Partner present during gyn exam

My wife has me attend her exams with her.

I am on my third and final marriage, and with my first wife, she had asked me to be present to hold her hand during the procedure. (She had a great fear of her visit, even when the doctor had prescribed her medication to relax her) . That was the one and only time during our 7 years of marriage she even went for that exam. My second wife worked in labor and delivery, and that was the last thing she ever wanted to think about.

I have been with my my current wife during her last three exams, both to be able to see the procedure and ask questions about some of the ongoing issues. She does not mind me being there. Due to her sister passing due to uterus cancer (best way to describe it) she has her exam every six months,

My wife want always me to be with her during every type of examination, expecially gyno.

Last time doctor hurts her a bit (well, a lot) during pap smear and she wants me to explain if something looks wrong.

Alas I was sitted behind a curtain, and I was able to see her feet only.

She was a bit angry about that, I have learned that she prentend me to see the whole thing.

Next time I'll find the way to have a full view of the thing, even if my seat is not setted in that manner.

I've never had a partner present at an exam although I have to admit it's something I would certainly consider. If it was a shared interest then it would definitely be a big bonus as I can just imagine the fun that we'd have after!

Let me know if you're looking for volunteers 😉

Just did this today. Took wife to the GYN for cervical dilation and removal of cells for cytology. All this was done by one of the N.P.'s. I asked wife if she wanted me to go in with her and she said, if you want to. I suspected that there could be some pain for her. There was; a fair amount. I grabbed her hand and let her squeeze it through the toughest part of the procedure, then gave her a shoulder rub and small back rub, while they cleaned up.

I was scheduled for my every 6 month cystoscopy 2 hours later and asked if she would like to hold my hand for that! She had to go to work, but she was in the room for my first scoping, a couple years ago.

I always take my wife. She is very nervous with the whole ordeal and wants me to hold her hand during the exam. Strange enough, I really don't find it erotic because I don't like her being in such pain. Oh well. That's what med fet play is for!

Oh the other thing I was there for is a colposcopy. The entire room smelled like vinegar as they use that solution to look for cervical irregularities before scraping cells.

I've been to my wife's exams a few times. Her annuals have been standard--breast and pelvic exams included. During and after pregnancies, I've seen her get a number of trans-vaginal ultrasounds, which is an interesting experience. A couple times, the tech has asked her to insert the probe into her vagina herself; other times the tech has done it. Both methods were exciting to watch.

Every time she has to do his annual gynecological examination my wife wants me to be with her there. she is. so nervous and embarrassed😃! Is a strange situation: do not like to see her, distressed and ashamed, but it is.also quite exciting.!

At first she was not sure about my being in the exam room. Now, I always attend. She also attends my exams.

Alway going with my wife, but inside the exam room only during the pregnancy, which doesn't include speculum exam. Wife still not sure whether to let me in during normal exam or not. I suppose she didn't want me to see her hurt by the speculum.

I wish I could convince my wife to even ask her doctor, a female, how many husbands accompany their wifes for their annual wellness visit. She believes the percentage is very small.

I wish I could convince my wife to even ask her doctor, a female, how many husbands accompany their wifes for their annual wellness visit. She believes the percentage is very small.

I am certain your wife is correct.

Men go with their wives to some pregnancy visits, but extremely few accompany their wives/girlfriends to regular exams.

My husband goes with me for all the pregnancy exams but just normal well women exam he sits in the waiting room for. I wish he’d sit in the room with me but I think it freaks him out a bit sadly.

Due to my wife's disability - I attend all her exams/procedures. If she were normal - I wouldn't go. (Sidenote - she has never been completely 'normal' - but up until 14 years ago - I didn't go to her DR appts)

Hope I'm not breaking any rules here!!!

@Zoey789 boy, your husband would be the exception to the rule here!

Playtime and I often go to each other's appointments - we both prefer having each other there....

I had been present during most of my former wife's medical exams. At her request I did not come with her to her annual well woman gyn exam. However, when she had to undergo two gyn surgical procedures, I was present with her permission at all her preop and postop examinations, which included internal and external gyn exams. She felt more comfortable with me there at that time due to her nervousness about the procedure and outcome.

I have had my husband at many exams, since we tried to conceive for many years. He was even there when a gyno had me come in for an ovulation check. Gyno did a sonogram to confirm that I was in fact ovulating. I have also taken my best friend with me to two gyno exams. Once, to help me remember all the facts. (That particular doctor generally overwhelmed me with info) the 2nd time was because he was an ass. I changed after I had confirmation that it wasn't "just me". I do wish I could remember those exams better. She even held my hand during a D&C.

