Friends Discussing Exams

Has anyone been around when friends may just start talking about their exams?

I was at drinks last evening, and a friend mentioned he had a physical that day. They all started to discuss their exams and the details.

Has anyone else had the same and what did you hear?

Great question, Jason. Since I worked with gay men doing bodywork, I could, and did, open the door by telling them that I was not happy with my own doctor and thereby trying to talk about theirs. It was amazing though, having been doing intimate, hands on, contact, guys would censor replies, would not know his name or the spelling or location. There had been a brief window which got slammed. In our case, I can't remember if it was a post somewhere which introduced us to each other. I have named names and detailed exams but I think that you will agree that you will yourself reference a current doctor without a name? West Broadway? So guys at least will chat but seem to have stopping points, at least in my experience, unless, as with M., you are both committed to medfed, sharing everything except his phone number.

Y'all need to make friends with "old" people. Some of my best friends are 60+ (I know, I know, 60 isn't OLD!), and they go to all kinds of doctors and experience all kinds of tests and procedures. Many conversations during our lunches turn to health issues/doctor visits, often with more information than I EVER wanted to know. If I were seriously into medfet, I'd have hit the jackpot with them some days, and that's without even trying to get extra details from them.

extra note after reading the response: Yes, these are female friends. I even hear about the stuff going on with their husbands.

Great reply Chester! Thank you! Well here in Portugal is not difficult to find "medical big mouths" specially among women. If not very young women commonly discuss among themselves, but also if a good male friend is present their exams and all sort of details. I never had heard a man talking about his own exams among my friends exception made if they went to some surgical procedure. Now women is a totaly different story and among the years I heard things like: "I wasn't expecting but the doctor palpated me all over" (42 years friend, referring to a GP appointment ); " She had me totally undressed and only gave me a very small sheet... then she palpated ny breasts, that was the first thing, she had me saeted laying dwon, laying down at my sides..." (26 years friend, Referring to a new female gynecologist first visit ); "I used to go to this doctor montlhy, he wanted to see me monthly... he always did the same exams: auscultation, plapate my breasts, palpate my belly" ( 39 years friend referring to a CP she used to go in the past ); "I went to the doctor, he auscultated my lungs and heart very thoroughly, he wants me to have an ecocardiogram, he also said he suspect I have ashma ( Same 39 years friend).These were only a few examples

Over the years I've found that female friends and colleagues have often been quite willing to discuss their intimate examinations with me during private 1 to 1 conversations. These are not women who are into medfet or at least as far as I know, but with a little prompting they will often go into full detail. I think they find it a little exciting to be honest.

As for men, in a group situation they are more reticent and although there might be some nod nod wink wink, in reality they only generalise and don't go into detail.

I don't know if women discuss their examinations in an all female group situation?

Dr Philip - The UK Play Doctor.

I find many females are open to discussion about it

I have a male friend who talks about it from time to time. But I don't want to ask too many questions in order to avoid awkward situations.

My wife has three sisters and over the years I have heard their conversations about every examination,procedure and surgery they have had.....After listening to all this..I almost felt qualified to hang my sign out saying "The doctor is In" 😁

I was recently at the hair salon and my female hair dresser started chatting about her recent well woman exam. We now use the same OD, since I was looking for a new Doctor and she recommended hers.

She went into great deatil about her 45 minute exam, the longest one she had received for a standard well woman exam. No one seemed to mind in the middle of a busy hair salon in Oregon.

I would like to think that ladies on the West Coast of the States are pretty open about this type of situation.

Lady Teddy, Pacific NW, USA, about to receive the same exam

A few months ago some of my co-workers had a very interesting lunch conversation. This is a table of 5 women in a teacher's cafeteria. I don't remember how the conversation got going but they were discussing their gynocological exam experiences. One of my friends shared that at her last exam a really large speculum was used. She demonstrated with her fingers how far she is normally opened up and then how much she was opened at her last exam for a procedure to be done. One talked about how she waited so long for her doctor one time that she fell asleep right there in the stirrups. Another gave advice on what doctor not to use. She said he is too rough, that after her exams she has to be helped out of the stirrups and off the table. The youngest of the group said she went to a new gyno one time and hated it because his arms and the backs of his hands were hairy. Even though he wore gloves when examining her she said it still grossed her out and never went back. There were not many people in the room, just their table, me and another teacher at another table, but at the far corner of the room...was the building maintenance supervisor. And believe me, he was taking it all in!

