Dad at gyno exam

Watching my daughter give birth was different emotionally than when my wife gave birth to her. It did not include the erotic response that watching my wife included.

Thanks, personally i dont find any aspect of labour erotic just painful and anxious. Certainly husband didnt find it erotic either.

Thanks, personally i dont find any aspect of labour erotic just painful and anxious. Certainly husband didnt find it erotic either.

I was at the birth of both of my children and certainly didn't find it erotic in any way at all...

My daughter got pregnant at 17 so we cared for her at home during her pregnancy. She went with her mother to a scheduled exam late in her pregnancy. The doctor surprised her by informing her that she was in labor and was already about 5 centimetres dilated. She had had no sensation of labor so when she was sent to delivery, she did not have anything with her. I was called and told to get her bag of cloths and other things she needed and bring it to the hospital. I was let into her room because she had just begun to have labor pains. Her mother and boyfriend (who a couple years later became her husband) were there. Then the pain really began to kick in and she did not want me to leave. She did not want to have anything to do with her boyfriend, she just want to hold my hand (I still have the marks her fingernails left in my hand 😉. She was in hard labor for only about 4 hours and I was with her the entire time and saw the birth of my first grandson. It was definitely harder emotionally for me watching her than the two times that I attended when my wife gave birth because, now at 18, I still viewed my daughter as "daddy's little girl".

Some of the responses here are so emotional I feel.

Even though I have never been in a childbirth situation but I still feel we ladies/daughters cannot understand enough, how dads feel mentally and emotionally watching the birth.

Some of the responses here are so emotional I feel.

Even though I have never been in a childbirth situation but I still feel we ladies/daughters cannot understand enough, how dads feel mentally and emotionally watching the birth.

I was present at all my sons births.. First one was Boyer method. Second was a long labor that required an episiotomy. Got to deliver the third with doc over my shoulder.. All three were incredible experiences! Yes emotional! ?

I think it’s OK for dad to take her to the exam but not to be in the room while she is having the exam

No never have. I did not even have my mom when I went for my one.

I don't think it should be a problem when the dad is present during the initial part of the exam (questions with doctor).

When she has to undress, the dad can just ask what she rather has. There are a lot of families where nudity is normal and she might also like the support. It is also different if the dad is just somewhere in the room or is really looking between her legs.

Also, I could say the same thing for a mother or if a boy needs to have an exam of his penis. I know that I would rather not have a parent present during a penis exam.

In the Girl wants it and is okay with it, then i see no Problem with it

I don't think it should be a problem when the dad is present during the initial part of the exam (questions with doctor)

Actually this is more important that she be able to build a relationship with the dr and feel total free to talk with the dr in confidence.

Is she really wanted a parent present then step in after questions and hang out at the head end or behind curtain.

No. It is not something I would have welcomed once I got to that level of examination. It has nothing to do with "sexualization" of the exam but rather allowing for one to be maximally at ease to exchange information and be examined. I also think that moms' don't view their adolescent son's exam either for the same reasons. Just my opinion.

I wouldn't want to be in the room with my daughter. The thought kinda creeps me out. I wouldn't want to be in the room if she was in labor either although I was present for my kids births. I think there are some things dads don't need to see and that is one in my book

I wouldn't want to be in the room with my daughter. The thought kinda creeps me out. I wouldn't want to be in the room if she was in labor either although I was present for my kids births. I think there are some things dads don't need to see and that is one in my book

Absolutely agree, the thought creeps me out too. I can't think of any reason as to why father would need to be present during his teenage daughters gyn exam.

I never had a gynecology exam until I was pregnant in 1973. My husband was with me and that was my request. Would I have wanted my father to be there then or before that. Hello No!

No never... never want my father to be there. A Daddy/husband might be another story.

A dad there would be really weird...my dad didn't even take me to check ups.

That would be too weird, not to mention intimidating for any of my daughters and certainly not conducive to allowing them to feel comfortable exchanging information with the Dr.

I cannot think of dad seeing me in gyno chair. Sounds like a scary dream that I would never want to happen. It's my sister, mom or any other known lady who accompany me to the exam room

The other side of the coin here.

@julie13 Agreed, how could one be fully at ease? Unfortunately my mother didn't think like that at the time. The last exam she came into the exam room for was my first exam as a very pubescent 12 year old. I didn't close my eyes shut but I definitely was looking anywhere but at her, so embarrassed, because I didn't want to know if she was watching what the doctor was doing to me. I know it was not a gynecological exam but I felt like I was as thoroughly exposed, manipulated, and spread open as a young teen boy could be. The next full physical exam I had, I told her I was old enough to go into the exam room by myself, luckily she agreed.

It should be up to the patient. Most would say 'No' to having fathers in the room. I would have gone with my daughter if necessary when she was younger. She didn't get her first pelvic exam until she was in her 20s, and by that time, she didn't need me. If I had gone, I would have sat by her head, and not looked at the business going on between her legs.

Interesting story, though. When I was a resident, a pretty 15 year old girl came in with lower abdominal pain and vaginal bleeding. Her father brought her. After I did the initial exam, I told her that I would be doing a pelvic exam. I asked her if she wanted her dad to leave the room. She said she didn't care, so dad stayed.

I did the exam on her. I think she was scared about her pain and bleeding, but didn't really seem to care that her dad was there. Dad, on the other hand, looked immensely uncomfortable with the situation.

As I posted on the other thread about Dads and doctor visits, my daughter prefers that her step-Dad, @Deviant1 , take her to her doctor's appointments. She recently had her first GYN appointment and asked Dev to take her. She's 16, so she didn't get a complete pelvic exam, but the doctor did examine her breasts and do a vulvar exam. She insisted that Dev stay in the room with her, which is normal for her, and neither of them was weirded out by it. He did step out while she gave her sexual history, which is much shorter than mine was at her age, and for the domestic violence questions, but he was ushered right back in by the MA after that.

