Dad at gyno exam

Did anyone ever take dad or step dad to gyno exam?

I certainly would never have never taken mine with me and my husband would not do so with our two. It would most likely be awkward / uncomfortable for both parties. No harm in physically taking being taken there by dad as in driven but to go with.

I know that's a double standard as sure dads care as much about their families health then mums do but I think that's just the way society is.

I'm a 40 (something) woman with two kids but still my daddies girl he doesn't need to see that or hear anything about my sexual history that the gyn asks about, although suspect he prob knows I'm Not a virgin any more lol.

Did I take my daughters to the GYN? Yes many times. I was off work during the week and the wife wasn't. The wife was sure to take them the first time and always if she didn't work.

I would sit in the waiting room while they went in. After the Dr. would come out shake my hand and asked how I was doing. This was the everything is fine signal.

If there was a problem that I needed to be informed of the nurse would get me and we talked about it in the DR. office.

It preserved the dignity of my girls but kept us informed.

No my Father never went with me to the Ob/Gyn. However he knew I went the first time as my Mom told him. She also told him I was pretty good about getting in position in the stirrups when he told me to. He had gone with her many times and enjoyed her exams quite a lot.

I have been on the other side of this one. I was in the exam room during my daughter's first such exam.

No matter what your particular fetish might be, I can only tell you that being in that exam room on that day was creepy to say the least.

No matter how you try to avert your eyes, there are some parts of the exam that you are going to see.

What was even worse was having to hear the entire exam take place.

Dad's should stay out of that room if at all possible.

I agree I don't think I'd ever want to be in the same situation. However I was interested in knowing if anyone had that kind of comfort level with their daughter. Why were you in the exam room with her in the first place?

I don't have a great relationship with my Dad, but even if I did, I can't imagine having him in the exam room at any gyn exam and especially not at the first one. I didn't even let my Mom come in the exam room during my first exam, although she did take me but stayed in the waiting room.

I would think there would need to be a really special circumstance or legitimate reason for any Dad to be in the exam room during his daughter's gynecological / pelvic exam.

I never had my father with me during a gyno exam. It would have been fine for him to bring me there and wait in the waiting room.

If the father was the only parent, it would be OK if he sat in the room at the head of the table, head to head with his daughter, but NOT if there was a mirror for the patient to see what was being done unless the girl was very young, like 8 or 9 and a specific problem was being investigated.

Oh .. hell no!

OK... I am about to become very unpopular with this answer! I disagree with all of you, with all due respect! Set aside who and what we are in this forum and this world, the sexualization of clinical procedures has gone on for centuries and has gone on far too long! Although I was widowed before my girls became of age, both as a professional and as a Mom I believe that Dad´s not only have equal rights in the care and treatment of their daughter´s but equal responsibilities should they choose to accept the. Why is it that it´s OK for Mom to be in the exam room with her pre-/adolescent son, but Dad can´t be there with his daughter? Why is it that Mom can take her son´s rectal temp without anyone batting an eyelash, but, heaven forbid if Dad takes his daughter´s? I am sorry folks, but, we need to teach our adolescent kids NOT to sexualize clinical procedures rather than what many of us have and are doing. I laugh when women tell me they could never go to a male GYN because they are afraid of what´s really going through his head. They don´t bother to realize that the woman who is doing that pelvice exam stands a 65% chance of being lesbian or bi according to some recent studies! I commend any Mom and, or Dad who is smart enough to break down the curtain of clinical sexualization and realize that it is important for our kids to know we support them in being sexually modest but that an exam room is not a place of anything sexual. It is clinical and that is what they should be taught.

Karma to you Beccarnmommy. Well said.

I myself would not want my father at one of my gyno exams. I don't think I could relax at all. That is just me. Then again I have never had a male doctor for that. I was asked once what it feels like for a man to be kicked down there. I probably looked like an idiot with my facial expression. But, I said,"how would I know I am a female". She said exactly. So how would a man doctor know exactly what you are feeling. I thought about it and I totally understood. So it is just my preferance.

I have two daughters. Once they were of school age, I never needed to take them for a medical exam because their mother was always available to take them. That said, these days, we have a warped view of what equal means. I agree with much of what @Beccarnmommy has said. It is fine with me if a daughter would rather not have her father present. I believe that is her choice. But due to the outrageous, if not illegal, actions of a few male medical medical professionals often are required to have a female present in the exam room with a female patient. I have had never experienced another male being present when I have had a female practitioner. There seems to be a presumption that a male who is present during a female exam is there for prurient purposes, but not the reverse. The sooner we stop trying to use a clinical situation purely for fetish purposes (as some on this board have posted they have done or would like to do) and separate clinical from fetish, as those medical professionals on this board seen to be able to do, the better off we all will be.

When my wife was diagnosed with Stage 4 Bartholins Gland cancer this is one of the very issues that crossed my mind with an 11 year old daughter. Thank God my wife has survived her cancer so far. I know my daughter would never want me any where near the exam room but she has ask me in private why I go with mom to her exams and she has ask my wife the same thing. I tell her because I am there to support you mother in every way. I was not with her during the first few preliminary exams when she was having issues prior to my wife's discovery of her cancer and I feel bad that I wasn't interested in her health enough at the time. Now I participate in every doctors visit and I ask the questions not my wife.

