Childhood spanking discussions

I know some people on here started this fetish when they were younger (but may not have known about it). Technically talking about childhood spankings is talking about minors. I know some just want to reminsce but I am one who feels sick to my stomach reading about children getting spanked with paddles or belts. Does anyone else not like members talking about children being spanked? I know 'that's where it started' for some but still.

Well, my feeling is, what people are really doing in the spanking scene is re-enacting what actually happened during childhood, and speculating on what might have happened then.

If you're trying to stop people from talking about punishments that happened or have been known to happen in childhood - because it is related to childhood - then...forums like this would have no reason to exist in your world. I suspect you're making illogical connections, seeing "sex" where it simply doesn't exist...

I have to disagree about re-enacting something from childhood in an adult spanking. I received a few spankings as a child either by hand or with the wooden spoon or rubber spatula. They were discipline, and I did NOT like them. There was ZERO enjoyment to them, and as I wanted to avoid getting them (or any other punishment) I changed my behavior. There was never anything arousing to them for me, nor for my parents. It was purely discipline.

Somewhere in my teenage years I noticed that when I read/heard/saw a spanking or a threat of a spanking in something fictional (tv, movie, book), I'd get a little quiver, a jump, deep inside me. In those stories there was also nothing sexual involved. It was usually some woman who was doing something she shouldn't and a strong man had an answer to the problem. "I ought to put you over my knee and tan your hide until you can't sit..." "I'm going to give her a very necessary talking to." Think Ricky and Lucy. Or John Wayne calmly following Maureen O'Hara through town until she ended up across his lap. Fantasizing off of those types of scenes DID eventually lead to thoughts of what could happen after the spanking as I got older, but again, I never ever ever connected it to anything from childhood spankings.

And now, I still find spankings can be highly erotic, but I differentiate between spankings. There's true discipline ones that are not only not erotic but also really affect my thoughts. I dread those, not because of the physical pain so much but because I have done something wrong and hurt my Dom. There's perhaps some childhood coming in there, as it's punishment, I didn't like disappointing my parents either, and I change my behavior to avoid getting another discipline one. I am not, however, envisioning what happened as a child and what the spanking could lead to. It doesn't lead anywhere, except maybe the corner, any more than childhood ones did. My Dom finds nothing erotic to the discipline ones either. His entire demeanor changes when we have to do one. There's maintenance ones, which are a form of discipline, to remember what can happen if I disobey my Dom. Those are not erotic for me, but neither do they really affect me mentally. The "because I can" ones start carrying over to erotic. I never got either of that kind as a child, so those have no connection to childhood. And then there's the fun kind of spanking that leads to all kinds of other things.......

As far as Shay's concern/dislike, I don't have a problem with members who write about "standard" spankings or parents who chose to apply a FEW licks with a belt or stripes with a switch, etc. I have a big problem reading about some of the extreme beatings that some members relate from their childhoods and an even bigger issue with those who claim the parents got off spanking them (and the parents if that's a true thing). Abuse in the name of discipline is wrong as is using children's discipline for sexual arousal. That is why even on personal recollections Moderators edit or remove a post for walking the line on zity's rules.

With those rules in mind, please note that the topic of this thread is "Does anyone else not like members talking about children being spanked?" NOT whether or not children should be spanked at all. Posts that turn the thread to that will be deleted.

Classic behaviorist theory is that at some point the spankee got their wires crossed and associated spanking with pleasure. I am and I know exactly when that happened for me and it was in childhood.

Do some people here talk about it as a form of therapy or sharing with like mind? Probably. Do some people here write those stories or read them because they're getting off on talking about kid? Possibly. I think the best we can do is just be careful of the latter, not bam the former or you just remove a big part of the entire point of this website.

Well one of the reasons that I am here on this site is because of how I was spanked as a child. For me it all started when I was 11 and we moved into my stepdads place. He always spanked me bare bottom and although I am sure some/most of it was for his pleasure, it also has had a lifelong affect on me.

@Nurse_Phillips. Excellent post. Agree 100%.

I agree that technically speaking, a spanking fetish or tradition is likely to have started in childhood years. For this reason, I have broken the cycle in that I have not ever spanked my own children even though I grew up with regular spankings (I was a good girl but a handful at times). I admit to having a bit of a spanking fetish as it is erotic for me (more receiving than giving). Perhaps the same concern regarding enemas and other fetishes could be raised as well but the interest level in zity would like diminish significantly, The originator does raise a valid point to consider. Denise

I know some just want to reminsce but I am one who feels sick to my stomach reading about children getting spanked with paddles or belts.

The same here. And I virtually see red when I read about this being done in an institutionalised setting, like with school paddlings.

I suppose I am lucky in never having attended a school that allowed physical punishments. Went to some 5 different schools in 2 different countries. So for me the no physical punishment seemed the norm. That it happened historically was no news though of course.

And what is even more appalling is the getting an extra punishment at home as well afterwards. And the fact that many parents still approve.

