How did you get turned on by spanking

I was spanked by an older couple who looked after me when my Aunt had visitors. I got erections after they spanked me, I was left bare so I couldn't hide it from them. They didn't do anything but it left me both ashamed and excited. Once when I was in my very early teens I took a short cut through an orchard and the owner saw me. I knew him from church but only to recognise him. He asked me if I wanted him to tell my Aunt or he could ‘tan my backside’. I chose the tanning and he took me up to his house. He took down my shorts spanked me in front of his wife who took a keen interest in proceedings and told him to take down my underpants too. I found it humiliating to be bared and spanked in front of two strangers but also very exciting. I cut through the orchard on several occasions in the hope it would happen again. This was a very, very long time ago I hasten to add.

I grew up in the early 50s and 60s, spankings were very normal back then. I had two older brothers and an older sister and one younger sister. There wasfive kids in our family and as far I know none of us were ever spanked. My dad are used to threaten spankings however he never did. However at an early age probably as early as five I know I wanted to be spanked and it’s been with me all my life I’m now 70 years old. So I am a firm believer that it’s something that you’re born with.

I was a child in the '70s, and both of my parents, but especially my father, were frequent users of corporal punishment. His spankings came from a thick (and hard) rubber sandal, and they happened suddenly and without warning. My spankings didnt have a ritual to them, my only warning being a sudden flash of anger by my dad, following which he would suddenly grab me, put me accross the nearest piece of furniture (usually the couch), and wail on my butt, sometimes taking my pants down, and sometimes not. This happened fairly often to me, and I hated getting a spanking from my Dad. I was actually, outside of home a rather docile kid, and hardly ever got in trouble at school. But at home, my parents thought I was mischeivous and stubborn.

As I said, I hated the spankings at the time, at least when I was the one getting them. But I eventually developed a great fascination for spankings and paddlings when others were on the receiving end. At school in Florida in the '70s, paddlings were very much still used. I was never paddled at school, but I often could hear other kids getting paddled out in the hall, and in first grade, one was even paddled in front of the class (pants up, but causing him to cry unconsolably after it was over). I developed quite an arousal for all these spankings I saw or overheard.

It was not until my last spanking from my dad, at age 13, that, afterwards, I realized how arousing it was that I received a spanking. I have stories of my spankings elsewhere on Zity message boards. As a masochist, so many of the experiences of being made to receive things I did not want (spankings, enemas, teasing at school, braces, glasses) ultimately developed into intense sources of arousal. In the '70s, some kids, like one of my closest friends, were no longer spanked by their “progressive” parents. Back then, I envied kids like my friend, who were not spanked, but now I look back and am very grateful that I received my spankings, and that they happened fairly often. The masochistic joy I get from recalling them is fantastic.

It seems like a lot of people are relating their childhood disciplinary spanking experiences with their current erotic practices. I was brought up in the 50's by two very conservative parents. I was never spanked. Someone posted about “progressive” parents. Mine were anything but. As I grew up I remember talking to my mother about it and she simply responded that they settled differences by reason not violence-perhaps something more people should exercise today. Now many years later I can experience the humiliation, pain, or eroticism whether it be with one or in front of others without the negative thoughts they many have expressed about their childhood spanking experiences

It started for me when I was about 4 and I played with an older girl that lived down the block. She was about 10. She liked to treat me like her baby and we played house alot. She also loved to spank me as part of the game. I remember that she always had shorts on and when she told me to get over her knee, I would resist until she picked me up and put me over her lap. She didn't spank hard only a few swats with her hand, but being lifted up and put over her knees really had an impact as I always wanted to be forced over a womans lap before they spanked me. She spanked me outdoors in my yard mostly, but took me into my garage when I complained that people walking past the house could see us. She found some old kitchen chairs in there and sat on one when she took me over her lap. She never pulled my pants down though as the spankings were always with my clothes on. Now I want to be bare bottomed or naked when I'm spanked. I was very lucky to date a girl in my junior year of high school that did spank me like that. The rest is history.

