What do you miss about your sexual innocence, inexperience or early sexual experiences?

What do you miss about your sexual innocence, inexperience or early sexual experiences?

Yes, I'm serious.

Think before you answer.

As with many men, age has taken its toll. I miss the performance without effort, the pure sex without the fear of permanent consequences. When I was young, every thing you could catch was cured by a shot, except pregnancy.

I miss that moment when I'd learn of something new that I'd never heard of, that turned me instantly on. I feel like I know all of it now and I'd be shocked to discover something new. Now all of the new stuff I hear about repels me(tentacle porn I mean you) or I'm neutral to it.

As a teenager I had seen LOTS of porn on VHS tapes that my four years older brother had that my parents were probably permissive about or unaware that he had. I had seen just about all the sexual positions and vanilla sex before I lost my virginity that I am aware of today and some S&M.

What I miss is the sense of wonderment and amazement when I actually did it the first time or two with my own partner. I recently posted about my reactions of amazement and surprise seeing my boyfriend ejaculate the first time when I jerked him off. Being so soaking wet as a teenager and then having my boyfriend (not the one who became my husband) cum inside me was an incredible feeling because the slipperiness and texture inside me changed as the condom filled with his semen. The sensations of someone playing with my body/breasts/vagina/clitoris without my having to do anything but lay there and get goosebumps followed by an orgasm were just spectacular and new. The first time I tied up someone who was naked, how I felt so strong like I could do whatever I wanted to them, the time I was tied up naked, so exposed for the first time and I thought oh my god what have I gotten myself into? I hope I'll be OK are just a few of the sensations that are long gone, but whose memories live happily inside my heart.

I remember being afraid to touch myself other than bathing. I miss the scents and exploring. Being afraid you put even a finger in for fear someone somehow would find out. Learning it was alright to masturbate but only on the outside. Remembering how I was worried my boobs wouldn't grow or start my period. They were all cute little things I miss.

What's to miss about being inexperienced or innocent? There were - in retrospect - so many situations where I was indeed too naive and inexperienced to understand what all the possible sexual possibilities were in many situations I was in. What wasted opportunities and they will never recur again. That is what i take from being young and inexperienced - a waste of a young body and a waste of situations holding so many possibilities.

My early sexual experiences with myself were nice and all, but there was always the lingering fear of being found out or made fun of, especially by family. It never happened but the humiliation would have spoiled it totally and the expectation of being found out was not pleasant at all.

And my early sexual experiences with someone else were also nice and fun, but they came too late for me to experience them as anything but long overdue ... and that also kills certain kinds of pleasure as it puts pressure on it all ...

And there were also - in retrospect - so many situations when I simply did not understand the implied code, or expectations or social custom, and therefore missed out on sexual opportunities - all because of naivete and inexperience ...

So, as far as I am concerned, inexperience and innocence is nothing to think back fondly on.

All the un-experienced things that were to come. Sex was my personal potato chips. The more I got, the more I wanted. That tingle of the unknown and forbidden still stirs inside. Anticipation is a bitch....

I am like many of the others- I really don't miss anything about my sexual inexperience at the early stages of my life. I think looking broadly at the beginning of my sexual development to now that things got more rewarding and satisfying as I got older. Let's face it, as biological beings our ability and desire to have sex comes at a very early age and at least for me I was not able to act out those urges with a female (any female) I strongly wanted. But once things got going, then that marked a great improvement in my sexual well being.

Like agracier and prov1, I do not miss my "innocence", i.e. lack of experience or of knowledge of what is really involved in sexual activity. For instance, I hate to think of how many women I hurt simply because I did not know that I needed to play with them until they were wet. It was a lonesome time in my life because I did not know how to approach or deal with a woman in any matter, not just sexually.

I needed an experienced woman to teach me how to do things, but did not find one until, at age 28, I met the woman who became my wife. She had had considerable experience, though I did not know it at the time and suffered through my clumsiness and inexperience as I learned. I sometimes wonder how she was able to stand it.

We are together more than 40 years later, so I guess she must have seen more to me than 6".

hankb

Like jds4med, age and diabetes have taken their toll.

However, my mind still functions very well, as do my mouth and fingers. I think my wife gets more orgasms now, and especially multiples, than she ever did when I had a useful erection to distract me.

From my point of view I'm not sure that I actually miss anything at all relating to "sexual innocence, inexperience or early sexual experiences" and sex has certainly improved with experience. Certainly the anticipation and expectation can't be regained but I don't think that's any big deal in the sense that sexual innocence and particularly for a male was something to lose as soon as possible.