I'm an old person as defined by chester so let me say that when we get togther with friends, our preliminary conversation concerns the health issues of ourselves and others we know. Topics that were embarrassing twenty years ago are easy to talk about now. The guys compare notes about their prostate issues while the gals talk about a larget array of health issues, but uteruine problems are common.

Well once when I was in the 9th grade, my classmate and I were talking in the school locker room, and he asked me if my doctor has checked my genital area before. It was an interesting conversation. I think it helped get up my interest in all this.

I do discuss my exams with my friends. He tells what happens during his exam and i tell what happens during mine,

I've chatted with female friends on a general basis about well-woman exams, not too specific about what has happened at the appointment but we have covered some topics over time.

To be honest I find it sometimes easier chatting to a bloke about such things (and no that is not an invitation that I would do so to anyone that contacts me!).

During my nursing education, after our intense and thorough pre-employment examination, that last the whole day, I met several of the other girls of my course (I was the only male participant) in the evening in the kitchen of our nurse-hostel. We discussed the whole evening and half of the night and the only topic was the exam and most of all MY exam, because I was much longer examined by the doctor than all others. I got so many questions about how my exam went, what the doctor did and when and what she said and so on, and later I was asked more and more about my ,edical and clinical history earlier. It was not easy and a bit embarrasing for me to talk about all that.

We've had mandatory yearly physicals on my first job. I remember a co-worker telling me during lunch that he was shocked the doctor told him to get completely naked for the exam. I thought it was a big turn-on to imagine the scene, but also felt bad because I went to same doctor and he didn't ask me to undress...

As you may imagine, it's the most interessting topic of conversation, i like to listen to. I had some events like this. One was when a co-worker came back from her doctor after a visit because of a cold, and she told me how the doctor had stethed her. As soon this topic is mentionned, I always ask questions and try to continue talking about it. Sometimes it workes, sometimes, I get the answer "Why are you so curious...???"

Once, a beautiful colleague told me that she has an appointment with the factory doctor for a general physical in the afternoon. She wore a white blouse, and I could see her white bra underneath. So, you can certainly imagine my reaction. When I saw her when she was back, I got an immediate hard on, and I asked her if everything was OK. But unfortunately, her answer was only short and not very detailed. So, I had to imagine the details...

Yes I have discussed about exams with many people. The discussions started when one boy told that the school doctor checked his balls and dick. The next thing I knew another boy came asking to me: "How would you react when you're in doctor's exam and the doctor just starts to fondle your willy?".

As an adult, I really don't discuss real medical situations with my friends. I limit that to my wife.

As a teenager, I often discussed physical exams with the boys around my age who went to the same pediatrician. It amused all of us to compare notes about what went on when the exam room doors closed.

As a father, I have been taking my son for his physicals since he was 10. His doctor(s) have always required a parent or guardian to be present. By the way, I always ask him if he wants me to leave during the more intimate parts of the exam. Thus far the answer has been no. It is kind of funny, but on the way home in the car after his physicals,he seems to have the need to give me an analysis of his emotional and physical feelings during each step of the exam.

The other place that I discuss exams, except for the forum, is with my sister. She is a nurse in a pediatric practice. She seems to get great joy in telling me about some horror perpertrated on some adolescent boy or girl(no Names used) in their practice.

In my early twenties, I remember one of my male cousins telling a story to a couple of us about how his pediatrician had done a full physical, including making him take his underwear off, when he was in his early teens, when he had gone in for something relatively benign (like a cough) and when he wasn't actually due for a physical. His parents found it concerning enough to change docs, though I found it fascinating and wished his pediatrician was mine.

Recently, one of my co-workers asked me about my doctor and if I liked him, how good the physicals were, what his demeanor was like, etc. He's looking for a new doc, and was wondering if mine would be a good option. I really like mine, so I said he was definitely a good pick...but during the whole conversation I was totally distracted by picturing my co-worker going through a physical with my doc.

A buddy and I were working out at the gym once and somehow the subject came up. He told me a that few years earlier he was having a lot of abdominal discomfort so he went to see his doctor. He was examined in his boxers with a lot of attention paid to his stomach, abdominal and groin regions. He finally had to drop his shorts and the doctor did an extensive hernia check. Then to his surprise ( and mine that he told me) he bent over and received his first rectal exam. The whole conversation was really interesting being that we can speak about any subject, but this was the first time we spoke in detail about a Dr. vist.

