Telling a professional you like wearing diapers

So I've been seeing a shrink lately for things not diaper related. I'm 29 y/o and recently found out I have a debilitating heart condition. I've always been very active and always kind of was the guy that people could rely on. I was that proverbial rock, couldn't be swayed. I was always strong physically and mentally. I'm a combat veteran having spent 3 years in war zones as an infantryman. I've always had a thing for diapers and I think that kind of made me want to prove my status as a badass. Now, I need to always "take it easy." I'm going to be out of work for awhile which I hate. I have a handicap placcard for my car which I try to not use. But worst of all, I can't go on adventures anymore. I had plans on hiking up Cadillac Mountain this summer. Not so much anymore. I used to hunt a certain summit every opportunity I had. I may never have that opportunity ever again. If I ever go tuna or marlin fishing again, I can't reel in the fish. What's the point of that? To make things worse, I actually need to wear a diaper of some sort if I'm going to be away from a bathroom for any length of time. It's not so enjoyable when you want to wear a pull-up for discression, but realize that changing in a public restroom will require taking off your pants. Anyhow, I've thought about bringing up the diaper thing to my head doc but really, I still enjoy wearing for the most part and don't have any desire to change that. It used to get in the way of any long-term intimate relationships but now I have a legitimate need and if a girl can't accept that, she can fuck off as far as I'm concerned. Besides, until I have a few surgeries, my drill sergeant doesn't exactly stand at attention anyhow. I already take my shrink to some dark places in my life so I think I'll just allow him to help me with the real problem areas.

I saw a Psychologist back in 1985, to see if there was anyway to rid myself of this. The short answer was no. This lady was very special, and she did regression therapy with me and got me to to understand where this began, as well as herself. The outcome was that is an innocent thing to do and as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else, just do it.

I am now in therapy again, in which I went For other issues. Well, my baby side and my cross dressing side had to come out and she is fine with all of this. she didn't understand at first, but has gone to look at articles on the internet. She also knows I am submissive, and she has no problem with any of it. We are now trying to mesh all of these things together so that my life is more comfortable to live as I am. I did come to accept myself many years ago, and the first therapist I saw told me that in order to like others, I needed to like myself first, and then learn to love myself. Believe me, this made things much easier to accept.

I told my phyciatrist, he found it quite intriging.

I just got done talking to a phyciatrist yesterday, I opened up a lot to him I will call him Doc R. in this Story at 10:35 AM I met with Doc R. he new about diaper wearing and wanted to see if some of incontinence was cause by some traumatic experience in my life. Doc R. is trained in hypnotherapy and this was are forth meeting, upon this meeting he had me go back to a time when I was four years old We were at my Aunt Clara's house all of her kids were 7 to 12 years old so there was no need for her to have a potty training chair. Now I was beening potty trained and was almost there at the stage of no more training pants well I felt the need to go poop and wanted every one to see what a big boy I was so went into the bathroom climbing on to the toilet facing the tank and held on to the tank while I made poo poo in the toilet but as I started to climb I started to V and fall into the toilet bowl there I in a V shape my back was pinched against the toilet seat my butt was in poopy water I was crying and everyone was in the frontroom laughing not hearing my cries for help. Finally someone said "quite it sounds like Jimmy is crying when they found me my butt was wet my back was red and from that day on I have real affaird to sit on a toilet. I did for a short time when I was older. But something has happened to bring these memories back and now I wear diapers 24/7

When my father found out that I liked to wear diapers and be a baby ( at the age of 16) He made me go see a shrink twice a week and talk about things. It was horrible. The doctor ( a nice women) would want to roleplay with me about why I wanted to wear diapers and be a baby. She said if I wanted to come diapered that was ok. I had to talk about my parents and growing up and all those things. I resented it. I resented her. I resented my father for putting me through it all.

Looking back I feel bad for giving the doctor such a hard time. She was only trying to do her job. I just wasnt ready to face those demons when I was 16. Im 38 now and those demons are non existant. There is nothing wrong with what my wife and I do. We are concenting adults. I know how it got started, why I went the way I did. Even though it was a rough go at times i doubt I would change anything.

My therapist was very helpful in getting me to accept my fetish. He is bisexual and I think that made him a little more open-minded about sexual differences. For me, therapy has been a wonderful experience.

I have a hard time wondering why you were so upset that you had to see a female " shrink" that not only was ok with wearing diapers and to her office yet and was also willing to role play with you. I'm 63 and when I was 3 I was into wearing my younger brothers' cloth diapers and plastic pants or just the plastic pants when they wouldn't fit over diapers. When my parents found my stash of plastic pants from between the mattress or under my pillow I would get the belt from my dad and my mom would hit me with whatever was handy and yell and would roughly pull the plastic pants on me and tug on the waist band until they ripped or would tear them up in front of me They finally took me to a shrink when i was around five and i don't remember whether it was a male or female and what was even said. but that started years of going to therapy mostly to male psychiatrists or phsycologists that never understood. Now I've been seeing a female sexologist who understands the this not just a mere fetish but that a huge part of me will always want to feel and be treated as a baby/toddler and will never give up my precious cloth diapers and plastic pants or any of my other baby stuff. I just wish i had had a female shrink that was accepting of my need and was willing to role play. I would have saved my a whole lot of wasted years tyring to accept who who I am.

