Anal Sex | How do you Prepare for anal s…

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I want to try anal sex with my husband (him doing me). I've tried it before with him but it hurt, so he is concerned. Neither one of us has experience in this area. He is not huge but he is not small either; actually the perfect dick size for me (I'm petite). He does tend to get a little excited during anal play and ends up thrusting into me with his fingers. Since I've decided to try anal again, we've talked about the importance of him going slow, and I think he gets it now. Last night we bought an anal plug that has different sizes, in order to me to begin stretching my anus. But I was wondering, do I have to stretch it every day? And generally speaking, how many days before I go a bigger size? Other than going slow and using lots of lube, what else can I do to make sure the experience is a pleasurable one for me (he gets off just thinking about being in my ass)? The last time I tried it my ass was sore for days! How can I avoid that? I want it to feel good enough to give it up on a regular basis!

Thanks for the help....

Freak A. Zoid

TrinaStarr

For now when my husband and I want to have anal sex, I will probably stay with the Fleet enemas but only the saline type that are not as harsh as the regular Fleet enemas. I've only just recently started getting into “real” enemas and they are a wholly different approach. The Fleet enemas for me were just like washing and being clean in everything else and I never thought of them as being sexy. I'm not thinking that way about “real” enemas now and they could really work for foreplay.

That Australian

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@TrinaStarr

They (Enemas) function wonderfully well as a means of foreplay….it's a turn on for each / both parties

Keep in mind they don't always have to be sexual either….some find them relaxing or calming… and they really do settle a person's stomach upset & any blocked up issues one might encounter.

soapytim

First, do not go crazy doing enemas, a simple 2 bulb fulls once or twice till nothing solid comes out is fine. Don't make your butt sore before getting started trying to get too clean. You are not trying to empty everything from the eyeballs down, just the rectum. Then, relax. Foreplay…including some finger stimulation of both areas; BUT- remember that going from the front to back is cool, NEVER go from back to front without washing whatever was in the butt. There are plug kits designed for anal intercourse prep. Try them because you want to be opened up for a single encounter- not permanently. And last- THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE. Use the lube made for anal sex, it lasts longer without drying out, but do not get the kind that kills the discomfort for the recipient. Too much pain means slow down, more lube, or just not ready yet and you want to know if the body is seriously protesting that something isn't ready to proceed.

I have yet to have an encounter with a curious woman who, given the time and proper attention- was not able to engage in anal sex. And make sure that he reaches around to rub your clit for you while he is having you, it is the least a guy can do for a woman willing to share in this activity. Just my opinion and what has worked for me over the years.