Tight ass stretching

My wife wants me to stretch out her ass. She uses progressivley larger dildos in my ass and is jealous of the pleasure I get when she is pounding me with the biggest one. She would like a similar experience but I don't think she is capable of unclinching her asshole. On occasion when I play back there she gets loosened up but I think it is just by accident. Most days she is tight (so tight that one finger is all I can get in) that any attempt to stretch her out would be very painful.

I want her to have the same experience that i have, how can I get her to relax that muscle? Or is it in her head and not possible to get to that point?

Try getting her a little tipsy and have her take a hot bath before and that way all of her muscles are relaxed and she wont be all tensed up when you are trying to stretch her you can even slowly massage the outer muscles around her ass with your fingers and slowly work your way in from there. be safe and dont force anything and remember lots of lube try it and good luck.

Wine and a Hot Tub ... I wonder if there is an enema solution that would give a relaxing effect. I see that strapfet09 had the same solution.

My younger daughter came home from a friend's house last night and said her friend's mother is so tight-assed, that only dogs can hear her fart!!!!!!!!

Wow, now that's what I call a "tight-ass", lol.

Sounds like she needs to relax, my wife gets that way sometimes. She may be anticipating how enjoyable it will be and is just tensing up. What i do to loosen up my wife is you can try by giving her a full body massage. Start her out with her laying on her back and using lotion or oil (depending on her likings) start rubbing her from her toes on up, paying a small attention to her pussy area. Then turn her over and start with her toes again and working your way up bypassing her butt area and paying a lot of attention to her shoulders. Once she is relaxed then have her spreed her legs and start massaging her ass, and slowly working to her hole. slowly start with one finger, and with the other hand play with her pussy and then go from there. I know when i do this to my wife, she is like putty in my hands and i can do a lot with her ass.

I have found when I started with anal sex and fun 7 years ago that when my partner starts to insert something, be it toys, fingers or his cock, I just try, with gentle control, to push him/it out with my ass muscles. That allows your asshole to relax and opens up effortless and minimal painless. That's why I prefer anal sex and anal play. Hope this helps a bit. Enjoy.

Give her a nice soothing 1 quart coffee enema. She should be lying on her back and in bed while holding it for 20 mins. Once she is done holding, have her expel and then follow it up with a 1 quart salt and baking soda enema. Hold for 20 mins in the same fashion. After that, like many have said lie down together and just relax, have some pillow talk and enjoy each others company. Once you are both nice and calm start by licking her ass and really take your time. Enjoy the sensations you're giving her and let her body language be your guide. Once you think she is. Ice and relaxed get her all lubed up and yes, silicone lube is by far the best for this. It's expensive but it is well worth it when it comes to breaking in a virgin ass.

I usually use Crisco and oragel or ambesol mixed together to get a nice slick lube but silicone lube would be best In this situation.

Just take your time and remember lube lube lube!!!!

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Yep, it's counter-intuitive to do that. When something is entering you the instinct is to resist. That pushing motion you describe makes all the difference and is what literally opens you up to a relaxed penetration.

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Don't know if it's of any help but I just read this on another post:

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Might be helpful, although the dimensions are probably a bit extreme for your wife just yet.

My dom usually starts each session by using a finger for about 5min just to relax my anus, she then uses a half inch plug/dildo and works it in and out for a few minutes and works her way up to 2.5inches by then im relaxed enough to except most of what she has in store for me. this work up helps everytime and adds excitment to the foreplay of whats to come. also ur wife may want to try using a 1inch buttplug and wearing it for hours at a time throughout the day.

Doms are the best! she loves stretching my bum. i sleep with the meo xl ring in now

Why don't you try this this seems to work for me always a few glasses of her favorite red wine just to relax her maybe a nice hot tub or jacuzzi 30 minutes or so take her to bed giving her a nice long hot sexual massage using nice hot massage oils .