I was 16 and not quit ready to talk with anyone let alone a shrink about why I liked to masturbate in a diaper while fantasized about being babied. I was more then a little embarrassed. Besides anything I told her she would tell my dad. Being a Sargent Major with the Canadian Forces, I don't think his ego could handle his having a son who liked to wear diapers.

It took some time but I know who I am and would love to sit back down with her knowing what I know now.

I just want you to know that as a professional therapist anything you would have told her would have been strictly confidential. If anything you had told her in confidence had gotten back to your father she could have lost her licence. fyi

Im pretty sure because I was still concidered a minor that that rule doesnt apply.

I never realized how many little fetishes I really had until I started surfing around the Zity Site. Somehow, as I grew up, these "little secretes" never seemed to interfere with my psychological comfort level or happiness. Maybe I was just lucky. The thing I like best about this site is I can "talk" openly. That in and of itself is extremely therapeutic.

I saw a psycho-sexual counsellor, as she called herself, back in the late 80's but had difficulty opening up.

Back then i was also having issues with accepting being (primarily/mostly) gay and in England at that time it could still get you put in jail or in a psych ward for "evaluation". Even had one guy pull a knife on me when he heard as i was talking to a friend at a bar.

Took part in a bdsm/fetish study at the end of the 80's for someone doing a paper but it wa mostly 'simple' bdsm type stuff - guess they hadn't lifted the bed covers to see what was really under there. 😉

Saw another shrink in the early 90's, a hypno-therapist, and again i just couldn't feel comfortable opening up - was still in england and was concerned about being "sectioned" as they called it, i.e. put under observation for protection.

After moving to the US in the mid 90's i saw someone, recommended through a friend, that had been on the bdsm scene but (regrettably) still had difficulty fully opening up. (Many of my ab/dl and fetish thoughts intermix and some can get 'messy' [no pun intended] or heavy). She said she felt i was abused as an infant. I stopped going as, without being open i couldn't see the point in continuing - and i was (still am sort-of) embarassed/ashamed of some of my desires and wants.

The first one seemed to have no problem with diapers but she would try and talk me out of wearing them because it was hurting me. She told me things like diapers are bulky and uncomfortable and even babies try and take them off. The one I saw in high school seemed to be against it because he said it was inappropriate and regressing. He compared them to drugs and guns. In a way he is correct that diapers are like drugs because it's addicting. Once you start, you cannot stop and you get urges to wear them and it gets stronger and stronger. People even steal them just like how people steal money or things for drugs or steal medicine from people who need it because it's a drug they have that are prescribed to them.

But the last two I saw had no problems with it and thought it was "interesting."

This is my NON professional opinion about diaper wearing and any other fetish that takes us out of the bedroom and into the real world.... These types of fetishes may not be harmful to you BUT they do limit you to a degree and restrict your acceptance in society and let's face it, being accepted in society IS far easier than not being accepted. This sucks, I know, but it's the truth.

Now there will be many reading this and thinking "who cares" and to a certain extent I agree but when a fetish overpowers you to the point where it takes you out of the bedroom and into the real world where people may have hard time dealing with it, it now becomes a detriment to your relationships be-it professional or otherwise. This forces many people to change their lifestyle in order to accommodate their fetish which leads to lost relationships and awkwardness. I believe the original poster is TRYING to keep his fetish from overpowering him so if this is the case BRAVO.

Like I said, MY opinion but a fetish should not control you. It should not hinder your desire to integrate yourself into society whether it is a little or a lot. I'm into huge toy play and for me it's a pleasurable sensation and yes, a fetish but sometimes I find myself doing nothing all day but play with toys and challenge my ass and yes it's fun and yes it feels good but at the end of the day what have I really accomplished? I hate that feeling because when I ask myself this question, the answer is always "nothing". I stayed in the house all day and shoved huge dildos in my ass when I could have been outside enjoying life and friends and family etc..... This is why I decided to post my opinion and this is what I struggle with from time to time. In a way I can relate to the OP and I would wholeheartedly recommend that he continue to see his therapist but with the ultimate goal of keeping the fetish in check and not let it consume his life.

Keep your eye on the big picture and maintain a healthy perspective. That's what it really is all about

I think if you are lucky to have a supportive partner who doesn't care if you wear the or not and your family or anyone you live with and you have no problem wearing diapers everywhere or going without one every now and then or have no problems going without one for work or something, then you are good and there is no impairment there. If anyone discovers you wear them, they normally don't say anything about it and they just assume it's medical.

