Other than the Locker Room, Have You Showerd With Another Guy?

Athough I'm not gay, but I've been put off onsens so far in case going so openly naked among other nudes in such close proximity for such a long time gives me an erection and folks got unsettled & thought me gay. From your insights, it sounds like the possibility of an erection is no reason to stay away from onsens? What do you mean by 'anything goes'?

@Sten, I don't recall seeing a man walking around with an erected penis in an onsen/bathhouses, except in the ones that cater to bi/gay people, even there people generally use their washclothes to cover privates while walking around. Regular onsens is no place for a sexual contact.

That said, onsens/bathhouses that cater to bi/gay men is a different story (google "24 Kaikan" ). They have hot/cold pools, mist and regular saunas, cabins with peepholes even a general rest/sleep area. You can have sex in the rest area (which has lots of bunk beds, its dark anyway but you shouldn't be shy-lots of people), in fact lots moaning very late night. In cabins anything goes depending on both parties. In mist sauna usually handjobs and oral goes on.

Been to few of those bathhouses many times usually to enjoy hot water and relax after a long work day (even if it is called a "gay sauna" not everyone is there for sexual purposes, and there are a lot of straight people too). I too enjoy seeing cocks and for me its fun seeing people playing with each others cock even fuck each other.

I wouldn't keep away from onsens, if I were you, there is no reason for it. It's a very enjoyable bathing experience. Even if you go to a regular onsen, everybody there is for their own business, to relax and cleanse. It's rude to stare at people in Japanese culture so don't expect curious eyes on you. Like I commented in my other post Japanese people are not homophobic and I don't think at all anyone would think you are gay. Use your washcloth (you are given one while checking in to any onsen, or bring your own) if (un)expected happens..

As long as your husband would be cool with it, you would have the potential to fulfill this fantasy by privately renting a communal shower area, whether it be a locker room at a school someplace, or anywhere that would provide that setting.

A pre-requisite may be to mutually decide who you both would be comfortable having along. Whether it's people you already know, interested people from here you want to meet in person first, or go for the complete stranger effect. However you wanted to play it out.

i bet you could make this happen a lot faster than i could make my fantasy happen, of sharing a jacuzzi with some nice middle age & mature ladies. The commonality of bonding over warm water.........

Healthy44 😃 Thank you for your suggestions but I think it would not feel like I wanted it to if I had to arrange it with anybody. Really what I want is to be an intruder in a group of men like a sports team or something like that. Hahaha You know, a group who normally shower together anyway. That would be keeping it real and it would be fun to see the men thinking OMG who is this girl? Hahaha But it would not feel the same if it was rented showers with people who were only there to help me play out my fantasy. It would just feel false and disappointing and the biggest part of it would be how it made me feel. I know I do not have much chance that I will ever do it but it is a nice fantasy. Maybe I would not be brave enough to do it for real but I do not think I will ever know.

I hope you get to play out your own fantasy and share a jacuzzi with some nice middle aged ladies. I must see if my mum and my husband's mum are available. I think my mum needs some action hahaha

That's cute and pretty hot. I wish I had had that experience. Some guys are just so up tight. Come on, life, it's fun right? Nice story so thanks for sharing.

Yes many times . As I said in an earlier post , I went to a boys boarding school and we had to shower every afternoon after sport and before dinner .We walked naked from our dormitory to the shower block which was just a big tiled room with shower heads sticking out the wall .

One of my uncles had a daughter and 4 sons. They, plus my aunt lived in a small house that was only built with one bathroom. Money was tight but not ingenuity. My uncle created a boys bathroom in one corner of their basement, it was all jerry-rigged but very useful. Originally one corner of the basement only had a floor drain but my uncle he dug down and installed a line for a toilet. All the plumbing fixtures were salvaged from construction sites my uncle worked.

There was a wide sink which drained into the urinal. Use the urinal then wash your hands and you've 'flushed' the urinal. The urinal in turn drained into a pipe that ran over to the floor drain. There was also two shower heads overhead, water temperature was controlled with two valves along a wall that fed both shower heads. The showers operated by pull-chains and the runoff went into that one floor drain. When I was too short to reach, they tied a rope to the chain.

There was no privacy but my uncle and four cousins used it efficiently. My dad and I joined into the mix when we visited. When I was little, it was a bit overwhelming, smelly, noisy, splashy, and raunchy with lots of banter back and forth. It was very educational as well. I learned about puberty, jock straps, boners, circumcisions, bathroom jokes, plus lots and lots of new words.

They were a great bunch of guys who treated me like a brother. Over the years sharing that basement bathroom was one of the things I looked forward to during visits. I proudly striped down on my first visit since entering puberty and my cousins took notice and congratulated me as I hoped they would. They also then taught me much about sex and girls. Great memories!

I did shower with a buddy at a clothing optional resort. We had been out at the pool and wanted to clean up before going back to the room. We used a shower near the sauna and steam which was open to all.

My upbringing having made me a total prude, and being a very non-athletic type, I was totally sheltered from having to be naked with another man—at least in early adulthood. But once condoms made me braver, and I discovered mansex, I eventually learned the little sideline aspects of having fun with another guy.

I think it was my second partner who had me shower with him. I immediately found it great foreplay, and for the first time I couldn’t be embarrassed by popping a boner when showering with another male.

My one real long-term relationship (three years) was with a guy whose virginity I helped lose, and it was with him I could have the most uninhibited fun (no condoms). His aunt had let him have the entire downstairs apartment of her house. He’d often insist on us sanitizing ourselves before any serious contact—quite understandable—so we quickly made it a joint activity.

(Oops, somehow that came out wrong.)

Anyway, I’ve always found it fascinating how even the most thorough hygiene can’t eliminate body cavity smells—at least, not the scent emerging from hot-and-heavy activity.

Outside of the locker room environment, there were same sex communal showers in college and then my work had similar showers to use if you worked in certain areas of the facility. I never saw or experienced and type of contact between the men in any of these shower environments.

I have showered with buddies in my shower at home and in the showers in their homes. Showers that are tub-showers usually are big enough to easily hold two men.

Maybe this is too similar to a locker room situation, but I have showered with a buddy in a campground shower. Open showers for the men, we took two shower heads right next to each other.

To more directly answer the question: Yes, numerous times.

Open showers in the military and communal showers at nude swim venues. Everyone gets in together.

College dorms had communal showers, with 4 heads. At the start of freshman year guys were a little timid showering but after a few weeks we were all sharing the shower heads. It was not uncommon to have 10 guys showering at once.

College dorms had communal showers

I should have mentioned this too. Back in the 70s college dorms typically had communal shower rooms.

Up until I was about twenty, communal showering was probably just locker room situations. After that, however, it became a lot more frequent in non locker room situations. My college dorm still had communal showers. Plus, once I started having overnight sex and lovers, then it became very common to share showers, sometimes involving sex, but mostly because it was fun to do.

I guess I didn't think of him as “another guy” but I showered with my dad at home a lot, especially in high school, to save time.