Would you let your partner watch you Masturbating?

Both have their attractions.

Self masturbation boasts that you'll ALWAYS hit the sweet spots. You'll ALWAYS have the right rhythm and pressure.

A hand job, on the other hand (giggidy), takes away your control and adds mystery. Your partner, however, needs to listen and learn how you like it.

I want female partner give masturbation and control my cock.

Both are great in their own way. Until I can train a partner where the sweet spot is, I get more pleasure doing it myself, and there are times when I need to bring myself off and there is neither the partner nor the circumstance to do it.

That said of course I love the bonding of being masturbated by someone else.

For me it depends upon my partner. Some hit that sweet spot just right, while with others, well, I'd rather do it myself.

I prefer me doing, but having my partner watch. That brings it to an entirely different level of enjoyment.

1967 - the summer of love. Now that I think of it, we probably enjoy a lot of the same music.

That must have been a time when some of the most god awful stuff was played that ever had the misfortune to be labeled 'music' ... ha ha.

On the other hand, they were fun times, if only because such simple things like wearing jeans, longish hair for males and talking about dudes like Marcuse and Reich so pissed off our elders ... and when it became relatively easy to buy sex magazines with real naked people having sex, not just artsy romantic stuff of airbrushed nudes ... ha ha

My wife never masturbated herself as a girl and as a result has never been comfortable doing it to me or letting me try to get her off with my fingers. She'll watch as I jack myself and she'll "help" by all sorts of anal insertions. I was the complete opposite - I grew up masturbating at every opportunity, often together with my sister or just cumming for her because she loved to see me spurt.

My husband knows me so well, I let him do it, but when I was single but in a relation I would do it myself

Quite often we'll masturbate each other, usually as foreplay, she'll jerk me off while I rub her clitoris to orgasm, then I'll finish up inside of her 😉

Well I can not say that I do like one more than the other. Masturbate or get masturbated are both fun. Both ways do have their own benefits. I do like both. Well I also like the third way, to masturbate someone else.

Doing it to myself gives me a lot of freedom and I can imagine what I want. I am also able to stop a bit and keep my orgasm back as long as I want to.

If someone else is doing me it feels bether because I am not in control. Then I can lay back and look at my girls sweet face while she does it to me or I can imagine what I like to.

To do someone is also a fine way. Here I can see the breath increasing by watching her stomache go up and down. I can see how turned on she is, how much liquid does come out of her. If she gets into it, I can even see how she starts to touch her own boobs softly and gentle. By those signs I am in control and can make her finish faster or turn down a little to give her more time in this moment full of pleasure.

So, in my case I would say that I can need some of all depending of my mood.

I like both but a lady masturbating me looking sexy is fantastic

To me, masterbation is like boxed mashed potatoes. It bland and tasteless but it feeds the hungry. Having someone else bringing me there by his fingers or rubbing his penis back and forth over my clit is more like a fine meal with margaritas and dessert. When you aren't doing it to yourself, there is the mystery as others have posted before me and getting there is half the fun. If you masterbate, it's just to get to the prize of release. The two do not compare but both have their place and time.

The two do not compare but both have their place and time.

Well said!

Most masturbation is good masturbation. Sometimes it's incredible. But any time it's an option, having help is preferred.

Masturbation alone is usually a way to get a release from being horny. The orgasm isn't usually as great as when I'm having sex with my sub, but the edge has been taken off.

I have masturbated while my sub is beside me. This is done to tease my sub. I get the fun and hormone rush. My sub gets to know he helped his Miss. What more could he ask for?

I prefer to be masturbated by a partner. But sometimes you do what you have to when you are single. Sometimes I prefer just help. Like if a girlfriend wants to finger me while I do the rest.

Cant beat having someone else do it, more intense, and they can edge you better.

Both are pleasurable, but having my partner doing it for me is lots more fun. It takes a bit of guidance, and sometimes helping with my own hand, but girlfriends quickly pick up what to do.

It is just more intimate when a girlfriend does it for me.