The doctor was fine with Dev's presence, as she knows him professionally, and is of the opinion that her patients can have whomever they want in the room with them to make them feel more comfortable.

I haven't had a parent in a gynecologist exam ever. I was 18 for my first one, and had my second one ever at 29 in another state across the country. If they ask, I will tell them what goes on, even as an adult.

My dad was the one who talked to me about using condoms. He took a condom out and demonstrated by putting it on two fingers. It was awkward (I was in middle school), but looking back, I think its sweet that he cares enough to do the awkward things. I'm pretty sure he had a beer beforehand!

When I was growing up, our family was close friends with another family that consisted of a mom, dad, two sons, and a daughter. The dad was an obstetrician - gynecologist by profession. The daughter was my age. When she grew up and was married, she had three children of her own. All three of her children were delivered by her dad. In fact, I remember the mom and dad had a photograph in their home of the dad in his scrub suit holding one of the grandchildren immediately after being born. I was always struck by the fact that this young woman was so trusting of her dad that she would have him do something as intimate as to be the doctor for her children's birth. I knew that she adored her dad. I have no idea if she used her dad for routine gynecological care.

My dad was the one who talked to me about using condoms. He took a condom out and demonstrated by putting it on two fingers. It was awkward (I was in middle school), but looking back, I think its sweet that he cares enough to do the awkward things. I'm pretty sure he had a beer beforehand!

My Dad gave me the condom talk, too. But in a major moment of cliche, he used a banana. LOL

NEVER! I will host a huge party when the fucking SOB asshole sperm donor eventually dies from his slow physical torturous multiple comorbid existence.

NEVER! I will host a huge party when the fucking SOB asshole sperm donor eventually dies from his slow physical torturous multiple comorbid existence.

WOW!!! So do you send him a Fathers Day cards Fawkes? 😳 LOL

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Really?! What do you think?🤦🏼‍♀️😲🙄🤔👎🏻

As I posted on the other thread about Dads and doctor visits, my daughter prefers that her step-Dad, @Deviant1 , take her to her doctor's appointments. She recently had her first GYN appointment and asked Dev to take her. She's 16, so she didn't get a complete pelvic exam, but the doctor did examine her breasts and do a vulvar exam. She insisted that Dev stay in the room with her, which is normal for her, and neither of them was weirded out by it. He did step out while she gave her sexual history, which is much shorter than mine was at her age, and for the domestic violence questions, but he was ushered right back in by the MA after that.

The doctor was fine with Dev's presence, as she knows him professionally, and is of the opinion that her patients can have whomever they want in the room with them to make them feel more comfortable.

I am surprised by the number of friend requests and messages that I've received based on @JulieB123 ‘s post on this topic. Rather than try to respond to all of them - and some of them don’t deserve a response because some of ya'll really need psychological counseling, sheeeesh - I figured I'd do it in the post.

Yes, my step-daughter really does prefer to have me take her to medical appointments, primarily because she feels safe with me in any situation, which is something she never developed with her bio-Dad. We quickly developed a strong bond after I came into her life, and this is an extension of that bond. And, for reasons that I'll not go into, I have much more medical knowledge than her Mom does. So for her, it's a mix of trust, feeling safe and common sense.

No, I am not interested in my step-daughter sexually. She's 16, for God's sake. And beyond that, I would never violate the trust that she and her Mom have placed in me. I love them both too much to ever do that. And I'm in love with her Mom.

Yes, I was in the room for the entire exam. I generally am in the room when I take her to medical appointments, at her insistence. She has gone so far as to inform providers that she wants me there and I'm staying or she's leaving.

No, I did not look away when her breasts or genitals were exposed. Believe me, I was tempted to look away, but I garner much more knowledge about any possible issues by paying attention. And she looked me straight in the eyes during the seated part of her breast exam and heart auscultation, so looking away wasn't an option. I knew from past experience that she would ask me why the doctor did certain things, what she was looking for, etc., so it was important that I see what was going on so I could pass the post-exam quiz. LOL

Yes, I have seen her undressed before. We're rather loose about states of undress in our household, so that was inevitable. And I've had her at other doctor's appointments before.

No, I was not aroused during her exam. I was in full-on clinical mode, much more concerned about her health and any abnormal findings than anything else. And my medical fetish does not extend to her. Her Mom satisfies that more than I could have ever dreamt.

To answer one of the more intelligent questions, yes, she does share certain physical characteristics with her Mom. That's simple genetics.

I voluntarily left the room during her sexual history. While she is very open with us and we believe that she tells us everything that's important about her sexuality, she deserves at least some privacy, in case there are details that she didn't want to share with us, which is her right. And I should have been asked to leave the room during the domestic violence questions anyhow.

To those of you who asked intelligent, honest questions, you're always welcome to message me. For the others, if you're in New England, I can recommend some pretty good counselors. Don't be afraid to ask.

@Deviant1 I am not surprised you have seen increased traffic to your profile, friend requests and direct messages; you are on a medfet site after all.

People tend to forget it is entirely possible to seperate fetish from real life.

Not the same situation but a family member has chronic dermatology issue that requires a dermatologist specialising in vulva area. Many many dr visits later and as she has gotten older manages condition herself now but couldnt when younger and wanted a parent with her.

Some people here in conversation I have spoken to about it some have had some rather shocking questions and comments. Others capable of perfectly normal conversation and another who knew all about it and actually used to run a forum for people on it (small world).

Some cant seem to separate fetish from real life. As you say zero sexual interest. Id find a terrible drawing of boobs more attractive then boobs of family member (wife excluded).