I agee HELL NO! Just too creepy....

Unless there is some sort of emergency - I wouldn't understand the presence of a dad in the room during an exam. Beccarnmommy has some good points - but there would have been now way I would have felt comfortable with my dad and step dad ever being present during that time.

No.

Human nature and hard wired, built-in, aversions and preferences cannot be rationalized.

For example we all know that in theory our parents had intercourse. But very very few of us want to know anything about the details.

I can't imagine anything in the exam room that would make me accompany my daughter or make her want me present. Any medical condition could be described to me in an office or the hallway.

Dad accompanying daughter is either a pure fantasy or the start of a monumental problem.

OK. I can think of two exceptions. 1) Daughter is out of her mind hysterical so dad stays at HEAD of bed and coos at her....2) Dad is world's best gy/ob doc and daughter's life hangs by a thread. Short of that, pop stays in waiting room and reads the magazines.

I agree with majority of the points made by beccarnmommy, and I think that attitudes and behaviors need to change. And I think they may over time. But that still does not change the fact that I would not want my Dad in the room for my exam. I would not be comfortable, not because it is sexual but more so because it is personal, and not information my Dad needs to know.

I would never of asked my dad to come. However out of respect for me he would not of come anyway.At 13 when I had my first exam I sent my mum out of the room too.I get embarrassed with the nurse just standing there , let alone my mum watching too.

Some fathers are single parents due to some tragedy: death, incapacity or divorce suggesting that your child’s comfort is more important than some perceived social standard of where and when a parent should be present. It’s fine if your kid wants to go in alone but not all do and they decide that at different ages. Ask before you assume. Individual difference varies among adolescents of the same age or sex and some want their parents to leave, while others desperately want them to stay for the exam. In the US State medical privacy laws differ in the various ways which they attempt to protect minor’s rights to obtain health care. In some instances they may have to sign a written waiver allowing their parent to be present.

It's interesting you say that there is a consent form for a minor to have a parent attend.

Shouldn't the doctor have consent of parent?

"The laws that determine what sexual health rights minors have are State specific and vary throughout the USA, so the rights described here only apply to individuals within the state of California. There are exceptions to these laws but essentially confidentiality means privacy. It means that when a young person from 12 to 17 years old talks with their health care provider about certain issues like sex, drugs, and feelings, care for problems or concerns in the areas of sexuality, mental health, and substance abuse she will not tell your parents or guardians what you talk about unless you give your permission. A young person can consent for care on their own in these areas, but need your parent or guardian's consent for other health services such as care of colds, flues, and injuries. In California, you can get a sexual health check up at any age – including STI screening – without parental consent. If a STI is discovered and you are fearful of your parents finding out, you have a right to confidential treatment by your physician.”

-http://www.californiateenhealth.org/

Fuck that thank you very much.

Having said that I think he would be more against the idea then I would be.

Doesn't need to know or want to know what his little girl has been getting up to in the bedroom or other rooms that have taken my fancy.

I think that's true of male or female parent or even non-binary parent in case I've missed someone out. It's not the being undressed it is the personal nature of it and the discussion of sexual activity vaginal, oral anal etc.

Only ever had mom go with me once and we talked alone first and the other time merely handy for transport.

I have 2 daughters and no way would I go in with her for a exam.

Microscope.

One time my gynecologist asked me to bring my dad into asked as he some questions about surgery I had when I was three weeks old. Mom passed away when I was younger. There was no exam that day.

Fuck that thank you very much.

Having said that I think he would be more against the idea then I would be.

Amen sister. There is no way I would ever want to go with my daughter. I would be 100% against it. It's funny though, her teachers always pushed the fact that she needed to report anything her dad did at home that I think she would have had a meltdown anyway . I think it was far overboard and basically made any show of affection by a male at risk.

Absolutely no way unless it was a dire emergency or something. Daughter's periods, gyn exams whatever, were the wife's area, nothing to do with me thank you very much.

Didn't happen in our day but when she gave birth a few years ago to our granddaughter she wanted her mum at the birth, that seems to be the thing nowadays.

My dad has observed my breast exam (when I was examined by student doctor)

When I get sick down there (happened many times since fibroids) either mom's there or I am examined alone, but I won't mind if dad's there. I have great bond with parents. They always support me when I get sick.

I think I would be okay to get examined in his presence. He is a parent and has seen me since birth.

But just dad. No other male unless he is a medical professional

Not for an exam but I was in the delivery room when our daughter gave birth to her first child.

Not for an exam but I was in the delivery room when our daughter gave birth to her first child.

Not medfet question about it but how was it for you?

My husband was there naturally for both births, especially the first he said it was amazing to be there but horrible experience same time as felt helpless when I had a lot of pain and difficult birth.

How do you feel about it looking back?