Enemas were once more of a woman's thing?

It just might be more of a women's thing. For the most part we are far better at taking care of things and our bodies are a bit more demanding as well. Retreating to the bathroom with the enema bag in hand is not abnormal for us. Men, on the other hand, seem to have a need for being in more control and even if they got an enema they would never admit it to another soul.

During my childhood, mothers/women certainly seemed to take on the role as the primary caregivers. Dads/men were the primary breadwinners and often absent when child care was necessary.

Those vintage rubber implements, that many of us cherish, were often the “tools” that our care givers used. They were also marketed with attractive names and instructions geared toward a more feminine perspective.

Douching and enemas were similar in the delivery systems and potential hazards of cross contamination were not recognized.

Dads had their own tool box for those more manly roles in fixing broken things.

As a kid, I learned many things about both roles. Fixing or repairing things brought much personal satisfaction. Using those rubber “tools” brought amazing sensations and a sense of relaxation and satisfaction seldom realized in other endeavors.

It is true that later in life, men often transition into very adept caregivers. I am very adept at using those rubber “tools” in a very effective way! (Enemas or douching)

@Emom For the most part we are far better at taking care of things and our bodies are a bit more demanding as well. Retreating to the bathroom with the enema bag in hand is not abnormal for us.

Excellent description! Absent a doctor or male nurse/tech specialist in the house, the vast majority of health-related decisions (and urging checkups, etc.) in families are made by women. And, if we are sensible in getting our annual pokes and prods, and other recommended bodily insertions as we age, we may not enjoy those experiences, but we accept them as part of being female.

I love Mom's example of “retreating to the bathroom with the enema bag in hand” as not being “abnormal.” It isn't abnormal in our home, either, as my dear husband learned during the pandemic lockdown when our older daughter was back temporarily with us – two fountain syringes hanging to dry at once in separate bathrooms.

Women (mother's, auntie's, and grandmother's) were the caretakers of the family. That included physical well being which enemas would be included in.

Now a days that isn't necessarily the case with caretaking being a bit more divided between the couple. Add to it that attitudes about enemas and constipation have changed. There are easier, less embarrassing, and traumatizing ways to solve that issue than giving someone an enema.

@MissStress I recall that my parents made a big deal about constipation, things like “it could lead into obstruction and you'll be taken to hospital”. Maybe it's generational.

(I did not get enemas, but I got my dose of glycerin suppositories.)

Women (mother's, auntie's, and grandmother's) were the caretakers of the family. That included physical well being which enemas would be included in.

Now a days that isn't necessarily the case with caretaking being a bit more divided between the couple. Add to it that attitudes about enemas and constipation have changed. There are easier, less embarrassing, and traumatizing ways to solve that issue than giving someone an enema.

I think that is generally true and I think it is generally considered taboo for the dad to give enemas. I know people do it, but there is always the added stigma. We never gave our kids enemas, and I would never have considered doing it myself. That would have been moms job unless she was the one that was constipated.

The whole “enemas are more a woman’s thing” is because WOMENS IS WUSSES!!! I don’t know why this occurred to me…totally lost my train of thought…but it is so!! Had something to do with the idea that we all ate dirt when we were kids, drank water out of the stream (wherever that was), ate food that had fallen on the floor (no 5 second rule then!!!), etc and came out healthy!!! (Well, until now, maybe.) Now all the young ones have asthma, catch more clods (colds, too!), have more allergies, etc. If anyone can put the rest of this together, you know what I mean. And I know I’m gonna catch hell for this. Merry Christmas!!!!

The whole “enemas are more a woman’s thing” is because WOMENS IS WUSSES!!!

You need to talk to @Ms_Lila , @Wolfgirl66 , @TrinaStarr , @Dahiana , @gibby , @Bad_Princess and others!!! 😈. Happy Festivus!

I was born in 58 and I never heard my mother mention an enema. I remember my aunt was in the hospital and I was 7-8 and they came into her room with a bag of water and momma sent me to the lobby. She never gave us enemas or suppositories ! Maybe when I was a baby ! Until getting on here I had no idea people enjoyed an enema ! I think of an enema for test medical reasons and I know older people used to have them when I did home health for constipation problems. I’m learning some stuff! I’ve given them to patients and the most I’ve ever seen anyone hold is one bag . . barely !

You need to talk to @Ms_Lila , @Wolfgirl66 , @TrinaStarr , @Dahiana , @gibby , @Bad_Princess and others!!! 😈. Happy Festivus!