I have also taken my best friend with me to two gyno exams. Once, to help me remember all the facts. (That particular doctor generally overwhelmed me with info) the 2nd time was because he was an ass.

Just received a Medicare mailer that included "Tips for a Better Annual Wellness Check". Pretty dumb stuff (bring a list of your meds - duh!), but they also recommended you bring a friend to take notes so you don't forget things after the exam. I bring a notebook - but someone ta=king notes for you isn't a bad idea if you are comfortable with it.

I went with my girlfriend to her first ever gynecological exam, it was extremely exciting to watch. She experienced a lot of pain when the speculum was inserted and I felt bad for her, but it was also a huge turn on.

If I can I all ways go with my wife to her exams , some have been demanding on her and she likes me ther to support.

I love it when my husband's watches me being examined by my male doctor. It is a turn on for me!

I have been very fortunate to be at two of my wife’s appointments over the years.

My husband is my lover and my best friend. He knows every inch of me, inside and out. However, when it comes to my annual female exam, I have never invited him to join me in the room. And he has not asked. If I have anything to report, we talk later.

Funny thing, I have often written about how wonderful my husband is when I'm sick or need a little TLC. He gives a really good enema! Lol. But I'd like my check ups with my gynecologist to be my private time.

So I’m going to my first ever exam with my wife after sharing my medical fetish with her (I can post a follow up if anyone is interested). She is enthusiastic for me to be there because she likes to tease me, but I want to make sure that I don’t make anything uncomfortable. Would my wife have any issues asking them to let me accompany her? Are the doctors okay with me looking on or would I be expected to sit in a chair the whole time? It’s funny but I’m probably way more nervous about this than her

Your being welcome depends on the practice. Some are enthusiastically welcoming and some not at all. We have discovered that attitudes can change rapidly if the two of you make an exit if there is an issue. It is your prerogative if you want to make a stink on social medial etc about them not being SO friendly, though it may save some other couple the hassle of dealing with them. The sole choice, IMHO should be with your SO.

As far as where you sit and what you do. I tend to sit when the dr comes in, and if something interesting is going on AND the SO does not want me in other places, I am pretty good at quietly getting up and observing from a good vantage point, but also a safe distance, The care provider does have a job to do and you should not be i theri way. I don't ask about looking, but I am careful to let them do their job, and truthfully, most of the time they are concentrating on doing their job to the point that they don't even register me.

At the same time, I am there to hold my SO's hand or what ever should she want my attention.

It is an interesting experience. For me I am torn a lot of different ways. Obviously it is hot all hell seeing your SO being probed in the stirrups. No getting around that. And if you go to a ob/gyn you know everybody there is in for a probing, so even just the vibe in the waiting room is a bit hot. watching the girls get called back, and watching them walk out, imagining the goo seeping out of their orifices... At the same time, I am very technical so I can also be very into watching how they work, how they do things, and ponder why they do things they way they do. I bite my lip not to ask questions unless invited to do so, or afterwords to clarify something. And there is my SO's state. If she is in pain or just suddenly wants support, to be there for her. There are a lot of things going on all at once in my head. Your experience may be similar. We always are like supercharges animals when we get home though. (smile).

We have had one provider and she has often commented on how I accompany the SO and take an interest, she has told me she wished more men took an interest. I found that interesting. She has occasionally noticed me watching and explained things to me. Quickly and very professionally, but certainly in a welcoming fashion. We have actually pondered what she thinks of us, but all of our contact has been totally professional, but it goes to show that some providers actually welcome a positive male presence.

I hope all goes well for you and your SO and you have an agreeable practitioner. If not, you can always shop around.

Thanks for the response. Guess I just have to hope they’re amenable to it, obviously my wife is totally and enthusiastically on board, so that wouldn’t be an issue.

My thought was that I’d just sit in whatever chairs were around and hope that I’d at least get a good vantage point. But I’m sure we’ll definitely have some fun after we get home though

Do you think it would help if my wife insisted she wanted me there to comfort her?

Do you think it would help if my wife insisted she wanted me there to comfort her?

Absolutely. They know some ladies are very shy and having their husband there is like having a comfort dog. If she asks they will almost certainly let you go in. It might even be to the doctors advantage because then he can free up the nurse that might be required to be in there as well.

Yeah, that’s probably what I’ll have her say, she’s actually pretty chill about her exams, but she knows that I told her about this after keeping it a secret for 10+ years so she wants to say whatever she needs to to get me in the door haha.

She has also expressed interest in letting me film one of her exams, but that would definitely be something we’d have to run by the doctor and would be understanding if they were uncomfortable with it. In that instance she would probably tell them that she is curious and wants to see it from a different perspective

Either way, to say I’m excited is an understatement