Subs: When are you at your most submissive?

I’m most submissive dressed in diapers and plastic pants, in the knee chest position on towels on the bath room floor waiting while my mistress fills the enema bag.

I always release a little pre-cum just waiting in anticipation. Once the nozzle is inserted it stimulates the prostate and I’ll release more fluid. I feel especially submissive when my mistress notices the fluid and admonishes me for a lack of control.

The hornier I am, the more submissive! Best way to achieve that is an edging session after a week long chastity.

@Nicky62 - "The hornier I am, the more submissive! Best way to achieve that is an edging session after a week long chastity".

Most definitely, I recently had a 6 day period where my Dom had me forbidden to masturbate as a punishment. And I too felt more submissive, each day.

Wow, it has been almost 5 years since i first responded to this thread. I've had more experience by now, but i also have gotten to know certain areas of myself better.

Generally speaking I am at my most submissive when a man genuinely and affectionately connects to a need/desire in me. My submissive nature is surfaced and vulnerable to a man who has a compatible want, even more so if it is a need, i'm a responder... But i believe that is generally true on both sides of the slash, i.e., that our needs /desires fuel, nurture, "respond" to each other symbiotically. Where i see the difference is i see a Dom/Top as the initiator, controller.

The most powerful control a man can exercise with me is when he knows a need /desire i have, and i know he knows so we have that mutual understanding, and he has that knowing look in his eyes, and in the tone of his voice as he evokes my need/desire to submit and i'm totally vulnerable to our mutual desire or need.

Force, bullying, or even the appearance of that, may or may not get compliance, or acquiescence, but not true, needed, heart felt submission and the resultant vulnerability that comes with it.

When I am asked “What happens to little boy’s that forget to always be submissive?”

i must answer that they get spanked

Then told to go get “my” brush for my spanking!

I am at my most submissive when my Wife /Mistress has had me locked in my chastity cage for a predetermined length of time and I am attending a "probation hearing" appointment.

At the appointment, I am naked (wearing only the male chastity device) and kneeling before my Mistress. She is initially wearing her dominant lingerie, and I can see the key that unlocks my suffering penis hanging in on a necklace around her neck.

She tells me to, "Explain why you think you deserve probation.", which usually includes presenting a sensible case for leniency and begging for mercy. If she decides that I have made my case, she tells me to, "Demonstrate your submissive repentance", which means that I must remove her panties so she can spread her legs for me to pleasure her orally, while I'm still on my knees before her. If/when she feels that I have satisfied her she tells me to fetch the penis whip (a short leather strap) and lay on my my back, on top of the punishment table. She uses her key to free my penis from its bondage (it always stands to attention immediately without permission), and then she applies a dab of Icy Hot along my frenulum and whips my naughty erection with the strap. I thank her after each swat of the strap... "Thank you my Mistress, may I have another?"

This is the probation ritual that I must endure if I want to be released from the cage early. For example, if she originally sentenced me to two weeks in the cage, I can request a probation hearing after one week (after completing 50% of my original sentence).

Hi,

I feel like that very vulnerable thing I get in the pit of my stomach. The feeling of the elevator when it first goes down. That nano second of falling; the feeling I got every time I saw the girl in school I had a crush on, and the utter fear of going to church dressed in an eton suit at 9, or a ruffled Peter Pan collar worn with a velvet holiday outfit at 7-9, or the 10-15 minutes it took my Grandmother and Nanny to get the Victoria brand enema prepared while I sat on the toilet seat in a “night shirt “ from my Grandmother’s heirloom closet with clothes she saved from my uncle, mother and aunt.

I wore many of my uncles outfits. But I think that the night shirt with the large collar was a girl’s. This feeling probably was when I felt the most submissive. I have attempted with some success to replicate this pit in my stomach, desperate feeling.

