Who have you told about your enema habits?

The only person that I have told of my love of enemas is my wife. I did so 2 or 3 years ago when I was about 5 years in to my journey. She had found my toy stash - we have a collection of dildos and vibrators that she has always used and/or let me use on her, but I kept my own toys separate and hidden from her - and wanted me to come clean about everything. I took time to explain to her that when I started to discover the anal erotic side of myself I immediately knew that if I wanted to explore that, I would need to be confident that I was clean. I shared with her that I had done my research and began taking enemas simply as a means to my end . I went on to explain that, through experimentation and experience, enemas had taken on more than just a functional role and had become both erotic and soothing to me.

She took it all in her stride but let me know that she does not understand how they could be appealing in any way. To this day she accepts it, but remains borderline grossed out by it.

Other than that, nobody knows. I'll make casual enema references in both social and work conversations on very rare occasion - for example, if a project has significant issues and is running late I might quip "we really need to give this thing an enema". There's a chance, I guess, that colleagues may have wondered whether I am knowledgeable about them. My bet however is that only those that are themselves might ponder that.

My first wife knew i was into enemas, she enjoyed them as well. I told my current wife about my fetish, fully expecting my marriage to be over. She is ok with it, much to my surprise. She even respects my privacy during my enema sessions. Occasionally, she will have me give her an enema or two, but only to clean her out, no eroticism involved. Couldn't ask for a better life partner than that!

For myself I've only told 3 people about all my habbits.

The first is my mom..I was in a dark and low place after me and my x split up after almost 8 years. I was trying to come clean and be open and get everything off my chest.

The second is my x she didn't understand them and she wouldn't even say the word enema or suppository. She'd get really mad if I did either of them. She also knew about my anal erotica habbits. And refused to do anything to me there.

Now the third person the lovely lady I'm with now has no problem with any of it and will even give me enemas/suppositories and hold the bag up while I'm taking it, and also will do anything to my but that I want, dildo finger fist..she'll do anything to give me pleasure down there.. my favorite is a blow job while I get fingered. It's heavenly

T-Man,

Welcome to the group. You will find lots of interesting other people on here.

Dan

In regular life, I don't discuss my enema fetish with anyone.

I have never told anyone till after my 2nd wife. My third wife I decided I was going to tell everything I like. I like alot. When we finally got to why I take a 2 hour shower every day I asked to show her instead of tell. So we both got in the shower and having hands on each other I reached up and took the shower head off leaving just the hose. I asked her to relax and I turned the volume way down and I rubbed soap around her little star and put the end up to her ass. Not in but enough to have some water start to go in. She clenched her cheeks but relaxed as the first water shot out all over me. I did this several more times till we both were clear. I love the feel of pushing a new bar of soap inside me and letting the water rush up my inside and hold it. That is the first and only time we have done it that way.

I still haven't told anyone about my habits because I am (happily) single right now, but when I am in a relationship again I plan to be up front about what I want and need, so they will need to know about my enemas.

I hadn't told the first person about my enema life until I told my wife the first of this year. I've been giving myself enemas for quite a few years. During a conversation we had about our lack of a sex life I told her I give myself enemas so I am clean for playing with my anal toys. She knew I used dildos/anal toys; but, she wasn't aware of the enemas. She is the only person outside the Zity community that knows.

...when I am in a relationship again I plan to be up front about what I want and need, so they will need to know about my enemas.

@tabootastes, that is exactly how I felt a few years ago after being widowed - believe it or not things will probably come out ok. I felt if it was a deal breaker for the person I've been seeing, so be it. It wasn't.

Like most other posters here, I held my enema fetish close to the vest. My wife learned of my thing about 10 years into the marriage. To this day, she has not had any interest nor has participated in any kind of enema experience. When she found out, it resulted in a big meltdown between us, and accused me of being dishonest in our relationship.

So to this day, she still has reservations about my honesty in any subject matter, not just about the enemas. I completely regret not letting her know early on in our relationship, and has definitely had an impact on our relationship.

So presently I no longer "hide" my gear, and she knows when I take them as I tell her when I do. 99% of the time I take them when she is out for a while. As I write this, she is out and is assuming that I will be taking an enema, as she will ask me when she gets home if I "did my thing".

If I ever evolve into another relationship, like most of you, will let my partner know early on, what I am all about.

Interesting the tension, at the start of a new relationship, about when to "reveal" those "alternative" interests. Too early and it could blow what is shaping up nicely out of the water, but too late and you are into the "why could you have not told me about that?" territory. Fortunately, for me, with my lovely new wife I got it just right (was that good luck or good management) but here we are very happily married and all those Zity things I love are open and understood.

