What Happened to All the Good Role-Players Out There?

I still enjoy online role play and keep scenes highly detailed and developed. I have found that one of the keys to a successful scene is to keep the premise and the actions within it both in context and "plausible".

For example, in a medical scene the Dr/Nurse is not going to have you doing gymnastic and acrobatic positions for having your temperature taken or an injection, or whatever. Also, a good med play scene does not mix BDSM or overt sexual actions into it. How realistic is it that you be handcuffed by your ankles to the stirrups with restraints over your body on the exam table while being flogged by the nurse as the doctor does your exam? Come on! Give it a rest!

I find that many newcomers just don't take the time to develop scenes, settings, and characters. Or, frankly and perhaps worse, is when players are just that. Players! They really don't know what med play is in the psychological or practical realms and they think it is nothing more than sticking stuff into every available body orafice. Making that concept even worse is thinking that ANY non-medical instrument can be substituted for a real one "because it kinda looks like ___________". Not only is this not med play it is just Fin dangerous! I have heard too many sad stories of people who think med play is nothing more than that and have emerged from it being injured. I also enjoy and am told that I am damned good at mixing age play (regression) with med play. Also, medical play does not always have to be in a "doctor's office". Location, location, location!

Med play share a level of intimacy that is extraordinary and is more psychological than physical. Sex should not enter into it. If you want sex, don't demean med play by calling it med play! Anything sexual in a med role play should be subtle, nonchalant, covert not overt and contextual. You want to take a sample of vaginal fluids OK go ahead masturbate or be masturbated but don't turn it into a sex session. The fact that this is how to produce fluid can easily be made to fall into context. Many times in IVF providers suggest that a woman masturbate after the insemination to help make it "stick". So, use the same logic.

There are some good online role players out there. The common thread is we know what we're doing, we do it purely and we don't mix other "stuff" thats no where close to contextual into it.

Play safe!

I have role played a few times in this site. I was chatting with someone last week and she and I chatted for awhile and she was curious about somethings so we set up an online role play.

She had different interests and curious about some.

We managed to fit in her interests and I believe it was satisfying for both of us. She said it was good and was able to picture everything done to her and hopefully she'll hit me up for some more.

Maybe you are more experienced role player than others. I have only done a few role play scenes and am sure I am not perfect in punctuation and grammar. As I get more scenes to do I know I will become more detailed and intensity.

How long do you think a normal scene should take? one hour...or two hours?

Inas

I enjoy writing erotica, so the natural progression is to role play it out, or just enjoy each others kinks through words..

You have to find the right person though, nothing more off putting than bad grammar and spelling..

But nothing more of a turn on by reading something that is well written and very sexy..

Luckily I have found my match. ?

I really love role play. It takes a person with a vivid imagination to pull it off. Details really put me there as part of the action (or voyeur if that is part of the plan. I also like relating REAL experiences since I started playing when I was quite young, nothing forced, all age appropriate with others my age. I was 8 with boys, he was 7, and 9 with girls, she was 10. I would be very interested in chatting, phone or Skype with someone else who had early experiences who is interested in sharing them in detail. Mine were all voluntary, but if you have other types you want to share, I like to share those also. My Skype is Houttbud.

Guys, step the RP up a bit. A little more attention to detail and setting the scene would help. Just saying....

I think I'm pretty decent especially if I'm in the right mood

Roleplay can be very sexual and exciting. but the key is getting to know one another befor any scening takes place. lots of communication before anything. and be detailed with answers , both of you when scening. it does not have to be face to face. i have had many sexually exciting roleplays with partners i have known for a while, not just an hour. meeting people and scening in 5 minutes does not work for me. i actually turns me off. and be selective, dont just scene with anyone that is interested.

Yeah once you get into it typing one handed can seriously affect your grammer and typing skills....and no grandma wasnt involved...

Do you do the role-play live, or do you pre-write your scenarios so you can use them with many different people? From the problems people are raising with grammer and sentences, it sounds like writing them like a story and then treating it like an improv class would work better. For one because there's less typing by the doc as they can copy and paste much of the 'script' and adapt it as needed.

