Telling a professional you like wearing diapers

I have gone through all the same feelings as everyone else, guilt, shame, feeling sick and alone.

I finally began to search for a therapist that would help me deal with the diaper issue, but as you can Imagine, I had talked to probably 10 therapists before I could get one that would agree to talk about this issue. Most of them said there was nothing they could do but frankly, I think the topic freaked most of them out and since most had never even heard of this issue, I'm sure they related it with children somehow. Which we all know is not true. I finally contacted a therapist that agreed to see me. (I would only talk to a female therapist because I just felt way out of place talking to a male therapist about my wearing diapers).

The person I see now seems to have no problem talking about this issue and we have started from my first diaper desire to my loving the smell of pissy diapers to the sexual feelings I get from diapers to wanting a Mommy, etc. I also told her I would not wear a diaper to therapy as it is a sexual thing and I would probably start to hope she would want to change me. She said she understood but if I felt that wearing a diaper to therapy would help, that she would have no problem with it. I immediately told her that her statement will get me to thinking she is encouraging my fantasy (I hoped). She said she was only trying to help me feel comfortable in dealing with any guilt or shame I might have over my diaper desires. She is wonderful. But I will continue to keep things professional even though now (deep down) I am beginning to hope this actually turns her on. I will probably ask her directly because she encourages me to be open with all my diaper feelings at all times. Regardless of where this goes, it has been a great experience for me to sit with and woman and openly discuss every detail of my diaper life. She has actually helped me to understand that my diaper desires are no big deal and she likened it to a man with a desire to dress as a woman. She said diaper fetishes, while maybe not as mainstream as other fetishes, are just as harmless and if that's what I like than what's the big deal. No matter where the desire comes from, that is who I am and should not feel bad about it.

Whew.........I feel like I just had another therapy session.......anyway, she has helped me to accept who I am and what I like to do. It has and will continue to be a very good thing to be able to discuss this very openly with someone outside the diaper world. I recommend this to anyone......

Peter

I agree with one point the therapist had.. Most of these desires by ab's or dl's do not harm anyone.. They would be similar to someone who loves oral sex or a certain position, or a man that has a thing for women wearing stockings. Nobody thinks ill of these desires. There are far more kinky fetishes out there than diapers and rubber pants that are accepted as main stream. Why??

I talked to probably therapists before all i could get out of them was to put me on drugs, I told them no , they put me in hosptial and stated me on them then relase me 2 weeks later. I still wear nappies and stop the drugs, but I am now affaids to go to the doctor again..

Be sure that when you are telling a therapist that the confidentiality agreement between you and him stands. If you are a minor, and the professional that you are seeing tells your parents there may be little recourse for you in terms of preventing that professional from damaging another patient's life. Trust your intuition, and don't tell him out of guilt, tell him out of a place in yourself that wants to better understand its inner workings. Telling someone out of guilt can make you hate yourself even more because now you have to live with the person that knows your inner-most, deepest secrets. Be sure that you trust them that they can help you with it and you know that they have integrity.

My father wanted me to go to a therapist he knew-- talk about feeling set up-couldn't tell him anything about my fetish- told him That my father was a tyrant and control freak-the therapist was no help, I've found more info reading on the internet and what others have to say on forums, but this is the first time I've really tried to communicate on a forum--more helpful than the thereapist!

Years ago, when I was in the US Army, I told my commanding officer about my fetish and was sent for a psyche evaluation with Army psychologist. The interesting thing is that they had absolutely NO IDEA about the fetish.

I was asked if I was a pedophile, atracted to children, which I responded with a resounding, "NO I was not".

Then I was asked, "WHY"

I didn't know then, what I do know now. Probably the reason I'm the way that I am with this fetish called Psycho Sexual Deviant Behavior - Infantilism is because I didn't have a real childhood or wasn't allow to be a baby and kid growning up. I was thrusted into adulthood by my single working mother and had to care for myself from a very early age.

I remember having a babysitter when I was preschool, but as soon as I started elementary school, I had to come home, clean the house and prepare myself a meal and get the supplies ready, necessary for my mother to cook dinner for us ready.

My mother would be returning home for a split-shift of work. About 2-4 hours to prepare a meal, relax a little and get me ready for be, before having to return back to work, after putting me to bed.

I had a friend that had a big sister, that would constantly offer my mother to babysit, only she had alterior motives. I would pick on her brother, since he was a bedwetter and she wanted her revenge and she got it one weekend when my mother took her up on her offer.

I was 9 and Bobby's sister dared me to steal diapers off a neighbors clothesline and I accepted and ended up in diapers all weekend long. That's my earliest recollection of being in diapers, but it wouldn't be my last

Me personally I have found that most therapists are not very much help. Councilors either for that matter. A little info about me I have AD/HD and anger management issues. although I have gotten a lot better about my anger. out of all the meeting with my shrinks there was only one useful bit of info that I EVER got. And I give this info to anyone that has AD/HD or knows someone who has, or either has a child or knows someone who has a child with AD/HD.

