Sexting

Someone has everything recorded somewhere and you never know in the stupidity of this modern age just what may somehow in some ridiculous way be able to be used against you somehow.

That may be right, but it mainly applies to People Who Want to Become Important, go into politics for instance or become stinking rich, take over companies, become a Celebrity and such ...For us peons it makes little difference, except maybe in a contentious divorce case ...

Otherwise ... don't sweat it. You're no different from anyone else. Besides, people who are squeaky clean are often considered sneaks, because if there is nothing on them, they are thought to have hidden it well ... the damned if you do and damned if you don't dilemma ... ha ha

I have never sent a nudie of myself 😜

Always text messages. :-\\

Ok I need some advice from you. I have done it, sent nudes I mean, always regretted it. I try to remove my face every time but the pressure for nudes is always there! Sexting can be fun, really amazing even but then they always ruin it with "send nudes". I dont really know what I should do here. Ok I usually politely say no! Noooope, cant have that, he asks again and again and if i really like him it becomes harder and harder to say no. Besides I fear that if I do that and its very important to him, he will give up on me. Besides, theres the thing about wanting to prove its me and not you know.. something else. And one faceless nude doesnt hurt if I trust him enough but then he asks for more and more .. and the sexting goes to the background and it becomes, "hey you want to pose for me in this position?".. then bye, thanks, see you next time. This is where I give up and delete him from contacts. And yes it has happened more than a few times already.

Just feels like not being flexible there might lead to me missing out on someone really fun.

Cherie, You are in charge of you. If you want to send nude pics of yourself to someone, that's your decision and your business. But once sent, you have zero control over it and you have zero control over the person you sent it to and what he/she does with it.

If you fear you may lose a relationship if you don't send someone a pic, please ask yourself it the person who puts that pressure on you is the type of person you want to have a relationship with. From your post it sounds as if you are giving others the control to manipulate you. If that's what you want, fine. But if you want to be the one in control of your life, then you be the one to control it. Stand up for yourself and people will respect you. Don't and they will expect you to follow and be easily led.

Cherie, You are in charge of you. If you want to send nude pics of yourself to someone, that's your decision and your business. But once sent, you have zero control over it and you have zero control over the person you sent it to and what he/she does with it.

If you fear you may lose a relationship if you don't send someone a pic, please ask yourself it the person who puts that pressure on you is the type of person you want to have a relationship with. From your post it sounds as if you are giving others the control to manipulate you. If that's what you want, fine. But if you want to be the one in control of your life, then you be the one to control it. Stand up for yourself and people will respect you. Don't and they will expect you to follow and be easily led.

This is a very good advice.

Sexting, is always a high risk, send your nude pics OK, but with your face hide or not visible.

If he will see your face on a nude pic, OK , his face must be also visible with yours, all the pics he ask from you, ask them from him too !!!

You never see him before, you must have done Skype talks with video , so you will be sure to talk with a real person and not with a fake identity.

Be safe and cautious, REMEMBER lot of fake fellows try to have female pics to make some illegal use !

@Cherie, I agree with Quincy and Arthur. I would never recommend sending anyone explicit pictures of yourself as this could be compromising in the future. Even if you still feel you might consider it, you have every right to say no. Nobody has any business being offended by your refusal. If, following a refusal, they ask a second time, all that does is confirm that the person does not respect your personal limits and views. You have a right to privacy. The person you are talking to has no right to expect you to drop your guard for them before you know them well enough to feel ready.

Agracier---I have to disagree with you. If you are not and do not care ever to be some prominent person, sending nude pics is still a bad idea. While they may go out to the world as a whole and nobody out there knows you or cares about you, people in your community, social circle, work place, or family are the people that you need to worry about. They may see them and the pics could cause you not only embarrassment but economic and social difficulty down the line. If you want to distribute pics of yourself, do it in the form of prints that you deliver yourself to certain carefully chosen individuals and none other.

hankb

Like others have said, DON'T post nude photos anywhere.

