Inappropriate behavior at a nudist venue

This comes from another site. I'm curious how people here will respond.

The scene - you're enjoying a day at the nudist venue with your family.

The problem - you notice a man gawking inappropriately at your teenage kid. He has an obvious erection. No, the erection isn't a problem by itself but combine it with the gawking behavior.

How do you react? What do you do about the gawking? What about if he was getting uncomfortably close to your kids?

I know my almost 21 year old daughter would simply tell him to fuck off and look elsewhere. I'm not so sure how my almost 18 year old daughter would respond. I think she would give him a polite, very pedantic long winded tongue lashing using lots of five dollar words saying what she thought about him. We have always called her "the mouth of the house," although she prefers "voice" of the house.

If my girls were not able to take care of themselves, I would tell him his behavior was inappropriate and he should attend a sex ciub if that was what he was looking for.

Because I believe my assumptions are close to what would occur, I would just sit back and watch them do their thing.

Quite often there is an unofficial beach mayor or a group of regular beach goers that take care of this type of situation as soon as it starts. If not, hubby would look after the situation.

Often, at public nude venues, there are people there that are engaged in, or doing something that isn't acceptable at the given moment. Even more common is when people there are NOT actually engaged in, or doing something unacceptable for the moment, but you just get a big, creepy, uncomfortable feeling from them. So, many times I, and my friends if with a group, have simply chosen to not stay there. Sometimes, it's just a matter of moving to a different area of a beach, sometimes I or we, chose not to stay, and turn around and leave. Why? Personal safety is your own responsibility, and if you ignore your feelings, you may pay dearly. A few times in the past, I've (we've) ignored our feelings of being creeped out by someone, or a group, and within an hour ended up with self invited creeps in our camp. So, if creeps are around from the beginning-don't stay. If you are there first, and they crash your party, you might be able to get them to leave through various methods, or you might not. Always be prepared to leave a nude beach, (or park, etc.) FAST, just in case the scene turns bad. Again, your safety isn't worth a suntan. I've actually been in large groups that have been crashed by creeps (especially drunk creeps) who wouldn't take "Go away and leave us alone" for an answer. Sometimes park rangers need to be involved, and often, they won't do anything about it (firsthand experience). But, most the time, drunks or creeps, or drunk creeps will go only up to a certain limit, not enough to be clobbered, or arrested, but way past the point that ruins your visit to a nude beach. Always have a "plan B" when you go to public nude venues. Why? Well, to quote a dear, late friend: "If it's open to the public, it's open to losers too".

If you are at a sex club type of nude facility this might occur and the person may not get the wrath of others. But for pure nudists facilities, this is totally inappropriate behavior and I am sure others would respond in a firm fashion and the guy would deserve what he got.

In a clothing optional resort that is also open sexually ( ie open to members having sexual encounters outside) inappropriate behavior is not tolerated. Most such resorts have rules which include NO means NO and you don't intrude or join in unless invited. Anyone not following these rules are requested to leave and if it happens more than once are banned from the venue. Policing is done by all members not just the organizers. You are more likely to find inappropriate behavior at a public nudist venue than at one that is sexually open.

I would move my kids away and point it out to others on the beach believe me he wouldn't stay long as you would be surprised how quickly he would be made in no uncertain ways to be made unwelcome . I have seen this happen first hand on the beach a few times and the creep got turfed off the beach by other bathers .

I think there is nothing wrong with public nudity in designated areas, we have been to the nude beach north of Miami and have seen nude adults male and female but when we were in Germany we went to Englischer Garten in Munich and whole families would be nude. One of the negative aspects though of public nudity is the perverted ones who gawk or make inappropriate sexual gestures or conversation and I think that is why many people view nudist places in a negative manner. The people who go to a nudist area for a sexual hook-up should instead see if there are any sex clubs in their area, that way they could be as perverted as they wanted without looking like a creep, especially when there are minors present.

We have an unofficial nude hiking spot east of town here, the signs warning of floods, rattlesnakes and other poisonous critters have hand-written 'nudity ahead' all over them. I have hiked there many times and there are beautiful boulders and rock formations and if you go there at the right time you may swim in the pools of water. I was there on Sunday and really had a good time. I only saw one woman though and she was wearing panties but nothing else and there were a lot of men walking around nude, it would be nice to see more women but I didn't mind seeing the men and conversing with some of them.

