Eye Contact

They say the eyes are the window to the soul. But for some of us...prolonged eye contact is just CREEPY and we may feel uncomfortable staring into a lover's eyes.

How important do you feel eye contact during sex is? Is it a big turn on to watch your lover's face? Do you just prefer to watch the way his/her body moves? Or do you just close your eyes and ride the waves of pleasure?

I feel pretty much the same way you do, GG. Staring into my partner's eyes, or having him stare into mine just makes me feel a little uncomfortable. When I'm in the throes of passion I have a tendency to close my eyes and just drift away. Also, my partner is much taller than I am so to actually look at his face, I'd have to become a giraffe. I do enjoy watching him as he licks me or plays with my pussy.

I lived with a man for about two years and near the end of our relationship we were "rollin' around" one night and he whined that I never looked in his eyes when I came. Sometimes, LadyDoc's tongue engages before her brain is in gear and I ALMOST said "that's because I'm trying to imagine myself anywhere but here", That's not the case with the current man in my life, when we talk, we look eachother straight in the eye, it's just the height difference that gets to us.

LDC.."that's because I'm trying to imagine myself anywhere but here",

That's funny,,, sad,,,, but funny....

I would hope things did not progress to that state without me noticing and making changes... I think every sexual encounter should be different,,, not some "same ol rut screwing just to "get ya stones off"

Cheers

Skybear

Agreed with skybear on that last part.

Personally I enjoy looking into my partners eyes occasionally but not the whole time. That would just kind of creep me out I think. She likes to be able to see my face when I orgasm which is weird for me. lol

It's too much work. You shouldn't have to be worried about 'where am I looking' during sex. Just roll with it.

Oh I think its nice to "smoulder", by looking into someones eyes. Moreso obviously if there are true feelings, but eye contact for me is a way of guaging the other persons reactions to the situation. Works well in a variety of sexual settings I have found, whether it be touch, tongue or more

Eye contact is fine when in a position to do so. I enjoy the look of passion on my lover's face. We don't stare at one another but quite often that glassy eyed look of passion says more than a million words could ever say.

GyneDoll

Yes, the eyes, definitely... I remember watching Mum's face when she was giving me enema, as I laid on my back, and her look of concentration as she slipped the nozzle in, and squeezed... every now and then she would look up at my face and smile, and make eye contact... a special 'private moment' we shared. Often wished that could occur again, somehow..

Sex with my wife... she always closed her eyes... so I never got to see her eyes; also, most times, my face was too close to look at her eyes

Several times in my live several girls or women have realized a very determined and purposeful eye contact to me. The first one was a girl of 14 years which exhibited its pubic bone to me. All the others advanced in a far sophisticated manner. But not one of all these girls or women received one drop of my ejaculate in her vagina - this was the exclusive privilege of my wife.

It has been my experience that prolong eye contact while making love improves the total experience by a quantum leap. I love watching the pleasure wash over my lovers face as I give her oral or when I fondle that special place. Locked eye contact as we mutually caress each other deepens the experience, making it really a soul to soul communication. When my lady looks at me without fear, embarrassment or hesitation, letting me know she is enjoying me, makes my own total experience much deeper and more satisfying. Good eye contact makes me feel totally loved.

Eye contact is good for me until I become physically overwhelmed, or my partner starts to look funny from straining with veins popping out on his forehead or something. I have a tendency to take sex with a light hearted demeanor, and I can tell you from experience, it's better to look away or close your eyes, than laugh at your partner while he's trying his best to satisfy you. Laughing is only acceptable with the right person. LOL! Normally, I just turn my head to the right, or close my eyes.

In general I have always liked a lot of eye contact if I am in a relationship with a woman. If it is just recreational, what the hell; but if you really love someone and want a special connection I think the eyes are great. Since I am married, it’s a good thing my wife and I like looking in each other’s eyes. But it isn’t always possible because I am a pretty active lover—you aren’t doing it right if you don’t move around to different parts. I love chowing down on her rack, going down on her, biting ass, you name it we’re game for it.

One time that most guys really want eye contact is if a woman if blowing them. Blow jobs are great just by themselves but add eye contact and the guy goes into orbit.

Master and I spend a lot of time staring into each other's eyes. I love his eyes, they're beautiful.

"Eye contact" makes me very uncomfortable. Not only during sex but I just cant look into someones eye.

When i talk i look a little down ..eye contact Puts me in an akward position.

I can look into someone's eyes only for two-three seconds.

