Fear to spank

I totally love being spanked. I love the sting and pain of it, but every lover that I have doesn't have the endurance to spank me and is afraid to hurt me. I've only had one lover who had spanked me and it was only a few smacks! I need someone who will sit there and get enjoyment out of punishing my bum and other places on my body! How on EARTH do I do this?! X.x

Hi Nikki. I think that you should check your profile for your age. Most of us seniors want less vigorous stimulation. Your age confuses me.

Many of us think a spanking is SUPPOSED to hurt and that there's nothing wrong with a bit of sting remaining the next day. There are, in my experience, a couple of ways to approach this. One is straightforward: a discussion of what you want a spanking to accomplish and what a "good spanking" is for you. Another is more lighthearted "didn't hurt" or "is that all you got?" Either way, feedback has to help.