Probably what I do miss is my youth and associated opportunities and to turn this on it's head I guess it would be good to go back in time knowing what I know now (not that that's a lot!)

I am not thinking of anything in particular that I miss. Sex and it's learning's all came about when they were suppose to no matter how much I had hoped they would have happened sooner. Pornographic magazines (that my parents had hidden) let me see into the world of sex while in elementary. With the internet I have learned about fetishes and deviant sexual practices. I have a better understanding of what my sub/husband was looking for and why. Online there were so many others needing/wanting the same things.

To have found out about his kinks earlier seems nice but I wouldn't have had online support. No information to help me see he wasn't "weird" or "freaky". He was normal and just needed more than others to have a deeper sex life. Not saying I don't have kinks either. They have come to me when it was the best time to be. I was old enough to realize what I wanted. Brave enough to give it a try. The internet made it all accessible.

To have found out about his kinks earlier seems nice but I wouldn't have had online support. No information to help me see he wasn't "weird" or "freaky". He was normal and just needed more than others to have a deeper sex life. Not saying I don't have kinks either. They have come to me when it was the best time to be. I was old enough to realize what I wanted. Brave enough to give it a try. The internet made it all accessible.

You younger members, who grew up with internet access have no idea how lucky you are in having all that information at your fingertips. When I needed information on sexual matters I was lucky to be able to find enough books to satisfy a basic curiosity in a manner of speaking. But even so, they were foreign language books to begin with (English books in a Dutch speaking region) so fewer were available.

And besides, even now, the real kind of books one needs to learn anything serious and special about sex still haven't been published as far I am concerned. And never will be probably.

I know many people of a more prudish nature deplore the loss of innocence that young people have to go through to achieve (a beginning of sexual) maturity, the loss of excitement of discovery, the loss of mystery. But there is also a flip side to that. Of wanting to know and experience more, of being able to fully participate. And not being able to because we are too innocent, too unversed and unskilled and kept in the dark too long and moreover often lied to far too much as well.

I really miss the experience of the quest to obtain Durex (Condoms) as a randy teen in 1973.

Trailing around different Chemists trying to find one with a male serving or a Barbers shop that stocked them.

How Boys at School would make a fortune in selling them at break time to those of us in need at ridiculous charges.

I remember sneaking into the Gents Toilet at a local Pub as I had heard on the grapevine they had just had a vending machine installed.

I went in and fortunately no one was using the Urinals so I went to the machine and realised that I didn't have the correct change!.

I recall it was 20p for a pack of three Durex Featherlite and here I am with everything but the required two ten pence coins.

Just as I was about to leave, a twenty something West Indian/Afro Carribean Guy wearing paint spattered clothes came in and came straight across to the machine, Put his 20p in and got his pack of three, rubbed his bulge crudely and then winked at me and said he had a "promise" with a hot woman whose house he was painting

I asked him if he could give me some change and God Bless him he actually paid for my first ever pack of three and said "Have a Good old Fuck wi mi blessin Mate" as he charged out for his assignation.

Probably what I do miss is my youth and associated opportunities and to turn this on it's head I guess it would be good to go back in time knowing what I know now (not that that's a lot!)

For me I may say that I miss nothing, for all the associated opportunities in my youth I have refused. In former times here in Germany in certain counties - especially in the Roman Catholic ones - certain married women yearned for the copulation with unexperienced young men; so for theses boys no further information upon the sex life was necessary: this has been a special case in "learning by doing".

I would say being able to be up and ready to go again in10 minutes, and being able to do that all day long. Now it takes more time to regenerate.

I miss how long the "afterglow" would last. I remember how intoxicating it was to smell my wife's (girlfriend then) scent on my fingers or lips on the drive home. Thinking about how luscious the sex was earlier would force me to stroke off for at least one or two more orgasms before I could go to sleep - and most likely again when I woke up.

I also miss erections that didn't go away just because you cum. Such good times!

Nothing. My sex life is immensely more satisfying now.

I don't miss ANYTHING about my early sexual innocence.

When I was a teenager, my overprotective and puritanical parents wrecked any chances I may have had to experience physical female companionship. Not only that, but when I was between the ages of 10 and 13, laying in bed going to sleep, my dad used to constantly ask "you're not playing with yourself, are you?". What the fuck, Dad?? Seriously- what the fuck??? If only he knew the truth. My pubertal development coincided with the discovery of the JCPenney catalog and the Maidenform ads in my mom's womens' magazines, and life was never the same 😃 .

