Do women desire to control men?

Do you think that ladys/women desire control over males is it something that's built in or may be something that life has made them ?

I think that there is a wonderful trust between two consenting people and give it all you got and then switch roles and give it all you've got again.

Mine loves being fully dominated with all things sexual.. Just the other night on the couch, she was made to take her bottoms off and I inserted a speculum in to her. It was opened to the fullest she can take and left in as we watched TV. Other times, she'll get a vibe inserted in to her and not be allow to masturbate with it or touch herselfs.. Other times, I'll just rub her clit for long periods, but not with enough force or speed to get her to O...

Men need the control...they are pigs and desire to be owned and manipulated, or they will continue to stray.

Some do, some don't. Same with men.

My spanking partner definitely likes the control aspect when she is spanking me. That's why she goes across my lap sometimes-to remind her of just what it's like to be on the receiving end and have no control.

I found out that many woman do! The moment you get over being shy to speak about it and have your desires all in the open, most woman get really shiny eyes and want to know more...

next you know you'll have a spanking or you are denied orgasm ;-)

I do enjoy controlling me, but I also equally enjoy controlling everyone and everything. It's my OCD at it's finest. But also being a nurse has sort of engrained that into me over the years. But I will honestly say there is a difference between controlling someone and completely controlling someone. I do not enjoy completely controlling everyone, only Doc. And completely controlling him is a pleasure, an honor and a love thing above anything else.

Mashie

Mine has always been there (this is from looking back at past behavior and experiences) it wasn't always obvious though. When I was younger I wasn't so "in your face" about the control, but more of a subtle, complimentary, make them feel special kind of way. They might then be inclined to be more along the lines of my thinking.

As I have gotten older and been asked to step up and take control I am more direct. Especially with my sub, because it is what he desires from me. It feels right and very comfortable to be in charge and in control.

I've thought about this alot before and I think it depends on the woman really. Ok yea it has something to do with the past that women were under appreciated and all that. But like I said it depends on the woman and how they see the aspect of controlling a male. Some woman want a man to control them others want to control men. I think it equals out over all, then again I see alot of things as being equal.

I think that it is an individual inclination.

Absolutely

For me it's a desire cum true. Whilst I don't like to be controlled myself, the option to be the dominant partner in a relationship is one heck of a turn on, especially with someone who will submit on occasions. If the fun factor can be incorporated too, even better.

I think it has to be mutual to really be fun and work well. He can't keep expecting she is going to follow his grocery list of fetishes/ wants in order for her to really have and enjoy the freedom of bringing her own fetishes and wants into play. A lot of men online can't (or won't) give her room to be the leader. I've only found a very few men who really do submit. I think this is the reason more women are not into being in control. Once I find someone I can really have fun with, it is knowing I really do have the power which is the biggest turn on for me. Beyond that it doesn't so much matter what the actual activity is. It is the fact of him placing himself in my hands which opens up a whole world, like an open road for me to explore. I have his consent but not his expectations of what I should do, so I really can do it my way.

Built in! Part of thier maternal instinct. IMO.

Just as they spank their children, they spank husbands!

As it should be bigbabyhusband, lol, exactly how it should be. Mmmmm

Mashie

I think women MUCH PREFER to dominate other women. I think they get a "high" from not only punishing or disciplining them, I think they get a special kick if/when they see or "check" to see if she is lubricated or aroused by the domination, spanking, discipline, etc. Once they found out that I was aroused, or worse....orgasm ...while being disciplined, all pretense was erased and a wicked smile usually spread across their face as they realized I couldn't control myself....and needed disciiplining/control...and obviously wanted it, and enjoyed it at some level.

I'm not sure women get the same from doing it to men, but I'm not experienced there to really say. I've just found that the two women who trained me didn't seem to have any interest in men, or worse.

margo

I think that most Ladies want to control from time to time. Being a Dom of another Lady is more exciting I think because of the glowing submissiveness feelings which only a woman can feel and show.

It must be both, born like this and life experiences, deciding for our behavior. In the mean time lets enjoy what we like to play. I am switch, a good one as I have been told, but stronger feelings come when I am a sub, treated with respect and severity. All the best.