I've tried RP online a few times but it never turned me on for all the reasons you've already said. Poor story development really got to me, and in the end I found I was typing a mini-novel and getting back one or two word responses. Now I write and enjoy myself more than I did 😃

It helps to be a good improvisor when you role play.

I think it's hard to stay in the role for myself and most people I've met. I think if it's done in a more general sense, it works. For example, if the spanker is a disciplinarian. That is more general than a headmaster, teacher, etc. When the role becomes hard to do, and feels forced, then it's no fun. I'm talking about in person.

I have previously replied here, and my original reply is still valid, but I have learned/discovered a few additional things which I believe are relevant, and may help those pursuing a quest for a RP partner. I have found that it is important to become acquainted with someone being considered a potential partner, to come to understand what they are looking for and want from the experience, and what their level is. There is a wide range of fetishes held by the various people in Zity, and for an RP to work, there has to be a dovetailing of interest and role. Also, there are different degrees of tolerance or latitude. Some may want one specific thing, and only that; while another may be willing to consider a wide range, under some general consideration. Sometimes a continuing experience may entail, like those tv shows where you have a continuing cast, but different things are done each week. Sometimes it is a once only experience. Also important is the pace that is expected, or range of pace that will be tolerated. One can only gauge these factors by coming to know the individual. I consider myself fortunate to have had some good role plays with people I have met here, and they have moved on, as I have. Compassion and consideration are important. We are all human (at least I think so). Some people are great because the know how to improvise, and are tolerant of misspelling, etc. Others can't, or won't. Others 'just don't fit'. Do yourself a favor, don't try to fit a square peg into a round hole. Good luck, and be positive. It is possible!

Typing takes a lot of time :-) Voice/video lot faster :-)

Typing takes a lot of time :-) Voice/video lot faster :-)

I agree.

IN PERSON is the only way to go.

I absolutely agree that online RP is better when everything is typed in (mostly) coherent sentences. The best advice I can give is to talk to the person you're thinking about doing an RP with prior to starting it. Not only will it allow you to set expectations and make sure everyone involved is getting what they want out of it, it will also give you a chance to see how they write and if they can speak with proper grammar.

Best of Luck!

I will add my two cents to this very interesting thread.

I try to role play here when possible and when I have a suitable partner for that. I find that when it works it's really great and it has happened to me more than once that it was a sexually fully satisfying experience, though I would certainly prefer a session in person.

This being said I also have to say that not being a native English speakers makes me feel at times the pressure that I need to be able to communicate really at my best, while natives have the communication flowing in a more natural way. Still I would say that my being not native has not prevented some good time for my occasional partner and myself.

What I find that greatly improve the RP is the clarification of what is going to happen before the start of the actual play. It sets the scene and also helps to agree on what is certain that it will be exciting for both sides of the RP. Of course when you have the chance to play with someone more than once, everything becomes easier.

So, I agree with most that an as correct as possible English is essential, I would also indicate that the overall direction of the play is important, and the participation of both side at an acceptable level of typing speed helps a lot!

Sometimes RP are not as successful as we would like them to be, but it's (at least in my opinion) always worth the effort, as when they are well done they give you a lot for what they require!

The grammar of people infuriates me. Instant mood-killer.

@SwitchableSusie Agreed! Improvisation is crucial. We role-play all the time, never with a script, generally letting the mood, attire, and accessories set the scenes. Often, early in the day or week before we have a playtime, we will tease each other with innuendo and comments about what we might do to the other, or what we want done to us by the other. Works just fine.

I'm surprised that l haven't written in this thread so far (although I gave a 'like' to the original poster). I agree 100% with its main sentiments. This morning I took the doctor-role for once in a correspondence 'exam' of a male patient, and my recipient was grateful for the amount of detailed realism l included throughout. (It wasn't a full physical this time but basically ENT-related - my recipient has a dental fetish.) The point is, it was well-written, and l took loving care with the writing itself. By feeling that l was pleasing the reader, l also better enjoyed the sensuality of it all. Sure, it was hard work at the time to get every word exact and each sentence fully functional, but l was 'inside' the scene, and that's what matters!

