How come sometimes enemas hurt more than others?

I am fairly new to both receiving and giving enema's. The first couple times it felt really good and didn't hurt or cramp my stomach much. But the last couple times I seem to by having more stomach cramps during the enema. Why would that be? Or is it normal?

Thanks

It depends on many things; temperature, quantity of water, what is in the water, the pressure that it is injected at, and what is already in the colon. A fairly full bowel will usually give more cramps. Also, position you are in and time spent injecting the enema. Then there are days when the bowel is just "cranky" and gives us trouble. All this is normal and you will learn by experimenting how to reduce cramps, etc.

The reasons are both physical and psychological. Often, if you do have a real impaction, or the beginnings of one, the water hangs a few minutes before blowing that impaction apart. That causes the bowel to bulge before it, which hurts. Also, sometimes you are more full of poop than at other times. Other times there may be some gas already in there.

I generally find that I will get cramps if the water flow is too rapid. You may want to re-evaluate how high you're hanging the bag. It doesn't need to be several feet above your bottom - in fact, a foot should provide plenty of pressure by gravity.

Also, try adjusting the clamp to reduce the flow. Another thing is that I generally find the first (smaller) enema is less enjoyable but once it's over I can take my time enjoying a slow, larger volume enema.

Thank you all for the information. I actually had an enema this weekend and if was not painful at all. He did lower the bag, slow the flow a bit and use cooler water. Not sure if it was just one or a combination of the three that made it feel better but I definitely enjoyed this one the most so far.

Hi there, I have to agree with the previous posters. I would add dont put too much soap in, run in slowly and keep relaxed. Water temperature should be just above body heat, try massaging abdomen and deep breathing. Dont go too long between bowel actions and if necessary place a hotwater bottle on your tummy.

Let me know how you get on

Good squirting

~ garts

Because sometimes i wait too long to take one and i have become impacted, it is very uncomfortable. If i take them on a regular basis there is virtually no discomfort, but go too long and it is miserable.

I find that very frequently if an enema produces pain, particularly early in the flow, it is usually a pocket of trapped gas up there. A couple of anti-gas pills a few minutes before the enema help get the gas out.

Hugs,

Diane

Can be very crampy if the water is too hot, the bag is hung too high, or too much soap in the enema. Also, other solutions can be very crampy- plain water, milk and molasses, etc.

Trapped gas is the culprit for me 95% of the time. Once removed, the second fill is much more comfortable.

Best time to do an enema is about 10mins after a bowel movement. That way you can take more water and less cramping.

Also while taking the enema take some deep breaths or pant like a puppy, that helps the water go in easier.

I landed on this site / page searching for info from people about their first enemas to see if their symptoms of bloating /cramping/ not being able to retain for longer than 1 minute were the same as mine and if it will be easier in the future when I try again.

Never did it cross my mind that someone would give a child traumatizing enemas on a regular basis, but you've all proven that is QUITE the common place among your age group! I see I've stumbled upon a bunch of repressed memories about INVOLUNTARY enemas! LOL!!!

~D

I was born in '86 btw, that is so very unheard of to do to a child.

Most of the comment I see here are all good info but the one thing I have not seen is the condition of your colon beforehand. IF I've eaten a bunch of spicy foods they seem to irritate my colon a bit. If I add an enema I can't hold it long.

On the other hand, If I feel really good and my diet has been a lot of plain foods, I can take a very large enema that I can easily hold. I think It has a lot to do with the amount of acids that your system produces to digest food.

There are probably a number of factors as mentioned here before: Are you full of s__?, Are you relaxed?, Do you have gas?

From my own experience over the years I have to say gas is likely my biggest problem. Some days with similar circumstances as before there is no holding back. My favorite enema is coffee after a small rinse enema to empty the rectum. Most times I have a bout of mild to moderate urges about 5 minutes in but they go away and then I can hold almost indefinitely.

But sometimes the urges are so strong it is difficult or impossible to hold back. I do not use a retention balloon or plug. When it comes out it is almost always much more gassy than normal. Once empty, if I repeat it usually goes much better.

Here is another vote for pockets of gas as the cause of a difficult enema or colonic irrigation. Infant colic is a similar problem, relieved with the help of an enema, popular for baby and child care during the "golden age" of enemas.

It depends on quantity and how much you are constipated ...

Enemas are like that sometimes they just flow in and more important out and feel good. Sometimes it takes several goes to feel nice and empty.

Don't worry just vary things less soap if you do use it but I prefer plain tap water . Its simple and less of a problem. If you want you can just stop with water but with soap you have to get it out.

Just practice and you will see what works for you.

Xx

If an enema "hurts" it's your body telling you that you're doing something wrong (ie: too hot, too fast, too much, dangerous recipe etc, etc). If it's merely a heightened sense of fullness, then that's probably normal and again it's your body's way of saying: "Hey, slow down a bit and relax, or I'm getting close to the maximum for what's normal for me." I personally do enemas for pleasure, but anyone who does enemas for pain (and I mean dangerous levels of pain and not simply to achieve various levels of discomfort), is asking for trouble.

To help alleviate any problem with gas, before taking my enema, I'll drink 2 cups of hot coffee after first taking 3 gas-x pills or a similar version of gas pill. I wait 20 minutes and I do not have a problem with gas. Makes taking my enema a very pleasurable experience. In fact, it allows me to take quite a bit of warm, soapy, salty water...

If I let myself go too long and am constipated, especially if I have been traveling, sometimes the first enema can be uncomfortable if I try to rush it. Ladies, be honest. Not every enema turns out to be an oasis of pleasure. I can get pretty bloated sometimes, and with an irritable bowel, getting all "that" out of me is not always the highlight of my day. The reward is that I always feel better afterwards.

