Chaperones

I’ve experienced a chaperone present twice both during a pre-employment physical.

The first time, the nurse was only present for a small portion of the physical Approximately, as I was instructed to stand up and “drop” my underwear to the floor. She witnessed the entire genital and hernia portion of my exam. Honestly, that wasn’t the most embarrassing part as she had to watch me pee into the cup for the required drug test.

The second time I was 21 or 22, same doctors office but each year I had a different doctor for my physical. All the information I had was the appointment time and the name of the doctor. The nurse that called my name was the mother of a friend from school. First, it was kind of awkward when she asked me to pee (luckily didn’t watch) and then handing your pee back to your friends mom. Secondly, slightly awkward when she tells you to strip to your underwear and the doctor and I will be back shortly. At the time I thought it was a weird phrase but I stripped down to my briefs and waited for the doctor on the exam table. That was followed by a quick knock as the doctor followed by the nurse entered the room where I was told the nurse remain throughout the physical. For me, it was a flashback of when my mom use to remain in the exam room. Basically, I tried to remain calm hoping my penis would not either shrink , get had or have my scrotum tighten up. Eventually, I was asked to stand up and drop my underwear down for the genital and hernia exam. It really doesn’t bother me when I’m asked to expose my genitals to a doctor . When I was growing up many years I had two physicals which required at least a hernia exam. But it was truly embarrassing having your mom’s friend seeing you naked and then a doctor touching you penis and testicles.

I think the key is that the doc should ask your permission to bring them in, not just have them waltz in with the doc. It’s a patient’s choice to accept or decline. The doctor should not assume that a patient is comfortable with this. This happened to me and I told the doc I wanted to talk to her alone. The chaperone was visibly annoyed and didn’t want to leave the room and delayed it as long as possible until the doc directed her out. I then told her I had never NOT had someone request my permission to bring in an observer, ended the appointment and began my search for a new doctor. If I’m getting naked for you, I have to feel that you respect me. Not the case there. She charged my insurance $300 for the visit. Give me a break.

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it was indeed a very embarrassing situation but I guess that you cannot complain or refuse that situation, nothing to do except to get over it quickly

Do you have noticed after that complete examination in her presence a change in the behaviour of the mother of your girlfriend towards you, a kind of new complicity because she knnows you better and more privacy, or at least a kind of amused smile when she saw you, or a reference to your examination in her talks to you,?

And did your girlfriend told you something about it, for instance that her mother has related to her your physical examination in her presence and in that case what does she think about it ? does she teased at you or find it normal and does not care about it ?

The idea of chaperones are really hot and a turn on for me! I think a big part of my medfet is the embarrassment of it all, and chaperones definitely add to that! Even though the idea turns me on, I think in real life I would hate to have a chaperone during an intimate exam. The only time I actually have had chaperones is at the dermatologist. Every single time I've been he's had an assistant there, usually taking notes and assisting as necessary. It hasn't been that bad really because they seem to serve a purpose then and it hasn't bothered me. They're not there just to stand and watch your fun bits be examined.

The idea of chaperones are really hot and a turn on for me! I think a big part of my medfet is the embarrassment of it all, and chaperones definitely add to that!

The idea of having a chaperone/stranger present to observe an examination is indeed arousing and a turn-on, even in a real exam situation there can be a certain element of enjoyment. In a play exam most certainly.

But on the other hand, in a real exam situation, the idea and rationale behind having a chaperone present is rather insulting in a way, as it indicates that the doctor has limited trust in you to not make up lies or false claims and accusations. This implied aspect I do not care for at all.

The idea and rationale behind having a chaperone present is rather insulting in a way, as it indicates that the doctor has limited trust in you to not make up lies or false claims and accusations.

Alternatively, the doctor may feel that the chaperone is present because his employer has limited trust in him not to behave improperly.

Alternatively, the doctor may feel that the chaperone is present because his employer has limited trust in him not to behave improperly.

Which employer do you mean?

Do you mean the patient as employer? Do you mean a company he is employed by? For me the last would be unusual because there are no HMO networks in Belgium where I live. Most doctors are self-employed or work in a sort of cooperative system in hospitals.

So which would you mean by a doctor's employer?

Thinking all the way back to when my mom stopped accompanying me into the exam room for physicals as a kid (I think the last time was when I was 11 or 12), I don’t recall having a chaperone or nurse being present during an exam.

The only time was about ten years ago. The PA that usually gave me my physicals was accompanied by a med student. The PA asked me if I was okay if the student performed the physical while she observed, so the student could gain more experience. She said she will make sure the student doesn’t miss anything, and would check out anything the student wasn’t sure about. I agreed and gave permission. The student gave me a thorough exam, including a testicular exam and hernia exam, but no rectal. I started getting rectals as part of my physicals the following year.

For the past several years my wife and I have had conjoint physicals. We are each other’s chaperone now!

So which would you mean by a doctor's employer?

Seems like an odd digression for a medical fetish site, but since you ask I'll try and clarify what I meant :-)

Whether the doctor is paid by the State, by the patient or by an insurance company the doctor is still regulated and accountable in the way in which they operate.

Not strictly their employer I admit, rather it may be their professional body that sets the rules.

One of my previous doctors wrote in her notes that she had a chaperone during my breast exam. Unless someone was hiding on the other side of the curtain, there was no one else in the room with us. Since the curtain divided the room, that made the exam area really small and the chair took up a lot of space.