Too bad I was a virgin until the age of 24 😢 .

Whoever said a male reaches his sexual peak at 17 is full of horseshit. I'm 45 years old and in this past decade I've been having the time of my life, sexually speaking. Today I'm more relaxed, more confident, and more capable than I ever was during my awkward and dorky twenties. No Viagra or counseling needed.

When I'm 70 I anticipate that I'll be plowing the finest-looking 50-60 year old widows and divorcees, as well as an occasional thirtysomething or fortysomething upscale professional escort. And I'll be loving every fucking minute of it 😃 .

I don't miss sexual innocence ...maybe a few blown opportunities with seeking the "holey" grail.

Undressing before someone for the first time, aroused and excited but scared in case they do not find me attractive

I do not miss a thing and wish my first experience at 20 or 21 had been a few years earlier. Having said that, I did not find my first experience particularly impressive or exciting or anything else of that nature. I wondered what the big deal was.

hankb

I did not find my first experience particularly impressive or exciting or anything else of that nature. I wondered what the big deal was.

Come on, admit it, with your dick buried in that warm, wet pussy, holding on to that girl with her tits pressed against you, you knew what the big deal was!

First, as a matter of fact, she was fairly flat chested, so she did not have much in the way of tits to press against me. Because I was used to masturbating every night, being in her hole was not the sensory experience that my hand was, so it was not as enjoyable.

Second, I talked with my shrink a while later about the experience and he said lots of people felt the same way, "What was the big deal?" I would say that so many people have made sexual intercourse out to be a big, all consuming, all enlightening thing that the reality of it cannot possibly come up to what the imagination has led a person to expect, certainly on the first time. Later experiences after having learned how to do it, what to expect, and so on, were much more enjoyable, more sensorily exciting and satisfying.

hankb

I won't disagree with your entire statement, BUT, when you're having sex for the first time, I don't care if they were A cups, a girl's tits are a girl's tits.

Second, I talked with my shrink a while later about the experience and he said lots of people felt the same way, "What was the big deal?" I would say that so many people have made sexual intercourse out to be a big, all consuming, all enlightening thing that the reality of it cannot possibly come up to what the imagination has led a person to expect, certainly on the first time. Later experiences after having learned how to do it, what to expect, and so on, were much more enjoyable, more sensorily exciting and satisfying.

That's a very good description of a first time experience. And I second what said, though I've never talked with a psychologist or anyone else about it though.

That's also why I've never thought much of the school of thought that says young people should be left alone to discover the mysteries and joys of sex all on their lonesome. Of course, we don't really educate young people about sex, not in the way for instance that people learn how to drive a car. Sex education is theoretical, ethereal, moralistic and not very practical all - and many parents don't even want that either.

So it leaves the inexperienced unenlightened and groping in the dark when it comes to first time sexual experiences. And that can lead to disappointment and let downs at first. I'd say the overriding first time emotion is something like: 'Finally! That's over and done with, I don't have to pretend not being a virgin anymore' ...

I look back in awe at three overpowering feelings:

1. Wow! Look at those tits, feel that wetness, look at that facial expression, those hips......it's like seeing all the toys under the tree and not knowing which one to run to first

2. How could I possibly have deserved this wonderful gift that is right here in front of me?

3. This is what i was put on earth for!!

I'd say the newness of it all. The overwhelming eroticism of simpling seeing my partner nude. The incredible, almost unbearable sensations caused by her hands roaming over my skin. The unique taste of her nipples. My rigid erection as foreplay progressed.

I do not miss the inhibitions or the self doubt.

Well technically I am still a virgin as I have never had vaginal intercourse I have both gave and received oral a couple of times so my innocence is gone. The thing I miss most about being innocent is that I wanted the first woman to pull my pants down and give me head and jack me off to be someone that I really really liked. Not a stranger. I had a huge crush on this girl in highschool but she would't go out with me. I wanted her to the first one to pull my pants down. I wanted her breast to be the first and only ones that I ever sucked I wanted her pussy to be the first and only one that I ever licked.

With that innocence there was always the awe that came with the first time of trying anything. There is a certain trepidation but then the amazement of how wonderful it was. I have to admit that my first time having vaginal sex was not the greatest experience because it happened so fast and it was unprotected which scared the wits out of me. After that protected sex was not so stressful and opened a whole new world. Then came oral sex and the first time for that was nothing short of incredible.