A female co-worker once started talking to the group of us about a recent gyn exam she had with a new doctor. I am not sure how the conversation started. She said that she thought the doctor was done and started to get up. The doctor told her to wait an re gloved. She then said that the doctor "gave it yo me up my butt". She said that she nearly jumped off of the table. She was told that it "will be one more minute" and that "most women don't like this but it is important". Apparently she had never had a rectal before. She did say that she is never going back to her. Other females started talking about their exams. One said she never had a rectal at the gyn however her GP has done it before. Quite a conversation.

In my years of high school and a few years after I worked in a local sueprmarket. I remember one time, one of the employees was talking about having to take her daughter to the doctor. She was talking about how she had to get a shot, and didn't like needles.

It was the mother, the sister (forgot whether she was older or younger) and this girl who was getting the shot. The sister started teasing her, which made it worse. Teh woman explained how she had to be restrained during the injection.

Thsi was discussed in the snack bar area. I thought it was weird that she woudl discuss this becuase it was a public area and her daughter worked at the store too.

Having taught middle school for 34 years, I was often privy to conversations and notes passed by students in my class.

I caught an eighth grade girl in a chat room with someone pretending to be another eighth grade girl and my student had given a rather graphic description of her recent doctor's visit.

I once found a note from one girl who was writing to a friend who was a medical novice and describing her time on the gyn table. The novice was most alarmed by the speculum exam and wrote in capital letters, "SHE PUT THAT THING ALL THE WAY IN YOU!!"

Boys would often make crude jokes, especially in the locker room about "Turn your head and cough."

I took most of these conversations as private and also with a grain of salt. Middle school kids sometimes Have a tendency to embellish a little. The only time your radar goes off as a teacher is when you suspect abuse.

What was funny though was the way parents would talk about their kids exams. This was especially true of the moms. The dads would usually limit their comments to how much their sons hated the ball check at the doctor.

Moms, on the other hand, would want me to know that they had stayed in the exam room with their 13 or 14 year old boy for his whole exam. One even told me that, "she couldn't figure out why the doctor had made her boy jump on one foot while naked."

Some moms even liked to come to my classroom when they were checking their daughters out to go to a doctor's appointment the girl didn't know about and made a point of telling me, a male teacher, that they were taking their daughter for her first "Big Girl Exam." Why? I have no idea. One mom even smirked when she said , "That her daughter was in for a big suprise when they got to her appointment."

Then there were the doctors who wrote at varying degrees on sports physical cards. Some just checked the appropriate boxes. But other wrote narratives about Tanner Stage, pubic hair development, breast development on girls and scrotal development on boys. This was one of the reasons as an athletic director, I never let sports physicals be casually handed in to the main office for peering eyes to see.

I think it's a popular discussion topic for both kids and adults once someone breaks the ice. I remember a lot of discussions with friends about how much a doctor checked "down there" and one friend in probably 5th or 6th grade who relayed a story about a doctor who put some liquid in him to make him go to the bathroom.... I later figured out that it was an enema.

As an adult it seems like it's more casual references and jokes about presumably common experiences (e.g., turn your head and cough).

I remember once overearing a female co-worker say how her teenage son went for a physical and came home complaining that the doctor had examined his private area!

I was at work someday, when suddenly I heard a couple of (male) colleagues talking about their exam experiences. Specifically, one of them was saying how surprised he was when the female doctor told him it was time to unbutton his trousers, so that he could perform a genital exam on him. He said it had been many years since he'd had such a thorough exam, and wasn't expecting it that time.

I remember the first time when my girlfriend went to the doc for her first pelvic exam to get some birth control pills (we've just started having sex) and I was upset, jealous and didn't want to hear about details. People change though, now I'm all ears, but I haven't have to much chance to openly discuss with friends.

I remember in my late 20s, a really cute coworker in her early twenties had come back from an appointment. She was talking about the small talk the doctor was making with her. I can still remember the look on her face and her giggle when she added "...and I sitting there naked."

I still imagine fondly the sight of her sitting up naked on the exam table. At least in my mind she is not covering up, her hands are on her sides, relaxing on the table. She is swinging her feet back and forth a little.

My friend during high school asked me how my physical exam went and I explained everything. I said the doc had me essentially naked and examined my body and genitals, spending quite some time on my penis. My friend never had this experience.