Clitoral Stimulation in labor

What are your thoughts on this subject?

So basically a way labor can be brought on is through nipple stimulation, which can release oxytocin, the love horomone responsible for labor to start and found in sex. It can also be used as an effective measure to distract from pain in the early/mid stages of labor and sometimes to near the very end. A lot of people propose clitoral stimulation could result in the same way. An orgasm is a powerful painkiller that releases endorphin and oxytocin, and a woman when aroused becomes very wet internally in her vagina making it easier for objects to slide both in and out, including a baby. Not to mention a vagina becomes much easier to stretch and is flushed with more blood after an orgasm making her less likely to tear, as well as make it easier for her to stretch open with less or no pain. Although regardless of actually being able to have an orgasm it's still a method that can be used to distract from pain in labor. I feel as though most woman are to controversially close minded to the idea, not to mention unless it was in a home birth setting with just one or two people, they would not feel comfortable in trying this.

Their's also a post on yahoo about a husband who was asked to leave while the doctor performed clitoral stimulation on his wife. I felt really bad for him but at the same time the story was kinda hot. Not positive if it's real but here it is.

"Hi. Me and my wife had a beautiful baby girl a few weeks ago. She is darling and I can't complain about her at all but I do have some problems with the process of her birth. Supposedly, in order to alleviate the pain and help along the process of giving birth, the doctor massaged my wife's clitoris while waiting for the baby to be delivered. Before he did so he asked my wife if it was okay and she said it would be fine. I had to just stand there holding my wife's hand while this doctor sexually aroused her. After a while I could tell she was really getting into it and she took her hand away from me and the doctor asked her if she wanted me to wait outside. I had to listen to the debate my presence until she eventually asked me to wait out in the hall for a few minutes. It was VERY apparent from the sounds I heard coming out of her that she was enjoying herself far beyond being distracted from the labor process. This went on for about 15 minutes after I left. When I was allowed back in the doctor and her were all flirty and it definitely smelled like the scent of a woman.

I talked to my wife about this two times since and each time she has pretty much ignored me by saying it was just a natural part of the labor process and it was strictly professional. I disagree. I know she liked it more than she is letting on because she has asked me to stimulate her in a very identical manner three times since then! What do I do about this!?"

Their's also a post on yahoo about a husband who was asked to leave while the doctor performed clitoral stimulation on his wife. I felt really bad for him but at the same time the story was kinda hot. Not positive if it's real but here it is.

"Hi. Me and my wife had a beautiful baby girl a few weeks ago. She is darling and I can't complain about her at all but I do have some problems with the process of her birth. Supposedly, in order to alleviate the pain and help along the process of giving birth, the doctor massaged my wife's clitoris while waiting for the baby to be delivered. Before he did so he asked my wife if it was okay and she said it would be fine. I had to just stand there holding my wife's hand while this doctor sexually aroused her. After a while I could tell she was really getting into it and she took her hand away from me and the doctor asked her if she wanted me to wait outside. I had to listen to the debate my presence until she eventually asked me to wait out in the hall for a few minutes. It was VERY apparent from the sounds I heard coming out of her that she was enjoying herself far beyond being distracted from the labor process. This went on for about 15 minutes after I left. When I was allowed back in the doctor and her were all flirty and it definitely smelled like the scent of a woman.

I talked to my wife about this two times since and each time she has pretty much ignored me by saying it was just a natural part of the labor process and it was strictly professional. I disagree. I know she liked it more than she is letting on because she has asked me to stimulate her in a very identical manner three times since then! What do I do about this!?"

I think that's a crock of shit.

You can't be distracted when you are in labor, especially near the end. Well, maybe the cow on "19 kids and counting" can be distracted because labor and delivery is practically a daily occurrence for her, but not for the rest of us.

The two times I have been in labor with my daughters, all I wanted is for the baby to come out. I am not at all interested in having an orgasm or having any part of my body played with.

@Switchablesusie perhaps it's because childbirth is associated with pain and that idea is shoved in your face every day from the time that you're very young from what you see on tv. Most woman are told to expect sex to hurt the first time and most do have it hurt, but there a couple who don't as well. At the end of the day expecting pain makes you tense and causes pain making anything you experience worse than what it might have been if you were relaxed, or expecting something different.

^^^^ birth lover: That isn't it at all.

If you were a woman experiencing the body changes and the excitement of a pregnancy, labor and delivery, you would know. You should plead ignorance on this one. You want to impose your fetish on real life and it doesn't work.

After nine months of pregnancy, enough is enough.

Somewhere along the line this story doesn't seem to be right. A medical professional could get struck off the register for carrying out such a procedure.

