Mandatory medical exams

Growing up in Illinois in the '80s and '90s, I'm going to private school, we needed a mandatory physical every year at the beginning. I had a world war II vet doctor. He was very thorough, and no nonsense. My dad was a Vietnam man, so he appreciated that.

My childhood exams were far more vigorous and invasive than anything I got by a doctor after him. I think he was very old school, and went through everything.

I have a new general practitioner now, and the most she's ever done is have me take off my shirt.

Twice in kindergarten. At school every year. Always a pediatrician (from the age of 15 a therapist), a surgeon, an ophthalmologist, an otolaryngologist, blood, urine, feces tests up to 13 years old, and up to 10 every year another smear for pinworms. Further to the army and in the army. Before hiring. But all such checks are highly conditional. If there are no complaints, then they will not look too much. The truth is somewhat more thorough in childhood, up to 15 years

Yesterday at around 10h30 I got a phone call from hr. She told me you have your physical at 13h45 today.

We do not much like each other and she knows that I am difficult with doctors.

So I went to the doc at the indicated time.

First she asked me some usual questions which I answered with no problem until it came to questions about my last gynaecologist exam and what kind of contraception I use. I told her that my job does consist of working on a computer and I do not understand why she asked this. She told me that she always does a complete exam but she accepted that I would not answer these questions, then she asked me to disrobe. I told her that I will not. She told me that it was necessary but I told her never without my husband. She then asked if he works here as well but no he is not.

So she said I need to examine you today since I haven’t had an employee’s exam in years. I said well that is your problem I will not disrobe.

She then did the exams over my t-Shirt and said everything is good.

On the way out she said next time come with your husband so I can examine you completely. I just said to her I have a good doctor and left.

... she accepted that I would not answer these questions, then she asked me to disrobe.

@Anita_P how did she ask you. Did she mention any specific garments that she wanted you to remove. Or was it more general than that

The only mandatory exams I had were for military and civil service. We had to undress completely and the whole body was checked even the genitals.

From age 11 on my parents took me to my pediatrician for an annual physical. If your parents take you then I guess you could classify it as mandatory. Because I played High School sports a physical was required once per year anyhow. I suffer from moderate asthma so it was important to see the doctor a few times per year. I was borderline unhealthy underweight too.

I also had some challenging emotional and psychological issues due to all the abuse and neglect in Foster Care. My biological mother didn't fare much better because she was a heroin addict. She died of an overdose the day after my 15th birthday. My biological father left what he called a toxic relationship. He was unaware she was pregnant. He was also an addict. He left town on a Greyhound bus and lived the life of a vagrant for several years, got clean, came back home, did some asking around and suspected I was his son. I met him shortly after my college graduation. Physically we are bookends. Our resemblance is very remarkable. Biologically he is my father but he isn't my dad but we are building a relationship. He has had overwhelming feelings of guilt over abandoning me but I have found it in my heart to forgive him. He is a Merchant Marine so he is away quite often. My current GF is a Flight Attendant. I crave intimacy like most people but I am equipped to fly solo due to my difficult upbringing. Paul Westerberg has a song called "Waiting for Somebody. It really is my song. https://youtu.be/b807jX8J_i8

At age 14 I had to have a physical because I was starting at a new school and was being released from foster care into my adopted home. I started attending college at 18 and the university also required an admission physical. I have had my share of mandatory physicals.

I have to have one done every year for my job. I'm do to need it done again in about six weeks. It varies from year to year depending on who does the physical. Some years they are very quick and they don't do much more than check my vision and blood pressure. Other years I have had to drop my pants and underwear for a genital exam and then have been told to bend over the exam table and had my prostate and my rectum examined. I never know until I get there and meet the doctor. I will see what happens this year?