I normally slide a vibrator underneath her between the legs letting it vibrate on her cilt while l am massaging her ' getting her real hot making the hot oil drip down in between her ass cheeks . sliding 1 of my fingers into hot ass hole . loosing her up then I would slide a vibrating butt plug into her ass hole . by this time my wife would have already had a 1 orgasms I make shore to suck on her pussy after every one of her orgasms, then I would begin slowly fucking her hot pussy from behind pulling out the butt plug and begin fucking her asshole at the same time with a much bigger dildo with my cock in her pussy and her stimulating her clit with a vibrator and at the same time fucking her asshole with a big dildo I normally could work her up to a 2 1/4"x 12" dildo it takes a while but it's definitely worth it she normally will have 5 to 6 orgasms within 45 minutes while I'm doing this to her

Hot bath to relax.... glass........errrr............ bottle of wine and lubricated fingers. have fun

So much of relaxation is in the total experience. Details matter. A long day of seduction. Frequently doing all the little things that build to desire. Set up stuff like scented candles and the bed made up for balancing romance with removing worries. I've mixed feelings on any sort of intoxicants as why blur what's supposed to be our most cherished things in life? It's to me all about if it's an enhancement or detraction. In all things. Intoxicants can impair communication when LISTENING is so important. And so is clearly directing a lover as to what they are doing or NOT to do. to stop or slow

Sex is hot sweaty and often messy but worrying about damages is a buzz kill that can cause tensions. If you folks are into it- Juice Fasting and Enemas CAREFULLY planned long in advance of a session can remarkably dare I pun..Eliminate- much worry. Plus it's a part of extended foreplay.

Honey- it's time for our next enemas. We're going to be so clean for tonight.

And it's a mutual cleaning/grooming ritual of lovemaking with an enema as sexuality above just cleansing. It all adds up to removing one more worry. So the bedroom's eversomuch more certain to stay clean and romantic. So sheets/towels that are romantic but not priceless can be a priceless detail. Every detail is a step along a path to indelible loving memories.

From that? Oh- There's a reason medical dilators have a size gradient.

And there's mixed results from too long a time span of gradual up sizes. Being sore too early let alone at all- is liable to begin the tense=pain= play over. chain.

One path I've known of- is when a partner asks/is asked to do the insertion themselves to show how they are most comfortable and then it's a dialog of " am I being comfortable in you with this/directions of up/down/right/left. slow. Fast Wait. so on . Why is why I've mentioned concern about intoxicants impairing communication. A glass of wine relaxes muscles but being sloppy drunk almost got me badly hurt and several minor close calls. Saying left instead of right ?

With an amusing aspect of "Which Left" is being directed to. Let's say It can end up in either mutual giggles whilst getting in sync or unfun wrong way pushes. Often the previous roles being reversed can add dimensions of:

"So now you know how it feels"

But.. ALWAYS lovingly.. as I'd been told of past mistakes... that killed an evening for both of us .

It can be SO hot to see your lover getting into their most comfy positioning and thence get going with their favorite small toy.

As that also lets you know just what angles work for them best. It's only bettered by discovering those- or new... favorites as a couple.

Me and my girlfriend are having similar problems but she is so tight I can't get one finger in no matter what even after a bath and a full body massage nothing seems to work even though we did have anal sex one time but its did not last long before it started to her and I stopped and i know she realy wants to have anal sex she just can't relax her ass also when I tell her to push out I see no change in her ass its like she's telling it to push out and be open but it won't listen if anybody has herd of anything like this or has anything els for me to try please let me know as soon as u can thank u

I once had a GF who wouldn't let me have her ass, because her ex had ruined the experience for her, no lube, etc. Well, I found that she absolutely loved getting fingers, up her ass, while fucking. So, I'd put her on my lap, grab her ass, and finger her. I had 4 fingers up many times. Had her stretched out more than her ex ever did. Got it so loose that way that I sometimes, in the heat of the moment, would stick my dick up there by mistake. She'd say, 'That's the wrong hole!'. I had her so stretched out, I couldn't tell the difference.