How soon should a Domme start maintenance spanking for her sub? I'm a sub. The first night my step sister took me over to her girlfriend's house to turn me over to her for special training as soon as we got there my sis said “he's ready now.” The domme's name Chantelle. First thing she did was ask my step if I was wearing panties. She said I was. Then she explained very matter of fact like, that this relationship must start off correctly and I had to realize that I was her submissive and that she was going to train me to be a proper submissive and the way to start was with a maintenance spanking. I didn't think it would all happen this quickly. She first made me take off everything but the panties and led me into her office. There was a padded bench in the office and I took a look and knew what it was for. I was then ordered to stand by the bench. She informed me that this would happen every week on Saturday night. I was to report to her office and bring the instrument she was going to use. Then I would be put over the bench and she would put the restraints on me. I was to ask to be spanked and was to count each stroke and ask for another. “Now we'll start.” “Bend over the bench and your sister will put the restraints on you.” “You may keep the panties on for this first time.” My sister put the handcuffs and shackles on me. Then she asked if I was ready. I politely asked Chantelle to give me a spanking. She came in front of me to show me the leather strap. “This is what I will use on you tonight. In time you will experience another type of strap, a paddle, a switch and a whip." “Are you ready.” “Yes mistress.” She then moved beside the bench but it was in front of a full length mirror so I could see her as she readied the strap. She reached back and let me have a hard crack on my butt. “One. Please give me another.” This went on till she had given me 20 lashes with the strap. After my sister put some oil on my butt to ease the stinging. She unlocked the restraints and led me into the sitting room. Chantelle then gave me a black satin sleep shirt and told me to kneel before her. I did and she then put a leather collar around my neck and locked it. "You'll sleep with the sleep shirt and your panties tonight. You'll be on a long leash in case you have to use the bathroom. But starting tomorrow you will be diapered with plastic panties every night. The rest of the rules you will learn soon. So, I was spanked right from the start. I get a maintenance spanking every week and usually it gives me a boner after which I am allowed to jerk off in front of Chantelle.

I agree with GARY1951; I think it's something you're born with and you either know the desire is there from the get-go or you come to discover it in more or less time. I was not spanked in any way by either parent while growing up, yet my interest, though I could not explain it or verbalize it was very upfront in my mind every time the topic of spanking came up somehow, somewhere, most often when overhearing my buddies talk about their spankings or hearing them being spanked, most often with their dad's strop. I eventually came to physically explore the scene as a young teen and soon discovered a strong sexual component associated with it…and still do today as a senior in NH. As far back as I can remember the fantasies about spanking or getting spanked were there. I soon discovered after starting to explore this as an adult, (early 20s) that almost every guy I connected with about getting into it expressed one of two very clear experiences in their growing up, so much like me. They were all into it, big time, whether they had been spanked as kids or not. So, yes, I think you're born with it.

The first time it happened I was spanked in bed, lying face down with my bottom upwards. I think the position may have contributed towards it as well as my hormones just starting to come alive (I was 11 at the time).

It's been seven years since I posted on this subject. I am still getting spanked and self spanking. For Role Play and for stress relief.

The implements that work the best for me are the Pickle Paddle and hands.

They leave my ass red and stingy.

My friend was 14, I was just a little younger. We were playing a game where the loser would lay over the winners lap for 10 good swats. I won some and he won some. The final game played the loser had to get 20...however it was to be on the bare butt. I agreed and when I lost he was laughing and I was about to get over his lap when he said oh no, pull down your pants! I just looked at him like really? He said well you agreed! So I pulled down my pants to my ankles and layed across his lap. He waited a minute before he started. Then really took his time giving me 20 hard slaps on the bare ass. When I got home my ass was very warm and stinging. but I realized I kinda liked being over his lap bare ass exposed. I had this tingle go through me. It was fun. Would love to do that again to!

I became aroused during my first spanking at 9. Watching others getting spanked, even if you were already spanked or will be, caused arousal

For me, spankings were just about the only time my father touched me. Being held tightly in place, and spanked bare-bottom over his lap was simultaneously terrifying, exciting, and a form of getting the attention I craved.

I was spanked by my parents, and by a babysitter. The babysitter went too far and spanked me naked, and touched me,. When she punished me again similarly she was fired. My immature brain, I surmise, associated the touching (which actually felt very good) with spanking. When I got into porn, I looked for anything that had to do with naked men dominated by women,, especially spanking

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It probably started with not getting enough spankings as I needed, ha! Just kidding but, truly, I needed, as every child needs and deserves, more love and affection and attention, than I received. Possibly, I have this deep-rooted need to be lightly disciplined to set me straight, and correct me as needed.

I also like the authoritative figure taking charge. Not overbearing or harsh but just enough to let me know they are correcting me, and they're in control. Plus, the sound of a good, solid, firm smack that includes gripping a handful of my ass does wonders to my body 🫠

My earliest memory is being in Vacation Bible School, around age 4. I do not remember what I did but I remember a rather buxom redheaded lady threaten to take me over her lap and spanking me like she did her little girl. I made my best effort to talk my way out of trouble while trying to get info about how she spanked her little girl. I did not get spanked but do not remember getting much info about her spanking her daughter either. What a bummer!

