Ladies that don't masturbate

Do all ladies masturbate? I've met a few women that claim the don't and almost never have. They claim they enjoy sex or even a man fondling them but have no interest to masturbate even as a teen.

I have had a few friends who fall into this category, and it shocked me honestly, but how it was explained to me is that they have been taught from such an early age that women are not supposed to experience pleasure that they mentally can't bring themselves to experience any pleasure from masturbating but can experience it during sex because it is a secondary objective.

I know a few friends the same way. I am not sure if they are just shy or what. I know I masturbate. But I was also taught not to. I caught my sister when I was around 12. She was 14 and begged me not to tell mom and dad.

Every lady friend I have had over the years has masterbated, many have done so very tantalizingly in front of me! My present lady friend will masterbate loudly when she would like some "attention" from me, as a "subtle" hint I would say!

I think much of the Ladies not masterbating "perseption" comes from that a "bad boy" is desirable and acceptable. while a "bad girl" is is some way "dirty", in some unrealistic puritanical standard. I beleave that just like men 90% of ladies masterbate, 8% lie about it and perhaps 2% are either puritanical or frigid!

In my book ladies may as well masterbate, as in my book a woman on occasion is a suitable substitute for masterbation! I am not will to chase a woman that "goes to the highest bidder" or thinks she is a queen!

My ex never masturbated as long as we where together, and as far as I know if what she told me, she didn't before we met.

When I was 15 a friend that was 17 taught me when we had a sleepover. In college a friend told me that she was taught that she should never do that. I guess most of us do, but there are exceptions.

It is not a thing that I ask everyone, but I used to work with a devote christian who never has, and I believe her.

She said that the only time "my fingers are going up there is when I change my Tampax, why would anyone want to play with themselves.

No surprisingly she is 61, and never had a b/f

Probably the only teens and young adults who don't masturbate are quadriplegics or amputees. If a human being has normal use of his/her hands and has normal feeling in the genital area, he/she is going to masturbate, especially if he/she has no sexual partner. Masturbation is a healthy alternative to 12 year olds having sex.

A recent study indicated that 80% of men and 72% of women admit to masturbation. The rest lie.

I have a lady that works for me .She has never masturbated or had sex .She is 61.She says she doesn't understand how people get pleasure from it. I tell her try it and you will find out .

I think most females do, however, I had one lady tell me she couldn't stand putting her fingers into herself.

You couldn'd believe her expression when I told her she need not do it that way. So how, she asked. Will you show me?

Brandi, meet your clitoris. I unleashed a whole new world to her.

When I massage her now, she will sometimes let me watch her masturbate to orgasm.

I had relations to at least a couple of women who never masturbated when alone. The reason in both cases had nothing to do with religious inhibitions, but simply that they NEEDED another male or in one case virtual female presence to enjoy it. And they liked to show me...

While I subscribe to the adage, "To each their own", I can't imagine not having that release of an orgasm.

Personally, if I didn't have a great couple of orgasms every few days, I'd be a grumpy person. 😄

My last partner claimed she never masturbated. Certainly she never did during any intimate times we had together. A previous partner made no secret of the fact that she did and that she enjoyed to. She was much more open and relaxed about the subject.

A recent study indicated that 80% of men and 72% of women admit to masturbation. The rest lie.

I'd qualify that with - the rest lie except for a tiny percentage who don't.

And besides, when studies ask if a person masturbates, they often omit specific riders such as 'do you currently ...' or 'have you ever ...' ... with these qualifications, you'll get quite different answers. And possibly people who currently don't masturbate and are ashamed of having ever done so in the past will dismiss an occasional (youthful) masturbation sessions as a lapse or temporary weakness that somehow 'doesn't count' ...

Or people may only count 'masturbating to orgasm' as the question asked. There is a whole range of qualifications that will result in different answers.

I also personally knew a female who had a deep horror of masturbation - probably I think because of childhood conditioning by very restrictive parents - but who could only orgasm when she manipulated herself when having sex with someone. So does one put that into one category or another? She herself was convinced she did not masturbate, because she was not alone and was being held/fondled/kissed/caressed etc while she brought herself to orgasm. But in my book it was masturbation and big deal, so what? But to her it was a very big deal in terms of how she felt she adhered to her innate feelings about masturbation.

It's all so complicated ...

I do but not that often.. and usually because I think I should not because I feel like I want to(its supposed to be healthy). Sex starts from the head and usually stays there in my case.