When I'm shown love, thankfulness, and respect. Just takes a little bit of love bombing and I can go days/weeks/months in a very submissive frame of mind. Properly handled, years. I need to be able to please. It's hard wired in me.

Definitely after not being able to orgasm for a while. I am not allowed to make myself cum, it must be done by my partner and with permission. And sometmes life gets busy, or my requests are denied for bad behavior, etc. Either way, not getting any attention usually brings out my subby side in full force. When it comes to being submissive during sex, it's not automatic for me. My partner has to show some form of control by giving me commands or some rough play - then I'll submit. In both cases, it is hard for me to get in that mindset without some sort of equal, but opposite, dominant force.

I’m on my most submissive when I’m naked with a female doctor, standing before her or in stirrups on the exam table to get a rectal exam

I felt pretty submissive this morning when my wife handed me a chocolate milk and the bottle of castor oil.

Definitely after not being able to orgasm for a while. I am not allowed to make myself cum, it must be done by my partner and with permission. And sometmes life gets busy, or my requests are denied for bad behavior, etc. Either way, not getting any attention usually brings out my subby side in full force. When it comes to being submissive during sex, it's not automatic for me. My partner has to show some form of control by giving me commands or some rough play - then I'll submit. In both cases, it is hard for me to get in that mindset without some sort of equal, but opposite, dominant force.

Ha, this struck me. i'm definitely more submissive when i have not had an orgasm for awhile. my desire/need for sexual contact is either surfaced or very near the surface and easily accessed and manipulated. But i'm opposite when it comes to "rough," force or any kind of bullying. my sub side goes the opposite direction, and i will not connect with that person. i also never want to "make myself cum," that is always disappointing to me. A big part of my submissive nature is wanting my Top to be in control of my orgasm. i get more submissive from Him withholding His orgasm from me than i do from Him withholding mine. Withholding mine is really more about making me needy for His orgasm than it is mine.

When a Man affectionately withholds my orgasm in order to replace it with His own... He effectively possesses me.

Most submissive, when knelt at the feet of a D type pleasing him with my mouth and after being Disciplined. Yet to experience an examination but I am sure that will make me feel extremely submissive.

The most and one that still gets me hard is having to bend over and spread my cheeks for my dom. Humiliating, hot, and know that I’m totally hers.

When my Dom told me to strip for the first time. I initially tried to refuse. Then I saw the look in his eye. It unlocked something in me I didn’t know was there.

When restrained with arms over my head and striped when wearing white brief- totally exposed and willing to retrieve what is given to me.

I experienced “bondasage” sessions some years back where my mistress had me face down on a massage table, with a pillow under my hips. I reported to her having prepped with a series of large volume enemas, and had shaved repeatedly my crack and sack. She had me secured to the table, ass in the air with a vibrating butt plug deep in me, and she held the remote, teasing me, whispering the naughtiest things in my ear as to what she’d do to me since I was totally helpless and vulnerable. Never had I felt so submissive as under her domination./sessions. She whispered “as soon as I untie you, and allow you to turn over, I’ll be using some of these on your cock”. I could turn my head just enough to see she was displaying her set of urethral sounds. She was good to her word, and during extensive sounding, laughed and said “men are never as submissive as when I have them tied and helpless, I’m grasping their penis with one hand, and slowly sounding them with the other.” This sexy mistress spike the truth!

Thinking things over I have concluded it is when my cats and bunny want something from me or to play.

I can't refuse them.

Thinking things over I have concluded it is when my cats and bunny want something from me or to play.

I can't refuse them.

OK, for sure understandable !! - but don't forget about these emotions, the " real taste " of submission !!

So stay as you are, and play safe and hopefully in a consencual manner !!

@4711koeln

OK, for sure understandable !! - but don't forget about these emotions, the " real taste " of submission !!

I did Its all an act some ridiculous game we play in our minds. Submission sexually does not exist since Doms are just supplying me with something I want I am not submitting just having someone do what I want them to do to me to get off on.