I'm not sure. Even before my one spanking at age 5/6 I know many/most of my kinks were in place. Definitely by 5/6 I was spanking-obsessed. I remember around that time (it might not have been that long after that one r/l spanking), my grandmother was watching some movie on TV where there was a brief clip of child being spanked, and crying "I won't do it again daddy!" which cut me to the quick because I'd been crying the same thing (except it was to my mom), and I found that moment both scary and exciting.

It's impossible to pinpoint any specific event or incident that caused my spanking fetish! I just think that growing up at a time when spanking was ubiquitous and in a family where ritualised, old fashioned, bare bottom spanking was a regular occurrence; (as it was in many other families as well) the constant exposure to the sights and sounds of bare buttocks being soundly spanked predisposed me to a fascination with both spanking and bottoms! The exposure to areas of the female anatomy also was a big influence in my early life as well! Like just about all kids back then spankings and the ever-present threat of them produced feelings of fear and dread; but in my case, as well as some other youngsters, they awoke in me feelings of excitement and fascination which developed a sexual dimension as I got older! In light of all this it is not hard to see why I and some other kids developed both a bottom and spanking fetish which has stayed with us as adults!

My magic moment, I would have been about 9 or 10 years old in the 3rd year of junior school. We had a form teacher " Miss Little " and in all of my schooling she was the only teacher who smacked this way.

You would be called out to the front Miss Little would place her chair facing the class the boy called out was pulled over her knee. ( all boys wore short trousers in the 1950s ) The leg of the trousers was pulled up exposing his thigh and a cheek of his bottom these were then smacked the other leg was then treated in the same way.

But what made it magical was she also smacked the girls as well, the first time she called a girl out over her knee she went then her dress was flipped up and her navy blue knickers were tugged into the crack of her bottom exposing both cheeks they were then both smacked,,,,, and what a lovely sight and sound it was to us boys.

I bet that was a great site. Especially a girl a bit on the plump side. Those buttocks cheeks would have really danced under the impact of teachers hand.

I was never spanked at a child but once I discovered spanking in porn I decided try it out on myself with my hand and a hairbrush and loved the tingly feeling it shot through my whole body as I did it and now if anyone wants to spank me as we are playing I will melt in the hands just like if they lick or touch my butt I will. I am so eager or be spanked lol. I have even been "spanked" with a shoe at a bathhouse once till I was almost in tears and it was an exhilarating feeling.

Being spanked by parents was nasty and painful on the bare butt, OTK. Babysitter was also allowed to spank, One day I came home muddy. Babysitter stripped off the muddy clothes, with my sister watching. The humiliation was more than I could bear. Then she spanked me--naked--all the while taunting me for my modesty. Finally she touched me. Parents thought naked spanking was okay as she had to take off my clothes. However the next time Babysitter spanked me she stripped me naked again, and was fired. Being seen naked by her, and with several other medically related instances of forced nudity got me into CFNM as a fetish.

As with some other zity members I found spanking & whipping in porn. The spankee was always naked, spanked by a woman. I identified strongly with the man, and started acting out the scenes. I made my own restraints and spanking furniture. ( https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=gallery;ox=showalbum;ax=8406) I'd watch a movie and spank myself exactly as the domme would spank her victim.

I finally booked a session with a pro. Worst decision of my life. The pain was way more than I could tolerate; she ignored the safe word. I suffered for 3 days after the whipping. No more pros for me.

I finally booked a session with a pro. Worst decision of my life. The pain was way more than I could tolerate; she ignored the safe word. I suffered for 3 days after the whipping. No more pros for me.

Wow. If she ignored the safe word then she was not a pro. Very unprofessional behavior.

Too bad there are no venues or associations you could lodge a consumer complaint with.

I finally booked a session with a pro. Worst decision of my life. The pain was way more than I could tolerate; she ignored the safe word. I suffered for 3 days after the whipping. No more pros for me.

Yes to not abide by an agreed upon safe word is very unprofessional indeed. That is not how one should behave in that instance.

Wow. If she ignored the safe word then she was not a pro. Very unprofessional behavior.

Too bad there are no venues or associations you could lodge a consumer complaint with.

Your word of mouth to others is the best you will have to spread the word on how she behaved. You, @bratwurst , might possibly save someone else a great disappointment and unwanted pain.

