What is the kinkiest thing you ever did?

What is the kinkiest thing you ever did?

Just how kinky do you rate yourself?

What would put you high on the kink scale and what would put you high on the extreme scale.

They seem to be the same to me.

A good question and now you have asked it I'm finding it hard to answer without applying my own opinions and prejudices to the rankings.

Perhaps kink is along the x axis with extremeness being the y axis. Things along the x axis might be all things like those on the list you can fill in on your profile. The extremeness would be how much you are into it.

Now I feel like I'm reinventing the wheel- something I really hate! :-(

Let's call this thread the ramblin musings of someone at the end of a long weekend!

You still didn't define what I asked.

What would be kinky and what would be extreme? I don't care what axes they are on. You can have tame and extreme for just about any of the basic activities. Here are a few examples:

Enemas might be kinky. Doing them solo would be rather tame. Doing it in the bed of a pick-up truck in the parking lot after a Yankees game would be the extreme version of it.

Play-piercing a nipple with a 30 gauge needle on your girlfriend while she is spread eagled tied to your bed would be kinky but pretty tame, incising her labia with a 15 blade and inserting a padlock across her vagina would be extreme.

Bondage with silk scarves is pretty tame. Bondage using 1000 feet of saran wrap followed by 5 full rolls of duct tape after inserting a urinary catheter and keeping your sub mummified for 48 hours would be extreme.

Not long ago oral sex was kinky, now its commonplace. Now, oral sex during the first or second day of my period and licking all the blood out would be more extreme.

I think you've hit it dead on.

A guy wearing rubber panties might be reasonably tame. Wearing a full on catsuit, corset, stockings, gloves, posture collar, hood and ballet boots would be more extreme.

Having a finger up your ass might be considered tame these days. Having a fist put up there will probably always be seen as extreme.

I'm sure there are lots of other things out there. The list could go on.

A good question and now you have asked it I'm finding it hard to answer without applying my own opinions and prejudices to the rankings.

Perhaps kink is along the x axis with extremeness being the y axis. Things along the x axis might be all things like those on the list you can fill in on your profile. The extremeness would be how much you are into it.

Now I feel like I'm reinventing the wheel- something I really hate! :-(

Let's call this thread the ramblin musings of someone at the end of a long weekend!

I think that lends itself more to a bar chart than an X/Y cartesian graph.

This question really doesn't have an answer as asked. Too much subjectivity.

Some people will say that simply because I don't identify as straight or gay makes me kinky. Some would say that because I'm friends/lovers with TG, TS, CD and others not in the mainstream makes me kinky. Am I kinky because I'm into watersports? How about because I love to give pain? How about because I love strap-on play from both sides?

The people who I participate with see me as normal. The people who think that 50 Shades is extreme would be agast to see what I do.

Great question. A lot of times I don't think I'm very kinky at all, at least compared to other guys I know who are into heavy BDSM like bondage and flogging. My specialty, prostate massage, barely qualifies. It's not painful and is (hopefully) really enjoyable for the recipient.

But on the other hand I have some interests that most people would consider "out there". My avatar here is a perfect example. Let's face it, medfet is fairly rare or there would be a LOT more sites devoted to it than there are. And I'm interested in a form of medfet play that freaks out a LOT of people, even on this site. So I'm certain that I'd be considered incredibly kinky by some of my more "mainstream" friends.

Kink is in the eye of the beholder, I guess.

I'm at a similar level of kinkiness OP, while I avoid permanent marks/scars/burns and piercings, I'm usually open to a marathon spanking or caning that bruises. I've been known to push the limits of a painful high capacity enema, and some CBT play is welcomed. For several years I've worked to bit larger anal toys-- I usually use a baseball bat as of late.

Well dears, after you have done the rubber chicken kink, everything else will seem tame in comparison.

Kinky is in the eye of the beholder. Whatever you or your partner enjoy is fine and it does not matter what others think. (But I would certainly keep it secret from outsiders.)

I guess I am middle of the road as I enjoy watching others giving my wife an enema. I also enjoy receiving enemas from complete strangers

I like to think of a Vanilla's Sex Life as being in the center of the page, in a small circle. One can step outside this circle in any direction and be at the beginning step of any particular kink. Some people take one step outside, but in all directions. Others step out in only a few directions, but take make steps along that those particular paths. This might explain the concept of having lots of kinky proclivities vs an extreme interest in just a few.

And since we are all giving examples:

Obediently cutting their nails might be kinky, amputating their arms and legs would be extreme.

What is considered kinky by some may be considered normal by others, so we can only rate ourselves by how we view our kinks in comparison to the kinks of others. For example, I love water sports and consider that fairly normal, but others see it as extremely kinky, whereas with others, a mere spanking may be considered really kinky...it is all in how you view your fetishes and those of others.

I am a lot more kinky in my fantasy world than I am in real life. In real life, I am probably somewhat boring.

It's like the old riddle. What's the difference between an idiot and a crazy person? Answer; The crazy person is driving faster than you, and the idiot is driving slower than you. I think A is too vanilla. C is beyond my line. Therefore, I am B, right? Guess it's more like Goldilocks, lol.

I second to Amy k. In my own opinion I'm just average kinky, but since joining this site I have found many more kinky thoughts that I have and will explore.

So what is my order?

normal, behond normal, kinky, extreme, addicted... I think I'm kinky in lots of things, and addicted to self anal play for sure.

In the realm of fantasy, in my mind, I can go to any level of kinkiness.

There is really no limit, or restriction, or boundary.

That may be extreme

In the virtual world, I restrict myself to medfet - some elements of it, not all.

Like injections.

Maybe my virtual level is mid-way

My real life is so 'conformist' that no one will ever believe that my mind and my virtual avatar could even be true.

