Bear down

I've had two rectal exams and the doctor told me both times to "bear down" as he slid a finger up my anus - It must have helped me relax my anal sphincter muscles, as I was very embarrassed about the whole procedure!

I realize this is a question about rectal exams during gynecological examinations and I apologize if it is inappropriate for a male to answer! I received two (non play) digital rectal exams so far, and for the first I recall distinctly the command to bear down as though going potty. The second I'm unsure but I think it was the same.

Never have been asked in a real life exam, just occasionally in a few play exams. I figured that the phrase was just another tired, old, medical joke since it had never been used in any real life rectal exams I had ever had.

Maybe it is just a whole different thing in a female exam.

I always ask the patient to bear down. It relaxes the sphincter and allows for easier introduction of my finger. Just seems kind plus I like the verbiage

Had it said many times. Makes it easier apparently.

My ex gf tells me about all her exams and I asked about the phrase Bear Down. She said she can't stand that phrase and doesn't hear it much anymore but years ago it was a lot more prevalent from her Drs. she had a few older male Drs that would always say it. One she said was a smaller man but had some big thick fingers and would always announce it was that time as he pulled off one glove and replaced it with another and he'd lube up his finger and look at her and say " not your favorite time but if you just bear down for me when you feel my finger at your anus it will make it easier." Then he would repeat it as if she'd forget and slip his big finger up her ass as she did. She hated hearing the words, but she liked him as an obgyn because he was " nice and always tried to be as gentle as possible,even with his giant banana fingers!"

Never been asked to bear down, just to relax as I tense up while the finger slides in.