Zity Biz expanding your experiences

You came to this site because of your interest in enemas. But has it opened your head to BD or other things of topic on this site. I know I am a bigger Perv for it!

It has certainly increased my insight with regards to other fetishes.

It has also opened my eyes to the fact that - while fetishes are categorized by various labels - they are more like large swirling pools. Pools with a lot of different types of fish swimming around. Each species has its own needs that it finds in the pool, but some of their needs are unique to their own species. And most of these pools flow into adjacent pools that may have certain traits that draw neighboring fish to swim though on occasion.

It has helped me when I'm in a conversation with people whose primary fetish differs from my own.

I wasn't expecting this much diversity when I jumped in the pool - but hey, the water's fine!

Doug, what a great analysis, couldn't put it into better words. You sure you don't moonlight as a physiciatrist? LOL Karma for you.

ImDoug^^^Noticed the background "pool"...But yes it was quite some insight...Cool one indeed !!

@imdoug...what a great anology....sometimes I feel like I jumped in the deep end....thank God I can swim....or hold my breath.

It has certainly increased my insight with regards to other fetishes.

It has also opened my eyes to the fact that - while fetishes are categorized by various labels - they are more like large swirling pools. Pools with a lot of different types of fish swimming around. Each species has its own needs that it finds in the pool, but some of their needs are unique to their own species. And most of these pools flow into adjacent pools that may have certain traits that draw neighboring fish to swim though on occasion.

It has helped me when I'm in a conversation with people whose primary fetish differs from my own.

I wasn't expecting this much diversity when I jumped in the pool - but hey, the water's fine!

Doug

This is brilliant! Your post is one of the best I have ever read on any of the sites I have been on

Thanks for this

W

Honestly- no, this did not expose me to "other" forms of- let us say..."entertainment" that I had not at some point or another encountered. What I did find here is a well run place to talk to many people about the different ways we like to keep our lives interesting.

Yep, I agree -- well said by ImDoug

ImDoug said it as well as I could. Great analogy.

I agree with IamDoug as well. I think before immersing myself in Zity I was more judgmental regarding fetishes that I don't share. Now I realize that it's whatever kink that "floats your boat." I'm sure plenty of people don't share my interests but now, whenever I see something different, I'm likely to say "mmmm....doesn't interest me but if they enjoy it, who cares." Thanks to Zity!

It has also opened my eyes to the fact that - while fetishes are categorized by various labels - they are more like large swirling pools. Pools with a lot of different types of fish swimming around. Each species has its own needs that it finds in the pool, but some of their needs are unique to their own species. And most of these pools flow into adjacent pools that may have certain traits that draw neighboring fish to swim though on occasion.

@ImDoug ... sounds fishy to me ... 😉

It has certainly increased my insight with regards to other fetishes.

It has also opened my eyes to the fact that - while fetishes are categorized by various labels - they are more like large swirling pools. Pools with a lot of different types of fish swimming around. Each species has its own needs that it finds in the pool, but some of their needs are unique to their own species. And most of these pools flow into adjacent pools that may have certain traits that draw neighboring fish to swim though on occasion.

It has helped me when I'm in a conversation with people whose primary fetish differs from my own.

I wasn't expecting this much diversity when I jumped in the pool - but hey, the water's fine!

@ ImDoug,

You have expressed your thoughts in a well written parable that says it all about zity. Perfectly written. Check out the parable in the book called Who Moved My Cheese. It is used by countless businesses, various support groups as well as many other groups for countless reasons. I can see the parable in your parable. Zity certainly has countless genuine, incredible members friendly members. Karma to you!

Andie

I was a psychology major in college and even though what I learned in psych school did not help me get a job the insights have resonated throughout my life. What I learned in psychology was perfectly described in Doug's analogy- there are many facets to human behavior and desires and there are no hard edges or boundaries. This insight became more apparent to me as I spent more time here on zity. I am not into a lot of the fetishes that forum provides topic space for, but I find myself posting on many of these threads because I do have feelings and sometimes behaviors that are relevant to the subject matter. I have a deeper understanding of my own sexuality since joining the site many years ago, which has been truly helpful and beneficial to know how I view my own self image and an appreciation and respect for others.

Yes we swim in a large pool and I enjoy exploring the whole pool to see what's out there.

I think that reading other's experiences and hearing how other kinks such as medfet, e-stim, stretching, plugging and bondage tie into enemas has opened a few new horizons. It has stimulated an interest in some other activities that I want to explore as I stretch my limits and explore larger horizons.

This is the ONLY zity.biz board I have any real interest in!!

Zity has made me realize that I am not just a klysmo. I've been a MedFetter for a long time and just didn't admit it. During my recent hospitalizations, I admitted to myself that having attractive, young R.N.'s hook me up to EKG's, tend to IV and "A" lines, remove Foley's and check incisions just a great turn-on. It wasn't as sexual as enemas, but I loved the attention and kindness of these ladies.

Searching for enema fetich content on the 'net has introduced me to a wide variety of interests that I either did know of or did not understand. It has been especially helpful to learn that my interest in enemas is, for me, a form of submission, which opened a whole new area of interest for me. Zity has been so very helpful to me in understanding myself and expanding my horizons.

ImDoug, Had to give you a like and a karma.