IF you are going to pose nude ... DO NOT ... DO NOT ... DO NOT ... allow your face to be shown or any tattoos ... rings ... necklaces ... or any thing that could identify you to anyone! As a photographer ... i have friends ... fellow photographers ... who i have posed for and have ... at times ... posed in the nude. However ... before the internet became such a big deal ... i posed for another couple who have a studio too on a few occasions. Long story short ... either he was super stupid ... ok ... I [/i][/u]... was super stupid ... and didn't know what the hell he was doing regarding computers ... the internet ... ... ... it ends up that me in all my glory is ... or was ... out there ... and out there ... and out there ... and out there. That was about 7 years ago ... and now i haven't found many out there ... but it took forever for them to run their course. Make no mistake ... they are still out there.

So ... when ... if ... i do nudes for someone ... my face is not there ... period. But it's been ... and probably will be ... a long time before i take 'em off ... even if it is for 'arts' sake.

Been there ... done that ... just be sure ... once they're out there ... they are out there forever.

While they may go out to the world as a whole and nobody out there knows you or cares about you, people in your community, social circle, work place, or family are the people that you need to worry about. They may see them and the pics could cause you not only embarrassment but economic and social difficulty down the line.

I understand what you are saying. However, in all the years surfing the net and (almost obsessively) collecting imagery, I have never ever encountered any image of the naked kind of anyone I know or of anyone in any of my social circles. I honestly wish I would stumble on them, but it just doesn't happen. There are so many amateur photos on the web, webcam recordings and all manner of intimate stuff. And still never encountered anyone I know.

I would think that the main drawback and 'danger' of sending someone nude photos of yourself, is later malicious intent, of someone trying to hurt or embarrass you. That is a whole different thing of course and comes down to trust and being able to predict someone elses emotions ... which is almost an impossible thing to get right ...

And of course it all depends on what kind of social mores those in your social circles aspire to. Are they straight-laced, conservative, religious - hypocritical or not? Maybe more laissez-faire, whatever floats your boat, what business is it of mine? Or do you live in an outright theocratic society where the laws come from on high above and everybody is a snoop?

So the main question remains, how would such photos ever get to people in your social group in the first place? The way to prevent that is to only do this kind of thing with strangers, anonymously.

Cherie, One more thing. There are some applications for sexting which does not let the other person save your images .

And as you said

Ok I need some advice from you. I have done it, sent nudes I mean, always regretted it. I try to remove my face every time but the pressure for nudes is always there! Sexting can be fun, really amazing even but then they always ruin it with "send nudes". I dont really know what I should do here. Ok I usually politely say no! Noooope, cant have that, he asks again and again and if i really like him it becomes harder and harder to say no. Besides I fear that if I do that and its very important to him.

I always used to start the sext by letting the other person know that I will not send any Nude pictures with or without face.

I understand when you trust someone too much and sending a nudie does not seem like a big deal. But , think about that guy's phone getting into wrong hands. You never know.

Always be straight forward .

Believe it or not , I have not even sent any nude pictures of mine to my boyfriend! He can see me naked as much as he wants when he is with me.But no nudie!

~Cookie

Agracier---Thanks for your thoughtful reply. You are probably right that nobody will see you unless malicious intent is involved. If it is, there is no telling how things will work out in the end. I do not care to take the chance, not that very many people would get interested in photos of a fat, 70+ year old man who cannot get a hard on.

Keep up on your comments on things. They are among the better ones.

hankb

Thanks for the useful tips!

Ive met more than a few interesting people online but sadly a lot of times its nudes or I'm not interested in continuing chatting with you. Generally they aren't very blunt about and just keep asking and begging and guilting and sometimes even often lose interest in continuing when I say no. I have no tattoos and and no body piercings so I should be safe as I've given in to these requests in the past and always made sure my face wasn't visible (on nude photos anyway). And to be fair I wouldn't even rule out a real life meeting with Mr. Perfect... but a lot of time, when we have fun sexting, they seem to assume its just natural progression from there (nudes and more).

Guess I should try to make it more clear.

I would like to try some sexting but don't know where to go to find people that are into it.

I would like to try some sexting but don't know where to go to find people that are into it.

After all what you read here you are ready to search a " contact " by internet and you will be in confidence with a such discovery ?

Arthur, Some things you just can't explain.

After all what you read hereunder you are ready to search a " contact " by internet and you will be in confidence with a such discovery ?

Arthur, some people resistant to learning and/or cannot learn.

@Switchablesusie said

Arthur, some people resistant to learning and/or cannot learn.

I'm not convinced she's even bothered to read the earlier posts.

