How to keep it positive

I am asking you males who like to dress or feel best dressed as a female how you would like this to be addressed when you are dressed as a female in public.

Back story to this is: while at a large outdoor public museum I noticed (others did as well) a lady who was a male. The shape of her face, her body, and her wig was what gave me clues that she was a male (at one time atleast).

I felt she was very happy and enjoying life, she was enjoying the event. I wanted to go up to her and say, "May you find continued happiness on your journey." Something very positive to be supportive. But I though maybe it would be rude or inconsiderate.

What would you feel comfortable with a total stranger saying and/or doing to you in public but with a very positive motive behind it?

While I´m not in the category you´re addressing, I have however encountered similar situations and I have to say that your thoughts and wish to say something encouragingly positive are very thoughtful and supportive.

With out actually saying anything about him/her,how about "Hi."If nothing else it breaks the ice and then talk about what everybody is at the event for and maybe just see them as another person instead of someone who is dressed differently.Friends first.

,Just common courtesy. Most conversations don't necessarily require a gender specific form of address. But it's nice to be addressed as ma'am. Nobody likes hostile name calling. When referring to someone else who is dressed in feminine attire, feminine pronouns are appreciated. If I introduce myself as Michele, please call me Michele.

Very easy to just say hello and smile.

Nothing more.

I am a older TG and when I am dressed I prefer to be recognized as a lady so the feminine pronouns are preferred. If you are passing by and would like to make a positive and supporting commit, that is very appreciated. Some thing like “Good evening, You look very nice tonight” would make my day. It is much better then saying “Oh my god, that's a guy dressed like a women” in a loud voice. (That really happened)

When out in public i use the name Bobbie not Bob

it works quiet good for me when out with wife or others

wife does my hair and make up when we go out

Bobbie

To discern is one thing; to discriminate is another. To notice that a person may be a cross dresser or trans gender is perceptive. But it should not affect how you act or interact. So treat her as you would any other lady in the crowd.

Quincy

Thank you for the well thought out and kind words.

I have lived as a woman 24/7 now for about 15 years. Like all ladies I like to be treated with respect and a nice friendly, polite smile.

Sure, there are times when people read me, but if they are polite and respectful of me, then that is all I want.

What I don't like is the shouting insults, the pointing and laughing. Like any person (man or woman) everyone finds this upsetting and causes distress.

If someone wants to ask me a question, or talk to me about my gender issues, then providing they are polite and respectful, I will talk to them about it and answer any questions that they want to ask. I am very open about it.

Like all women, we like to be treated like a lady and we love nice compliments.

It is nice when a man will open a door for you, or compliment your dress or perfume.

By far the worst people I find are groups of drunken men, like football crowds, or groups of young male teenagers on street corners.

But again, the above are any womans worst fears, and worries

. . . I felt she was very happy and enjoying life, she was enjoying the event. I wanted to go up to her and say, "May you find continued happiness on your journey." Something very positive to be supportive. But I though maybe it would be rude or inconsiderate.

What would you feel comfortable with a total stranger saying and/or doing to you in public but with a very positive motive behind it?

I definitely would NOT say anything to a stranger and would not want anyone to say anything to me if I were in that situation. It isn't anybody's business and to say something would mean the other person was thought of as different.

At the very least, saying something means their "disguise" of their true sex isn't so good because you were able to tell they were only dressing the part.

It's like congratulating someone for being pregnant when in fact, they are just fat, or telling a stranger you can tell they are dying their hair blonde. You just don't do that sort of thing.

A warm smile alone goes a very long way toward communicating your positive feelings toward another individual, and often will be more expressive and encouraging than any words at all.

Most people would not complement a random lady and a trans person simply wants to be recognized as a normal lady and not have their struggles more pronounced.

I'd treat the person as any other stranger, and not single out the transwoman. It might signal that she's been 'made' which is an embarrassment. Harassment for being trans is still a fear.