The medications never helped me enough to deal with the side effects. Here are some of the side effects I had

One med made me overly aggressive

one I had to do blood tests at least every 2 weeks to make sure it wasn't poisoning me(one visit the doc told me to stop taking it before he even got the blood to the lab)

One made me the insomniac I am today.(started it my freshman year and at one point only got about 8-10 hours of sleep a week, if lucky. at one point I went 2 weeks without sleep. The show House was not right no sleep for 10 days wont kill you but it was wearing on my sanity don't think i fully recovered from it)

Now for the real advice. One of my councilors also had / and she said the thing that helped her the most was a cup of coffee in the morning. I have been drinking coffee since I was 11 years old. and no coffee does NOT stunt your growth, either that or I was supposed to be 7 feet tall. I am 6'3" and I was 6'2" entering high school and 5'5" when I started drinking coffee.

I keep thinking I should be come a councilor. I have a very open mind about things and if there is truly no harm in what someone is doing I don't see a problem. Example right now I am sitting in a chair wearing almost solid black. my shirt skirt and socks are black, my underwear is grey and my vinyl underpants and white. Oh and I am male, but wearing a skirt and vinyl underpants doesn't harm anyone, except for maybe me if I am not careful, so what could possibly be the problem. Oh and I can usually come up with some form of advice for anyone seeking it. Feel free to send me a private message if you have something you wanna ask. I check the board and the forums daily.

When I was a older teenager and first started trying on diapers again, I felt a lot of guilt and shame doing it. I think this is what diaper training mostly does to you. Mommy shames you into not wanting to wear diapers and become potty trained. Now I look back on those shamefull times and the thought of it is a turn on to me. I like it but wonder why.

I went to a woman therapist once. I thought it would be good to talk to someone about my diaper wearing desires and secretly hoped someone would understand me. She wanted to cure me but only wanted to talk about everything but diapers. I didn't want to be cured and became bored and quit.

I agree that there is nothing wrong with having a diaper fetish. As long as you can live a normal enough life to get along in society and take care of yourself.

I am a male and have discussed very open and freely to two different Male Therapists, neither ever tried to force me to quit, they worked more on helping me reduce my guilt and accept myself as I am. I love my diapers, and they are and probably always will be a big part of my life.

Has anyone had an experience in telling a professional counselor or therapist about their fetish or AB interests? i want to tell mine but i am so scared that she wont understand or will never have heard of it and im not good at explaining things, plus its just awkward. im also scared she will try to deter me from meeting mommy, but i can choose whether or not i tell her about that. so what have your experiences been with telling any professionals about this? good or bad i want to know

One time I told a therapist about my diapers and she was ok with it because I did not allow wear diapers to consume me and because I only wore them occasionally. I think she would flip out now if she knew that all I want to do is wear diapers instead of panties.

No kind of fetishism is really considered a sexual disorder. Fetishes (or paraphilias, the term psychologists tend to prefer) are only considered a problem if it interferes with your daily living. I wouldn't even bother telling a therapist, especially if it doesn't relate to why I'm seeing him/her.

I told my doctor, she was not very supportive, and did not seem to really understand the issue, I even wore my diapers to her office once, she did not really understand the power of the compulsion.

I finally did tell my therapist... i printed out some literature on AB/DL and highlighted what applied to me... she said she treated another AB about 20 years ago so she had heard of it, which was a big relief to me. she didnt ask too many questions and never discussed it in a judgemental or embarrassing way, i was pleased with her reaction. she said it helped her make sense of alot of things that i have told her previously and she understands how everything fits together. im really glad i finally told her, its hard to keep a secret for so long.

Atomixpro is right. As long as it doesn't affect interpersonal relationships, hygiene, financial standing or any function of your daily life, it isn't a problem. A therapist who stands by the proper conventions of counseling will bypass the diaper fetish unless it was in any way related to the reason you're seeking counseling. It's more prudent for the session to stay relevant to the problem, and keep it in the direction you want.

You have hired this professional to help you. You should be able to count on his/her professionalism. Your use of diapers may be material in understanding your problem, so not telling may sabotage your treatment. I would consider talking about it in a general way first, "I heard about ...". The therapist will probably know you're warming up to the subject and encourage you to go deeper. If they have a really strong reaction, you probably need to find a different therapist. Your use of diapers is probably pretty important and you should find someone who can help you deal with the issues that relate to all facets of your life. You should be in control of your relationship with your therapist, even if there are other things that you don't want to be in control of.

I have gone through years to therapy with all kinds of professionals to no avail.But right now I'm seeing a sexologist, three sessions so far. Not to cure my desire to be an adult baby but to find a way to have a gf to share my ab desires with. I am so sick of being alone with these really strong feelings of wanting to treated like a 18 month old to a stubborn un-potty trained six year old.

After I finally broke down and told my wife everything, diapers, wetting, bottles, pooping etc., I told her that I planned to see a therapist. I intentionally picked a female and one that specialized in "sexual" issues. That is a key in getting someone that a) can understand the issue and b) isn't going to try and change you (and I don't mean in the physical sense). It was wonderful. I finally got to talk to someone that understood how strong the desire was, how embarrassing and humiliating the need was. I got to finally express what I really wanted and needed to another humanbeing and didn't have to worry about being rejected. She never even suggested I change but wanted to work on two areas: the why, and the accept. She felt that if I could understand why I needed to be babied that I would finally accept who I was, and at that point, if I still wanted to wear a diaper, do so and enjoy it. Guess what it worked. I finally was free to explore my most deep desires knowing that I wasn't going crazy. I would suggest to anyone that fights the desires to the point of depression at times, seek out someone to talk to.