I agree with you ...women do tend to show their feelings so much more, physically, which is why they make better subs than men (sometimes). I know that's a generality, and men have some advantages such as clearly showing when they are aroused, when it's a little more nuanced in women (erect nipples, etc.). But I think women's facial expressions are much more tell-tale ...I know mine are. A woman only has to "command" me and almost instantaneously I become a little girl again in my facial expressions, eyes lowered, lips trembling.

It seems that women who grew up in the 50s and 60s tend to be more dominant in nature than the next gen. Not sure why that is. I know when I was growing up, all my female role models where very strong, dominant women, not just my mother, grandmothers aunts and great-aunts, but all the women in my neighborhood. It wasn't a desire so much as just the natural way of things to control everything that went on in the home. World War II had ended and then we were in the Korean Conflict. The need to control what was going on in their homes was, I think, a direct reflection on their inability to control what was happening outside their small world that they couldn't control but which directly affected their home life. Their husbands went off to war and came back damaged in some way or not at all. That was something they could not control. But they could certainly be dominant in their own homes. We daughters of those women, Baby Boomers all, seem to have learned and adopted that same personality trait. After all, we had a similar situation, being the women whose men went off to Viet Nam. Could it be that dominant, controlling women are in some way, a direct result of the chaos brought about by men? Or did I totally miss the point?

Never looked at from that direction. I think you have a great point.

@course... Thank you. I was afraid I ran off the rails there.

Momma

I am naturally submissive and I have always found it both a turn off and very difficult to be dominant. Like it says on my profile I am heteroflexible, well I found extreme thrill and satisfaction in fantasizing about controlling a woman and enforcing my way of submission and servitude upon her for my Man's fulfillment. Little by little I began to show interest in taking advantage rather than dominating my Man after overcoming some fears (upon request) of sexy domination. One day I patched a friend up after he fought for me and it was incredibly sexy thinking about taking advantage of his inability to move swiftly and his dependency on me for that time being. I sometimes get the urge to restrict and safely torture Him especially if He pisses me off or has been very cocky lately.

In my experience, coming from being dominated by a woman for almost seven years, I would say that it is a mixture of nature and nurture. My Mistress was raised in a family in which her father abused her mother in many different levels. Her and her sister where both subjected to their parents style of living life as they grew up. They saw their mother being emotionally and physically abused in ways that no child should ever experience...this was not some fetish being played out, this was a deplorable relationship between two adults that their children found themselves in the middle of. My mistress responded to this in two ways. First she never wanted to be in a relationship with a male who believed that he has some sort of ultimate say or final word within a situation, she never wanted to be submitted to the type of abuse she saw her mother go through for all those years. Secondly, she found that it was a great turn on for her to have complete control of a male, ready to be used and abused--though in a relationship of mutuality. Thus, I can say from her point of view that she came into the lifestyle due to her experiences. However, I think that it may also be a part of who she just naturally is, because her sister, (who is very familiar with her sister's tastes sexually as well) did not react in the same manner.

Where, oh where are these wonderful controlling women?

This is a great thread and I hope that there are many more contributions. It is refreshing to get the views of ‘real’ women as opposed to the men who often pose as women on some forums.

Personally, I have no idea why ladies desire control over males and alas, in my experience very few do want control. Perhaps the strong and dominant ladies on this forum would post more on the benefits of being in control of their males so that new people may be encouraged to follow in their footsteps.

There is not a better turn on for me as when a woman tells me that she is going to give me an enema, or two or three. Just the words excite me. and to be restrained at the same time where I am under her complete control, !WOW!. I am from the 1960/70 era, men were always in charge, I run my own business, make all the decissions, I get releif when I have to give in. It's hard to find such a woman, so I keep looking, fo that elusive bright light. Come out Come out wherever you are LOL.

I received my first bare bottomed spanking over my wife's knee on our wedding night.

Markiee, your wife is to be commended for getting her priorities right and I hope that she has continued as she started off. All new brides should be presented with a good cane, a decent leather strap and a male chastity device as a wedding gift from their husbands or friends.

You deserve another good spanking for not posting more details about your wedding night chastisement.

A nurse once admitted what I had long suspected - enjoying the feeling of control over me when I was bending over for an injection, helpless to avoid the jab in my naked bottom but unable to see what she was doing.

I hope so! I enjoy submitting to a woman,being made to do what she desires,I enjoy a good spanking,not severe.Would love to have a woman give me an enema and force me to hold it.