Most embarrassing part of an examination

Addie, regardless of how embarrassed you were by the exam, if you are considering having fibroid surgery, you need to be sure you will not end up having a hysterectomy and probably losing your ovaries too. If you have not been there, you need to go to the HERS Foundation website and read the information there. http://hersfoundation.com/index.html

I am male and I oppose most hysterectomies as I have seen the damage done to several relatives.

Speed

Thank you, speedvogel. You can be sure that I have been doing a whole lot of reading on the subject. I am absolutely sure I do NOT want a hysterectomy along with the removal of my fibroid. I am also aware that many gynecological surgeons these days will opt for hysterectomy over a myomectomy because a hysterectomy is much easier to perform. For them, it's mostly a matter of making about the same money for less work in a shorter amount of time. But for me, it's about keeping my body parts. These days, it's almost like uteri - and many times even ovaries along with them - have become "the new tonsils," as far as some surgeons are concerned. But we sure as hell don't see urologists telling their patients, "OK, your prostate is shot. Oh, and while we're in there taking care of it, we might as well remove your testes and penis because you're not planning on having any children at your age, are you?. After all, if your penis and testes are left in place, there is always the chance you might get cancer in them eventually." Not gonna happen. And so many gynecologists today ever so conveniently leave out the fact that women who have their uteri removed have a much higher rate of ovarian cancer than women who've held onto their uteri. Astoundingly, this is often the reason given for also removing the ovaries along with the uterus.

My own mother did not reach menopause until the age of fifty-seven. So, as I see it, I very likely have a good while to go without being subjected to a premature menopause via hysterectomy.

I have been doing even more internet research on the topic since my last gyn exam, and have already emailed the HERSFoundation yesterday asking for recommendations to doctors who are not afraid to perform just a myomectomy without a hysterectomy. I guess I will probably hear back from them this week.

I have also researched the New York State Center for Medical Consumers to see which doctors have performed the most myomectomies recently. From their list, I have typed the names into the "RateMD" site to see what former patients' experiences are. From that, I've pretty much narrowed down my search to two doctors, one of whom is on my health plan. So let's see how this goes.

Anyway, thank you again, speedvogel.

Addie, I am certainly happy to hear you are an informed medical consumer.

For our European members, In the US, there are over 600,000 hysterectomies performed each year. Only 30,000 of these are for cancer, which is the only legitimate reason to do a hysterectomy. Women must be informed consumers and very careful in this country.

Speed

The DRE for sure!

The most embarrasing part of the exam for me is spreading my legs in front of the doctor and the first touch of the speculum. The most embarrasing thing ever was when a very young nurse was trying to insert a catheter and missed and inserted it into my vagina. She was finishing up with a piece of tape against my thigh when I figured I better tell her. I said "the catheter is in the wrong place", confirming how utterly stupid she was, she asked me "well, where is it?" ???

I agree with you, Helena. I have also found that the most consistently embarrassing few minutes are when the doctor first comes into the examination room and I am naked except for a gown - or even worse, just covered by one of those skimpy, horribly fitting, paper gowns and a paper lap drape. I always think I look like absolute hell.

And as for chatting about the mundane... I swear, as part of their training, doctors seem to have been instructed to engage the patient in a kind of "let's ignore this awkward situation and pretend we're just having a friendly chat" line of conversation. In my case, the topics are always, "So, what do you do for a living?" and also, "Tell me, what does your last name mean?" (I have an Italian surname.)

It all just makes me wish the whole thing were finished already so I can just run right out of there.

The rectal exam, the male doctor was showing a female intern how to do a rectal exam on a male patient - whom by the way was me bent over the exam table and he offered to her to don a pair of gloves and try for herself. Never once asking me if it would be OK. She lubed up her finger and shoved it up there. He kept asking her if she felt my prostate and she said no, so she continued to wiggle her finger in my butt till she found it. It was about 3 minutes and by that time because of all her finger movements, I had a large hard-on that was leaking precum. Best of all after the exam when the doctor was not looking she smiled at me and licked her lips.

Hi all, what is most embarassing exam in your experience?

Rectal exam!

I agree, anything to do with the rectal exam is the most embarrassing part of the exam for me.

Lady Teddy

Thank you for the answers!

The same here... 😳

Actually, I find a throat culture embarrassing, because I always gag and cough all over the nurse.

No exam is embarrasing, i think...

When I was 14 or 15 I had my first rectal exam. I was ordered by a male doctor to " .... drop my shorts, bend over the exam table and open your legs a bit ..." He continued by saying: ... " this isn't going to hurt, you're just going to feel as if you're having a bowel movement "... I've never been so embarrassed in my life !

Del

I just had this kind of exam (rectal)with female doctors, maybe that's why i don't find it embarrassing...

I needed a transvaginal ultrasound as part of my initial exam, and i was at a University teaching hospital. I ended up having a very nervous resident try to do it and struggle. He had me move my legs all around trying to find the right ovary. I had my legs up in the air and straight out in front of me. Also in the room was the doctor supervising the resident and a female nurse. Those rooms aren't all that big and so the doctor and nurse had to move around trying not to get kicked. Finally the resident gave up and handed the wand to the doctor. He found what we were looking for right away. Talk about embarassing!! The naked and in the stirrups portion of the exam took for ever and any modesty i had was long gone when the doctor and nurse had to move around to avoid getting kicked. THEN the resident tried to make some excuse that he could find my ovary because i was too "mucousy" and wet. It was not from arrousal, he used way too much lube! I could feel my face radiating heat.

Not an exam per se but after my vasectomy I needed to give a semen sample. Nurse brings you to a room, hands you a cup and a folder of porn. Lol

Easily the rectal exam.. Mine was done by a male doc who wasn't totally friendly so I've had bad memories ever since.

My most embarrassing exam was a couple of years ago. My new doctor is a female and when she came in for the first time she had a female resident with her. I was there for a physical and had to get out of all my clothes in front of the two of them. when it came to the genital check i started to get erect. they were very polite and acted as if they didnt notice . then i had a rectal exam. first by my doctor then the resident. upon the resident inspecting i orgasmed and that was very embarrassing

Had a kidney stone, got rectal exam WTF... yeah it sucked

My most embarrassing moment in hospital was when the nurses had to manually evacuate my bowels.

When I was 18 I had a some rectal bleeding my Father took me to his GI guy and I had no idea what to expect. He had me take off everything except my shirt and lay knee chest and did a rectal then put a scope in pumped me full of air. He said it was a hemorrhoid and told me to start taking fiber. All the way down the elevator I was farting up a storm I wasn't able to hold it in and some cute girls got on. I was red faced all the way down.

Mental note... when you want to embarrass the bulk of patients... reveal the gloves, lube, anoscopes, and anything else that might require the woman to endure a rectal. : ) *grin

My most embarrassing exam has to have been before I admitted my medical fetish. I was having a vasectomy, and it turns out that my male doctor I saw for the pre-op wasn't doing the procedure. I am standing in a gown that ends about my belly button when in walks this HOT looking 30 something red head. My doc says, "This is Dr. Hucklebee, she will be doing the procedure." I just about died of embarrassment. Now, I look back with fond memories of her post op exams.

Jeff

I've noticed that the older I get, the less embarrassed I am about genital and/or rectal exams.

Rectal exams are for sure the most embarrassing!

Foreskin chek

Urethral swab....very unexpected by an older female doc. Really caught me off-guard.

Rectal exams