Solo masturbation is often wonderful to use as a way to enhance fantasy scenarios that play out in your head. I don't use it as a form of release, because once the sexual tension is gone, then it takes too long for my taste and age for it to become urgent again. I'd rather be horny and unfulfilled for a longer period and walk around with all kinds of sexual scenarios in my head, than get release.

When someone else masturbates you, it is a wonderful and intense, but very short period of excitement and intimacy, especially when both are looking each other in the eyes. Especially when the maturbator forces the recipient to keep their eyes fixed so that it becomes something of a domination thing.

Mutual solo masturbation has been somewhat disappointing in my experience as it necessitates a short period as compared to private masturbation which can go on for long periods of time, at intermittent intervals during a whole day. And there is no real opportunities for playing out fantasy scenarios or holding imaginary conversations out loud.

I'm for being masturbated but only if the person truly understands that my penis is very sensitive and needs gentle stroking to get me fully aroused and have an explosive orgasm. The very first woman I ever had pump me, was going at it so vigorously, it was anything but arousing.

As always I am a freak! I do prefer to BE masturbated but ONLY If I can call my Boyfriend "DADDY" (or Girlfriend "MOMMY" if dating a girl) and pretend NOT to like it. I go into this headspace of shame, humiliation, and powerlessness wherein I feel totally exposed as I am literally manipulated by my lover's hands which can alternately be stern, mocking, or loving, depending on the situation.

I don't really have a problem with the definition of masturbation and recognise that in these days the definition can be the stimulation of one's own genitals, or the stimulation of one's genitals by another person, by fingers, mouth or a toy etc.

However, as WillyNilly says at post #8. and strictly speaking, it is actually the former. Wikipedia, at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation - defines it as - Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one's own genitals for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm. The emphasis here being 'one's' own genitals'.

I guess that I'm something of a purist though, in that, many of our members who have 'Doctor' as part of their screen name or who claim to be medical professionals, spell it as 'masterbation' and that really rings warning bells for me - and should ring your bells too!

For me it depends on the partner. As others have pointed out everyone is their own 'old reliable.' But I've had a couple gals who were handjob and/or blowjob High Priestesses. The current one, herself never having masturbated as a youth or even now (that she'll admit) not so much...gotta work on her...

Having a lovely lady masturbate me is always better than doing it myself.

If you want a job done right, then do it yourself.

If someone else does it, it is a hand job, not masturbation.

My perfect masturbation scenario is to have my wife at my side, one hand/finger on my anus, teasing the opening, her lips on my nipple, gently sucking and nibbling while her other hand is on the nipple tweaking it gently. My hands are stroking my penis and gently cupping and pulling on my testicles.

My ex girlfriend didn't like sucking cock but would do it cause she loved me and she wasn't very good at it. But her hands she was excellent with. She gave amazing handjobs. It was way better and more intense orgasum with her jacking me off then me doing it. So I prefer to be masturbaited.

For sheer speed and "efficiency" I'm better, but my wife's handjobs are more enjoyable because she alternates between hand and mouth and always applies proper saliva lubrication... In the beginning she was clumsy but now she's very very good!

Masturbation alone is usually a way to get a release from being horny. The orgasm isn't usually as great as.... (snip)

That's' 'cause you're not doing it right. ; ~ 》

Oooh so many choices, self masturbation? Or partner? Self love kept me from being promiscuous, and I learned how to make it an incredible experience, fun and explosive orgasm. Why "just get off". HOWEVER, there is nothing more pleasurable than feeling a man's thick, knowing hand, nimble fingers, firmly covering the entire real estate. Holding you down or playing with other parts with the other hot hand.

Me masturbating alone is a de-stressing, I appreciate the calm that came over me after ...

But I also like a person masturbate, although I prefer fellatio ...

I received some good masturbation, by car, in a train, hidden by a cloak, and a bar, standing at the counter, my sex and the hand of the women hidden by my long coat ...

I also like that the person put me one or two fingers into the anus during masturbation, or a dildo ...

I love both but if I had to pick one it would be to be masturbated by a partner