Partner present during gyn exam

The chances are slim to none that the doctor will let you film the exam or even take pictures. There are some potential issues with that, obviously. I know a lot of doctor’s offices have signs in the exam rooms prohibiting cell phone usage during the visit or exam. You can certainly ask, but I wouldn’t get my hopes up that the doctor will agree to let you take photos or video.

And I would strongly advise against trying to surreptitiously snap pictures or shoot video. Chances are pretty good you will be caught, and very likely booted from the practice. It’s just not worth it.

My wife and I have conjoint physicals, so we get to see each other’s exams. But we would never try and get away with sneaking a picture or video. We take plenty of “mental video” for later at home. It is an annual treat to see each other’s exam!

I have been to quite a few of my wife's exams especially when she was pregnant. She is fine with it. It is better to have two people listening and asking questions. She usually goes to most of my Dr. visits. She was even in the room (and sitting about 3 feet away) when I had a prostate biopsy.

Once upon a time I had to get a colposcopy done. I was young and scared and asked my husband to accompany me (though I have not thought about it in years and cannot for the life of me remember whether he did or not).

For my prenatal exams, he went with me to every single one. I did not even consider excluding him, nor did he ask. It just seemed... natural... for him to be involved. If I recall correctly, he also went with me to most of the six-week follow up appointments, however, due to work scheduling, he did not attend the last one.

For a routine checkup? I do not request he attend. That is my time to ask any questions that I may consider private.

My wife always goes to a female gynecologist , but she switched to male now. I went with her for her first male doc appointment and boy was in a different world. We spoke with the doctor in his office before the actual exam. The whole time I was thinking that this GUY is going to examine my wife in about 5 min, I couldn't even concentrate on anything they were talking about, all I thought of was : my wife will go into the room now , get completely naked and have this GUY touch and see things only I was able to this up to this point. See my wife was a VIRGIN when I married her , SO This Guy would be the first MAN that my wife would spread her legs in front of and have her breasts touched. I'm sure in her mind she was thinking the same, but she always should I say wanted to or wouldn't mind having a male gynecologist. I have always insisted on a female , but time came to give in and switch to male.

So at some point the doc says: 'ok let's go into the room for the examination'.

We went into the room and my wife started to get undressed , just watching her take her clothes off and the image of doctor coming in made me aroused. She took off her bra first then her underwear off last and then put the gown on. As she stood there all nude just made me be in a state I have never been in before, after all she was getting naked for someone else this time.

Doctor came in and basically started his routine exam - my wife dropped the gown for the breast exam and as the doctor was touching her breasts with his bare hands, I started to control myself as I really wanted to just ejaculate from the arousal. When she was done with breast exam , he asked her to scoop down and that was it for me ,when I saw my wife with her legs spread open and the male doc sitting in front of her as he was examining her, I think I had the biggest hard on I ever had. What did it for me was when he inserted his fingers in her my wife looked at me as she was in a bit of pain from his fingers being inserted,I knew he inserted his fingers inside her because out of nowhere my wife fringed and made a bit of a sound and a sharp body movement. That's when I came in my pants , totally embarrassing moment that only I kept to myself,never told her that happened to me. I didn't cum because I can't last long , I came because I just got so seriously excited and aroused by the fact that there I was sitting next to my own wife while another man was fingering her and it was all ok because he was a doctor . When we got home we had sex without even thinking about it , it was like we BOTH needed it, she was also very excited when we got home, not so much when we left the office, as she pretended like this was a normal day. When we had sex , I noticed that my wife had cum before me penetrating her , when I spread her legs and her vagina there was a white creamy substance like the one you get when you cum. Is this normal or am I just overdoing it with my thoughts?

@CooolDave said

My wife always goes to Female gynecologist , . . . . she always should I say wanted to or wouldn't mind having a male gynecologist. I have always insisted on a female , but time came to give in and switch to male.

. . . . my wife dropped the gown for the breast exam and as the doctor was touching her breasts with his bare hands, I started to control myself as I really wanted to just ejaculate from the arousal. . . . . I saw my wife with her legs spread open and the male doc sitting in front of her as he was examining her, Ithink I had the biggest hard on I ever had. . . . . Thats when I came in my pants . . . . . When we had sex , I noticed that my wife had cum before me penetrating her , when I spread her legs and her vagina there was a white creamy substance like the one you get when you cum. Is this normal or am I just overdoing it with my thoughts?

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Since you asked --- Point by Point:

You have no business insisting on the sex of your wife's physicians. That is totally up to her.