Look all you want and erections are OK, but hands off! My daughters and I love being nude in public. We like being seen and showing ourselves off (actually, dad/hubby likes showing us off). Enjoy the sights and don't be a perv. I would move to another location.

I have only been to one nude beach - Canada - and that by accident. It was a strange feeling, especially because I had no notion of what to do. But, when in Rome… My temporary roommate and I happened on this beach accidentally but adapted rapidly. You disrobe, grab a comfortable spot to lay down, take in the sun, enjoy the views from a distance, and leave before you get anything sensitive sun-burned. It ended up being very enjoyable.

Many years later I ended up on Bali in a resort that was part of a package deal. It was really a set-up for wealthy Asians to bring their mistresses for a secluded and sexual experience. I was alone but enjoyed the room. The best feature was an outdoor shower. While totally hidden from others' eyes, you were showering in sunlight, totally nude and totally natural. It was a real epiphany. I would like to do the experience again, but with someone special, and also spend some time at a nudist resort. The feeling of freedom is mind-boggling! It has to be on everyone's bucket list. Several times!!

I've found that nudist resorts' rules are pretty straight-laced. Ditto for clothing optional hot springs. Sometimes, they seem too restrictive. Example: There is a hot springs near Penrose, Colorado that forbids close, non sexual contact, like hugging. Another rule is "no erections," an often involuntary physiological event that can occur with young males due to the warm water bath or experiencing erotic thoughts being among nude patrons. It's no wonder these venues are patronized largely by middle age and older people with a decided lack of the younger crowd.

If i WERE in that situation, I would stare the guy down, maybe start standing between him & my child, until he would get uncomfortable enough to move on.

...(actually, dad/hubby likes showing us off). Enjoy the sights and don't be a perv. I would move to another location.

That would be a shame if you picked a spot to enjoy yourself, but felt forced to move because someone comes along & makes you suddenly feel uncomfortable. it should be you making him feel uncomfortable so that HE moves on. I could see if you don't have a man with you to help fend the guy off, and moving may be the safer option. Then if he were to start following you, report him immediately.

Another rule is "no erections," an often involuntary physiological event that can occur with young males...

When i 1st read that, my reaction was WTF, but after thinking about it for a bit, i get it. By saying that, it is a discouragement from looking too long to the point of arousal. In other words, don't enjoy the sight of other people to the point of arousal. I'm sure if you were new to that kind of environment, you could declare so with an apology to anyone enforcing that law, and that over time of being around other nude folks, the novelty excitement effect would wear off.

So i would think that crazy rule involving an involuntary response is geared to control guys from being deliberately perverted and aggressive, and to otherwise make an honest attempt to be humble & respectful. It's like posting a "Speed limit 55" sign with the intention that drivers wouldn't speed more than 70, say.

Thankfully I haven't ever been in the position where felt uncomfortable but I wouldn't make a scene and prob either move or husband would maybe have a word with the person.

People will sometimes get erection but it's the etiquette to cover up when it happens.

Regarding inappropriate nudist behavior, this is a story I heard second hand, well, third hand actually. It was told to me in great detail because the teller knows I have an interest in nudity. I'm not a nudist myself; my erotic fascination with nudity concerns the aspects of vulnerability and embarrassment (and for good personal reason). But anyway, I'm curious to hear what nudists might think of this woman's behavior.

The woman's name was Lenore, and I'm told she was reasonably good looking, and was in her early middle age by this time. These events happened in about the mid 1970's BTW. She and her husband didn't tell their kids about their nudist lifestyle; the kids would just be left in the care of aunts & uncles and were told Mom & Dad were going on one of their vacations during the few times a year that they would visit their nudist resort.

Apparently, if you knew them you would be surprised to learn they were nudists, especially considering the times back then. They were both very respectable (not saying nudists aren't) and Lenore was very formal and elegant.

She wore jewelry and makeup much of the time when nude, and some people found this rather ostentatious, but then again, Lenore was apparently ostentatious.