The same here. And I virtually see red when I read about this being done in an institutionalised setting, like with school paddlings.

And what is even more appalling is the getting an extra punishment at home as well afterwards. And the fact that many parents still approve.

Ah, "conservatives": "I was spanked that way, so my children will be!". I personally hate them.

As a child, I was punished by spanking. Most of my peers were so punished. I didn't like it, but treated it as normal. Maybe because the punishments were fair, adequate to my offenses. The spanking was painful and embarrassing, but the pain and shame weren't great.

I think it would be hypocritical not to write about what I and many others experienced as children. I do not consider promoting the beating of children as an educational method. However, I also don't think the spanking has affected me badly. As a child, when my mother decided that I should get spanked, I really wanted to avoid it. But when it was over, I was relieved. Not only because the spanking is over. Also because I felt absent-minded, free from guilt.

I have to agree with the sentiments in this discussion. Spanking was not a common practice in my country and the only time I saw a child being beaten I was filled with horror and loathing. At secondary school we were given strokes on the hands with a leather implement that resembled the sole of a shoe. It was quick, peremptory and given and taken with no fuss.

My point is that I had no exposure to spanking at all and yet ever since I can remember I have had this strong fascination with the whole spanking scenario. At my senior age it shows no sign of diminishing. I've had some interesting and exciting episodes during my life, all as a giver and the thought of receiving one myself does not interest me or excite me at all. I would really enjoy watching or even giving a real life spanking but at this time it seems to be a remote dream.

Now that I think about it I do remember as a very young child, getting that funny shivery feeling when there was a spanking picture on comics like the Beano or Dandy. I think there was one character of a girl called Nancy. Who'd have thought that those innocent children's comic books could have such a profound effect on one's life?

So don't read those, nobody is forcing you to.

I think you have internalized a certain sense of right and wrong vis a vis children that is modern and arbitrary, which you mistake for being a universal law. It seems obviously right to you because nobody wants to challenge it and face public obloquy. But here, at least, we ought to be able to speak freely and be ourselves.

So don't read those, nobody is forcing you to.

I think you have internalized a certain sense of right and wrong vis a vis children that is modern and arbitrary, which you mistake for being a universal law. It seems obviously right to you because nobody wants to challenge it and face public obloquy. But here, at least, we ought to be able to speak freely and be ourselves.

Here's a good universal law: do not inflict hurt or pain on the underage, since they have no means of defending themselves, not even verbally most of the time.

Another universal law: imposing pain and punishment on the underage by virtue of being stronger, only teaches the lesson that might supposedly makes right.

The same here. And I virtually see red when I read about this being done in an institutionalised setting, like with school paddlings. I suppose I am lucky in never having attended a school that allowed physical punishments. Went to some 5 different schools in 2 different countries. So for me the no physical punishment seemed the norm. That it happened historically was no news though of course.

At the time I was in school, corporal punishment was officially prohibited at school. Officially, because the teachers in the younger grades beat us with a ruler on our hands. It was something accepted. In the older classes, a symbolic hitting of the guilty with a stick through their clothes took place. This was done in the presence of other children.

I got a spanking on my bare buttocks from a teacher (female) in the younger classes without any witnesses. It happened too, but the victims of this punishment refused to talk about it. I didn't even tell my parents either. I think if the parents knew about this, the teacher would be in trouble.

I believe corporal punishment should be banned in school. As for my parents, my parents punished me only when I deserved. As a child it seemed natural to me, even though I didn't like it. But not all parents did that. Many children got very painful spanking, often for trivial reasons. Therefore, I am not saying that flogging children is a good thing.

Here's a good universal law: do not inflict hurt or pain on the underage, since they have no means of defending themselves, not even verbally most of the time.

Another universal law: imposing pain and punishment on the underage by virtue of being stronger, only teaches the lesson that might supposedly makes right.

That's not the lesson I learned from it.

I assume you are an anarchist, since adults don't have any legal means of defending themselves from the state.

I assume you are an anarchist, since adults don't have any legal means of defending themselves from the state.

Not a very good grip on what anarchy is. That would be a lack of laws regulating what is allowed and acceptable in society or what not.

Anarchy is people being allowed to do whatever they wish, like for instance grownups inflicting physical pain on those who cannot defend themselves, as for instance on children.

Anarchy is people being allowed to do whatever they wish, like for instance grownups inflicting physical pain on those who cannot defend themselves, as for instance on children.

In other words, you want the state to be able to use force to control grown adults who owe the state no loyalty or moral consideration, but you are horrified at the thought of parents with natural connections and parental affection being able to use force to guide children they love.

Sorry, you may be selling that as some superior morality but I'm not buying it.

I assume you are an anarchist, since adults don't have any legal means of defending themselves from the state.

Anarchy: “a state of disorder due to absence or nonrecognition of authority.”