Water temp really affects cramping, as does familiarity and going a bit more quickly with the flow. Take a deep breath, relax it is not a race to finish the bag.

Gas will cause cramps so I insert 3 glycerin suppositories or inject a mini glycerin enema of 10 to 15 ml. and wait until the glycerin works forcing me to go. I expel most if not all of the gas and am ready for my warm 105 degree enema. I hang the bag so it's not too high and insert the douche nozzle so that the enema flows against the prostate. I lie enjoying the 3 or 4 liter enema as it slowly fills me up. Most enemas will eventually cause some cramping as the full colon and rectum want to expel them. The fullness and cramps help cause an enema orgasm.

Over my years of my enema fetish, when typically new people ask about why this was different than another one like it or are looking for "rules' as to how things are going to be,

I tell them you're not going to find that here.

What works for one person doesn't always work for another.

But it's actually even worse than that in trying to figure out the ultimate enema for you

What works for one person one day, might not work for that same person in a few days because what's in a person's colon is a constantly changing medium.

So it becomes more a trial and error activity until you find for you, what usually works for you, because there's always going to be times where an enema is more,.. um,. , challenging ?

Big Picture : No two enemas are ever EXACTLY alike, no matter HOW many you take.

Certain things clearly help make it easier

Empty stomach

Relaxation during the whole process

Choose a position with no obstruction of the lower abdomen.

Just take take the needed time on insertion and injection

Retention is ALWAYS going to be the hardest part. During that time focus on the end result and how you will feel when it's over.

That's it!

Enemas DO hurt some a little more, some a little less

I like what Cheryl7717, LisaK and azDiane wrote.

I love the sensations of cramping, and you girls?

Hugs,

SDK

You're absolutely right with your suggestions, LisaK, but I'm not sure about the last statement

Enemas DO hurt some a little more, some a little less

Sometimes they do, but they don't have to. I usually get very strong feelings of urgency and some cramping, but the big-time, doubled over, painful cramping isn't common.

I think that sometimes people interpret the urgency as pain, and also of course there's the "if you put any more water in me I'll burst" (sometimes meaning you're full, sometimes just meaning that the water isn't moving up nicely) feeling that's also a bit odd and can be interpreted as pain.

LisaK - I need to apologize for the last post. There are two big reasons. Firstly, enemas can hurt. I have some that do hurt, and more that are uncomfortable enough to where it can be called hurt, especially if for someone not good with pain. Fortunately I also have some (most) that don't hurt - there are just a few strong urges and the occasional cramp, and then the rare "perfect enema" where it goes in with no pain, urges or cramping, then comes out in a smooth rush.

Secondly I should never presume to understand other people's experiences of pain. I should be especially aware of this because I had a recent visit to a very officious doctor who insisted that there was no way I could be having pain because when he examined me (on the morning of a good day when I'd been taking it easy) things weren't bad.

Almost every time I cramp with an enema, it's because I used a thick soapsuds solution or I have an abundance of trapped gas in my colon. OR.... because my poop is not soft. If I forget to take Miralax even for one day, I have to deal with the hard round turds during expulsion and they make my stomach cramp more while the water is filling me and especially while expelling the enema. Sometimes I have my worst cramps while the water is working its way down.

(I do like cramping to be part of a good enema, though.)

Moliere,

................ I also have some (most) that don't hurt - there are just a few strong urges and the occasional cramp, and then the rare "perfect enema" where it goes in with no pain, urges or cramping, then comes out in a smooth rush.......................

Most of mine don't hurt either, but I usually design them that way, with most being very benign solutions of either water, saline, bicarbonate or very dilute Castile soap. More than I might expect, I do get a few that are very near "perfect" with no cramps, pain or irritation either filling, holding or emptying, up to as much as 4+ quarts. Those are a real joy.

I suppose my experience is that the (sometimes but not always) unpleasant feelings I get are of just a few types. One is frank cramping, either at one spot or moving down my colon/rectum, but not always feeling like I need to push. Second is the urge to push, down very low and requiring sphincter squeezing or more inflation or pushing in against the balloon or nozzle. Third is a feeling of just irritation from the solution, usually rectal, but sometimes higher up, almost like a direct chemical effect on the bowel wall. The main reason I use mostly benign solutions is that most of those described feelings increase the feeling that I'm going to leak or explode bowel contents before getting to the commode, which I intensely want to avoid. I really dislike the chemical irritation feeling, but I wouldn't mind the others so much if I wasn't worried about them causing a leak. I need to replace my recently failed DBC to be able to go back to enjoying some of these again.

Eric

Ericmason, you're pretty much spot-on with your description of the various potentially noxious sensations from the enema.

Given a choice most of the time I go for the most benign solution that gets the job done, although in my case that's usually soapsuds because salt/soda usually doesn't have enough "kick" and it just sits around in my gut. When things aren't working I do crank it up, usually as high as it needs to go to get stuff out. I'd much rather be doubled over on the toilet from enema cramps than uncomfortable all day long. The enema cramps only last for a little while, and I sometimes get the jolt of endorphins. The constipated crampy feelings go on and on and don't usually lead to an endorphin rush. On the plus side as I've gotten to know my bowels better the number of times it's gone up to a crampy enema has gone down.

Of course there are also those times when I let my closet masochist out and mix up an enema solution more powerful and strong than absolutely necessary, a bit more volume than necessary, nice and hot, and hold it a bit longer. When I do that it's completely my own fault if it crosses the line to hurts too much.