This is a yes and no situation. I agree with Switchablesusie on some of her comments about enough is enough, but I also must add that each pregnancy and delivery is different, even for the same woman. I'm the father of 5 and have been part of each delivery from beginning to end. They have gone from miserable to the omg it's done which happened with her feeling some sexual overtones from the delivery. In that case that child appeared to nearly reach out, grab her knee, and pull himself out. Over and done with in about an hour including a prep enema. To add to the female sexual responsiveness I had a dear lady friend that shared with me on numerous occasions that giving birth to her two children was actually the best orgasms of her life. Some may not believe that, but not only did she tell me that, but also her husband. Unfortunately our attitudes of the day in the US and I'm sure some other countries do not allow for "stimulation" to be a part of the delivery process, when likely it could well be an assist in some if not many cases making the whole process far more comfortable and could possibly even speed the delivery. Likewise it is unfortunate as well that if some pioneering doctor or midwife might consider doing such a therapy they may well be boosted from their profession and in some instances charged as a criminal for misconduct. Possibly someone will venture into this quagmire like others have with other forms of alternative medicine and will find that "natural birth" is really more natural with specialized attention such as has been mentioned in the previous posts. Then all of a sudden it will be "medical history in the making" and the press and government will have a field day with it.

Come on folks. Let's take it easy on one another. This forum is intended for us to express our unique thoughts and ideas. We don't have to jump down anyone's throat. Also just because some women have birthed children (myself included) it doesn't make us experts. Remember each labor is different and every person's response to pain is different.

Once again Susie said it all. If this were a real happening the OB doctor would lose his license. I know of a case where a doctor used saliva in a pelvic exam. The poor patient was a young vietnamese american girl who was very naive. Fortunately her parents knew better. When she returned for an exam and the doctor repeated his performance the cops were right outside. He lost his license and was sentenced to prison.

Not only would the attending nurses report him to administration for ethics violations, but his/her hospital privileges would immediately be withdrawn, and formal charges would be brought. As there is no medical reason for this that I know of, It would be criminal sexual misconduct!

Switchablesusie,

Calling others opinions and ideas "a crock of shit" is completely inappropriate language for a moderator to use.

I agree ListenToMyHeart, I think it's about time Webby pulls the reigns in on Switchablesusie and remove her as a Moderator. I know many of us are getting tired of her sarcastic, condescending posts. Although I don't understand why some people won't stand up to her. I guess they're just afraid of her status as Moderator. Like and Karma for you for standing up to her, I just wish more people would.

PS Isn't this supposed to be a enjoyable, friendly site?

Switchablesusie,

Calling others opinions and ideas "a crock of shit" is completely inappropriate language for a moderator to use.

The statements that I referred to as a crock of shit (and I stand by that and do not retract the statement), was birth lover's quote of the paragraph MADE ON A YAHOO post, NOT birth lover's own statements.

Birth lover asked what we thought about that YAHOO POST, and I said what I thought about it. It's a crock of shit.

Go back and re-read the earlier posts and you will see that.

The statements that I referred to as a crock of shit (and I stand by that and do not retract the statement), was birth lover's quote of the paragraph MADE ON A YAHOO post, NOT the zity.biz member's own statements.

Go back and re-read the earlier posts and you will see that.

I thought that was pretty clear myself.

Why would a moderator not be able to participate in any thread or post as a normal user would? It is exactly as said, ' a friendly and enjoyable site' and I've not seen anything posted by Switchablesusie which has not been friendly or enjoyable even if it is advising an OP not to stick a glass jar up their ass. She has every right to post on the site in jest or as a stern warning be it related to moderation on the board and/or the poster's sexual endeavours and experiences.

This sounds like something that just might have been from the flower power age and home birthing, when it was all about going back to nature and following natural processes and all that kind of philosophy. All well meant but not always very reasonable or practical.

And I'd bet on there being some tribal culture or another somewhere on this immense planet that at some time might very well have practiced this during childbirth. When it comes to ethnic anthropology and social customs, nothing is really inconceivable ...

But otherwise it sounds unlikely. Not that as an abstract idea the underlying reasoning isn't all that unreasonable, but rather that this would be the kind of thing that lands a doctor in jail and gets splashed all across the headlines of smut peddling publications. Just too juicy to pass up. Probably looks good on a DA's cv as well, catching a doctor performing this.

I have to agree with Suzie on this one. The posting on the Yahoo group, quoted here, is a crock of shit. Stimulating a woman's clit during labor would be considered sexual assault, and in the situation she's in, it's questionable whether she can legally even give consent for that.

Can we please stop the "let's gang up on Suzie" mentality? I frequently disagree with her point of view, but she calls them like she sees them, and while I may get angry in the moment, I'd much rather be on a forum where people can speak their mind than on one where we all have to be afraid, lest we offend.

The piece quoted was from a Yahoo forum, birth lover asked "what are your thoughts". She answered his question. Please note, she did not attack him personally.

And sometimes, whether you're a moderator or not, you just gotta call a crock of shit what it is.. a crock of shit.

you just gotta call a crock of shit what it is.. a crock of shit.

It's perfectly possible to state an opinion, very forcibly even, without being blunt and without using terms and words that not everyone approves of.