My Dom goes to a lot of effort to hang me from a beam tits down arms and leg spread over a "ya its nasty" attach weights to my nipples then open my arse hole up. Both of us enjoy it. To get the full pleasure once we agree on the scene and the bondage collar goes on I do what I am told and enjoy every bit of it.

We have been satisfying each other for twenty-five years. One strange and crazy thing after another. We are teaching my girlfriend how to do me right.

With my cats and bunny, it's a whole different thing. If my Dom were to start swatting my fingers and poking at the keyboard while I was typing

I would get really angry very fast and tell him to feck off in no uncertain terms.

Same with jumping up and sitting on my head or nibbling at my toes then plopping down on them for a nap would be unwelcome and receive a prompt get off!

I do give him nice pats and unlimited snuggle privileges plus some extras.

I give in to my cats and bunny because I love them and know they depend on me and just want to be close. There is no ulterior motive involved between us. We just give and receive love. There is probably some complex brain chemical process that happens but "love" is the easiest descriptive

I am an extremely dominant creature that likes to do the submissive role. Killer Rabbit Rope Bunny. I can switch . Being the Dom is a lot more work. It does have its fun side.

This may answer some controversy I have heard going around about me.

I still remember this aand it happened many years ago! I was dating/serving a Domme who had some experience, but not a whole lot. Which was working for us both, but one day, she seemed to be in a more strict mood. I made the mistake of giving her some smart-ass answers at dinner. She did give a warning, but once we were back in our hotel room, she bought up a subject from dinner, i gave her the same smart ass answer and when i turned to face her, she cracked me hard across the face. That was first time it ever happened and it really put me in a submissive state to her immediately!

@4711koeln I did Its all an act some ridiculous game we play in our minds. Submission sexually does not exist since Doms are just supplying me with something I want I am not submitting just having someone do what I want them to do to me to get off on.

My Dom goes to a lot of effort to hang me from a beam tits down arms and leg spread over a "ya its nasty" attach weights to my nipples then open my arse hole up. Both of us enjoy it. To get the full pleasure once we agree on the scene and the bondage collar goes on I do what I am told and enjoy every bit of it.

We have been satisfying each other for twenty-five years. One strange and crazy thing after another. We are teaching my girlfriend how to do me right.

With my cats and bunny, it's a whole different thing. If my Dom were to start swatting my fingers and poking at the keyboard while I was typing

I would get really angry very fast and tell him to feck off in no uncertain terms.

Same with jumping up and sitting on my head or nibbling at my toes then plopping down on them for a nap would be unwelcome and receive a prompt get off!

I do give him nice pats and unlimited snuggle privileges plus some extras.

I give in to my cats and bunny because I love them and know they depend on me and just want to be close. There is no ulterior motive involved between us. We just give and receive love. There is probably some complex brain chemical process that happens but "love" is the easiest descriptive

I am an extremely dominant creature that likes to do the submissive role. Killer Rabbit Rope Bunny. I can switch . Being the Dom is a lot more work. It does have its fun side.

This may answer some controversy I have heard going around about me.

Many thanks for your long answer !! - it is more than understandable !!

Enjoy all of your sexlife and play always safe !!!!

Kindly regards from the other side of the ocean - from " good old germany " !!!

I've always "topped from the bottom". So much that I ended up insisting I wasn't a sub, just a very masochist person.

And recently, I got into the right mindset, with the right person, and I am discovering new parts of me. Learning to surrender is the hardest thing I ever did. And it is blissful.

Every new step we take in our power play exchange makes me feel even more submissive.

The latest was when he told me to *ask him to spank me*. I am a willful player, usually. I will act and play games easily. This time, I wasn't able to do it, I wanted to resist as if I was struggling for survival, I wanted to refused, it angered me... It angered me so much, that I didn't do it. And it set the mood for our session. When he left my place a few hours later, I would have obey any of his order.