Your First Time Having Sex

Yea there seems to be that relationship between first time having sex to "over rather quickly". I can vouche for that, my first time having sex was over fast lol

I don't like to get hung up on the first time. We were you young, I think just before we started college, and it was both our first time. She had some discomfort since she had never been penetrated. I know I was nervous and excited at the same time and worried about making it the most wonderful experience ever. The reality of it is practice make perfect. Not saying it was not enjoyable, but the more sex we had the better it got.

I went to a private boys boarding school so I didn't get a chance to interact with the members of the opposite sex until I got to college. I was not the best at talking or making myself appealing to women. After months of frustration, I met a girl in the neighborhood who would consent to having sex with me. It was the most memorable twenty seconds of my life. I know it didn't do a thing for her, as I was catching my breath she asked if I could "do it again." I'm 60 now and still have questions about how good I am in bed. We were both virgins and had a running sexual relationship for over a year before I ended up in the Army.

Big "D", I was just reading an article the other day that talked about this exact subject. Men and their sexuality. I like many others in the article,(coming from a woman's point of view, please keep that in mind,) just assumed that by the time you boys reached about 25 or so most of your fears and or concerns about whether or not you are good in bed would have gone away, especially if you are in a serious relationship. But the article in fact stated pretty much the opposite, stating that men never outgrow the questions and or fears about themselves in bed. I found this very interesting from a psych standpoint.

There are many many levels to sex, and twice as many things that factor into sex as well, not to mention age, libido, physical stature, and the list goes on and on. It's been said many times that for both sexes, sex starts in the brain, and that is a fact.

I have always said my entire life that I absolutely suck in bed. I am not a good kisser, I have no idea what I am doing, heck, I didn't even know I had a clit until I was almost 20, and had my first big "O" shortly after, by my own doing. But I never knew what I was doing? And I went through most of my life this way.

Now, on the other side of the coin here, my partner Doc I think he had always considered himself a thoughtful lover, making sure his women was always pleased first, but from what I gather from the things he said when we met, he was 48, he didn't think he was good in bed either.

When we got together, Doc and I, I will be honest here and tell you that yes, we did in fact have sex on our first date. A first for both of us. But that night and every night, day, morning or afternoon since, and it's been 4 and a half years now our sex just keeps getting better and better and better, not to mention kinkier and kinkier. But, even when we just make love and have plain vanilla sex, it's still over the top fantastic.

We were both so nervous that first time, but quickly that subsided and things just quickly fell into place. When all was said and done, we were talking about it and about how amazing it was and both of us were talking about things we did that night that neither of us had ever done before, or even dreamt of doing before. For both of us, to date, that was the best sex we had ever had.

Admitingly, we are both still married to others, him 30 years, me 20, but sex with each other is do over the top different. We both in the past 4.5 years have had sex with our spouses one time, and we both commented on how different that was too. It was like we had forgotten what and how we have sex when we are together, so not trying to be mean, but when we had sex with our spouses, it was boring, the same, it wasn't enjoyable at all, and no matter how much we tried to bring in some of the spark and some of what we had learned having sex together it just wasn't happening. That's when we realized that we were again back to basically sucking in bed.

It was when we got back together the next with with each other, and had sex again, the same over the top fantastic sex we have always had with each other we both realized that neither of us suck in bed, actually, we totally rock the house,(much to our neighbors in the hotel rooms next to ours jealously and or disgust, or maybe even amusement), but only with each other. We bring out desires, lusts, animalistic tendencies, primal needs and actions and what not that we either don't bring out in other partners, or those other partners don't bring out in us.

I have said in many previous posts that most people of the opposite sex can find a partner to have sex with, and some of those people will find a partner that fits with them okay, or even better than okay, but once in a while you might be very very lucky to find a partner that fits perfectly in every way, mentally, emotionally, physically and anatomically, and when you find one with all 4 components, then you throw in the fact that you are physically attracted to them, and that you really are in love with them, then the question of whether or not you are good in bed isn't a question you will have to ask yourself ever again.

Before I met him I would have never ever wanted to take control in bed, tied him up, put a hood on him, gotten on top of him, called him my bitch for the night and rode him hard over and over. And never in his life has he had any desire to command a woman to orally please him, or just walk into a room and demand she drop her pants for him and then he come over and just take her either, and the list of things like that could go on for volumes. Now if my husband ever tried either of those things to me, while I have never actually hit a person outside of a karate ring, I would deck his ass so fast he wouldn't see it coming. And likewise, if Doc ever tried that on his wife probably the same would occur.

So both of us have stopped wondering if we suck in bed when we are together. We both know that we absolutely do not suck in bed, we both would like to think that we are masters of craftsman in bed......when we are with each other......., but on the off chance we ever have to to and have sex with the spouse again, then and only then will a question of that nature come up again.

