Enemas, need or a want?

Like @Cheryl77177, @GyneDoll and so many others not mentioned, I NEED an enema for my severe constipation but I also WANT an enema! My emotions need an enema! I want to feel the warm, soapy water filling my colon until I'm so full that my belly hurts, my toes are curling and I need desperate relief to evacuate my bowels. At that point, I feel like a child again and totally helpless. This sexually excites me until I want/need an orgasm or orgasm(s) badly. I am so blessed that my husband loves to see me like this. Administering these kinds of enemas will put me in a nirvana state.

My husband is a Vietnam Vet with some health issues, including COPD, diabetes and erectile dysfunction. We both agree that giving me a good, old fashioned enema is his way of making love to me - with other special treats! He is not into receiving alot of enemas but he definitely knows what enemas do to me and how they benefit my health and our sexual relationship. I love everything about this man! ???

As I have shared with some friends on this site , my mom's initial utilization of the enema was to relieve my childhood constipation issues which were often and not always associated with illness . Then early on there was just that ' something ' that became what I found to be desirable and even as a young kid not knowing how to articulate as to a definition of what I was experiencing the enema had become ' erotic ' and an activity to be pursued and consummated with the assistance of an understanding mother . Today ......... there is yet a physical need to address occasional constipation but this health issue is overridden by a very strong ' desire ' for the enema as a ' want ' .

@Mom's Egirl -

I NEED an enema for my severe constipation but I also WANT an enema! My emotions need an enema! I want to feel the warm, soapy water filling my colon until I'm so full that my belly hurts, my toes are curling and I need desperate relief to evacuate my bowels. At that point, I feel like a child again and totally helpless.

You've done it again, and this is one of the reasons I'm glad you're still here. I'm similar (but often without the sexual component, though I imagine that can be added). Between the IBS-C ickyness and some other chronic-y issues I can be very unpleasant to be around at times, but enemas help to reduce at least one of those factors. Oddly enough for me I think it's a mixture of the loss of control that you describe along with, paradoxically, a sense of having control. Yes, I know that I can't do anything to stop the upcoming (and totally desired) expulsion. I know that sometimes I won't be able to do anything about the cramps that may wrack my gut. I know I can do little about the urgent need to release other than squeeze down as much as possible and see how many minutes I can hold it... but at the same time I know that these enemas are something I can do to have control. The will clear up the icky (and sometimes discomfort/pain) feelings fast and they will do it when I want them to, rather than having to wait and hope it will go away on its own (eventually) or rely on oral laxatives that work on their own schedule.

I also know that after that last dribble comes out I will be feeling so much better it's almost magic.

So yes, I need and want at times. There are also times when I don't really need yet but want, and that is definitely on a more sexual level.

I was always told that I needed enemas. Oddly enough, when they went away, I found that I wanted them and now I have started them again.

When I was younger, it was a want. Now that I am older, it is both a need at times and a want all of the time.

As a giver, I want to give, because I believe you need it!

I use enemas partly for my chronic constipation, but I also use them for fun and for relieving stress.

I agree with pdqman.

hankb

I take enemas for both want and need. I am not sure which came first as Mom gave them to me when I was a child. I am going to guess she thought I NEEDED one, so it happened. But like most of us here, that need has turned into wanting them more than needing them.

So fast forward to the present, and still take them when I want to, as it feels so good. I also take them as I sometimes need them when I get backed up for some reason. As I have gotten older, I cannot tolerate the lousy feeling I have when I have not gone for a couple of days.

So they age old question, do I take them because I need one, or is it because I want one. The answer is YES!!

It was want, but it changed to need based on want. May have been addicted (dependence).

...As I have gotten older, I cannot tolerate the lousy feeling I have when I have not gone for a couple of days.

I am amazed now at what I put up with when I was young. 4, 5 days without a movement were pretty common. I'd never do that now.

For me, it is strictly a want.

I want the feeling of the nozzle going into me. I want the feeling of the long tubes sliding into an through me colon. I want the feeling of the retention portion of those tubes "locking into place" with the retention expansion portion seating into my rectum. I want the feeling of being expanded as the shorter, wider nozzles fill me. I want the feeling of the balloon nozzles being expanded inside me and outside sealing me up.

I want the feeling of the warm (and sometimes cool) liquid filling me. I want the feeling of being full. I want the view of a bulging bag(s) waiting to flow into me and the feeling of being tethered to the bag as I get ready to be filled.

I want that full feeling as I approach 4 (or more) liters. Sometimes, I want the "struggle" to hold the enema as long as I can. Sometimes I want the feeling of being filled to fullness without a long hold time and then letting it all go (usually) to be filled again.. Sometimes, I want the feeling of the large enema flowing into me while I'm standing in the shower, emptying out that first round in the toilet, and then filling again (and again) while releasing the contents down my legs into the shower.

I want the various cramping reactions to different enema solutions beyond water and the way each combination of soap, glycerin, soap and glycerin causes a more reactive colon. I want the sensation of softened "chunks" being squeezed out of me. And I want the sensation of the assgasm that these solutions sometimes produce.

I want the relatively calm and long, full holds that I can get by being filled with a coffee, isotonic saline or bicarbonate enema solutions. I want the feeling of being plugged by my inflatable after being filled with one of these solutions.

