Well, I guess you didn't do that again for a very long time huh? Lesson leaned I assume?
Remember, she just loves you and it's her way of protecting you and showing you that she loves you even though you are still her baby, and trust me when I tell you, we Momma's never stop worrying about our babies. I realize it's a pain in the ass, no pun indented there, but just try to keep in mind that she is spanking you out of love for her child, and fear for her child, both at the same time. Things like that are a lot more easily understood when you have your own to constantly look after. Remember, mine are currently just turned 19 and soon to be 18 respectively.
About 2 weeks ago I grounded my 19 year old becausue I got home from work at close to midnight, I assumed she was in her room, her sister told me she was at a friends house. I looked in her room, she wasn't there. I came down stairs and talked to the girls dad and asked him where she was. He told me she was up in her room. So I called her and asked her where she was, she told me at her friends house. I asked her if she had permission to go. She said, I told dad, he was busy on the computer. I told her to get home ASAP.
Long story short, she was home in 6 minutes. The three of us sat down to get the real story. Husband thought he remembered hearing her say something about going to a friends, but that was it. Daughter confirmed that. My point was, "you told him you were going, you didn't ask" Also in this town, anyone under 21 has to be in the house no later than 11 PM. Period, it's the law. They can stay our later with parents permission, if they have a ride home and are not walking in the dark. She walked home. In our town as well, curfew for 18 and under is 10, no exceptions to that one.
So then I asked her a few questions, why didn't you ask your father to go to your friends house? You know MY rules, if you want to go out and I am at work, you have to call and ask first, if I don't reply because I am to busy to answer, then take that as a no, you can't go, and if you would like to stay late, you have to call again and ask for permission, and you had better have a ride home.
Well, she didn't ask to go in the first place, didn't ask to stay past curfew, and didn't have a ride home. So, I grounded her for 2 weeks during the Christmas season. She started to argue that she's 19 and an adult, adults don't get grounded. Then I had to gently remind her that she doesn't have a driver's license, or a job, and is waiting on the list to start school. She has one chore at my hours and that is to do the dishes everyday. Then she said, "but Mom, it's....I stopped her in her tracks and said, okay, now it's 3 weeks, she rolled her eyes and sighed, which earned her another week. Then I told her that I loved her very much, but my house, my rules, like it, don't like it, I don't really care. You want freedom, you know where the front door is, you are supposedly an adult now, so put on your big girl panties and suck it up sister.
She seemed to get the point rather quickly at that point, and my kitchen has never been cleaner. I hate being that way with either of the girls, but I love them and that's what I felt was needed to be done. They are too old to spank, so that's my only other choice. They will thank me someday, and apparently I have made my fair share of parenting blunders and mistakes, but both my girls will graduate from high school with plans for college, the oldest already has but is taking a year off to grow up and mature a bit, which ti fully support, neither of my girls got pregnant, one is still a virgin, and neither have been in jail, juvie, nor have they seen the back seat of a police car. So the basics of the morals I have tried to install in them that I thought were important, they seem to have adopted as well, now they have to just implement them, adjust, and modify them to each of their own personalities and lifestyles.
So that's my two cents there....for now.