The 69 Myth

I do like it but I do not normally "come" from a blowjob only, and my wife likes intercourse (clitoral stimulation alone for too long frustrates her). So 69 is pleasant foreplay for us.

When we were first married over 40 years ago, of course we tried it but we did not do it very many times and I cannot tell you when the last time was. She is about a foot shorter than I, so it was difficult to connect just for physical reasons.

I found I did not like eating her anyway because the mucus that she produced just made me feel a little sick, and after a short time, the membrane under my tongue got sore from being stretched and the tongue muscles got tired.

We just do the ordinary missionary position now if we do ti at all; we are both over 70 years old, so our libidos are pretty weak.

hankb

As attractive as 69 seems it's hard to maintain the position long enough to get anywhere. If lying face to face it's uncomfortable but having one partner on top is also uncomfortable. "Sit on my face" Is one of my favorite phrases but not entirely practical I much prefer to approach cunnilingus from the front with my feet in the same direction as hers. I disagree with Hank about the taste. Nectar of the gods!

Just because you are doing 69 does not mean that each partner is at the same intensity, giving or receiving the same amount of pleasure, or near simultaneous climax. As for us, it is still a great way to start an oral session although the finale is always some wonderful vaginal sex. There is just something special about receiving some volume of hubby's cum where it belongs. Ughhhh!

I can't concentrate giving while receiving-it's too distracting!

I completely agree. '6 then 9' or '9 then 6' gives more pleasure to to both partners.

I agree with Barb it's very hard to concentrate on receiving while giving. I find the same true for vaginal sex. I would much prefer to give my partner as many orgasms as she can have before having one myself.

Personally I think the quality of oral sex received or given may not be as high but the excitement of both being pleasured and giving together helps build towards good vaginal sex afterwards.

I LOVE 69. The more pleasure that I give, the more aroused I become. I love to have a partner moaning with pleasure while I am giving her oral. Her reaction gives me heightened arousal. The better I give, the better I get. :-)

My wife and I enjoy 69 but we seldom climax at the same time. In fact usually neither one of us does. It's just another form of foreplay that excites both of us. Its also a great way for both of us to do a little ass fingering at the same time.

I totally agree with saxydom...the more we both get into it the better it is. We rarely climax at the same time but I often orgasm multiple times because he enjoys oral so much. I also find that the more I concentrate on pleasing him the more I orgasm because I'm not thinking so much about what he's doing to me.

I like the 69 position and it feels nice but I do not remember ever having an orgasm when we were doing it. My husband might squirt in my mouth though and then he will give me oral in the best position for it when I am on my back.

I have tried and my problem is the girl gets sooo excited and stops sucking my cock because i am sooo good at licking her pussy!! ???

When I was younger, teens and early twenties, 69 was fun, perhaps even exciting. But distracting ad I preferred playing, either as a femme fatal or the sub. It just is distracting.

We regularly enjoy "69" as part of our sexual repertoire. Finding the right time, place, and posture, can make it one of the most pleasant experiences possible.

Try it holding enemas... big soapy enemas with retention nozzles. We weren't huge 69 fans (or all that successful at it). But that changed EVERYTHING for us!

I agree. My wife and I do not do 69. We usually have full blown intercourse on weekends and holidays when we can take our time, but do oral when tired or have a time constraint. We alternate who goes first, but I bring her to orgasm (she usually can have 3 or 4 quickly after she achieves the first orgasm) and then she will give me a blowjob, sometimes until I cum or other times she will finish me between her breasts.

It is NOT a myth. Used to do it all the time back in college with my gf. It wasn't always simultaneous, but many times it was.

I like the 69 position and it feels nice but I do not remember ever having an orgasm when we were doing it. My husband might squirt in my mouth though and then he will give me oral in the best position for it when I am on my back.

The 69 position is not a myth, but I agree with my wife's comment that it is not an easy position for the man to perform oral on the woman. His head movement is more limited than it usually is if she is on her back, and it is therefore difficult to access all the areas needing stimulation.

The 69 is best as a playful position leading up to something more satisfying for the female partner.

The 69 position is not a myth, but I agree with my wife's comment that it is not an easy position for the man to perform oral on the woman. His head movement is more limited than it usually is if she is on her back, and it is therefore difficult to access all the areas needing stimulation.

Who says she needs to be on top in a 69? When my wife and I assume the 69 position I am on top more often than not. I like the access I get from the inverted position, and she likes taking what I have to offer from above. It's all fun for variety. Mother Earth/Father Sky.

@Cleanbean said

Who says she needs to be on top in a 69? When my wife and I assume the 69 position I am on top more often than not. I like the access I get from the inverted position, and she likes taking what I have to offer from above. It's all fun for variety. Mother Earth/Father Sky.

I didn't say she needs to be on top. Either way, the man' head movement is more limited, and in different ways depending on the position.

With the man underneath, head movement is usually very restricted. Sometimes the man can hardly move his head at all. A taller woman with long legs - like my wife - can make this a little easier than with shorter women in my experience.

With the man on top, head movement is not limited by pillows or anything else the head is resting on - but it might still be limited by other factors such as relative height of the man compared to the woman. Too much head movement in a less than ideal position can result in him breaking contact with her genitals, while making it ideal might mean her own ability to pleasure him will be compromised.

It's a fun position, good for variety, yes, but not the most effective.

We like to do it lying on our sides. He lies out with his legs so they are comfortable and I get my mouth right into my husband's crotch. I keep by "bottom" leg out straight and my top leg bent and drawn up. That allows me good access and for me to move my head and opens up my crotch so my husband can rest his head on my lower leg and the upper leg being pulled up lets his nose have access to air---he tells me breathing is very important! 😁 😁

Sometimes my husband lies on his back and I lie prone on top of him (with sort of head to feet alignment) my legs spread and his head between them.

Neither of us care if we have our orgasms simultaneously.

A simultaneous orgasm is either by luck or by careful timing and edging and is a VERY VERY rare occurrence for anybody. Normally, if we are close, we just want our orgasm and don't care if they are at the same time.

That's a very interesting variation, Susie, and I can't remember ever trying anything like it with my wife - but I will.

You'll like it!

It's relaxing and no one stresses to hold their position.

Sometimes we just lie that way for a while and hug.

I'm with you Susie. Hugging in that position is fabulous. Nothing like grabbing some buns and burying your face.

I sure would love to try it!!!!

That's a very interesting variation, Susie, and I can't remember ever trying anything like it with my wife - but I will.

You'll like it!

It's relaxing and no one stresses to hold their position.

Sometimes we just lie that way for a while and hug.

Well I know what we will be doing later then. Keeping my leg up will stop me squashing his head when I have an orgasm. Hahaha

Out of many many times I have done it with him , It only happened twice when we had orgasms at the same time.It was just the matter of time I guess.

~Cookie

Simultaneous orgasms are rare, regardless of how you do it. Treasure those memories.

69 is difficult to impossible with my husband and myself due to the height differences between us. There is over 12 inches difference in our height. Now 69 can work well if you are about the same height or at least if your torsos are about the same length.

I have done 69 with someone about my height and it worked well. We climaxed one after the other with very little time between.

That much difference could be a bit of a dilemma.

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