It is not unusual for structures beneath dry, healthy appearing non-mucosal skin to be examined without gloves. A genital exam involves mucosa and wet surfaces, which makes gloves mandatory. That is NOT the case with breasts.

You need to either control yourself (it it inexcusable and NOT COOL to come in your pants during your wife's examination) when you wife is being examined or have her go into the examining room by herself.

The white creamy secretion from her vagina is normal for a very excited woman and is NOT necessarily associated with having had an orgasm.

How old are you?

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Since you asked --- Point by Point:

You have no business insisting on the sex of your wife's physicians. That is totally up to her.

It is not unusual for structures beneath dry, healthy appearing non-mucosal skin to be examined without gloves. A genital exam involves mucosa and wet surfaces, which makes gloves mandatory. That is NOT the case with breasts.

You need to either control yourself (it it inexcusable and NOT COOL to come in your pants during your wife's examination) when you wife is being examined or have her go into the examining room by herself.

The white creamy secretion from her vagina is normal for a very excited woman and is NOT necessarily associated with having had an orgasm.

How old are you?

I beg to differ on it not being my business which sex my wife chooses her gynecologist to be. We are married and we make decisions in life together. Marriage is not a one way street , you have to be cognitive of your partners feelings and how it could effect the relationship. If my wife has a problem with anything I am doing , I do not say - "it's not your business!" I say - ' ok honey if it bothers you I won't do it ' How can I do something that I know my wife will have unpleasant feelings about. Besides there is no shortage of good female doctors , so I am not depriving her of proper health care.

I know I have to control myself , I don;t think it's a good idea to these type of thoughts but at the end of the day you have to call it as it is - A Man called doctor is feeling your breasts and inserting his fingers inside you while you spread your legs and show off your most private parts in the name of medicine, I get it , but the only way I can accept that is if I get myself to accept the fact that I am ok with this happening in my family.

Oh and the white creamy stuff is normal for a very excited woman you say @SwitchableSusie , but why should that excite her ? and thats why I feel so aroused that I know it excites her and makes her cum, I didn't say orgasm but it is a form of orgasm and she got it from another man 😃 which is totally cool with me at this point because I accepted that me and my wife will have an extra man in our life that sees and touches my wife the way only I do it , minus intercorse - all good or is it ?

You should see this entire thread:

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=98481

@SwitchableSusie said

You should see this entire thread:

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=98481

@ SwitchableSusie - what does this have to do with me , i think you’re very confused at what my point was for replying to the Topic of this thread

I have no interest reading the link you sent as I have a wonderful relationship with my wife and any marriage that doesn’t have mutual respect for each other is not marriage

I see you’re one of those women that just defends women’s rights at all costs and has no regard to her husband

Are you married ?

The topic of the thread actually asked WOMEN how they felt when someone was watching their exam:

Ladies! How do you feel If anyone of you happened to have a breast or vaginal exam while your husband or boy friend watching.

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@CooolDave said

@ SwitchableSusie - what does this have to do with me , i think you’re very confused at what my point was for replying to the Topic of this thread

I see you’re one of those women that just defends women’s rights at all costs and has no regard to her husband

Are you married?

I understand you told your account of events when you were watching your wife's exam.

Yes, I am married to the same person for over 25 years and he and I have known each other since we were in middle school.

You clearly have no idea about where I am coming from. Read my profile. Yours is empty.

I am absolutely NOT someone who blindly defends women's rights. In fact if you read the forum, you will see I am often critical of women and I regard my husband very highly.

I asked how old you are in my last post and you didn't answer.

I've now merged this into another thread discussing the same basic subject.

This will allow members of both sexes to contribute.

I try and go as often as i can to my gf appts when she has her yearly checkup i am usually seated in a corner where i cant see much cause my gf has that drape over her legs when she in the stirrups but i do get a good view of my gf breast exam when her dr does that

I have been to EVERY examination on my wife for 39 years

I’d love to watch my girlfriend having a pelvic examination, I want to see her having a Pap smear. Her vagina clamped firmly open with the speculum, I want the Doctor to be really rough with her as he takes the smear. Hurting her cervix

Never had anyone with me even as Young. Just been seen by dr and nurse most times. Exept from birth, but that is a differente situation then a regulare exam

I went with a a girl for her annual pap smear and exam. As she enjoyed the exams and her Dr knew it (a patient for about 9 years), she still told him that she is going to enjoy the exam. He was fine with it and I think he did take some extra time examining her. By the time that he inserted the speculum, she must have had 2 or 3 orgasms. the Dr just smiled and said that it looks good to see her being so responsive. She also asked for the vitamin B12 injection and had a massive orgasm when he did it.