As a man, with my pure logic, if you want to run a marathon you need exercise for; if you want to enjoy a sexual relation you have to be prepared for your body and your soul . No preparation means a less enjoyable relation, be open to yourself, a masturbation is better than pills or alcohol or dancing very early in the morning, you will naturally fall asleep.

Masturbation lead you to knew ways of satisfaction, differents ones too. Staying all your life with the same sexual behaviour your tastes and motivations for sexuality will be lost. Staying allways with the same erotism will lead you backwards, because you will evolve with the years, but your sexuality will stay back, you will be unbalanced.

Do you know why leaking pads have lots of mature feminine users ? because they don't have enough exercises there down and their pelvis, uretra and other muscles there down are lazy and have a low or very low tonicity.

Masturbate and enjoy it, there is no one good reason to not do it, education and religious reasons are false and hurt the natural evolution of a active women.

Play safe, sane, serious, don't change of friend every day, or month !

My wife doesn't, and claims she never has. She says she's always only wanted someone else to be involved in stimulating her. I try to encourage her to explore herself, but she says she has no urge or motivation to do so. I've tried to gently guide her hands to her own body during intercourse and foreplay as a start, but alas no success. We're both 46.

Any ideas on how to help her along? I'm sure it would be good for both of us.

Cleanbean -- At 46, you are probably too late to change her.

She will have to experience an epiphany that causes her to change her own mind about masturbating.

The most important thing is that she enjoys sex with you. I wouldn't push masturbating and I would make sure she enjoys what she does like to do with you to the fullest. That will make you a truly understandiing and fulfilling partner for her.

Well we sure do have fun while we're at it. No real problem in letting her lean on me for her sexual gratification. 😉

My first wife, in her early 20's, never wanted anything to do with masturbation. All she liked was lots of missionary position sex; anything else she called perverted. I also knew a gal who did masturbate, but only using her finger; wanted no part of anything electric or mechanical; believing it would make her less sensitive. 🙄😕

My first wife, in her early 20's, never wanted anything to do with masturbation. All she liked was lots of missionary position sex; anything else she called perverted. I also knew a gal who did masturbate, but only using her finger; wanted no part of anything electric or mechanical; believing it would make her less sensitive. 🙄😕

@reddevil Now I can see why your 1st wife is your ex. Would be the same with me.

I don't know if my wife masturbated on her own, but she did while we had vaginal or anal sex. It was a turn on for me knowing we were both giving her pleasure. Early on she handed me a buttplug, so she most likely played alone occasionally.

My wife doesn't, and I don't think she ever has. And I think that's part of why she has zero interest in sex.

More likely, people who have no interest in sex - for whatever reason - don’t masturbate either.

Walker Shaw wrote:

My wife doesn't, and I don't think she ever has. And I think that's part of why she has zero interest in sex.

My wife is exactly the same. I wish she did masturbate - that would show at least a little interest.

Women who don't masturbate probably had someone get inside of their heads at an early age long before they were eligible to have someone in their pants. Indoctrination at a early age can last a lifetime, and from what I am learning here a lot of people who are now into enemas became interested at an early age and carried it through in their later years. That is just a guess on my part.

Women who don't masturbate probably had someone get inside of their heads at an early age long before they were eligible to have someone in their pants. Indoctrination at a early age can last a lifetime, and from what I am learning here a lot of people who are now into enemas became interested at an early age and carried it through in their later years. That is just a guess on my part.

I‘d be curious if women (or guys) brought up in the Catholic Church we’re more suppressed sexually, and whether some rebelled and became more sexually open. My guess is that‘s true. The guilt complex and rebellion

A lot of people are “imprinted” at an early age with enemas, RTs etc. for anal pleasure. But there are a number who didn’t receive enemas as children who found enema pleasure later in life. My guess is that some are just wired that way and early enemas we’re just a happenstance discovery of that pleasure. That’s just my guess.

Regardless of how we discovered it, it’s OK and a delicious pleasure!

My wife of 30 plus years still claims she doesn’t masturbate on her own but I still think she is not being truthful, we have had a great sex life and she is open for just about anything, I remember in the beginning during foreplay she would ask if it was alright if she touched herself to which I responded yes absolutely and now all of our sexual play always involve mutual masturbation sometimes she will stimulate herself while I watch, at this point I don’t really care if she masturbates alone we have always have a great time enjoying each other’s bodies and pleasing one another and I can tell the way she touches herself she has definitely done this before.

I don't hardly ever masturbate alone, even with having sex once a week. I don't have the time nor privacy.

But masturbating with my sub does happen. It is a better way to make sure I do get my orgasm. One way over another. Plus sub gets to feel he was there and had a bit of participation in the matter.