My view: correspondence medfet exams can take time and patience - but are the most rewarding!

- Ken

I don’t role play here often - mostly because I’m checking the site from a mobile device and I hate typing long passages on a mobile. I wonder if that is a common thread and a reason for the decline?

@Nurse Phillips

Good point, could be a reason

The only role playing I've ever done has not been a specific character like doctor or nurse or student or other D/s role, but simply a nonspecific submissive role while being given enemas by my Domme ex-wife or ex-GF partners physically together in real time. I'm a male switch and enjoy the sub role as my Domme gives me large enemas for long holds with tasks while holding it. I acted extremely submissive with a lot of moaning and begging, and she was very demanding and insistent. If she had wanted us to assume specific roles during the enemas, say perhaps doctor and patient or others, I would have been glad to try it. I'm just curious about the RP being asked about in this thread. Are we talking about two members roleplaying by Zity posts or by PMs here, acting two different roles in traded/posted messages, or actual roleplay together in person? And what sort of RP are we talking about, mostly a D/s MedFet interaction? Thanks,

Eric

We are here, butt you have to ask if we want to play. Some minds are easier to read than others. So let me know if you are interested in doing a role play scene. The best scene's happen when two players use their imagination creatively.

Role play as described is an interaction vs a story where characters have roles and as such, as others have noted, it involves spontaneity, imagination, patience, clarity, and, definitely, writing skill. A good role player may be a bad writer.

We are now well into the world according to the keyboard and not all handle it well. Not all love to write. It is my profession but for many it has become or always was simply a way to transmit information. It is far more than that, but to be more, it takes some skill to make it so. Would that we all had that skill, but I am sure there are some great real time role players who couldn't spell, type, write their way out of a stop sign.

Role play as described is an interaction [...] where characters have roles and as such, as others have noted, it involves spontaneity, imagination, patience, clarity, and, definitely, writing skill. [...]

We are now well into the world according to the keyboard and not all handle it well. Not all love to write. It is my profession but for many it has become or always was simply a way to transmit information. It is far more than that [...]

Hear, hear, happy2bhere (post #85 )! What you say is very much in the spirit of what was urged by the original poster and several respondents subsequently (including me in post #80 ). Roleplay by correspondence may require effort at the time - and draw on all those qualities you list - but the reward can be great afterwards. A well-written, sensual interactive roleplay by correspondence can be a joy to re-visit later, even years later!

- Ken

I sympathize with the roll play problems I have just read. I have decided to open a boarding school for your inner child. A place where you can safely send your inner most thoughts with out fear of exposure. As a new endeavor it will take me a few days to send out my requirements and expectations. But, before building a realistic environment I need to know if there is an interest.

I can only accommodate 4 clients. I will send out an application sheet to any responders. Please note that although my school has very firm rules and regulations. I and my staff do not deal in any form of scat, BD or SM and all procedures are age appropriate and reasonable. To paraphrase happy2 you must demonstrate “spontaneity, imagination, patience, clarity, and, definitely, writing skill. [...]” I am listed as dannyC but at this time I would like to keep the beginning of my school formal so please contact Mr. James for an application sheet.

I’ve never been involved with role play, but if the opportunity arose, I would welcome it. I’m always looking at younger women, and my imagination runs wild.

I have found it to be rather challenging to engage in role play. Many wish to include the use of a camera, which I understand may help if one likes visual stimulation. For me, the use of role play is better served by creating and establishing a scene, creating dialog, and pacing. The introduction of a camera renders the experience to be like making porn. I don't mean any disrespect to those who like to he on camera but it detracts from the psychology of a role play. Just my 2 cents.

As the younger generations search for instant gratification, with messaging becoming shorter and interactions with it - the art of the longer form where descriptions and suspense build is becoming harder to find.

Even while I write semi-literate most often, I like to invest weeks in getting to know someone's triggers and tastes… and that doesn't suit those who like to get off and move on.

So. I suppose I am with you!