I think the whole AB/DL thing is a disorder for some if it runs their life and they put their diapers and baby stuff first. Sometimes I think this is a mental illness because it's not something we can just quit and we feel compelled to doing it and because this is so abnormal and lot of people don't understand it, it causes us problems for relationships because people then feel they are with a baby instead of with a grown up and it's a turn off for them.

UNQUESTIONABLY, NEVER tell a professional anything about your fetishes.

The ONLY EXCEPTION would be if you did something that accidentally injured yourself and that knowledge would help them to treat you, but in most cases it won't. Just let them treat the problem. There is no sense in voicing all your proclivities.

If it isn't an emergency and you still need medical attention, look for a KINK FRIENDLY PHYSICIAN.

https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/index.php?option=com_sobi2&catid=15

https://ncsfreedom.org/component/content/article/544-the-kink-aware-professionals-directory.html

http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=kink+friendly+physician&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

I wouldn't recommend EVER telling a therapist about your fetishes of any kind because you never know where their notes will end up.Despite HIPAA, doctor-patient privacy is dead. Nothing is off the record and what you say can come back to haunt you years or even decades later. Everything is on the computer and much is available on the internet in one location or another.

Circumstances must be different in the USA when it comes to Medical Records Susie. My best Friend is also my Oncologist and several times he has allowed me to review my files. Pretty boring stuff and no mention of my years of Psychiatric help with my diaper fetish as a teenager. Now this may be as you say a kink friendly Psychiatrist that did not want this in a teenage boys records following him for life. My records do show my MVA and my stay in hospital (192 days) and the notations of most likely life time incontinence from spinal nerve damage. This is something that has come into play many times when I have returned to hospital battling my current little health issues. I get a lot of solace from my diapers and being able to use them as I like without the usual investigations by the health care professionals.

I just recently went for an intake appointment at the VA and talked to a therapist intern. She's mid thirties and was very kind. I opened up to her a little about the diapers and she asked me if I wanted some ongoing therapy sessions to talk more about it. I told her I would be interested, so I'm going in two weeks.

Should I go diapered, or not? I'm wondering if being diapered would help me be in touch with why I wear them and how they make me feel, but am a bit embarrassed. Suggestions?

Wetnbulky,

If it were me I think I would keep it professional and not go diapered, otherwise it could be viewed as pushing professional boundaries. Just my first impression, and speaking as a professional.

I'm not concerned about pushing boundaries so much because for me diapers aren't always a sexual thing, and especially not at a therapy visit. I get a feeling of security and acceptance from wearing them and/or telling someone about them when that person is open minded and understanding. I think that's one of the goals of therapy anyway. I will probably not wear the first visit and see how it goes. If I have a hard time being honest and open, I may try wearing a diaper and seeing if it helps.

Okay, so I've been to this girl therapist now for three sessions or so. Haven't worn diapers, and now that I've had time to think about it I don't know that I would enjoy it. It loses something when they know its by choice (for me anyway).

She's awesome, and asking some very intimate questions. I'm enjoying the process so far.

I do wonder sometimes how much this fetish has and will affect my dating life. On the other hand, it also seems like it's a part of me, whether I like it or not. I'm not sure a professional would be able to eliminate that part of me.

I do wonder sometimes how much this fetish has and will affect my dating life. On the other hand, it also seems like it's a part of me, whether I like it or not. I'm not sure a professional would be able to eliminate that part of me.

If you want to share your fetish with your wife or other long term partner, it is going to affect your dating life a lot.

NO professional shrink or otherwise is going to eliminate it from your list of desires.

I did therapy years ago. I found that diapers were a symptom. My real issues dealt with family, self esteem, a repressed feelings. After dealing with these the diaper fetish became just a facet of my uniqueness. There is a world of difference between dysfunctional and abnormal. The first thing to get your head around is that no one is normal. We all have issues, features, peculiarities that make us unique. What we need to watch for is whatever we are doing that gets in the way of living our lives.

I've told a therapist before, didnt really seem to phase him and he didn't see it as a problem, this alarmed me quite a bit but now I've decided to embrace my feelings and be free

It's my choice. I like wearing 24\7. I'am incontinent, it's almost a waist of time, it's fun, a secure feeling. Oh well, what others think!

I told my shrink. Nothing came from it. She was not phased by it one bit.

Once I became incontinent any feelings of guilt and shame disappeared and it was easy just to enjoy it from then on so apart from the medical profession knowing about my incontinence I'll keep my enjoyment of it to myself.

I also went to a therapist for my diaper problem and it was a little embarrashing at first but she said there was nothing wrong with wearing diapers at all and she never said anything bad to me

I'm fully incontinent but I'm also an AB/DL and wearing diapers is very sexual for me as well. I've also gone through many of the same feelings as others and I never really started to accept this side of me until I started receiving professional help. Of course it took years for me to find the right people but currently I'm seeing a psychiatrist, and a professional counselor and they're both helping me understand more about how I became an AB/DL in the first place.