I have always been a bit kinky and have been a klysmo since I was a kid. I used to feel slightly abnormal because of my fetish and my anal interests but eventually I knew I wasn't a freak. Sites like Zity haven't necessarily opened my eyes to expanding into different fetishes but in reading and discussing topics within my interests it has definitely intrigued me and I have learned more about my interests. For example, in the adult years of being a klysmo, I never really had a huge interest in holding while having sex or releasing while with my lover but the more I've read here I understand it better and I would do these things. In the past I had given thought to these things but always managed to see the negative sides to them more than the positive. Now, I would have no problem releasing clean water while enjoying anal sex/fingers, etc in a shower and the thoughts of holding or still receiving while having sex is one of my biggest fantasies!

Right, I came for the enemas and stayed for that and so much more.

So far this site has resurrected some other fetishes that were laying dormant in me. Whereas I haven't truly engaged in anything that I would consider brand new to me lately, Zity has certainly piqued my interest in some new ideas that I am curious to try and has carried my fantasies to new levels.

There is no question I came to this wonderful site because of my interest in enemas. While searching the internet (probably way too much), and having been a member of numerous other sites like Fet Life , Yahoo groups, etc. I discovered Zity, but never hung around long enough to realize what a great site it was. Only after chatting with someone on YIM did they convince me to check it out again and I'm so glad that I did. I only got back Involved to satisfy my enema interests but as I hung around my involvement evolved from "lurker" to "participant". I started writing posts in order to build up points so I could participate in the chat rooms (this was pre "open" chat). Of course I went to Enemas Nozzleville, but soon I found my curiosity getting the better of me and ventured into rooms in which I had no previous interest. I think everyone here will agree that the name of the room doesn't necessarily dictate the chat going on in that particular room, but when it did, I got an education into other peoples fetishes. Some of it was fascinating , some of it hilarious, sometimes even sad (and of course some of it pure bull sh*t..lol)..But it all opened my eyes to something new in that great big FETISH WORLD out there. One area that has changed dramatically for me is my new found interest in med fet. I have a totally different perspective on going to the doctor or hospital now. Some of what I discovered here on Zity I've incorporated into my personal (fetish) life. It has definitely expanded my horizons and I've met some wonderful people along the way. Yes, my main interest is and will always be enemas , but a little B&D, D/S, medical exams, even daddy / little girl fun along the way can't hurt ....oops, I stand corrected. Some of it can LOL.

Yes, a revelation and respect for those whose "interests" differ from mine, which I once felt were more simply rooted in attending to my good health with the aid of a fountain syringe that a home health nurse used to give me enemas 30 years ago.

In a whirlwind of recent discovery, I'm learning there's a deeper connection that leads to my mother, in whose "pool" I suspect that the two of us have been swimming without mutual recognition. Mom only rarely gave me enemas while I was growing up -- and for some reason they didn't make much of an impression. I still trace the beginning of the "magic" to the savvy nurse who preferred to use a bag and a tube to a squeeze bottle when I was recovering at home after being in the hospital.

I didn't give much thought to the times after I went to bed when Mom would be in the bathroom for quite a while. She was very discreet in leaving any evidence. Only on occasion I noticed her syringe drying, as I used our second bathroom. Mom and I have talked about enemas only in passing, and I've not revealed to her that I have colon therapy twice a year. I think it's time we engage in some revealing girl talk!!

Through this board I am beginning to realize the connection I didn't know existed. It's not on a level of "50 Shades" that's definitely not for me (or Mom), but that's OK. Whatever others are interested in doing, I respect their wishes.

Wow. Quite well put. I don't think I could add to what so many have expressed already. But that is good. And so spot on.

During my entire life, except for the time I was married, I had what I thought were the most amazing fantasies and dreams...My wife was my dream come true, so that was an amazing experience. Since then, I have been back to the dreams; and since finding this site, I have found another world of people like me, and some even to a greater degree, more twisted than I am, and I love it. I have learned more from this site than I have in the last 20 years. I am so glad that someone had the resources and balls to start and perpetuate it.

This site has been both educational and entertaining and I look at it every day, but since I do enemas alone, I am not able to engage in the social side of things.

hankb

I like to read how other people do things and try them out myself. My enema life would be so boring if I hadn't found this website.

A friend - an enema, a lot of patience, and a good dose of what the hell, and this place turned out to be a real eye opener for me. Thanks to - the enema first, and Zity.Biz second, and Him above all, I can't believe how far I've cum. I am finding out a whole lot about myself - and that life doesn't end at 20 something. I never would have known what CMNF meant - and now I've done it and a lot more, yes this has opened up worlds for me.

I’ve become more aware of others fetishes and how they connect through then, even if they don’t float my boat. The best thing I’ve got from my interactions here are to be responsible for your own sexual satisfaction. Own it. There are some incredible relationships here that go way beyond their sexual actives and are stronger because of it. Some incredible friends here inspired a reawakening in our marriage and our world. Probably wouldn’t have happened if I wasn’t here.

You came to this site because of your interest n enemas

In my case I came here 6 or 7 years ago after searching stories about BDSM

Enema was just a solution for chronic constipation and I am only now beginning to think about exploring anal pleasures

I didn't really come to the site because of enemas per se. I have always looked around for erotic and sex sites of all kinds, usually those that offer imagery. But after a bit of quick lurking, I found Zity to be interesting for other reasons, mainly for the polite interaction when discussing sexual material and experiences.

As for the question itself, being here all these years has most certainly expanded my take on and knowledge of sexual kinks, fetishes and behavior. I have come to enjoy several types of activity that I had not engaged in previously, like spanking, nudism, crossdressing/feminization along with coming to enjoy bi-sexuality.

And also learning how to better coherently express my thoughts on these matters and not let myself be intimidated by popular held notions.