Question for the guys. Which is more humiliating

Being told that I am going to be spanked and getting in postion is very humiliation. A few times I was not alone and that was even more humiliation.

Being told to pull down your pants for a spanking is an excellent way to make the receiver nervous. He/she knows the purpose of exposing their buttocks is to get some slaps on their bare bottom. Doing the exposure yourself shows an acceptance of your punishmnet.

But on the opposite side of the equation, having the master do it reflects a reluctance on your part to particiapte willingly. Some prefer an umwarrented spanking or one that seems to lack the full co-operation of the receiver. Good for fantasy role playing scenarios.

For me it was much more humiliaitng when mom told me to pull my pants down, especailly in front of others.

To have her pull them down.then to check to make sure they are clean. If they are not to scold yoy and give you a harder spanking.

Yeah, I would have to say that her unbuttoning, unzipping and lowering them would be more humiliating, and it would also put her more in control.

I agree with richardpr44 ... been there many times, and it was always mortifying.

Definetly if the female does it herself ...

I'm not sure I've ever experienced what you did, but if I found the right woman it could be a joyous first. Humiliation leads to other things.

Having her do it reinforces the feeling that you have no control. I find that much more humbling and a big turn on.

Hmm I don't think either one would humiliate me unless i wasn't expecting it, others were present and she suddenly told everyone that I had been bad and that she had to punish me right then and there while they watched. now that would humiliate me to no end.!

It would be most embarrassing if she pulled them down for me. She would be in total control and I would feel helpless.

In role playing with 2 different Doms, I have pulled my pants down for one and the other did it herself and really enjoyed it. For me, it was more humiliating for the Dom to pull my pants down then take me over her knee; she really described what she was going to do to me as she lectured me before the spanking.

I would prefer to have my pants pulled down just as my mom did when I was a boy.

Having your pants and undies taken down by the spanker. Embarassing and not having any control. Going OTK feeling the hand on your naughty bare bottom which clenches automaticaly. Laying there exposed and helpless.

Neither would be humiliating........but if I had to choose, I'd much rather she unbutton, unzip, and pull down my pants.

The worst is to have the spanker remove all my clothes in front of a group of her friends who will all take part in the spanking. I am usually blindfolded so have no idea of who is doing the spanking. There is an amazing difference in what different women can do.

It is much more humiliating for me if she is completely in control and for her to pull me over her lap and pull my panties down herself.

Having another pull down pants is more humiliating

My wife and I engage in spanking discipline, with me always on the receiving end.She tells me to go intothe bedroom and take off everything except my t-shirt.Then she comes in, gets the paddle and lay across her lap while she sits on the bed. I get a good hard paddling. There are no safe words here.

Both are effective, but being told to pull my own pants and underwear down seems to be more humiliating and exciting to me.

My wife makes me take my pants off, & find and give her the bath brush, I wish she would have the brush & take down my pants instead.

I prefer having my pants pulled down.

Neither would really embarrass me but I'd be more humiliated by being told to pull them down. If she unbuttons them and pulls them down, her assertiveness would be a turn-on.

More humiliating to have someone else pull them down.

Many guys, whether they realize it or not, engage in power exchange play. Of course spanking as a bottom is a HUGE power exchange.

Taking the clothing off of the male, allows him the mental escape that the Top is doing to him. Forcing the male to submit and remove his own clothing can cement the submission of the spanking.

Of course, YMMV.

While I've never experienced this before, having my pants unbuttoned and pulled down by my Mistress or Mommy and being put over her knee would be more embarassing. I just hope I'm not being spanked because I wet my diapers. I mean aren't "subs or babies" supposed to wet their diapers?... Oh well, it probably wouldn't hurt anyway as long as she spanked me over the doubled cloth diapers and rubber pants I'd be wearing.

Either way is good for me.

It is the 'end' result that counts .... 😃

I think having her do it is far more humiliating.

This is just a statement from the other side of the spanking dynamic, by a female that loves to spank males. I love watching a man take a good discipline session, and watch as a warm, red glow begins to show across the buttocks and thighs. I start by telling them that they are getting a spanking and they will need to completely strip down for it and then "present" their bottom to me for the spanking. If I am sitting, they go otk and the bottom is presented by arching the back to bring the buttocks up. Legs are straight with toes touching floor and heels turned out to prevent clenching. It also exposes the dangly bits more to anyone else that is present. All of this is done from a psychological standpoint of removing their control and any choices in regards to the spanking.

For standing, they are to lean forward with their hands on a table that will not move. Their bottom will be presented in this position also by having to stand with their feet in line with their shoulders in regard to height, and the feet and legs should be at least shoulder width apart. Once again, toes in, heels out and dangly bits on display. Either position allows the spankee to remain in their position for extended periods of time for being spanked, paddled or strapped, or all three if that is their preference. The psychological factor of the loss of control of how the discipline is received is the fun part for me. Many men will ask a woman to spank and paddle them, but will try to remain in control to a certain extent. Controlling their positioning, having them remove all their own clothes, and the exposure of their genitals for others to see, enables them to recognize that they have no control over any part of the discipline except to safeword out, but that has never happened.