I must agree that the Yahoo story sounds incredibly unlikely. IF anything like that were ever actually considered, I would expect the doctor to recommend that the husband do the massaging, and offer to have everybody else leave the room!

That's an amazing idea...I guess if it really works...then I must say God has made a beautiful body....

Father of 6 kids, and assistant of 6 labors with 2 differents future mothers, I am sure the 2 mothers will never been relaxed by a clitoral stimulation,

and ABSOLUTELY NEVER had enjoy it sexually.

Some people here have to be warn that on internet it is possible to read lot of things about the same subject,

some will be serious, and some pure fantasy.

@ Arthur^^^ How true...A woman endures enough with childbirth/ delivery as it is .....There is simply too much to contend with at that time ....Clitoral stimulation is NOT one of them---Being both gross impropriety & unethical behaviour.

Apart from that...every likelihood of litigation against both professional attendant & facility....termination of tenancy....revocation of medical licence....Goodbye career !

As someone who has been in the labor ward in a professional capacity, I would have to agree with the majority of respondents. I saw a number of normal delivery and never once did the midwives or the doctor ever tried to stimulate or touch the woman's clitoris during labor.

As other have mentioned it would be seen as gross professional misconduct and they would soon be up before a professional standards committee with their career and reputation in tatters, not to mention facing criminal charges.

People can write or post what they want on the various forums, and while a lot do provide some factual information , a lot don't and some are just fantasies as I believe this is.

Speaking as a mother who delivered two daughters, drug free using the lamaze method, no way in hell, is my response. The birthing process is all consuming, and as the babies head moves downward blood flow is restricted, both times the doctor "stretched" the vagina, this was not painful, nor was the episiotomy. So with such a limited response to pain, clitoral stimulation much less orgasm? NO WAY IN HELL.

Just my opinion.

Three sons ... i just wanted them out ... i sure as hell didn't feel sexy ... or aroused ... not even close. No.

Had to reply.. Interesting subject, and also one I can verify.I was lucky to be with my eldest daughter at both her births, and the first one near the end and after having very strong contractions, they very nearly stopped altogether, the calm before the storm I guess.. The midwife did suggest my daughter stimulate her own nipples to encourage the contractions to start again! We had a laugh about it, and as she was already naked on all fours leaning up against pillows on the bed, she gave them a squeeze for a bit, it wasn't in the least awkward, as we knew why it was helping.My gorgeous grand daughter was born about half hour later over 9lbs in weight! Never heard of stimulating the clitoris though, that might be a little more embarrassing I guess..

This is a factual account!

Once again the fantasies of a birth fetish guy run up against the realities of life and modern medicine.

Wonder how many babies he's given birth to? I think I know.

In the throes of labor - I think clitoral stimulation would be the last thing on my mind. Yes, an orgasm does cause contractions and a rapid release of oxytocin, but there's nothing that would turn me on enough to even contimplate clitoral stimulation. Interesting thought though...

I'd just like to update from my initial post that rates have gone from 0.3 to 6% of woman now are estimated to have an orgasm while giving birth and that number is increasing. I think this increase has to do with the anonymous admittance the internet can provide in addition to the internet revealing it's more acceptable to be uninhibited and to worry about your needs first over modesty. Obviously lots of woman had horrible labors but that's the way society has made things to be for woman, crowded, brightly lit and stressful. A quiet, dim lit intimate atmosphere can draw on very different results but most woman have hospital births and subsequently would be less likely to experience this. I must say I love all the skeptic with child sized imaginations.

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/6-per-cent-of-women-orgasm-during-birth-study-suggests-a7015986.html

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/parenting/pregnancy/is-masturbation-the-secret-to-an-enjoyable-birth-really/news-story/2272dfe630c916a93f229570f9377dea

With my last child my husband gave me a clitoral orgasm at home about an hour and fifteen minutes before my baby was delivered! I had a speculum in my vagina and he was observing the effacement of my cervix. I was having some twinges but not in real labor prior to that orgasm. After that orgasm I went into labor faster than a cat covering crap. We made it to the hospital where I thought I'd drop in the parking lot. All went quick, snappy and safe. I recall that soft makeup brush and warm KY on my clitoris. I remember the thundering orgasm. And I'll never forget how fast things happened after that. Did the orgasm have anything to do with my labor. I have no idea! All I know I was in labor after that orgasm.

I doubt the Yahoo information about a doctor stimulating the clitoris of a woman in labor with her husband there is factual? Losing a license is one thing! Having his hands cut off by an angry and jealous husband after the fact would have been a logical finish to that story perhaps? Things more vengeful than that have happened.

I do remember a doctor here in the US being charged and losing his license for bringing women to climax while they were delivering. This was close to 30 years ago, iirc. I can't remember what he was charged with... molestation? But he did go to prison.

A Dr. I called on and told that my wife was overdue to deliver, said that there were 3 things I could do at home to help start her into labor: 1. Rigorous intercourse. 2 Sucking her breasts. 3 Giving her large enemas. I told him I didn't think there was any way in hell she'd agree to any of those methods.