The “state” either doesn't exist (hence there is no authority) or isn't recognized (hence no one obeys their authority). In an anarchist state, If a parent inflicts pain or harm on a child - or anyone - there is no accountability for their doing so. In an anarchy - the state has little to no power over anyone.

The “state” either doesn't exist (hence there is no authority) or isn't recognized (hence no one obeys their authority). In an anarchist state, If a parent inflicts pain or harm on a child - or anyone - there is no accountability for their doing so. In an archery - the state has little to no power over anyone.

I think something got lost in the back and forth here. Maybe I didn't choose my words carefully enough. What I intended to say is that since the logic agracier employed about parents and children could be equally applied to state and citizens, either he is an anarchist or he is being inconsistent.

Yea I get your point. It's hard to read others experiences but not really talk/read about my own. I guess I never considered it a “bad" thing.

@GreatLakesBoy I assume you are an anarchist, since adults don't have any legal means of defending themselves from the state.

It would be best not to assume too much.

Of course adults have legal means of defending themselves: it is called the law which is enforced by independent courts.

There are people who still don't get their way in the courts, because, when all is said and done, they have been shown to be breaking a law, even though they will refuse to admit it. Then they claim to be oppressed. Typical sore loser behavior, won't admit they were in the wrong.

As a four year old I watched a small boy assaulted by a nun with a cricket bat! I was as frightened as all the other children present. I am convinced that my fascination with spanking didn't start there. I have no interest in violent punishment of any sort, although some appear to delight in telling stories of this nature. if they are recounting real episodes in their life, they might achieve some catharsis by offloading them. It is my opinion that few, if any, of the members here experience any pleasure in reading about them.

I may be wrong, but I don't think so.

I'm not sure if this is the proper post but mom would spank my bottom if i tightened my rectum trying to prevent the insertion of the nozzle!

Of course adults have legal means of defending themselves: it is called the law which is enforced by independent courts.

Yes, in the case of children the process of appealing a punishment is expedited; I agree. Nevertheless, when the decision is final, an adult is as defenseless against the state as the child is against a parent.

The main difference is that if the child gets tired of the parent's authority, all he or she has to do is wait a certain number of years and they will be free of it. But adults can never outgrow the state, no matter how vicious and tyrannical it may be.

Anti-spanking people are just crazy.

But adults can never outgrow the state, no matter how vicious and tyrannical it may be.

Anti-spanking people are just crazy.

Sigh, sigh, sigh …

The main difference is that if the child gets tired of the parent's authority, all he or she has to do is wait a certain number of years and they will be free of it. But adults can never outgrow the state, no matter how vicious and tyrannical it may be.

Is this a comment about spanking or a political statement??

Anti-spanking people are just crazy.

The American Academy of Pediatrics which represents about 67,000 doctors, recommended that pediatricians advise parents against the use of spanking, which it defined as “noninjurious, openhanded hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior,” and said to avoid using nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening.

Crazy fucking doctors - what do they know!!!

Being of Hispanic decent..spanking was the punishment of choice by my parents.

Is this an comment about spanking or a political statement??

An observation--and not a very controversial one. Can an adult outgrow the authority of the state, yes or no?

Crazy fucking doctors - what do they know!!!

Nothing pertinent. The executive committee of a group representing 67,000 pediatricians recommended that its individual members advise people against spanking…that's pretty tame stuff. Let them recommend anything they want. They can be voted out by the other 66,996 pediatricians. The AAP positions expire every five years by design and they have all kinds of debates on subjects from gun violence to marijuana to circumcision to transgender issues. They'll continue to debate things long after we're both dead, and parents will continue to make appropriate choices for their own kids long after we're both dead.

I do not like hearing stories of children being abused or sexually assaulted/used, so some of the things people post on here make me do a double take as they basically admit to being the victim of these.

However, if it is were their kink started and it was not one of the aforementioned crimes above I have no mind with it. It does get a little weird if a parent did it to you and now you have a kink for it, it's kinda uncomfortable to me. The argument of is spanking abuse in itself because you are hitting a child is a tough one. Most of the time id say it's uncalled for, especially if it's like in people's play were they bruise for a week after, that's to far for me. But a small smack as an attention grabber when your kid is being a little shit, I think it's fine. It all depends on the kids crime to me, have you told them 300 times not to do that? Or are they literally just being a kid? This is a complicated discussion.

I personally was never spanked like others on this site by my parents or any family members, so some things I'm more comfortable with and others I'm less comfortable with. I was born after 2000 so a different time then most on here who share stories of being spanked when it was a whole lot more common thing to do.

Some of you need to admit though, you were abused. And just because you went through trauma, doesn't make it right for others to have to go through it too. No matter if you think it “made you a better person” or not. Psychology is a difficult science.

Back in the 50s we got spankings in elementary & jr high with wooden paddles over our clothes and one time i got a bare bottom spanking in the 9th grade from a perverted assistant principal in private setting that caused me to get wicked hard!