Question for the guys. Which is more humiliating

I think is it more sexual for her to unbutton, zip and pull down my pants, but more humilating to be told to do that to yourself while she is watching

I would say a bit of both, I like to be told what is going to happen but have no latitude as to when it happens.

Definitely being told to. To me, when the dominant female participates in the undressing, it blurs the role between herself and the submissive. That relationship should always be clinical and clearly defined. Being told to undress while blindfolded is particularly stressful to me, making me feel almost doubly naked. Much of my "physical therapy" is received while blindfolded, which my therapist claims is particularly effective.

Difficult question this and I might even give a different answer on another day. Having her undo and pull my pants down would possibly feel sexier but then just submitting to her and doing as I'm told would probably be more humiliating if I didn't even protest. She says 'drop your pants and bend over my knee', I'm being totally submissive and less of a man.

Being told to do it myself. I went to Catholic school...the nuns tore me up daily. Sometimes twice.

For me, the humiliation comes from the exposure, standing pants down in front of her while she tells me of my violation then again while I explain the lesson I learned. Neither time am I allowed to cover myself. Sometimes, I'm nude with hands behind my head. The humiliation is especially acute if there are other people there.

My wife and I love to paddle each other. We don't tell each other what do. We both know what we like and that's how we play. We normally both wear panties before the paddling starts. She takes mine down after a few licks. I leave hers up much longer as that's the way she rolls. It's cheap thrills for us to buy matching panties to play in.

My wife has paddled me infrequently When it has to happen i have it coming in spades and her tolerance level has been tried to a breaking point---it would never be an issue as to pulling down pants---I got it coming and I still am kind of scared even though I am middle aged ---so any factor besides getting my bare butt paddled and knowing its going to hurt like crazy is the only thought in my mind---Actually I usually shower right before so I just bend over and hold my knees right out of the shower--If she did pull down my pants--I guess it would make no difference---after all she is my wife so getting my butt bared is not an issue of modesty or humiliation--taking a paddling is sure an issue of pain on my bare butt--I have earned it however i still am a little nervous about getting it---not undressing

There's an interesting sexual dichotomy here I learned from prison and war literature.

For men it is usually considered more humiliating to make them take off their clothes.

For a woman, it is usually more humiliating to have someone else take their clothes off.

There's an interesting sexual dichotomy here I learned from prison and war literature.

For men it is usually considered more humiliating to make them take off their clothes.

For a woman, it is usually more humiliating to have someone else take their clothes off.

That is interesting!

Both are fantastically and deliciously embarrassing!! but my preference would be for my female spanker to unbuckle my pants and lower my pants and my underwear... however if she were to have her female friends present (which I would SO want to have happen but would SO die of embarrassment if they were there to witness my spanking), I would want her to lower my pants, but then order me to pull my own underwear down.... sort of a further act of submission and display of the fact that she is totally in control... as much as I am blushing furiously seeing her smiling pretty girlfriends with their teasing demeanors relishing in the situation and knowing what they are about to see,... I am helpless to stop my embarrassment... reluctantly being compelled into baring myself for my spanking to her smiling friends delight.... all four of my cheeks will soon be blushing furiously!!!

Much more embarrassing for the guy to have his knickers taken down by the girl. Like it's more embarrassing for him to be physically taken across her knee, rather than bending over. In both scenes, she is demonstrating her control over him.

george

Having my spanker bare my bottom and turn me across her knee is far more embarrassing for me. My face gets redder than my bottom. It gives me feelings of complete submission and humiliation.

Having my wife unbuckle my belt and pull down my breeches while being pulled over her knee is embarrassing for me. My wife is older then me and can definitely handle me across her knee. My face gets very red, and usually I'm put in the corner afterwards which really embarrasses me.

Slightly hotter to have to stand there as she unbuckles, unzips, and lower my pants and my tighty whities. Part of the humiliation is the complete loss of control; she does what she likes, and I have no say.

I think I'd be more humiliated doing it myself. Knowing that I'm stripping with her watching intently for the purpose of spanking me. Hot though

For me it would be more humiliating to be told to take my pants off because it means that she has all the power.

Hi, I'm George and would find it far more embarrassing for a girl to take my pants down for me and haul me across her knee. She is then showing me that she is in total control and totally disempowering me.

On further reflection; if the girl told me to take my pants down, I would refuse and maybe say "no! f__k off, you silly little c_w! Then what would happen?

On further reflection; if the girl told me to take my pants down, I would refuse and maybe say "no! f__k off, you silly little c_w! Then what would happen?

If I were a girl and someone said that to me, then I'd do exactly that. I'd go away and leave you unfulfilled and hopefully with blue balls, maybe never wishing to see you again.

It would be more humiliating for me to have to obey her by lowering my pants, and then move over and into position, and bend over...

Cos

Much better for me to have her pull the, down, remove her shoe, turn me over her knee, and whack me with

Her shoe on the bare butt until she gets tired.

In general I think being told to stand right there in front of her and ordered to pull down my pants, then my underwear and then hear her say, “Now get across my lap,” is exciting, a bit scary and yes arousing…………..OH and if during this entire time you are being told to do this she is holding a paddle or a belt, YIKES!

Neither.

None of them

I think the first option is more humiliating because you are complying and therefore taking some responsibility for what is happening/going to happen to you. Now there is a case to be made that in the latter scenario you are also participating by allowing her to remove your clothes, but in my opinion it would be less humiliating to do nothing than to do anything that makes being spanked easier.

As for me, I like the female to pull my pants down before anything is done to me. When I am with another male, I like to pull down my own pants when something is to be done to me. In fact, I not only like my pants down, I like to be completely nude for both males and females.

Either one is quite effective although having my spanker roughly pull my pants and whities down then pulling me roughly over their lap is a real turn on

I find it more humiliating to pulling down my own pants and getting naked before a spanking. Being directed to do it is humiliating as is obeying and complying. Then going over the lap. Oh, my. Yes humiliating. However, I have to admit I also enjoy the humiliation.

I have always felt more humiliated when my pants and white briefs are removed by the spanker. Sometimes all of my clothes are removed by the spanker which makes me feel vulnerable and act submissive when my bare bottom and upper thighs are spanked. If anyone would like to discuss spanking experiences, feel free to send me a message.