked. Very sore is, well, uncomfortable.

This may seem to radical but I can tell you the education department and local law enforcement frown on spanking teens. My friend paddled his 17 yr old don. When the coach saw his bare butt he reported it to local sheriff department. The sheriff's deputy came out to their house and the dad was in trouble the paddling left his son with a red butt but no abrasions or real welts. None the less the dad was in trouble. Actually his paddled son came to his defense. If you feel strongly that you are being mistreated tell a school nurse or female teacher. I know its radical.

A good view into the mind of someone who has a special place in their thoughts for the idea of baring their bottom or more and being punished via a good spanking. Thanks for sharing a few of your personal triggers that make you already blush and fidget about as you think about your side of the story. I wonder did it start with the spanking, or with the disobedient behavior.... seems like you are in an endless loop now though for better or worse. In the case of someone like missy... the subconscious desire leads to nothing more than another spanking, or worse !

Oh yes indeed! Being spanked like a 5 year can very often be less then "enjoyable!"

However, if you had behaved like you should you would NOT be getting a spanking!!!!!

How many readers have heard this question??????

I am in a fairly new D/s relationship. My Dom is a very kind gentlemen; however, he does like to spank and punish. He is a bit of sadist. I'm looking for advice on how to better tolerate the pain that Sir inflicts. He ALWAYS respects my safe word, but wishes for me to go further. I wish it too. I want so much to serve Him in this way. Does anyone have any tips on how I can increase my level of pain tolerance. This is not an abusive relationship. I am a willing participant, but would like to explore this as we strengthen my submission to Him.

. Does anyone have any tips on how I can increase my level of pain tolerance.

Repeat spankings will toughen up your butt and make the sessions less painful.

I was spanked by my Mother till just about 17 when I refused to cooperate anymore, and there was not to much she could do about it. She insisted then then threatened , but I refused and it was over, she had no more control over me. But then I met my wife and confessed to her that I fantasize about being spanked by my Mom. She role played with me, but the embarrassment was not there like when I had to bare my bottom to Mom and accept the punishment . My wife thought about it. She came up with an idea to bring the embarrassment back. One night she invited a couple over that she knew and trusted. The couple was there to witness her spank me. I was more embarrassed then , then at anytime Mom did it. So I found out it was not the spanking itself, but the embarrassment and humiliation that went with it.

@splendid, It depends on the type of spanking and what outcome you are looking for. Some need the spanking as a release, a catharsis, and the crying/tears is all part of that. Some hate the spanking but love the after glow and the sore bottom that will last a few days. One of the things they teach to get through intense pain is to breath slowly and deeply, they do this for child birth and many other things. I have used it when I have been injured! Maybe a bit more about your spankings will help guide you...

@splendid first, congratulations on your attitude... wanting to please your dom is a great thing for a sub to be concerned with!

While it likely does get a little easier with practice, I'm a believer that spankings should hurt. Consequently, when beginners build their pain tolerance, I spank harder and longer. I'm a very loving and very considerate person, but I think spankings should hurt and, within reason (which will vary from person to person and even time to time), hurt a lot.

A lot of it is just surrender. There are paddle fighters, and those who resolve themselves to being spanked. The latter have an easier time of it. Relaxation and controlled breathing help. If you feel inclined, don't be afraid to cry (I rarely encounter women who cry, but some do). And, if your dom allows it, kicking and pounding the fists helps.

Alas, gentle @splendid, a proper spanking is going to hurt.

I am in a fairly new D/s relationship. My Dom is a very kind gentlemen; however, he does like to spank and punish. He is a bit of sadist. I'm looking for advice on how to better tolerate the pain that Sir inflicts. He ALWAYS respects my safe word, but wishes for me to go further. I wish it too. I want so much to serve Him in this way. Does anyone have any tips on how I can increase my level of pain tolerance. This is not an abusive relationship. I am a willing participant, but would like to explore this as we strengthen my submission to Him.

I always start out with a hand spanking first to warm the bottom. After it is nicely warmed then you can go to implements. Everyone has different pain tolerances, there should be a level of excitement to it and not just pain. Your Dom should realize this and craft a session that works for you as well. He can try different implements or adjust his strokes so they are not as hard. This is my 2 cents and doesn't necessarily fit for him. This should be discussed ahead of time.

For a personal perspective whether on the giving or receiving end, it sets the mindset of the spankee. I won't say 5 year old but like a pre-puberty boy. In my case I will share why I don't like but at the same time it is exciting. The lecturing prior to the spanking. Why you going to get it. Being sent to your room or a corner to stand for 15 minutes to wait. Maybe being escorted by the ear by mom or dad (I get spanked by both men and women). Being helped to undress or having the pants and underpants taken down fast and then me struggling some. Going over the knee with a lecture happening, bare bottom up and a hand, a hairbrush, small paddle or wooden spoon starting to whack my exposed bottom in not hard but rapid and consistent whacks. Soon I am doing a lap dance, crying out ow, it hurts. Then tears maybe not crying, but some sobbing possibly leading to crying. Then when it over the final lecture as I do the spanking dance. Maybe I get a hug, maybe not but told to step in the corner. Those are things I hate because I am treated as a pre-puberty boy. I am usually not hard during all this, but after it is all over, my cock gets is rock hard and ready for release. I hate the phrase, "You just wait until I get home young man" because it sets the stage of what is come.

@123missy

Lets get real here.

YOU DO like being spanked like a five year old.

You are an adult. If you didn't like it, that would not be happening.

@123Missy was last on 5 years ago...

Yes.

But the answers could be helpful for someone else having the same or a similar question.

Thank you to those who have replied. I sincerely appreciate it. My Dom is high protocol and I am required to meet Him in a specific posture, etc. Both of us believe in spanking as being important to our dynamic. He is a paternal Dom, but I am not necessarily a little, though when He addresses me as little girl or baby girl it makes me weak in the knees. Anyhow, he believes in weekly maintenance punishments to strengthen my submission and while the spankings are painful, they do arouse me, make me more submissive and obedient to His leadership, so they do work. Tomorrow, I am told that I will receive a harsh spanking for reasons I won't go into. I will take your advice and focus on breathing and relaxing. He will spank until our red safeword, but I will alert yellow when I'm getting close. I'm going to try to endure as much as I can. After he'll take me to lunch, though spanking arouses Him, so I will probably be busy afterwards satisfying one of His many sexual needs. If I'm good with tolerating my punishment, he'll order a sweet treat off the desert menu for me. Thanks again for all your suggestions.

I hate being bare bottom spanked over the knee with back of the wooden clothes brush. But I need it and it is consensual. As an adult I have agreed to it but it still scares me a bit! As for the spankees dance ... I jump and rub my spanked bottom. I often move and dance during it. I kick and rub a lot, I could dance for the royal ballet, after a very sound session with the hairbrush!!

Older teen? After I almost got expelled from college, I was paddled bare bottom right up until I got married at 26!