Oh and apart from the two colon hydro-therapists with whom I have regular appointments, who must "know" (one definitively and the other probably) although I have not actually told them there is my wonderful ex-RN neighbour. When I was single, she was tasked with giving all my toys, nozzles and lingerie a good home if I ever fell off the planet and would still provide a removal service if necessary. When we are away she comes and "does her thing" on our bidet

I have never shared my interests in enemas other than my husband. Eenise

My conversation regarding enemas were only brought up in a 'medical' scenario. That includes any girlfriend at the time, or when 'flying-about-the-country' (unable to take laxatives since flying in my own airplane) and the "need" arose. (Check "MONTANA ENEMA" back in the Zity library)

I've never discussed the erotic side, keeping it as a necessary medical issue. --the erotic side I kept to myself. However, in all cases, described the good feelings from the results....even discussing looking forward to the next one. It has worked for me.

the boxcar

Only people that know about my love of enemas are the people here on zity.and that probably will not change

Only peoples here.It's not something easy to explain or share with someone don't "feel" the erotic power of enema experiences. Except a partner who are in deep deep confidence and/or want try and having a real open mind. It's not for all. Unfortunately or fortunately ?

Nobody. Not my wife of 3+ decades (she would in all probability freak out, being a super-vanilla), not any friend, not any casual encounter - I really mean NOBODY physically present in my life knows about my enema habits, as far as I'm aware.

The Zity, of course, is the exception. Sadly, the Zity ain't physically present - however it is heartwarming to be able to at least have a kinda "spiritual" connection with other like-minded folks. Which, in a way, makes up for the lack of physical connection. We picture things so much better with our imagination - reality is most often a let-down.

@flburst58 nails it -- Zity is a very special and "spiritual" place where we can let it flow together! Reading everyone else's stories and posts has definitely made my enemas more enjoyable when they happen, even if y'all aren't right there.

I've been a self-giver for a long time now. I'm pretty sure nobody now IRL knows. A past ex of mine bailed on a Groupon colonic he booked for us, but we never had any enema action.

I'm fine to keep my imagination busy like flows through the silicone hose. Maybe one day I'll have someone who knows -- whether privately or worthy of a 5-star Yelp review.

I like to have a long slow session Saturday mornings. Deep enema, then play with a dildo for a while then insert a nice plug for the day.

I have friends that are very religious. Sometimes I visit them with my medium plug in and I think to myself if you only new my wife and I sodomize each other often and I have a butt plug in right now they would freak out.

I love ALL THINGS ANAL.

The only people I’ve told about my enema habits are people in here. I have a very conventional life in the burbs. I do not discuss my sexual interests with anyone. Works for me I suppose

No one knows in real life. It is something I will never share with anyone not from the site.

Sadly, no one. Enemas are an integral part of my routine - I really enjoy the moments of breathing, sensation and awareness that enemas bring. I'd love to be able to share it with my wife someday but sadly I don't think she's interested.

My wife knows. It’s not for her, but she respects my needs to play with my body. I’m sure she would if I asked. But because it’s been such a private subject my whole life and the stigma (probably needless, but still present) she doesn’t want to embarrass me by asking if she can give me one

Prior to being married, I told three other girl friends. One was not interested in pursuing the topic. The second definitely wanted to pursue this. She wanted to have anal sex, and I told her I wouldn't do it unless she had an enema first, After some trial and error, we developed a routine in which I would give her an enema, then we would have dinner, and then proceed to the bedroom. Sometimes, she would give me an enema as the last event of the evening. The third girl friend didn't want anal sex, but wanted anal fingering. after I told her that she wasn't clean in side, she agreed to a small enema. However, she never agreed to give me an enema.

I have told my wife, even before we got married that I liked enemas. After telling her, she agreed to give me enemas with a bulb, and that was fine. Now, she no longer gives them to me, so I'm a solo practitioner. I do give them to my self, usually announcing them when I know that she's going out and will not be home. So she knows of my continued interest, and she does whisper to me about enemas when we're having sex.

Only zity folks

Ony my Daddy and my Ex and I think my Ex told my Daddy bc they ran in the same circle. Everything was strangely coincidental.

The only ones who know of my fetish is my current GF of over 30 years and my two past x wives. My GF wishes I would not do it, for a while she did a few enemas but has lost interest. I've tried to reduce my usage, down to three days a week, give or take.

the hoseman1

I have not shared this interest with anyone.

My so says my fettish is very bizarre. I can't convince her that many people do enemas. Why is there so much enema equipment for sale? If we only knew. It's one of those things people don't want to admit to, like asking if you masrerbate and how often. The hoseman1, and yes, i like hoses.

I’ve begun to tell my girlfriend about my enema habits. She isn’t quite on board with receiving one from me because of a traumatic childhood experience with one enema but I imagine sometime in the near future I’ll be across her lap receiving one! I’ve been sharing my habits and her most recent response last week was “and who’s gonna give you that??” She doesn’t think I could do it alone (if she only knew!) but I wouldn’t object to if she wanted to help.

Only my Zity friends, @sirensong .... and an enema nurse in Boston a long, long time ago.