Gaping asshole, woman only?

Hi I have a question about the gaping asshole you see in all movies with woman having anal sex toys. After the toy comes out the ass stays open and you can clearly see the circle opening and look inside. Then inserting another toys is easy as pie. When I toy around my butt with large butt plugs, I can handle 8.5inch/22cm circumference, I am not seeing my hole as open as in the movies, yes I have a hand held mirror laying on the floor. My butt closes right away, not even staying open for a slit second. 😢

What is going on here? Is a female butt different then a guy's butt? Is there a way to practice to control the sphincter?

I would like to have a wide open butt so my larger toys can get in easier. 😃

Hi!

There is a trick. Usually you see the gape when the girl has her butt way up and head and shoulders down (doggy style or she's lying on her back on her partner with legs pulled back and ass in the air). That way the gravity is pulling the guts downwards away from the gape and there is room for the rectum to stay open. If the intestines are higher then the asshole the gravity squishes everything down and the rectum collapses and stays closed. So, basically any pose where liquid would stay in your butt (if you poured it in) should enable you to keep the gape. However, to keep the sphincter opened you need to learn to keep it opened, not just relaxed, and yes, some of the ladies in the industry have amazing sphincter control. Happy exploring!

. . . try it, because that's how it works.

Good luck and even more fun.

What afternine said. That is how it works for me. That position is one of my favorite parts of anal play. I will use a finger or a toy to wake up my ass while in that position and then concentrate on relaxing and opening up. Once I’m there my hole opens enough to draw air back in and expand the area just inside. It’s almost a zen like place of relaxation. From there for me anal play is a mix of heightened relaxation intense feeling and being turned on by being kinky

I've often had the same question as the OP. I'm glad to have read the explanation. At 74 years old I don't know how well I can attain the needed position; but, I'll sure be trying as I'd like to know if I can do this. Let the fun begin!

Hey,

I'm 76 and have been able to achieve a gape but it takes patients and practice.

One of my dear friends is an Asian lady with slender hands, after loosing up with a vibe I have her slowly fist me anally with a well lubed gloved hand. Frankly it feels fantastic. Anyway after an 'O' and having her remove her hand quickly I was able to get the 'gape'

I was nealing with my head down - butt up.

@BigJane

I was nealing with my head down - butt up.

:-)