Have I opened up a new definition?

I use to see myself as really kinky until joining this site. For the past 25 years I have been into some water sports and over time found a love for things like a smother box and love swings. Just going into a store to look at a monster toy or something as small as a butt plug was kinky all by it self. I think it would be safe for me to say what I am not into and that is pain, injections, scatting, feet and caning. I think that this is all about what feels good to you and your level of enjoyment, That others may view what you do as kinky or extreme, and this is why we certainly keep it secret from other's around us.

I had a girlfriend who told me that I was not submissive, but I was kinkly because I needed to be given an enema and spanking on occasion. I also let her dildo me while bent over the couch. But, after being a member of this site and reading some of the entries, I realize that on a scale of kinkiness of 1-10 with 10 being the highest, I am probably a 2 compared to some of the members.

I'm pretty kinky and willing to try ALMOST anything. I try to stay away from dangerous kinks though or really stupid things. not into scat or anything illegal.

Interesting question. I guess I don't draw a line between kinky and extreme, but I do draw a line between kinky and not. So the question for me tends to be more how do you define kinky. I suspect that for me someplace in the back of my mind I have an idea of what vanilla is, and stuff that does not fall into that is where kinky starts. Perhaps kinky might be considered "rare", as in you get turned on by things that most people do not get turned on by. Figure if under 25% of the population do not get turned on by it, than you are getting into the kinky category.

Most folks these days tend to enjoy oral sex, both giving and getting, so that would not fall into kinky within the context of your bedroom. Anal sex may be on the verge of kinky. I really do not have a good handle on how many people do or don't partake and asking here is kind of like fishing in a stocked pond (smile).

BTW, if oral itself is not kinky doing it in say public places is, or certain twists on oral could or would be.

I think if you have gotten to the point where you have built a room in your house more or less exclusively for your sexual gratification, even if you do not necessarily have sex proper in it, you are pretty kinky. Things like dungeons and exam rooms. Some play doc's may not have sex in their exam rooms for example, but the play that takes place in there is definitely part of their sexuality. Ditto with folks in their dungeons or bondage rooms.

@reggind, that's a great way of saying it.

A while back I have decided that if I think its something interesting kinky, I will do it, So not long ago I thought about cross dressing and I did. I do have to say when I start something I try to go as far as I can, like when I first wear female lingerie, I looked in the mirror and quickly noticed I will look more feminine without hair, so I removed all my hair. (all that I can access)

Then I either like or don't like, I stop or continue, and in regards to kinky... Its not a everyday "vanilla normal" item like you mentioned, the its kinky baby. 😃

I noticed from my room mate, that anything I do she considers kinky in a good way, except she thinks I am going to far and at to fast of a pace. I showed her my high heels, and she probably likes them. 😃

Suppose im fairly kinky.........id give enemas to men or women, also push things up their bums to make them shit, wont be playing with it though, im not that kinky.... id administer any spanking related punishments, hard enough to make them cry out with each stroke,,,,,,, but again within agreed limits, wont mind dressing as a woman, at least underwear wise, also like my bum fingered by a woman, needs long fingers, i look at womens hands as i shop etc, to see if any have short middle finger nails........makes me wonder why.....maybe i need a woman for normal sex.....now thats kinky.

I am open to much and slowly converting my extra bdrm into a play room- so i guess i'm pretty kinky.

Relativity.

It all comes down to that.

Kink and extreme is relative to what people have heard, experienced, and enjoy.

I think that @reggind brings up a good point - If you have set aside a good portion of your time, space, or energy toward a fetish, then you are a devoted kinkster. I'm not so sure you're extreme, though. Picture 40 latex suits on manikans in your basement room? Kinky.

The circle of what is "normal" has expanded. Oral sex - fun and part of a healthy intimate relationship. Anal sex - may be against the state laws, but can be part of that, too. WHERE you do something, with how many, and if you leave permanent marks, affect the extremity, as others have pointed out.

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Oh, and @Elaine - the rubber chicken is not extreme. The actual chicken is.

Spending time with a woman, with candles lit, a great bottle of wine, romantic music. My hands massaging her skin with scented oils.

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Now THAT would be an extreme route to emotional and sexual bliss to everyone here, right?

(this seems sarcastic as I'm rereading it myself. It's just poking fun at things that we do. I've considered myself kinky for years, and have gotten much acknowledgement from the Zity community that there are many others out there who enjoy different things to satisfy both the sexual and inside curiousity we have).

Kinky fetishes:

Giving wife her enema

Douching or helping douche wife

with a bag and douche nozzle

with a douche bulb / shield and nozzle

with an antique porcelain Dainty Maid

Shaving wife's pussy bare and smooth

Changing wife's tampon, panty liner or pad

Helping wife into or out of her bras

Massaging her clit to orgasm

Nursing her breasts

Massaging her vulva and breasts with fragrant lotion

Shopping with wife for lingerie

Dilating her anus slowly and progressively with anal dilators for anal intercourse

Seeing wife just in panty hose

It's only kinky the first time ... 😄 ... and after you've done it a few times then it isn't kinky any more to those involved. But extreme can be extreme how ever many times you do it ... a 50 gallon enema ... exaggerated of course ... and other better examples that are given here. Kinky is in the eye of the beholder ... kinky to the extreme ... is something i would probably need to think about more.

It's only kinky the first time ... 😄 ... and after you've done it a few times then it isn't kinky any more to those involved. But extreme can be extreme how ever many times you do it ... a 50 gallon enema ... exaggerated of course ... and other better examples that are given here. Kinky is in the eye of the beholder ... kinky to the extreme ... is something i would probably need to think about more.

Definitely the truth.

I don't look at anything we do as kinky. It's just fun.