I agree with the last thing that Cos mentioned:

most times, my face was too close to look at her eyes

But every few minutes or so, it is great to just slow down/pause to look into each other's eyes for a moment. Or at least to pause and make eye contact for just a second, right before you both orgasm, simultaneously of course!

I would also like to add that although it can be great to look into each other's eyes at certain moments during sex, I get distracted when a woman I'm with just stares into my eyes for a long time, whether it is during sex or at any other point throughout our time in each other's presence. It makes me feel like she is scrutinizing my expression to figure out if I am really into her.

I would rather she simply trust that I am indeed very much interested in her, because if I wasn't then we wouldn't be with each other in the first place.

For me eye conact is important......to hold ones eyes is to captivate them.....I see myself reflecting back...not only in the images reflected....but through the filters of a range of emotion on their face....

My husband and I love to look into each other's eyes during sex. That's one of the reasons we enjoy sex with the lights on.

I like watching her orgasm face. But hafta admit, I sometimes shut my eyes and think of someone else...

Spankingmaster--I can think of two possibilities for your not enjoying eye contact.

In many cultures--the oriental ones are the ones I am familiar with--it is not polite to make and keep eye contact. Perhaps you were raised in such a culture as was I.

Or, you could have some form of autism, particularly Asperger's Syndrome--as I do--, which makes it uncomfortable to do it and for people such as I, eye contact is a meaningless thing. Facial language and body language generally are meaningless, and I can have just as satisfactory a conversation, perhaps more satisfactory, looking away or on the phone.

The old saying about the eyes being the entrance to the soul is meaningless to me.

hankb

NEITHER I AM AUTISTIC NOR ITS CULTURE RELATED.

I just cant look into someones eye for long time.

Some people just cant and that doesnt narrow it down to two possibilties you mentioned.?

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I really struggle to make eye contact with anyone . I find it really uncomfortable to have to do it and mostly look away or at least look down a bit.

Even when I was married I found it hard to look into my husband eyes .

Visits to the opticians etc where it's a must I find really difficult.

When I was growing up my parents taught me that it was disrespectful not to make eye contact with people. My father was a lawyer so he often made eye contact and maintained it as a form of dominance or intimidation. I learned from early on that keeping eye contact with my teachers helped me learn better, and have had many of my teacher tell me after I was an adult that they often felt like I was the only one paying attention to them. I have to be honest with you, my ability to keep and maintain eye contact has played in my favor a lot over the years. Almost always when a situation came up the teacher or boss would take my side on the issue.

See, when you make eye contact with someone, especially when you are in a submissive situation like that of a teacher-student you are showing that teacher respect and show a willingness to learn. And as a nurse I ALWAYS make and keep eye contact with my patients when talking to them or listening to them. See patients always lie, if you are giving them a good stare with solid eye contact that is less likely to happen.

Now on a personal side, I always make and keep eye contact with everyone, as like in my fathers case, it usually automatically give me the upper hand. Now when I am in bed with Doc, we always keep the lights on, and it's mostly because we love to look into each others eyes. I know without a doubt that he loves me more than anything, but when I look into his eyes and he into mine we get lost and fall in love with each other all over again. Goodness sakes that man of mine is so freaking hot! Oy Vey!

Mashie

Eye contact in a D/s situation is a little different.

There are situations where the Domme does not want her submissive to look at her (keep your eyes down) and will punish you for doing so.

Oh yes that's true Susie, I never thought of that. I have never quite been in that situation as of yet. Could be so at a later date, lol.

Mashie

I like eye contact - I like looking into their eyes when that moment 'cums' and all pretense is dropped.

^^^ Same here ...both sets of "eye's" if you follow my drift.

I was taught that eye contact is important and respectful. I had to really push myself to learn to do it in day to day life and at first it felt very unnatural and uncomfortable. Now, though, it is second nature. In intimate situations, I just love eye contact. It is an extra level of very close communication. That said, yes I do love to see how her body moves and responds. There is so much to take in but eye contact is a nice part of it for me.

Spanking--I did not state it well. I did not mean that these were the only two possibilities and that you were one or the other, or even possibly both, I meant that they were two of the possibilities and I never considered what others might be. Your answer, though, makes me think that I hit a sensitive spot in your self-image and you might think a bit more about the real reasons that you do not like or enjoy eye contact.

hankb

^^^

Neither you hit the sensitive spot because stating aspergillus and autistic to someone you dont know and never talked to "doesnt affect me " ?

Nor i need to think of the reasons! ?

I prefer to look anywhere but not eyes ?

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