Oh man, that was like a death wish. Good luck!

Oh man, that was like a death wish. Good luck!

Luck will do him no good. 😈

Dead man walking…. 😠

The whole “enemas are more a woman’s thing” is because WOMENS IS WUSSES!!! Really?

@duhwizzard

Let me look over my book of things to say if you never want to be fucked again. Shit, it's in there alright!

I used to eat sand from my sandbox because it was crunchy. I would be de-wormed along with the dogs. Same medicine. I did it because I was stupid. With a great big honking capital “S” I also would go out snake spotting trying to find the most dangerous snakes. I did not knowingly drink dirty water because I even knew that was stupid. Presently I restore machines and fix trucks for fun. I don't like spiders in the buildings and squish them myself thank you. I stopped eating hand fulls of dirt because, well it is a stupid thing to do. The same with drinking dirty water, especially when one may drop a decontamination tablet in a canteen. I still look for dangerous critters. I still eat food off the floor well after five seconds where I walk around barefoot and cats scoot their behinds. It is a dirty practice.

So pardon me for getting off on a nice 4 quarts of hot soapy water up my arse and a vibrator in my cunt stirring it up. That's not being a wuss, just enjoying the pleasurable parts I come with. Same as a guy jerking off.

I was having a hard time writing intelligent looking posts. They looked fine to me. One of the moderators pointed out this fact to me. It stung a bit but well she was right. I started using Grammarly. It helps so much in punctuation, sentence structure and spelling. Give it a try. It is free.

“WOMMENS IS WUSSES” Where to start?

The whole “enemas are more a woman’s thing” is because WOMENS IS WUSSES!!! I don’t know why this occurred to me…totally lost my train of thought…but it is so!!

Women tend to pay attention to pain and discomfort, recognizing it is the body's telegraph telling them something needs attention.

Why would you ignore an early warning and not use methods to stop the pain if they are less painful? You might be the Big Man among your peers when a young guy by simply enduring painful defecation, but in later life, trauma caused by large stools will often leave you with fecal incontinence. Then you too can face using Depends or similar. Laxatives, suppositories or enemas may not be fun for you, but to ignore pain and incur recurring tears in the anus is inviting more intrusive events in your golden years.

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This is bait posted by an attention seeking red herring. 🙄

I like this:

Women tend to pay attention to pain and discomfort, recognizing it is the body's telegraph telling them something needs attention.

Very much. And I must add Someone needs attention too…

Nice opportunity to have some private self-care time in the bathroom, that's the way I think!

Merry Christmas :-D

Dear ladies (mostly)…

My humble apologies. Simply (?) an attempt at tongue-in-cheek humor that went terribly awry!! Somebody’s post struck a chord in my aging head that started a string of (what I thought were) amusing thoughts and off I went…only to be sidetracked somewhere by a couple shots of Makers Mark (bourbon, for the non-tipplers out there)...

To the ladies who chose to respond (not very charitably, I might add…) I say:

Dahiana – No, it really was an ill-thought-out attempt at humor. I was later amused by your reference to “…bait…(and)…red herring”!!

Victoria1951 – Yes, and I think that might have been where I was going…women DO tend to pay more attention to pain, discomfort, etc..guys (by-and-large) don’t. This is not a value judgment, just an observation…and not at all meant to be a misogynistic rant.

Bad Princess – Your “book of things not to say” is probably right…but I’ll bet it was not at the top of the list. With regard to the sand, dirt, water, etc..I say, yup, and you are probably a healthy puppy for it! (By the way, many spiders are beneficial insects and good for the ecology,,,they need love too (lol)!!) Next (and I assume this, too, was an attempt at humor/sarcasm) your reference to Grammarly could use at least one (arguably two) commas, a corrected typo and probably something I missed (also lol!!) Finally DO enjoy your 4 qts…and have you tried the recently popular vibrator/suction combo…my wife LOVES hers (she’s even suggested I COULD be replaced!!!)

Wolfgirl66 – Ultimately, aren’t we all (well…people, not limited to men)?

TrinaStarr – I have no doubt about that!!! 😉

And with that, I again offer my humble apologies to any who might have been put off by my off-target “rant”…Happy Holidays to all…and GO HANG A BAG! (Enjoy!)

duhwizzard

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arianai - You're probably right!!

…and finally…

Moppysjalopy - Thanks for the opening, rascal!!!