So, long story short here, I don't think anyone really sucks in bed, they may just suck in bed because of the partner with whom they are with at the moment. It's rally amazing and still flabbergasts me to this day what the right partner for you can make such a huge difference in either or both partners performance in the bedroom.

Just my 2 cents worth on this Monday morning.

Mashie

The first time I had sex with a women, where I fully engaged in the act was when I was about 26, maybe 27. It was in a mall parking lot in my car.

Mashie, Thank you for the kind words. I'm married for the third time and it seams as if I keep making the worst choices. I wish I could turn back the clock and stay with wife #1. The sex was pretty good and we could talk just about everything. Alias, I was in the military and being away from my wife and family made things difficult. My second wife never had an orgasm with me, she always "finished off" after I was too pooped to go on. I give it my best shot and try to get the women in my life to engage but it just doesn't seam to happen. Thanks again.

Sounds Corney.. but take the approach it IS your first time having sex... 😄

Be inventive, I look at it like "if we don't love it we won't name it"

I was a late starter, me. It was just before my 18th birthday - all nicely planned, but all too quick.

The second time was much much better 😃

The very first time was with a girl who was a friend that we had done a lot with each other but had not actually had sex. One December night things got heavy and we were undressing each other excitedly and just that quick it was over. I was disappointed and I'm sure she was to. She said that we'll prolly sleep good. I said I hope its not that quick next time. Turns out, I never saw her again.

My first time was horrible. I was 18 and the guy was not a virgin. We were at one of his friends houses visiting sleeping on the floor when we decided to do it. It was quick and awkward. Now my first time with a girl was amazing!

I was 18 and just out of high school. I went with a guy a few years older than me to a whorehouse in an old farm house about an hour and a half ride south to Braidwood IL. I paid $10 for my first. Got an "around the world". She did oral until I told her to stop because I was ready to cum. Then we "made love", missionary style. It had to be the easiest $10 she ever made. It probably took me longer to get undressed and dressed again than it did for my first experience. It was memorable because it was my first time.

Mashie,

thanking you for your fine sensitive words may I ask you: How many children do you have together with your husband?

Ricini, I have two girls, both by my husband, and no other children that I know of, and I am guessing a woman would know something like that I would think, lol.

Mashie

Mashie,

thanking you for your answer, by my wife I have one girl and two boys and no other children. Up to this day we have ten grandchilds but I suppose that this will not be all.

My girls are only 19 and 20, I am no way even close enough to be a grandparent yet, lol. That's why they make depo shots for, and my girls get them religiously, lol.

Mashie,

my daughter is 45 and the boys 40 and 33. All have gone to a university, the two boys to a college of technology. Now all are married and my two daughters-in-law are wonderful personalities.

My older daughter was 16 the first time she had sex with her boyfriend. I posted on this subject about a year and a half ago. She stayed out all night, never calling us, and arrived home the next morning. She told me what she had done and that she had a wonderful time. Things that she said made it so good were I encouraged her to masturbate (I even left astroglide in her medicine cabinet when she started puberty), she had played with dildos for a long time (she acquired them on her own), so there was no hymen to tear and she was used to something inside her vagina, and the Playboy Channel for the various positions and body action.

In the fall she will be going off to college at NYU. I CAN'T BELIEVE IT! I know what I did in college, so I hope she will be careful in the big city.

Regarding the sexual position to lose one's virginity, I will ask her what position she used. I used missionary.

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chester said

Since the sub-topic of definitions came up, here's a few I found online this evening:

WordNet Dicitonary: (Webster-Dictionary.org)

act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man's penis is inserted into the woman's vagina and excited until orgasm and ejaculation occur

Merriam-Webster online dictionary: Definition of SEXUAL INTERCOURSE

1: heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis : coitus

2: intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis

dictionary.com: sexual intercourse

noun

genital contact, especially the insertion of the penis into the vagina followed by orgasm; coitus; copulation.

World English Dictionary:

the act carried out for procreation or for pleasure in which, typically, the insertion of the male's erect penis into the female's vagina is followed by rhythmic thrusting usually culminating in orgasm

American Heritage Stedman's Medical Dictionary

Sexual union between humans involving genital contact other than vaginal penetration by the penis.

I agree with the DEFINITIONS you posted. You gave definitions for "sexual intercourse", NOT "sex"

I was 14. Her parents had gone to the movies. We got naked on the living room couch. And, for the first time I saw right up front, out loud and personal, a real live, in the flesh "naughty part." I was disappointed. For years I had wondered what "IT" looked like. I had actually felt "one," but here "IT" was and "it" just wasn't that thrilling or interesting! I do not know what I expected but "it" was just plain, ordinary, a bit clinical. However "IT" was extremely exciting to feel and play with, and yes, I even tasted "IT". And, even though I was a bit let down by "IT's" appearance I was forever hooked. I spent the better part of the next 10 years looking for "IT". I finally discovered that "IT" was only as good as the person it belonged to.