Whatever she was doing at the resort, whether just standing talking to you or sunbathing or entering a room, she often gave the impression of posing.

She would often warmly compliment people on their bodies, and many of the nudists seemed to think this was breaking an unspoken rule. Remember, this was a "naturist" nudist scene, not an "hedonistic" nudist scene, and you weren't supposed to go there to be looked at and admired.

If she was introducing herself, or was being introduced, she would make a flourishing gesture with her arms as if to convey This is me in the nude, take a good look. Sometimes even turning in place to show all of her. Not in a vulgar way, it was emphasized to me, but in a cordial, actually rather formal way.

No one seems to have had a problem with her husband, he was apparently a real easy-going sort who possibly may have found Lenore's behavior amusing. As it was explained to me, in Lenore's defense she did not seem to be purposely trying to be provocative. She just did not associate nudity with naturalness the way that a true nudist would. For her, the enjoyment of being a nudist seemed to be the novelty of it all. Sharing something that is supposed to be very private with like-minded people. She seemed genuinely unaware that not all nudists felt this way.

Finally some people decided that she should be made aware that she was making herself appear silly and was making some people uncomfortable. A couple who were quite active and well-respected in that scene were asked to have a little talk with her and her husband. They didn't reveal all that was said, except that they finally made Lenore get the idea, and Lenore agreed to "tone her act down", which she did.

I would liked to have met Lenore and discuss certain things with her. She seemed to have been an interesting person.

As noted by others here, at most nudist places and activities, if an erection occurs, it should be covered up. Etiquette is to bring two towels, one to use to dry off after swimming, showering, etc., and another to sit on and use to cover up if needed. Anyone standing around with an erection is going to draw attention that will not be positive.

If this happened at a resort/camp, then the staff always urge members and guests to immediately notify them of such an incident, and they would likely ask the guy to leave. If this were involving a guy focusing on anyone underage, then I could see the police being called, or at least made aware of the guy's name and information. Any place that is family-friendly is very sensitive to this sort of behavior. He would not be welcome back, and his name would likely be shared with any other nudist places in the region.

If this happened at a nude beach, swimming hole, or other area frequented by nudists, then it's often up to the regulars to monitor the scene. This guy would probably be approached by one or more people and made aware that his behavior is not appropriate, and he'd probably be encouraged to leave. I've known of groups of people to surround someone who is making others uncomfortable and drive him out.

Nowadays, they'd probably take his picture, and post it somewhere to alert people of his behaviour. There are nude areas which have been shut-down by local authorities due to overt sexual activity, usually between adults. So, those who value using such areas have an interest in monitoring things and not allowing people with the wrong idea to mess it up for everyone.

Garmin said

I would tell my daughter to come sit on me and make the guy jealous.

Hold onto that fantasy.

From your other posts and obsession with being caught masturbating by your mother I doubt you'll have a chance to impregnate a woman to have a daughter to ever allow your fantasy to materialize.

I have to say that sometimes when I go to the nude beach, I'll get a random woody. Sometimes I'll be conversing with a group of guys, and it just happens- do I flaunt it? No. Absolutely not. Do I feel embarrassed? Sometimes... do I hide it? No.

Are there families there? Yes.

Now... sometimes I go with my boyfriend... we like to stroll up and down the beach at the waterline, with the waves at our feet; and ya know what? Sometimes I'm so in love with him, that I get an erection while walking and talking about our previous week, or our plans for he future.

I think it's natural and a part of life. Do I touch my weener when it's hard? No, that would be inappropriate.

I do wish that I didn't feel embarrassed about a natural reaction to my partner and could just let the flag fly, and not be afraid of being shunned.

My thought has always been that it's not the erection but where you aim it. Nature happens, intention is a whole other thing.

Been on lots of nudist beaches in France never ever seen anything untoward at all.Maybe just been lucky.

A friend lives at a nudist family resort and the regulars/residents are hugely protective of the children. They discreetly cease any inappropriate behavior and look after the kids on the premises very carefully.

Been to clothing optional beeches etc and never personally seen anything I deemed suspect or inappropriate.

Most people who go to nudist beaches have the ability to separate being naked from sex.

If the occasional boner happens, no one shows it off they just cover up with a towel and wait it out.