(She was naked the whole time without any cover up from the Dr). On our way out he told her to come for more exams lol

I always attend my wife’s exams, it’s a huge turn on for me.

I have attended my wife's exams since 2005. All have been either nurse practitioners or a mid wife. I stand up and watch the breast exam. She removes the sheet for the last five years. She also always gets her pap smear so I can watch. Even though now you only have to get it every three years now. I also have seen the two finger exam with one hand while the other is on the stomach. I don't think the latest examiner likes it (mid wife). But, my wife considers it her decision to make. She doesn't do anything she will not like at all. For example, we do not have anal sex, even though I would. She will do things for me that don't bother her. She also gets a massage, oral sex, orgasm by vibrator, and topped off with intercourse after the exam. As long as it does not interfere with her health being taken care of. I plan to keep doing it. I the medical staff may think it is weird, but half the time she is getting the exam because she has to for them to continue birth control for her. So, we get more for the trouble and expense. The new mid wife does ask questions for overall health.

My favorite parts are helping her undress. She puts on something that opens in the front and separate sheet on the bottom. Then a sheet for the bottom. They come in and ask questions. Then listen to her chest from the back. Then have her lay down and feel on her stomach. Then have her hold one hand at a time behind her head while they feel each breast all around the nipples. Then she scouts down to the end of the table in the stirrups. They put the speculum in and open her pussy up. Then take samples by scraping her cervix. I see everything from a top view. Then they put two fingers in and one her stomach after putting lube on their fingers. They feel around which is usually pretty quick.

For the record, we are not swingers and have been faithfully married for close to 20 years.

My husband is very vanilla, and to be honest I could never imagine having him present at a gyn exam. He’s neither asked nor have I offered.

My husband is very vanilla, and to be honest I could never imagine having him present at a gyn exam. He’s neither asked nor have I offered.

This is about how it has gone with me. She never even considered it and I never asked although once when she had a lump in her breast she went to a specialist and he had me in the room and she had to take off her top while he examined her. Luckily it turned out to be nothing but I still remember the embarrassed little smile she had on her face while it was going on.

This is about how it has gone with me. She never even considered it and I never asked although once when she had a lump in her breast she went to a specialist and he had me in the room and she had to take off her top while he examined her. Luckily it turned out to be nothing but I still remember the embarrassed little smile she had on her face while it was going on.

That’s about the only type of scenario I could envision my husband being in the exam room for - an incidental exposure. I’m glad she was ok!

That’s about the only type of scenario I could envision my husband being in the exam room for - an incidental exposure. I’m glad she was ok!

If you didn't enjoy the exams, I would 100% agree with you. Since some of the posts you made seems like you do. You might be missing out something to add to your relationship. If you are enjoying, what's the difference of having someone else enjoy it. Also, if you are healthy and not pregnant. The exam is more of a money making opportunity for the office to let you have birth control (at least for part of the physical exam, conversation and health history review can be critical even if healthy, so guys should be patient and little helpful for that). If you look it up there are different physician groups in both 2014 and 2016 questioning if the pelvic exam (bi-manual) is even needed. The pap is also recommended only every 3 to 5 years. So that has also lowered its importance. The breast exam might be the most important, but not sure of its need once someone gets mammograms. As long as, the other person is respectful and stays out of the provider's way. I don't see the issue if you already enjoy them and most likely you are healthy. My wife actually asks to get her pap smear every year for my benefit and not because she needs it. The most important thing about the exams is for the women and doctor to discuss concerns and healthy habits. The guy needs to make sure he only provides a few useful comments and otherwise patiently lets that conversation happen. Then can enjoy the breast exam, pap smear, and bimanual exam. My wife besides getting the pap every year for me, also removes the sheet so I can see it and the bimanual.

Also even if the women is healthy and not pregnant. The guy should still be emotional supportive and help with questions in either direction but be patient and leave most the conversation between the women and provider. While also both know he is there partially for curiosity or visual view. My advice to women in considering letting a guy get enjoyment is to at least be in a relationship for a year (I didn't go with my wife until we had been together for 7 years) and trust he will change modes and concentrate on your health if there is a serious issue. I also don't think trying to have sex there is ever a good idea to risk a good provider office. They should be able to deal with the guy watching if he is respectful and doesn't get in the way, but nothing else. The one year may be arbitrary, but the point that you need trust that you will have a person there who will switch to caring about the issue if things unexpectedly turn serious. It is highly unlikely something will be found if you are not pregnant and have no symptoms. You might be thinking what favor you want from the guy in return for him going to an exam where everything is fine health wise. Especially if you are just neutral to the guy going and are doing it for him.