I want the feeling of the orgasm that can occur when I'm filled (and unplugged) holding the solution in as each muscle spasm forces a spurt of semen out of me and then the rush of the solution out of me as the muscles all relax.

No need here...just a want;

For me it is a strong want. At times a craving for the bag or bulb. I enjoy my bag when on business travel as there is complete privacy to enjoy in the hotel room. These can be long sessions.

Not a frequent user. Generally no medical need as constipation isn't much of an issue for me (I did sometimes use for that reason in late teens - my diet was a little less healthy then). I mainly use for pleasure, cleaning up before anal play, or as part of a play exam if the play doc determines one is needed.

I have never been constipated. I took my first enema for curiosity and felt a stimulating sensation. Since then I have taken it every day, in the morning, to start my day well. It is stimulating, it makes me feel light, it prepares me to sex when I come home. And if my wife is not available I'm going to get me a enemas session and I masturbate. My enema is always and only for pleasure. I want to try fucking my wife while I take a clutch with a retension nozzle. I have to convince her and I'd like to make a movie ... we'll see if I can

When I started anal stretching training for butt plugs I started to use the the small fleet enemas. I never had an enema before until then. It's much easier for anal training after a good cleaning of the bum hole. It helped to relax me making it more pleasurable for the training. The more I trained the more I loved a good enema. Now that I'm stretched to where I want to be I wear my butt plug for very long extended time. Every time I plug I give myself another enema. I love enemas for the relaxing and the cleaning they do. At this time I'm looking into the large volume enemas. So here's my answer, I need and want enemas for the relaxing effects and the cleaning they do for my lifestyle of wearing butt plugs. It's a perfect combination for kinky anal play.

Haven't gone for three days on a long driving trip home, no doubt to all that sitting--looking forward to tomorrow when my not-into-it spouse will be gone all day and I can take really good enema. Haven't had or needed one for weeks now. Is this a need turning into want or a want turning into a need? I hope I don't spoil it all by having a movement to spoil it all; I like to get a really good result when I do it. Must be a need turning into a want.

I use them for both and get the most pleasure when I realize that I need one. When that happens the WANT kicks in and I am not satisfied until I take care of business. I have always found that an enema on a full bowel is more intensely satisfying from the moment the nozzle is inserted to the final flush.

Sometimes, the urge to purge strikes and an enema is the most efficient and effective method to accomplish my needs, whatever they may be at the time.

Sometimes, I just want to enjoy some shits and giggles. Again, an enema seems to be one of the most effective and efficient ways to fulfill those desires, especially when shared with those who appreciate such simple pleasures.

Enemas are a real relief to the elimination problems I have had all my life. Being able to have a bowel movement without pain, fissures, hemorrhoids, and bleeding puts enemas into more of a need for me. Enemas allow me to have a dependably quick, clean, & painless bowel movement. Can I function without them, yes, but not very well.

Both. What started as a very embarrassing need when I was about 10 has turned into something that at times very erotic. If needed usually a disposable enema will do the trick. If wanted then the traditional red enema bag gets hung on the shower curtain rod. Having a very willing wife who enjoys giving always makes these sessions very erotic and usually end in orgasm.

Same as Boomer and Al, except without Boomer's willing wife. Started because of general constipation yucky feeling and major appetite loss when IBS-C became much worse. Then I had a couple experiences with painful external hemorrhoids and decided I didn't want those to become a permanent fixture. I also take for fun.

Although not a guy, I will respond that I do not need an enema for constipation or other medical needs whatever that might be. However, I both want and seem to "need" an enema for pleasuring myself or husband who is more than willing to give me one.

Denise

I took some time away from group. just took a break from enema. back for a few mo. i do not have to do it for medical. the time i took off it was on my mind. NOW that i'm back i think about it each day .

i just did 3 enema this morning. they were very good. i need to clean out so bad, i feel refreshed

For me, cleansing the bowels is not alternatively a need or a want but simultaneously a need and a want: I can't stand the unpleasant and awkward feeling having plenty of stuff in the bowels.

More a want than a need. I always take a few enemas before having sex even if there will be no anal play. I combine it with a good shower, I just love being clean inside and out

It’s both a want and a need for me. I feel like it has certain health benefits that I feel crappy without, so I’d consider that part a need. But of course it’s pleasurable to me, so that part is a want.

I never got enemas as a kid. I'd heard about them but never got one even though I'd thought about them often. I had my first bulb enema when I was 15 and my male lover who was 50 introduced me to them for a quick cleanout. Fast forward to 21 years of age and being unattached one day, removed the handheld shower and stuck the flowing hose up my butt. OMG! So much different than a bulb. Suddenly I couldn't get enough enemas. Every day in the shower I used the hose in butt method. Sometimes filling more and more. I was hooked. Along comes a girlfriend and enemas slow down, then stop for a while. Yada yada, years pass, I get back into occasional enemas. Always due to wanting them. Now I'm 55 and have had MS for almost 25 years. It's the mild version, but I get random neurogenic bowel. I'll go for several days, often a week or more without a movement. Recently went 11 days waiting for a natural BM. So to answer the question, always a want and the past year or so turning into a need. However, always enjoy them.

Waant...i just love to be filled with water

For me I have been taking enemas for years for fun, love the whole process, getting completely naked, getting the equipment ready, lubing the nozzle and really enjoying the slow insertion. Love everything about enemas even hearing the word gets my mind racing