OK, I stand corrected. DrZ is right, I did not read all of the posts, only the first four or five maybe. I just read them now and won't be doing that. THANKS! Arthur for your concern.

Cherie you know I adore you , but I am going to give you a mini lecture . JUST SAY NO ! Yes most guys want the nude pics , but if they are saying show me a nude or we wont chat .....well that shows his character pretty clearly . If a guy continues to pressure by any means , nagging , whining , making you feel guilty well it doesnt get any clearer than that either . You dont want to miss out on the potential ? Of being with a selfish prick that only cares about himself ? Oh hun tell them to screw off . Cherie know your self worth, the " right " man would never want you to feel pressured into anything and he will put your wants and needs above his . There are PLENTY of fish in the sea , make sure he is worthy of YOU ! Xoxoxo

@Cherie, we have good reason for saying these things. Please read once again the posts advising caution.

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Although in the article, she made it sound too easy. Random guys asking for nudes or sending photos of their privates on the first chat are no problem, I just ignore them and dont feel bad about it at all. Its only a problem when I get to know them and kinda like them (their online personalities anyway as I have no way of knowing it's really how they are in real life). It's only a problem after they already make it to my "people I like list" (so to speak). And then comes this completely innocent "I really like you, but Id like to see how you look too". Ok no harm in that I guess. And then a huge shower of compliments, "please just take the top off" etc. etc. so on. This is where the real problem is. Setting my foot down saying no, that wont ever happen will most likely mean that hes gone for good or at the very least, he'll act hurt and get all whiny which would mean Id feel bad and try to apologize and explain.. and normally that would just end in him asking again. Or well you get the picture. The bottom line being, its not a problem if its just random guys, its much harder if you already know them and like them.

Wow I have been living under a rock too! I thought sexting was text. Years ago my Ex bf and I sent pics back and forth with no faces of course but now, I wouldn't dream of a such a thing there's too many hackers and just dangerous stuff and in my professional life it could be disastrous. I agree if you don't want to be seen somewhere and you most likely will be. Don't do it! It's not worth a career or embarrassment to you or your family.

Boys and girls: Remember that once you put yourself out there nude, it will ALWAYS be there. You have no idea who might search for it, or stumble onto it. A very good rule of thumb: DO NOT pose nude for photos, whether for sexting or actual in person photography. If live, in person nude posing is your thing, then be SURE you can trust the photographer! After all, he can upload those images any time he wants, once he posesses them. The best policy is to simply enjoy each other for the moment, and take away pleasant, and safe, memories!

Maybe taking mandatory nude posture photos during the later school years and having these available as a sort of public record, like birth and death certificates, might help with people adjusting their attitude towards nude photos. If everyone's nude photo is available, then none is of a particular lewdness anymore, now is it?

This is unrealistic of course at the present, almost hysterical stage some parts of society are in regarding sexual matters, but as a thought experiment in social change and restructuring of ideas it is interesting to contemplate.

Anyway, judging from the enormous amount of amateur nude photos, videos and webcam recordings that anyone can access at the click of a mouse, it looks like lots of people don't seem to care that much, one way or the other.

Since I'm bisexual I like the company of a guy or women so I would usually go on omegle and try to find guys or girls to skype in the nude with and just watch us play with each other though I never found a girl to do it with me but I saw some sexy cocks and balls that i would luv to to suck and Fck 😉

Agracier, if that was an actual thing, Id be the first to be on the streets with a pitchfork and a torch. Intimacy.. and that also means nudity is a very personal thing. If you're comfortable with exposing yourself, its your choice but making it mandatory for everyone would be a very, very bad thing on so many levels.

Agracier, if that was an actual thing, Id be the first to be on the streets with a pitchfork and a torch. Intimacy.. and that also means nudity is a very personal thing. If you're comfortable with exposing yourself, its your choice but making it mandatory for everyone would be a very, very bad thing on so many levels.

Of course I am not serious ... I just like to take ideas to logical conclusions, run with them and see where they might possibly end up.

I would however note that nudity does not necessarily equate with intimacy. Which I am certain that all nudist/naturalist members here can attest to.

Why isn't there a topic on sexting? Recently did it on zity PM and found daddy and mummy. Daddy sent me a few fantasy stories and make me masturbate hard.

Sexting can only be done successfully in my view if both parties trust each other.