I didn't get the chance to ask about that comment because I was later assigned a new primary care provider. Maybe she was required to have a chaperone. I still find it embarrassing to have another person. I always assumed they were there to assist the doctor because I can't remember when I first heard about chaperones being required for male doctors when having a genital exam.

This only happened in childhood. Most often, I was accompanied by my half-sister, who had already reached the age of majority. This embarrassed me, although I never expressed it, fearing reproaches. At the hospital, I was taken out of the ward for examinations and procedures by a trainee girl, about 15-17 years old. They always stayed and watched, although much later, I found out that they had to wait in the hallway.

There is always a chaperone present when I see my dermatologist. I'm in briefs with a paper sheet for the exam.

I've been seen by a few female GPs and NPs for physicals throughout the years and to be best of my recollection, they've always been in the exam room with me, alone, until it was time for the genital and/or prostate exam. Then they have excused themselves to grab a chaperone, always a female nurse.

I think I'd be more embarrassed, and feel more exposed, with a chaperone watching. I wouldn't see it as being to my benefit (well, maybe I would, because I like being exposed and embarrassed). The health check I had, where I was in my underwear for most of the physical exam, and which included a testicular exam, had the option of a chaperone by prior arrangement but didn't require one. She was just very professional as you'd expect - leaving me to dress and undress behind the curtain, and making clear in a friendly way she wasn't shy about bodies so to strip down to my underwear if I was comfortable with it.

A slightly off topic aside: The doctor above made a couple of encouraging comments about my body (as I was beginning a get-fit drive in which I aimed to gain weight/muscle) and while I didn't think they were inappropriate in the context, I did wonder if she was less cautious in how she phrased things since I'd just been talking about my boyfriend and I'd be less likely to be imagining/hoping there was any more to it. But she was probably just friendly and open and not even thinking about it.

I would prefer they have chaperones as an alternative to not having the patient undress at all during a wellness exam, or whatever you want to call it. If this no undressing thing is a result of all the Larry Nassers and lawsuits, then I'd rather they have a witness there so they can proceed with doing their job the way it used to be done, and perhaps the way it's supposed to be done.

I would prefer they have chaperones as an alternative to not having the patient undress at all during a wellness exam, or whatever you want to call it. If this no undressing thing is a result of all the Larry Nassers and lawsuits, then I'd rather they have a witness there so they can proceed with doing their job the way it used to be done, and perhaps the way it's supposed to be done.

The presence of chaperones has long predated any recent lawsuits of doctors.

I would ascribe it beginning because of fear of lawsuits, but then the question arises, why would more people start to find undressing for a doctor to be distressing, problematic or unacceptable? I would think that a change in attitude is the more basic, underlying reason. And this change is due to an increase in prudery and an increase in (mild) paranoia amongst the general population. And this last is fanned by inflammatory and hyped media coverage of those occurrences when abuse is indeed found to have happened in some instances.

Nothing has happened to me like this in recent years, but the rule one clinic we went to as kids that kids under 17 had to have a parent or guardian present when clothes were off is a major part of my fetish.

Nothing has happened to me like this in recent years, but the rule one clinic we went to as kids that kids under 17 had to have a parent or guardian present when clothes were off is a major part of my fetish.

This may be great for fantasies and role-playing initiatives.

But in general as a semi-unanimous protocol, I fear it raises fears/expectations of misconduct happening on the part of medical personnel and inclines people towards mistrust and suspicion. This last from both sides: patients come to mistrust medical personnel by default and medical personnel come to mistrust patients.

Because, otherwise, why the need for the physical presence of what is in effect a witness for the defense in a presumed potential lawsuit that exists mostly in the minds of fearful and distrustful people.

Don’t recall my parents with me for any exams, although I’m sure they were when I was very young. Several memories of getting genital or hernia exams alone with only the doctor present, except once when the nurse walked in with a message for the doc. She quickly turned away so as not to embarrass me. Chaperones were never required as far as I know. Can’t speak for my sisters.

I've only had a chaperone once. Was in the throes of a bad ptsd episode so wasn't observing much. Since then primary has taken over all gyn care for me, she hasn't asked me if I want one I don't think but I trust her, so its not an issue.

I don’t know if I’d refer to them as chaperones, or assistants. It’s common in the healthcare field to see medical students, and office assistants in the exam room, sometimes working alongside the doctor, or alone, doing a patient screening.

Where I live chaperones are almost always used now for opposite sex genital exams or tests and it’s mandatory for kids under 18 and a parent is not acceptable. I have had office staff, medical assistants, nurses, CNAs, and medical scribes all chaperone exams due to multiple hernias and complications as well as a female urologist for awhile. For me the age of the chaperone makes it either comfortable or uncomfortable and the most embarrassing was the day after hernia surgery the testicle swelled to 3 times it’s normal size and I called the surgeon office and they said go right to the ER as the blood supply could be cut off. Upon arrival a nurse practitioner was waiting for me as they had called ahead and a woman around 19 or 20 brought me back and the nurse practitioner asked her to stay and chaperone. She was my daughters age and I hoped they didn’t know each other as the nurse practitioner had me lower everything to my knees and did the exam while she watched.

Several of Drs office in the medical group I go to have signs posted that you can ask for a chaperone if desired. I've seen urologists, gastroenterologists etc (both male and female) and never had a chaperone. Only time was a “scribe” during a orthopedic and dermatology exams. I've had fairly intimate ultrasound exams by female techs with no chaperone.