My first wife would often say pain before sex is like a fine sauce to a meal. I never really knew what she meant, until one day she told me to collect about a dozen fresh spring saplings from the walnut tree

About two feet long

Oh, I guess she is doing a floral display. Silly me.

I brought them to her. She pulled her dress up and her panties down and said to whip her ass.

Ok whatever I thought to myself. I took a few swats on her ass and she immediately said,

You don't have a clue do you? Give me those and pull your pants down, she commanded.

Get on the bed l laid down and she started beating on my ass. I screamed.

She said I was a real pussy and she would have to do this the hard way. She went to the kitchen and came back with Plastic Wrap and proceeded to tie me Ina way I couldn't move or squirm around. So far it was kind of fun, I liked her being in charge. She then slowly started whipping my ass once again. At first it was gentle and slow, then the frequency and intensity increased. This progressed into her taking full force strikes on my now burning butt.

The interesting part was it didn't really hurt, in fact it felt kinda good, believe it or not. My penis was throbbing and huge from the intense stimulation. I was in an alter state of conscious, I said, harder. Faster. She complied, until she stopped and turned me over, and mounted my hard cock. She was definitely in charge, she fucked m

me hard and fast until I shot a massive load in her willing cunt. She laughed and said, now you understand?

It was intense, it was hot.

I hope you returned the favour @bagman925 ? Now you knew what she wanted.

Was a gradual process for me. I was spanked from a young age and there was something thrilling about reading or seeing examples of spankings on TV, in books etc. When I started masturbating, I would usually masturbate after a spanking, although didn't associate any sense of pleasure with it and didn't fantasise about it initially.

I think the actual turn on started later in teens, although can't remember exactly what prompted it. I remember going online to look at spanking porn. Around the same time my mum threatened me with a bare bottom spanking and I remember becoming erect at hearing it said. But I can't remember whether that was before or after I started looking at porn.

I can’t be sure that this event was the impetus, but one incident sticks in my mind to this day.

When I was four years old, I had a playdate with a girl my age. We were at her family’s house, which had a big back yard. The two of us were in a corner of the yard away from our parents, and decided to show each other our genitals. I was extremely happy, and I believe also aroused, which definitely happened to me at that age. Before long our parents were there, and fun time ended abruptly. I remember her father being very angry, and carrying her into the house and saying she was going to be spanked. I don’t remember any more play dates after that. Luckily my mom was more reasonable and had a kind talk with me at home about private parts staying private. Around that age — maybe even as a result of this conversation — I started spending what I called “private time” alone in my room (I’d announce it to my mom), which was exactly what it sounds like.

I think my fascination with spanking began around that time, so it’s a plausible origin story. I remember being most obsessed with spanking a few years later when I had a not-so-wet dream in which I was on a tennis court with my parents, and they got angry with me for some reason. They said they were going to spank me, but the “spanking” involved taking a long wooden stick, having me straddle it, and sliding it back and forth between my legs. For months, maybe years, thereafter, I would hope as hard as I could to have another “spanking” dream, but it didn’t work. To this day if I have a semi-lucid dream, I always try to turn it into a spanking.

This for me started in a rather strange way. I was spanked as a boy and there was nothing to it but tears and the unique bond that was formed from my parents. Also the lesson that was learned from it.... Never anymore than that. Until one day...... I was being baby sat by a neighbor who had a son my same age and a sister a few years younger than we were. Her son and I were about 6 and great friends we always played when we got together.

We usually played with toy cars and other things. Always had a fun time finding something to do..... This day at his house he must have done something to his sister that was bad and his mom took my friend into the bathroom and I heard her slap his butt over and over again. My friend I heard crying and screaming. In this moment I had a feeling even though I did not want it wanted to be in his place at this moment... It was an odd feeling that I had no understanding of at this age... I do think this is how it kind of stated.... That being vulnerable and being under control might have been how it started and to witness this with my friend and hear it did it for me...

Hard to follow a thread that was started twelve years ago, but TBH I don't remember how I got turned on by spankings.

then I met a guy who was and it was awesome.

I was spanked by an Aunt and it was painful.. on the bare bottom.. OTK. Also by a babysitter who had permission to spank. One time I came home and my cloths had pretty a lot of dirt stains. She had me strip off all my clothes, with my cousin watching me. The humiliation was rough!! Then she spanked me while taunting at the same time. I was more then a little aroused even thou the smacks hurt! My Aunt thought naked spanking was okay and my sitter did the same. Each time my babysitter spanked me she stripped me naked.