I just had sex for the first time not too long ago. I thought it hurt, but is amazing now.

love it and would never give it up. 😃

I was 18 and drunk as skunk so don't remember it..but still with him almost 7 years later..

The first time I had sex I did not even realize that was what had happened. His first time, my first time. It wasn't until I had sex with my husband that I finally figured out that was supposed to have been sex. To clarify the first time was him extremely happy to be there a quick approach to the entrance and a missfire. The only part that actually felt like sex was that he rolled over and fell asleep

Freshman year college, in my dorm with my roommate thankfully occupied playing Call Of Duty in a friends room (other than for gaming he never got out much. A girl friend of mine came by to tell me that she'd be moving north in about 2 weeks so she wanted to hang out.

So we just relaxed in my room, watching tv, me on my laptop, I came across a thread on a another forum titled weirdest porn you've ever seen, I just wanted to take a quick look but somehow she read the title. She said "if you want to see some weird shit I've got ya beat"! and proceeded to look up some retro porno of guys in dinosaur outfits, gang banging this chick.

I asked what sort of porn she liked and she looked up some lesbian toy stuff, then after a few more porn videos I just came out with it, "do you want to fool around?"

I was well versed in sexual theory but before that i'd only fingered a girl; I think I did fairly well for the first time, it was pritty vanilla, I should have thrown a few good positions in their to keep things interesting. She said she wanted to swallow since i was wearing a condom and couldn't cum in her and that was that. We hooked up a few more times after that but then she moved north and I can't say I've heard from her since...

Overall a good first time, not too serious, just lots of fun!

It was her and my second year of college, we were both about 19 and virgins. Thinking back 40 years, I don't remember how we started going together but that year we were an exclusive couple. For the first few months physically we just made out, slowly progressing to the point of almost everything but intercourse. I kept trying to convince her to "go all the way", but she was not ready. Then one night my roommate was gone for the weekend and we were laying in bed in the dorm and we were both naked and I was kissing all over her body. The bed in the dorm is not very big so I got on top of her and started to move up and this time while I was kissing her, she didn't stop me so I spread her legs apart and without much more foreplay penetrated her for our first time. I don't think I lasted very long and I don't think she got much enjoyment out of it either. I do remember thinking "Wow, I've finally done it." Her first words were something like "If we are going to continue doing this, we need protection." I had not even though about the possibility of her getting pregnant. So that week we went to the student health center and we had to sit through a seminar on safe sex and she was put on birth control pills. I do not remember if she had to have a physical exam but I imagine she did but I was not interested in those things like I am now so I just don't remember. Epilogue: the following summer I went to work on an island and couldn't see her and she went home and ran into an old boyfriend and our relationship became history. I am happily married for over 30 years but sometimes I still think of her and wonder what her life has been like.

My first time, I was 17 and the girl was 19. I was nervous as I could be. I'd never even been naked in front of a girl, let alone one that was pretty as this girl. She helped guide me inside her, and it was tight. I'd never felt anything so good. I might have made 10 strokes into her and I couldn't hold it. I came quick, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. When you're inexperienced, being inside a beautiful girl for the first time is both a physically and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I was 20 years old my first time. I'd known the guy for about 2 to 3 weeks. I don't remember a whole lot about the sexual experience. I was pretty nervous. I do know it must not have been too bad because I married him and we're still together 25+ years later. Now he's also my sub! 😄

I was 16 and she was too. We were at a party and we both had recently broken up with our steadies. We had known each other for several months but never dated. We were drinking and one thing led to another and we ended up in the bedroom of the guy who was having the party while his parents were out of town. I had been in the pants of a few girls but never had gone all the way. I remember unzipping her jeans and starting to try to pull them down. She resisted for a while but after some heavy petting she raised her bottom and let me slip them down. I remember thinking wow! I'll never forget the feeling of my dick entering her wet pussy. I think I came in less than a minute. She asked me if that was my first time and I told her yes. She said it was her third time. We got dressed and returned to the party, but did manage one more trip to the bedroom before the night was over.

I was 18 and a buddy knew a woman not far away, so he decided to "hook me up". She was decent looking, knew it was my first time and we went at it several times that night. I hung out with her some for a while afterwards, but we never hooked up again.

We both were 21. She was an ex-girlfriend that and we were hanging out again. I was a virgin and she was experienced. We were parked out in the country on a back road and we got in the bed of my truck and she asked what i wanted to do and i told her she could do anything she wanted. We started kissing while i was playing with her boobs and that led to us undressing and me fingering her while she gave me a blowjob. It wasn't the best one. I then gave her oral and sucked on her nipple. that is all the farther it went because i forgot a condom

I was 16 and it was after the prom. I had told my parents I was sleeping over a girlfirend's but I went to my boyfriend's lake house with him and a few other couples. We had planned it for some time.

I was 23 on the ffirst night of my honeymoon. Couldn't believe how messy it was and thought we must be doing something wrong!