Glass (1) of wine for relaxing after a warm bath. Have her lay on the bed with a couple of pillows under her, then start playing and rubbing her butt. After she begins to relax, begin rimming her and this will relax the anus the longer that you do it. Have a good water based lubricant GEL,(Maximus is great for this!) not liquid on the bed and available within easy reach before you start using a finger to rub around her anus and do this as long as necessary until she starts relaxing enough for the fingertip to breach the opening. Taking slow deep breaths and having her to bear down like she is having a bowel movement will open her anal passage and straighten it out enough that your finger should slide right in. When it does, slow down or stop and allow her to get used to the feeing of the pressure from having your finger in her ass. I am sure all or most women here will tell you that having a dick in the ass did not start out as simply as putting it in there. Someone had to take the time and energy to convince us that it would feel good at some point. Granted, all of use that love having a penis in our asses are probably just a tad on the masochistic side, but honestly, I love a good hard ass fuck just as much as a good vaginal fuck. That is what you want her to feel and this will take time and lots of patience. Buy graduated anal dilators and use them. They will be well worth the money you spend for them. And always remember, use lots of gel lube made for anal sex. This is a much thicker lubricant that will cushion the anal opening very well to help with the stretching and when you begin having sex. I have tried many lubes over the years years and there is nothing that is as good as Maximus lubricant (and No, I do not have stock in the company but I wish that I did). It was specifically made for anal sex. You can try any anal gel water based lube that you want, just make sure that it is thick. Some people like J Lube, a veterinary lubricant, but you have to mix it yourself and it is really hard to clean up because it gets very stringy. Stick with the main brands, Maximus, Gun Oil Gel, Sliquid Booty Gel, System Jo Anal lube(most expensive), Astroglide Gel, and Ride Dude Lube(Sliquid). Have fun, take your time and you may end up with another convert. Just remember that you will have to stretch her anus frequently if you want to do this activity often. A good plug will help with that after she gets a little more comfortable with anal sex. Read the book, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women by Tristan Taormino. She is the authority on anal sex and goes around to college campuses to give seminars on how to have FUN anal sex. Her book will teach you everything you want to know on the subject, from toys, sex, enemas, and even fisting. Her web site is PuckerUp.com. Good luck and have fun! 😉

I’ve been with women who could take my cock or a large buttplug no problem, and with others who barely tolerated my single finger. People are different, not sure if it’s physical or mental or both. Probably both.

I wanted to be able to take something bigger in my ass and eventually worked up to 3 fingers with one girlfriend. With another she used successive buttplugs in me until we just couldn’t get one of them into my sphincter, and we really tried. That was very painful!

I think a lot of the suggestions here are good. I wish I’d known about them back then. Good luck.

Being sexually aroused helped me get anal plugs in. Not to mention, it's fun playing to get to the point where you get to put the plug in!

I bought a “beginners” butt plug and added layers of silicone and inserted it to gradually open me up. I put a condom over it each time, just in case.

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Thanks for posting, but, I just couldn't get past the doing person sucking her fingers and licking the slink after where they had been. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Thanks for posting, but, I just couldn't get past the doing person sucking her fingers and licking the slink after where they had been. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Not an ass-to-mouth fan either. Analingus is ok - but something that had been that deep in someones colon……nope. I liked where the first video (post 24) stopped much better.

I am self stretching my rosebud hole. I am going slow and progressively longer and wider. I am up to 7 inches long and 2&½ inches wide. Even with a lot of lube it's difficult getting it to go in all the way.

I've found a woman is much more relaxed and receptive back there when sexually excited. When they are not excited, they tend to clench tightly. Their excitement tends to lower inhibitions.

YMMV

Wine and hot tub is right then we the play starts have them in the doggy style position and coach them to push back pull out and push back letting them control penetration you become the coach and cheerleaders.