Now if you are having symptoms before going of a possible serious health issue or are pregnant. Then if he goes, he needs to be worried about your well-being and not visual enjoyment. A little enjoyment might be ok for a known healthy pregnancy.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/expert-panel-says-healthy-women-dont-need-yearly-pelvic-exam-201407027250

https://www.statnews.com/2016/06/28/pelvic-exams-no-benefit/

https://www.mcleodhealth.org/blog/guideline-recommendationwait-3-5-years-pap-tests/

This is a not negative towards obgyn offices. They care for people that are sick with compassion and in good faith. They also care about pregnancies and babies being born healthy. I am just pointing out that well women exams are money making opportunity. Things are found on occasion. Still when they require it when a lot medical professional associations question it. so women can get birth control. It is a fact that it is partially to make money off of healthy people. Like women under 21 should have never been required to do so and in reality vaginal ultrasounds and mammograms would be much more beneficial than exams by a person. They absolutely care about people's health, but this is a case where the reason for some parts of the exam on healthy non-pregnant women does not make any more sense than other tests. In reality, it would be just as good if doctors used tele-health checkups to talk to women once a year about their health and birth control instead of the exam. The women could get a mammogram every year and a pap every 5 if she in a monogamous long-term relationship. There are some posts about doctors finding things with a recto-vaginal exam, but most doctors don't do them.

My point is that the annual women exam is not some sacred thing that the guy is being terrible in going along to watch. If the women is not pregnant and currently has no symptoms for a serious condition. The guy watching can add an extra benefit as long as he is respectful and not in the way. It really should be up the women and not the guy or provider. If the provider requires it for birth control she might as well get something out of it with the guy if she like the idea (ladies if the exam turns you in general, you will most likely like the guy coming once you get over the initial shyness"). If the women is neutral to the guy watching, she can get a favor back from the guy for him getting to go.

https://www.nbcnews.com/health/womens-health/many-teen-girls-may-be-having-unnecessary-pelvic-exams-n1111091

https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/committee-opinion/articles/2018/10/the-utility-of-and-indications-for-routine-pelvic-examination

https://news.uga.edu/bimanual-exam-does-not-accurately-screen-for-ovarian-cancer-0415/#:~:text=The%20study%20found%20the%20bimanual,were%20there%2C%E2%80%9D%20Ebell%20said.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK442158/

https://www.livescience.com/58148-pelvic-exams-debate.html

I’ve never had a boyfriend go with my to a gyn appointment. But if I was in a long term relationship and had that level of trust with the guy, and he was interested in going with me, I think I would be ok with that.

Dam PillowCase seems you are obsessed with going to the GYN appt with your wife.

If you have really researched what you say you have and read all those articles then you do not have much time to to share intimate times with your wife.

In all the time Susan and I have known each other, I probably attended five or six of her gyno exams and they were all when she was pregnant. She's a big girl and doesn't need anyone to hold her hand while she is being examined. Besides, I was always at work when she had her exams. After she retired from hospital nursing, somebody had to bring home the bacon. I always saw as much of her and probed around her body whenever I wanted, so watching someone else examine her never had such appeal to me. When we have guests for BDSM events at our house, it's a different story because I get to see several people examining her, often to orgasms.

If you have really researched what you say you have and read all those articles then you do not have much time to to share intimate times with your wife.

Actually each of the two sets of quotes took about 30 to 45 minutes to search and skim with google. You just have to type are "pelvic exams necessary" in google.

Now this line from my post before my last one took about six hours with the time evenly split between all of them "She also gets a massage, oral sex, orgasm by vibrator, and topped off with intercourse after the exam."

Yes I am present at my girlfriends exams

I have been fortunate enough to observe my wife's pelvic exam on several occasions. It is an interesting, educational, and of course, a stimulating experience. I am embarrassed to say that during the first exam I witnessed, I had an erection during the entire exam. This was my first encounter with what I came to learn was my fascination with medfet. I have been somewhat better at control during subsequent exams, but do find them stimulating.

At the same time, my wife has been my chaperone during my urological exams. While she indicates pleasure at being there for me, she says she does not feel any strong sexual pleasure at watching my female urologist exam me.

I would be ok with it. I would absolutely love it if my husband and Dr. would conspire to sexually stimulate me to orgasm again and again.

I have been to all my girlfriends exams i have been in the room when she had to undress and put on a gown. This was done infront of myself and the nurse. I then observed her breast exam as well as her pap smear. I have been to all her exams. She always says that she is happy that i am there with her. I also know that she get excited in these exams as she has admitted it as well as getting extremely wet. Which i have physically seen.