I have been sent to professionals before my doctor told my sisters it was a medical need. most of them are understanding and want to help you,so if you feel the need go ahead and tell them.

I told my professional about being an infantilist and wearing them for the feeling of being conforted and nurtured. I thought it would shock him. Instead he listened and said "We can go back and get into that issue if your wish,

When my mom first found out she sent me to a doctor, but after I told the doctor about my desires she said something wonderful, "as long as your not hurting anyone, I don't see any real problem". It was the first positive response I'd ever gotten.

I went to a therapist that was supposed to be a specialist in sexual fetishes. She told me that what I said would be kept strictly confidential. It turns out that I also have depression and when I went to see a different psychologist at that same practice he was able to see what I had confessed to this specialist. In addition, the few times that I did see her she told me that this fetish was wrong and I should be ashamed of it. She wanted to find a way to rid it all together. However, it was evident that she didn't have any experience with this. She was pulling articles off of Wiklipedia and similar sites to read them to me in sessions. Needless to say, I stopped going to see this person and it makes me paranoid to deal with others in this field.

Well Bobby, I'm glad you left that therapist. I would have told you to get out of there fast if you were still there. It's rotten you had such an experience, if they had any care about you, they should have sent you to someone they thought had experience dealing with your issues. They may have just wanted the money, and didn't want to lose that. Whatever the case, safe to say that person was an idiot. There are good therapist and bad, so if you feel you need to talk to one, don't give up because you got hooked up with the bad one. But, I do understand not wanting to trust another. If there is a next time, try and feel them out first. Ask them questions about there knowledge of this subject, if you feel they don't know much about it, get out then. If they are worth anything, they won't mind your asking what they know about it. But do keep in mind, there really isn't much known by professionals on the subject on a whole. But, still if they are good at what they do, it shouldn't matter, they need to deal with your feelings more then the mechanics of what your wearing and using. Good luck in the future.

You have nothing to lose by telling a therapist. It's confidential and if they react badly, you can leave. There's no need to worry about losing them like you could if a friend took it badly. Besides, if they can't help you with difficult stuff like this, what good are they anyways.

My therapist was the first I told. I knew about the AB/DL fetish at the time but her reassuring me that she didn't think I was any danger to hurting others made me feel a lot better. This eventually helped give me the courage to tell my mom and now we get along better than ever.

And another psychiatrist I see told me nothing will shock him after I told him.

So in short, go for it.

I did go to a professional twice and each time I came out wanting to wear my diapers and plastic pants more. Even now at 60 years of age the urge to wear my diapers is just as strong as when I was in my teens.

I told my therapist about it, he didn't really know anything about it so I got to teach him a bit which was kinda fun. At first it seemed a little out of his comfort zone just like I was out of my comfort zone telling him but he does ask how things go which is neat. He didn't think it was bad for me when he looked back in his notes and there was a dramatic improvement in my condition. Plus I told him that I try to balance things out. A good therapist should try to work with you, not 'cure' you.

I would like to echo many of these comments that support telling your therapist.

I recently spoke with two different therapists. The first was a psychiatrist who was very supportive. It was the first time I had seen any kind of mental health expert -- she could tell I was struggling to get it out. To help me, she said something like, you can't imagine what I've heard. After our first conversation, it was apparent that I did not need drugs and so she recommended a Psychologist.

This initial conversation made it much easier to speak with the therapist.

After the initial discussion, her question to me was what do I want to do about it. Remove it from my life, manage it better or cope better. After reading so much I really felt I wanted to cope with my diapers and feelings better. That's what we're working on now.

I went to a psychologist,

Strange but on the very first session I spilled everything. The diapers, spanking and my fascination with punishment.

He was shocked, he said it takes forever for most folks to tell that much. I believed that I was going to him to help find the answer to why I am the way I am. My the end of the therapy he made me see that I am the way I am and understanding it doesn't change it. He truly believed that I was not hurting myself nor anyone else. He said that repressing my desires would cause me greater pain in the end. He recommended an SSRI that helps balance my moods and it works to help be keep from crashing into depression.

If more therapist were like him the world would be a better place.

I remember going to a similar person years ago. (whats the difference between a shrink and a psychologist btw?)

Anyway, by the second or third time I told him that I was interested in diapers and for some reason I stopped going after that. Don't know why.

I was a kid then (I think thirteen at the most) was he allowed to tell my mom what I told him?

Like I said its been at LEAST ten years now, so forgive me for the lack of details :p

I went to a Urologist and told him I leek pee (I don't !), he gave me some pills and sent me to some tests.

I told him I'm not going to use the pills, so he offered me to use pads. my wish was that he will offer a diaper but he said that for some drops I don't need one.

may be next time.