Back in the early days doctors would prescribe enemas to gals as a masturbation aid . In general enemas were totally geared towards women and with good reason , every single one of my Aunts were very, very, very much into enemas and I also got the enema gene.

They're not always for women I have enjoyed them for many years. LuvawBill

Ha, ha, ha! There is more than ample thoughtful response here to such uninformed rant — albeit lighthearted — I won’t add to the discussion.

However, as one who has lived with digestive issues nearly 40 years, I‘m plenty versed on my anatomy and why these conditions generally affect women more than men — and the strength we have getting through them — being wife and mother to my family, having a successful career and managing a home with my amazing husband. Sorry, no time to be a wuss these days!

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arianai - You're probably right!!

…and finally…

Moppysjalopy - Thanks for the opening, rascal!!!

I couldn't resist. Sorry!

@duhwizzard

I had a breast enlarger pump pull fluid out. It left painful red blotches. After that, anything that has a big suction cup puts me off. Nipple and clit suckers are an exception.

On spiders. I do not like them. Outside I leave them alone. Inside with me, it's splatter time! I have experienced too many painful swollen bites from them. It was good of you to write back in a fresh post.

I do agree with the OP… definitely more of a woman's thing.

Through the 1970s a woman was far more likely to have a bag than a man. It's not even a lose all for several reasons

Many women douched at least once a month, often after their ‘monthlies’ and the bag was mostly the means, especially for married women. Virtually every women's magazine of the day had ads for Massengill, Kotique, and other douche powders or liquids. There were essentially no disposables before Summer's Eve came on the market in the early 1970s. Bulbs were probably more common among unmarried women before the open sales of sex toys.

Also, married women were prone to having babies, especially before The Pill. And kids sometimes don't poo. A small bulb syringe helps for small kid poo, but by about 10 to 12 most moms had likely switched to the ‘grown up’ bag. And, since moms were the primary caregivers, the bag was more their thing.

Men tend to ‘tough it out’ if they have problems, rather than seeking help. So a guy is much more prone than a woman to sit on the toilet and strain to poo rather than fill a bag and get quick, gentle relief. Also, during pregnancy, a doctor may well tell a woman the take an enema if she gets constipated.

About the only time men used to get an enema in adulthood was either before or after surgery.

The probability that a human being will become constipated is far more important at women than at men. So enemas will be more a woman's thing.

The probability that a human being will become constipated is far more important at women than at men. So enemas will be more a woman's thing.

I suspect just as many men experience constipation as women but men will make the wrong choice as you point out, too “tough it out".

Based on personal observations during the mid/late 1970's while working part time, men presented just as often if not more often than women, with a complaint of finding frank blood due to anal tears. Men would discover blood on the toilet paper they used or in the bowl water where drops of blood fell following an incident of “toughing it out”.

Tears are not uncommon. They usually heal but like any other tissue separation trauma, it leaves scarring. Each tear increases the risk of developing fecal incontinence which can manifest as light streaking of underwear, to the need for use of diapers.

Discomfort and pain are warning signs. Ignore them at your own peril.

Must say I was a bit surprised to come upon the practice of douching even the term in this topic

When I unfold my little 1-quart pink bag from its case to fill with vinegar, water and a touch of sea salt for a nice gentle cleaning I do not even want to imagine someone squirting water up their arse and calling it the same thing. It does not sound cute just rather silly and uninformed. Please call it an enema. Not pointing a finger but you just stop it.

Back when women wore tight corsets, it was necessary for them to have a poop BEFORE the corset went on in the morning.

Partly so she could stand it that tight and partly because the corset squished the bowels so small nothing could have passed through anyway.

Like us, they woke up at around the same time every day. As a result, they had to “go” at a specific time.

As anyone who has ever had to “go” at a specific time day after day after day without ever changing that time by more than a few minutes is fully aware, that can only be done consistently, day in and day out, is by daily or almost daily enemas.

LisaK That was a technique in 1950s potty training. get the child to poop at the same time. So they learned to associate the potty chair and pooping. suppositories or enemas wer used to establish this routine.

LisaK That was a technique in 1950s potty training. get the child to poop at the same time. So they learned to associate the potty chair and pooping. suppositories or enemas wer used to establish this routine.

It's called bowel training. I grew up with the three “S's" when you get up in the morning. “Shit, Shower and Shave”. Seemed to work for me, and when in the military, you didn't have a lot of opportunities for potty breaks once the days's training started, so a morning BM was prudent!